an erotic smack in the face

Never liked abuse, especially when someone is vulnerable.

When both partners are consensual and enjoying something it is not abuse, no matter how it may look to the ignorant outsider.
 


This is an area where one should neither generalise nor rely on the word of others. Proceed very cautiously— if at all.


"No" means "No."




This isn't something you "discuss" beforehand.

If you want to give a woman increasingly more explosive orgasms, you teach her to cum when you allow it.

Once she learns the joy of having you pulling her strings on cue....you introduce new elements at the precise moment of orgasm.

So....if the first time you slap her in the face (but one example) is just as she's cumming....she is going to cum even harder and differently.

And from that point forward, slapping her face can be used to amplify her orgasms....or make foreplay juicier...or simply to keep her panties moist at the grocery store.

Train your woman properly; it's worth the effort.
 
what if she's jut not that into orgasm?
or if you can't get her to orgasm at all?

*curiosity*
 
I don't say that in a Bronzeage puffery way...I just haven't met I woman yet that I couldn't take to new heights.
 
It's where I draw the line. It borders on contempt towards the individual being slapped, nothing erotic about it at all.

I understand that there are some that get off on it, fine for them.

Ishmael

I was thinking about how to articulate my thought, but this is how I view it...mostly.

I think I'd be capable if the woman and situation were right. I'm completely comfortable spanking and slapping other parts. I love the reactions and the physical sensations, so I can get where a well placed, in the moment face slap would make sense. Its just not where my head goes.

I have, however, wanted to smack people across the face at the poker table, when i worked in retail, and whilst driving (if I could momentarily be in the other person's car). But, that's a whole different thing.
 
no

no no no

i'd view it entirely as assault.

if H slapped me round the face i would be emotionally devastated, then icy... he knows my history so never would.

if it were anyone else - though this really only applies to men, they'd better expect extreme retaliation - because that is my self-protection kicking in, something i learned the hard way. i think it would be hit hard enough to make sure i had time to escape or they were incapacitated - so i'd most likely reach for the first available weapon.
 
no

no no no

i'd view it entirely as assault.

if H slapped me round the face i would be emotionally devastated, then icy... he knows my history so never would.

if it were anyone else - though this really only applies to men, they'd better expect extreme retaliation - because that is my self-protection kicking in, something i learned the hard way. i think it would be hit hard enough to make sure i had time to escape or they were incapacitated - so i'd most likely reach for the first available weapon.

I'm with you on this.
 
no

no no no

i'd view it entirely as assault.

if H slapped me round the face i would be emotionally devastated, then icy... he knows my history so never would.

if it were anyone else - though this really only applies to men, they'd better expect extreme retaliation - because that is my self-protection kicking in, something i learned the hard way. i think it would be hit hard enough to make sure i had time to escape or they were incapacitated - so i'd most likely reach for the first available weapon.
most men would get that reaction.
i need to know and trust the man and his motives.
he needs to be able to read me and my reactions.
 
Looks like we're alone on this island Dolf. You, me, two others and some pervy old dudes. Can't really say I totally expected that.
 
Looks like we're alone on this island Dolf. You, me, two others and some pervy old dudes. Can't really say I totally expected that.
it was pretty much as I expected. for most it's seen as just over the line, crossing from kink to abuse. something I think we're conditioned to from an early age... we don't freak out at a parent delivering a light smack to a bum or leg, but the same smack to the face gets the cops called. perhaps it's partly instinctive, because a hard enough blow to the face could cause fatal damage.
 
Never liked abuse, especially when someone is vulnerable.

A man who resists abusing others is honorable and attractive...sometimes there are grey moments though. This was one of those consensual grey moments in the middle of something larger.

And somewhere in the world...

...an entire flight of butterflies dies from weeping.

It doesn't do anything for me one way or the other, but it makes him happy and that makes me happy.


the first guy to smack me in the face was daily, the bastard. after a delightful but platonic vacation together, in the middle of a crowded airport and *CRACK* dozens of heads swivelled as the noise ricochets. and that's where it all started.

the next was a guy I dated for a short time. that was the first time during sex. we'd be making out and then, out of nowhere, he'd start slapping me all over. then rougher making out. a bit of degradation. arserape. I liked the guy but not enough to stay with him, but I was hooked on those two acts. once we were debating islam and the fucker took to me with a stick 'no thicker than his thumb' which was shocking but strangely hot too. the sex was ok, but I think I only enjoyed it for the novelty of the violence.

the last guy is the finest fuck in the whole damn world. face slapping was just the icing on the cake.

That moment in the airport and knowing how it turned out (I mean knowing the outcome wasn't dreadful) makes me smile. He seems to walk an appallingly fine line, but apparently he's not totally situationally tone deaf. I'm trying to imagine the tension created and broken all of a sudden when he did that. It's a great story.
 
it was pretty much as I expected. for most it's seen as just over the line, crossing from kink to abuse. something I think we're conditioned to from an early age... we don't freak out at a parent delivering a light smack to a bum or leg, but the same smack to the face gets the cops called. perhaps it's partly instinctive, because a hard enough blow to the face could cause fatal damage.

Well, like you said, it's not simple. Time, place, persons involved all make an enormous difference.
 
It doesn't do anything for me one way or the other, but it makes him happy and that makes me happy.

You keep up...

...and all the butterflies in the world will soon be gone, extinct from the tragedy of drowning in their own, endless tears.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

And it certainly does not slap anyone in the face just to get its rocks off.
 
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