when does an age gap become creepy?

[dolf]

other than the obvious, ''when it's a kid and you're a grownarse adult'' or ''when their dementia means every date is the first date.'' ?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Let's ask Recidiva.

 

[Noor]

For me when they are young enough to be my kid or old enough to be my parent.

I guess when everyone is over 50, maybe it doesn't matter as much.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Oh...was that the obvious answer?

 

[pollynova]

I don't think you can tell just based on an age gap. But it is creepy when it's clear that the younger one is working out parental issues. Daddy didn't hug me enough or Mommy hugged me too much. That sort of thing.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

other than the obvious, ''when it's a kid and you're a grownarse adult'' or ''when their dementia means every date is the first date.'' ?

Your age divided by 2 plus 7. Anything younger is creepy.

 

[dolf]

For me when they are young enough to be my kid or old enough to be my parent.

I guess when everyone is over 50, maybe it doesn't matter as much.

that's a pretty good rule.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

that's a pretty good rule.

Nah...35 and 18 would be creepy. My rule is math and therefore infallible.

 

[Killswitch]

Still paedoing out to your friends kid eh dolf?

 

[dolf]

it'll come as no surprise to anyone that you don't differentiate between adults and children, betty.

 

[bronzeage]

For me when they are young enough to be my kid or old enough to be my parent.

I guess when everyone is over 50, maybe it doesn't matter as much.

The last time I was a bachelor, I was in my mid 30's. Any serious relationship had to be approved by the daughters committee. The six year old liked everybody, but the 15 year old was very hard to please. The idea of bringing home someone too close to her age just wasn't up for consideration.

 

[Noor]

The last time I was a bachelor, I was in my mid 30's. Any serious relationship had to be approved by the daughters committee. The six year old liked everybody, but the 15 year old was very hard to please. The idea of bringing home someone too close to her age just wasn't up for consideration.

The child acid test, not a bad thing at all.

Dolf, why are you asking?

 

[dolf]

curiosity

 

[Noor]

curiosity

Oh, I was going to say if you have to think about it don't do it.
Unless it's Dick Van Dyke, he just looks fun

 

[toubab]

other than the obvious, ''when it's a kid and you're a grownarse adult'' or ''when their dementia means every date is the first date.'' ?

Creepy to whom?

 

[Littlefinger]

Age difference doesn't determine love.

Exceptions are: incest and child abuse. I just can't agree with close connection family incest no matter how old when they start. It feels squicky.

 

[Not Normal]

It has to do with the two individuals involved. Only they can be the judge.

 

[CyranoJ]

other than the obvious, ''when it's a kid and you're a grownarse adult'' or ''when their dementia means every date is the first date.'' ?

Are you going to be venturing an answer?

Mine would be that the biggest concern with age gaps is whether there are major gaps in maturity and development that can be used by one party against the other, or whether the exploitation of a position of trust or authority is involved. IOW the kinds of things that govern consent laws. Outside of that, sure I'd tend to suspect that any relationship involving, say, an seventy-year-old dude and a woman in her twenties probably isn't strictly down to romance, but as far as "creepy" goes -- meh. It's their business. There are vastly worse things out there to be squicked by.

 

[tedsbeds]

Age difference

Well I would like to do my own research. when I was 20 I had a 40 year old lover. Now I am 60ish and I would like to try it the other way.

 

[doowdniw]

This made me think of Anna Nicole Smith and the octogenarian she married for love.

 

[CyranoJ]

Well okay... Hugh Hefner's much-publicized love life kinda squicks me out, I have to admit. Not for the age gap thing per se but for the habit he had of using the pages of his magazine to savage and defame former lovers when things went sideways.

 

[Disgustipated]

 

[MNGuy]

Now that I'm 50, I have made a change in my thinking. If I were able to date a 25 year old, I would feel creepy. So I would need to date two 25 year olds to even out the age math.













Two bisexual nymphomaniac 25 year olds.

 

[CyranoJ]

That's the spirit.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Your age divided by 2 plus 7. Anything younger is creepy.

This seems a good rule. I tried several age combinations and it allows for a significant age difference but never seemed creepy.