Deepest Darkest Secret your spouse/partner doesn't know!!!

[Madmar]

Good grief. He should be the Pope!

Well, he is catholic. But no Pope.

Whenever I heard of someone like that, and I mean absolutely no disrespect but I feel immensely sorry for them. Sex, making love is perhaps the most beautiful, pleasurable and transcending experiences that people can have.

I know. And I'm not trying to make this about him; but I am trying to understand the entirety of what I'm dealing with and, well, he is the man who has informed my ideas of men for the last 20 years. Is it any wonder I am here, reading, asking questions, exploring the big bad world of one's sexuality and sexual identity?

 

[sexywriterfla]

Whenever I heard of someone like that, and I mean absolutely no disrespect but I feel immensely sorry for them. Sex, making love is perhaps the most beautiful, pleasurable and transcending experiences that people can have.

As it should be.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Very, VERY well He's a very well skilled lover, but more than that very sensitive. It wasn't just a 'fuck' for him.

Older ones usually are. I've always believed that sex has to be more than just the primal, animalistic rutting. Otherwise, it isn't truly satisfying on all levels.

 

[Dreamer110]

Older ones usually are. I've always believed that sex has to be more than just the primal, animalistic rutting. Otherwise, it isn't truly satisfying on all levels.

Very true. But sometimes you just kinda lose it. Lol

 

[Black_and_White_Writer]

Well, he is catholic. But no Pope.

I was born into a very strict Scottish Catholic family. My mother was Protestant and Church of England background and if you think Northern Ireland was bad you should see some areas of Scotland like Glasgow for one.

That's why the British army was in Ireland for so long to stop them tearing it apart. So when my father was given an opportunity to move to America they took it. It was a lovely decision and the lack of 'ceremony' and pomp is very refreshing.

I've always been more spiritual than religious - hell I know more Catholic girls who carry condoms than non Catholics. I really despair of what religion and upbringing can do to a person.

We seem to spend the first part of our lives being programmed to feel, think and behave a certain way, then the rest of our lives trying to unlearn a lot of what we were taught.

 

[bleublood]

We seem to spend the first part of our lives being programmed to feel, think and behave a certain way, then the rest of our lives trying to unlearn a lot of what we were taught.

You are 100% correct from my perspective

 

[Madmar]

We seem to spend the first part of our lives being programmed to feel, think and behave a certain way, then the rest of our lives trying to unlearn a lot of what we were taught.

Ain't that the truth. And that's even without all the things along the way that can happen that damage some of us that color our adulthoods (but I'm not saying that's either of us .. or at least not that I know of. Just the normal stuff for him going to a small catholic HS).

 

[bleublood]

I was raised Catholic myself. Some very interesting things to overcome.

 

[jackstud]

Yea, guy needs to get in touch with himself

 

[Dreamer110]

That I am .

 

[kc_sweetNsour]

Nothing I can share directly on the forums, without being reprimanded

Hey all! First time starting a thread and thought is go all out with an interesting topic. Let us hear those secrets. And be tasteful please, and there is no need to write a novel on this thread. That's what the story portion of this site is for.

 

[ConflictedOne]

That I love to fantasize about her being slowly, respectfully seduced by another man...

Secretly watching her reactions, seeing how far she would let it go...

 

[Black_and_White_Writer]

That I love to fantasize about her being slowly, respectfully seduced by another man...

Secretly watching her reactions, seeing how far she would let it go...

I was working on that idea with a so-called friend who flaked.

I'm always looking for reliable partners to chat with and develop story ideas.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

Nothing I can share directly on the forums, without being reprimanded

Hmmmmm...sounds juicy.

 

[sexlover66]

Nothing I can share directly on the forums, without being reprimanded

Now that could be interesting...if you feel like sharing it you can pm me about it....

 

[beingtrue2me]

I no longer have a spouse and it's pretty much because I had secrets he didn't know about. He knew about my mc club but had no idea they meant more to me than he did. I am not proud of that actually but at least I am honest. He also had no idea that in my heart I would rather be with a woman than a man but I did love him. Just didn't love him enough to eliminate my desire to be with a woman. I am a lot more of a whore than he had any idea of. Let's face it, a whore is a woman (or man) that gives themselves in exchange for something. Aren't most of us guilty of that? I am I admit it.

 

[Illinoisguy1980]

I no longer have a spouse and it's pretty much because I had secrets he didn't know about. He knew about my mc club but had no idea they meant more to me than he did. I am not proud of that actually but at least I am honest. He also had no idea that in my heart I would rather be with a woman than a man but I did love him. Just didn't love him enough to eliminate my desire to be with a woman. I am a lot more of a whore than he had any idea of. Let's face it, a whore is a woman (or man) that gives themselves in exchange for something. Aren't most of us guilty of that? I am I admit it.

Takes a lot to admit and own up to that

 

[beingtrue2me]

Takes a lot to admit and own up to that

Thanks but really, I sometimes wish I wasn't the person I am.

 

[RNJAG]

He has not masturbated in years. Says he is uncomfortable touching himself. I am speechless.

And this statement tells me that there's very likely some more darker deeper secrets that he has that you may or may not know about.

 

[lustingmoment]

my partner doesn't know that prior to her meeting me I had a very adventurous and sexual past. I had threesomes, public sex, meet women on internet and hook up and fuck that night or next night...

 

[beingtrue2me]

my partner doesn't know that prior to her meeting me I had a very adventurous and sexual past. I had threesomes, public sex, meet women on internet and hook up and fuck that night or next night...

How for the life of you do you hide that or not slip back into that behavior? I wish I had that ability sometimes. When I get that "its all about me" attitude I cannot cover it up cause I don't give a fuck who knows or cares.

 

[sexlover66]

Thanks but really, I sometimes wish I wasn't the person I am.

But experiences both good and bad make us who we are...and even losing just obe of those events out of your past could take away from the person you are now. I admit that at times ive fucked up huge...but those experiences have taught me lessons...never sell yourself short of being the wonderful person ypu are due to some possible mistakes in your past

 

[beingtrue2me]

But experiences both good and bad make us who we are...and even losing just obe of those events out of your past could take away from the person you are now. I admit that at times ive fucked up huge...but those experiences have taught me lessons...never sell yourself short of being the wonderful person ypu are due to some possible mistakes in your past

Honestly, I don't kid myself I am who I am. Wonderful is not the way even I would describe myself, but thank you. My actions have cost me and I deal with that. One of the things I regret most is losing contact with someone that barely knew me. She thought she did but really didn't. I was afraid to let her see or know the real me. Fuck I hate me sometimes.

 

[RawHumor]

Honestly, I don't kid myself I am who I am. Wonderful is not the way even I would describe myself, but thank you. My actions have cost me and I deal with that. One of the things I regret most is losing contact with someone that barely knew me. She thought she did but really didn't. I was afraid to let her see or know the real me. Fuck I hate me sometimes.

When I was at my low point after my divorce, a good friend gave me wise words that I've never forgotten.

She told me to be gentle with myself. I pass those words onto you.

The past is gone. Beating yourself up over it won't change anything. Dwelling on past mistakes is akin to holding a grudge - nobody wins in either scenario.

 

[sexlover66]

Honestly, I don't kid myself I am who I am. Wonderful is not the way even I would describe myself, but thank you. My actions have cost me and I deal with that. One of the things I regret most is losing contact with someone that barely knew me. She thought she did but really didn't. I was afraid to let her see or know the real me. Fuck I hate me sometimes.

Is there anywsy to contact this person...maybe to try your relationship again fresh??