emotions

[Backdoorwhore]

After intense sexual sessions with my boyfriend I get really emotional. By intense, I mean spanking, using the strap on etc etc, anything non vanilla. Afterwards, usually the next day or two I feel a big emotional let down. It's difficult to explain but I was wondering if anyone else has experienced something like this? If so, how do you counteract this? I hate that I do it and I don't want it becoming a problem in our relationship and I don't want to stop intense sex.

 

[MeekMe]

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=304024

Here's some old threads about sub drop. Lots of info in there. it's pretty common (I've felt this way as well).

 

[Backdoorwhore]

What if I'm not the sub? Do these still apply?

 

[Cumference]

What if I'm not the sub? Do these still apply?

I guess it is a natural reaction to an emotional "high".
After having a maximum of adrenaline, endorphine and maybe especially dopamine, it is not surprising that missing it, makes us feel a little "down".

I have the same feeling the day after a marathon and also after some other "hard fun" activities.
I simply embrace the feeling, accept it and take it easy until it passes.

 

[Backdoorwhore]

I'm glad I'm not the only one

 

[MeekMe]

It could be Top Drop. Basically, it comes down to aftercare. Some people like to have comforting things after a good time. I like cuddles, hot tea, and maybe something yummy to eat.

Next time, prepare in advance what might help you. Some people like to be alone, others like cuddling. Making sure both parties are taken care of after is important. There are some more recent threads, I'm writing from a phone so this isn't easy, but scroll through the last few pages and see if there's anything on top drop. I do believe it's been talked about.

Hope this helps some more

 

[KlaytonFrost]

The more you know about your own wants and needs the better. You've identified that you feel low after an intense session, so now maybe start looking at what could make you feel better. Maybe that's more aftercare immediately after the session, or maybe there's something you could do the day after - like cooking a massive breakfast, or going for a walk together.

 

[Backdoorwhore]

It is worse around my time of the month however I get more horny around that time.. It's a catch 22.... tonight I'm going to try eating some chocolate afterwards and making him hold me more. I'll report back.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

It is worse around my time of the month however I get more horny around that time.. It's a catch 22.... tonight I'm going to try eating some chocolate afterwards and making him hold me more. I'll report back.

Chocolate, comfort foods, fleecy blankets, cuddles, more time to come down from the scene and become grounded before doing anything else.
The drop can be intense and nasty, you will find ways to minimise it over time, usually it consists of being nice to you during the time immediately after.

 

[Endless_Night]

I'm glad I'm not the only one

You are definitely not alone. I experience a drop after any prolonged stress period. Good or bad. After finals week, a big presentation, a long planned social event.

Hitting the gym helps me, particularly cardio. An hour of Zumba usually gets my endorphins back up. Getting enough sleep is also essential.

 

[Netzach]

I made a point out of doing something consistent and physical. Cleaning up my gear to the same song every time - just something that doesn't depend on him or anyone else to do it to or for you, and what doing this thing means is "OK sexy crazy time is over for now and I am going back into my mundane life until the next time." That definitely helped with the letdown feelings that happen.