The beauty of submissive men

[tanyachrs]

Or a new batch of pictures. They seem to spark discussion.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Fuck it. I won't lie. We DO bite.

We just do it nicely.



*lol* I'm fine this evening, Miss Honey... how you doin'?

And only if they beg first right.

this totally

I can do that.

pleeease, Touch, suck on my fingers and then chew on the tips? *sweet face*

and when you're done, you can do the same to the backs of my wrists, and then the insides of my elbows, and that place where my neck meets my shoulder...

 

[Touch_72]

And only if they beg first right.

Including begging to have someone else bitten?

Nah... I'd say it's a with or without begging... but never without consent. So, on that note, I hereby consent so...

Bite me.

 

[Touch_72]

I can do that.

pleeease, Touch, suck on my fingers and then chew on the tips? *sweet face*

and when you're done, you can do the same to the backs of my wrists, and then the insides of my elbows, and that place where my neck meets my shoulder...

Since you ask so nicely...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Including begging to have someone else bitten?

Nah... I'd say it's a with or without begging... but never without consent. So, on that note, I hereby consent so...

Bite me.

I can do that, too.

*CHOMP*

 

[The_gladiator]

I can do that.

pleeease, Touch, suck on my fingers and then chew on the tips? *sweet face*

and when you're done, you can do the same to the backs of my wrists, and then the insides of my elbows, and that place where my neck meets my shoulder...

this sounds lovely...

 

[Erochic]

Fuck it. I won't lie. We DO bite.

We just do it nicely

Speak for yourself

Actually in all seriousness this is something I wanted to ask others about.

It's something that I found a little difficult to reconcile with being dominant.

I want to be dominant and I really enjoy the control, and I like a lot of teasing and female on top positions and oral service etc, but I also really enjoy to be taken quite strongly and I like to be bitten.
I don't want them to break the skin or anything like that but the intensity of the sensation of the bite really does it for me, especially when I'm orgasming.

Previously I would explore it with switching or just vanilla sex, now I turn it into a kind of "do me" dynamic.

So I guess my question is - anyone else?
What do you do?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think we need to quit worrying about whether a particular activity is seen as 'dominant' or 'submissive' in and of itself. why can't we just like what we like?

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

Speak for yourself

Actually in all seriousness this is something I wanted to ask others about.

It's something that I found a little difficult to reconcile with being dominant.

I want to be dominant and I really enjoy the control, and I like a lot of teasing and female on top positions and oral service etc, but I also really enjoy to be taken quite strongly and I like to be bitten.
I don't want them to break the skin or anything like that but the intensity of the sensation of the bite really does it for me, especially when I'm orgasming.

Previously I would explore it with switching or just vanilla sex, now I turn it into a kind of "do me" dynamic.

So I guess my question is - anyone else?
What do you do?

I have been bitten, but biting someone isn't my thing.

That said, if you had a sub, and you want to be bitten.. tell them that.. if they are servicing you via oral, you could say, bite me to them or you could tell them in advance that if they have the urge to bite, that they are free to. That is the great thing, you decide how you want it to work.

I know some Dom/mes that do not allow the sub to orgasm without permission whereas others allow them to cum when they want. It is up to the one in charge as to how it works.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I think we need to quit worrying about whether a particular activity is seen as 'dominant' or 'submissive' in and of itself. why can't we just like what we like?

In many ways, I like the way that you think.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

I think we need to quit worrying about whether a particular activity is seen as 'dominant' or 'submissive' in and of itself. why can't we just like what we like?

I agree!

I knew a Dom that felt going down on a woman was a submissive act. I asked others and they were like "hell no! i love doing it and I am a Dom and if I love it, I'm going to do it!".. They actually felt it was much more dominant as they were controlling her body and it was up to them if she was able to orgasm or not.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

In many ways, I like the way that you think.

thank you.


I figure,

*cue sassy mode*

y'all can slap whatever-the-hell label you want to on me,

but I am who I am, and I'm going to like what I like.

 

[Erochic]

I think we need to quit worrying about whether a particular activity is seen as 'dominant' or 'submissive' in and of itself. why can't we just like what we like?

Very good point

I have been bitten, but biting someone isn't my thing.

That said, if you had a sub, and you want to be bitten.. tell them that.. if they are servicing you via oral, you could say, bite me to them or you could tell them in advance that if they have the urge to bite, that they are free to. That is the great thing, you decide how you want it to work.

Ooo... I don't want to be bitten during oral - though I do want it fairly strong and say so or just take it.
It's actually my neck and shoulders - and yes I do just say "bite me!"

 

[Erochic]

thank you.


I figure,

*cue sassy mode*

y'all can slap whatever-the-hell label you want to on me,

but I am who I am, and I'm going to like what I like.

Damn I want this as a signature!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Damn I want this as a signature!

*giggles*

help yourself.


edit: fuck, it took me forty-some-odd years to embrace the fact that I don't fit the expected mold in my real life--
i'm sure as hell not gonna start apologizing for it here.

 

[The_gladiator]

I agree!

I knew a Dom that felt going down on a woman was a submissive act. I asked others and they were like "hell no! i love doing it and I am a Dom and if I love it, I'm going to do it!".. They actually felt it was much more dominant as they were controlling her body and it was up to them if she was able to orgasm or not.

I agree with this post. I very much consider giving pleasure to be a dominant act for me, having that power over her. I actually prefer to be in control when pleasing a woman because of that power I feel giving her pleasure.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

Ooo... I don't want to be bitten during oral - though I do want it fairly strong and say so or just take it.
It's actually my neck and shoulders - and yes I do just say "bite me!"

That is fair.. I wasn't sure when or where you wanted to be bitten.. but you get the idea

 

[Veroe]

I think the thing to remember is the only thing that defines you as dominant or not is whether you make your own definition of the term.

Some would say going down on someone is submissive others would say fuck you I'm dominant and I'm going to do it anyway.

That's the key, I think, whether or not you follow your own god damn rules of being dominant.

 

[The_gladiator]

I think the thing to remember is the only thing that defines you as dominant or not is whether you make your own definition of the term.

Some would say going down on someone is submissive others would say fuck you I'm dominant and I'm going to do it anyway.

That's the key, I think, whether or not you follow your own god damn rules of being dominant.

does this come back to the question of dominant vs submissive and topping vs bottoming?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think the thing to remember is the only thing that defines you as dominant or not is whether you make your own definition of the term.

Some would say going down on someone is submissive others would say fuck you I'm dominant and I'm going to do it anyway.

That's the key, I think, whether or not you follow your own god damn rules of being dominant.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

does this come back to the question of dominant vs submissive and topping vs bottoming?

great, now i'm gonna have to go read Stella's essay again. thanks, glad.

 

[bailadora]

I have been bitten, but biting someone isn't my thing.

I am a biter. Sometimes it's a playful, affectionate nip. Other times, I feel so much passion for my husband that it's just a natural extension of what I feel for him. I don't do it hard enough to cause pain, because he's not into that, but I do bite hard enough to make him aware of my teeth. I may or may not be growling "mine" while I bite.

I think we need to quit worrying about whether a particular activity is seen as 'dominant' or 'submissive' in and of itself. why can't we just like what we like?

Yep. It's not about the activity, it's about the state of mind.

 

[Veroe]

does this come back to the question of dominant vs submissive and topping vs bottoming?

That question quickly becomes like the question of the chicken and the egg. Where the answer just leads you around in circles. Somethings we aren't meant to understand definitively. Some answers are only meant to be felt.

 

[The_gladiator]

great, now i'm gonna have to go read Stella's essay again. thanks, glad.

Hahaha, that was the essay I was referring to, yes. and, you're welcome.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Obviously, there is some pleasure to draw from the dominant and submissive aspects of various acts, but I think that the point made earlier was that while one should feel free to enjoy those elements, one should let such things discourage one from enjoying the act for its own sake. Rimming is an example, at least for me. Even before I identified as a switch, I found the idea and reality of licking the anus, buttocks, and crack very sensual and pleasing for its own sake.