Is 39 too old for a choker?

[Kim_Burly]

The rule of thumb I have always heard was that if you are old enough to remember the last time chokers were in style your too old to wear one. I'm still 39, but not for too much longer. I don't remember the last time they were in style, but since I am a nerd, I can't say I've kept up to date on fashion trends throughout my lifetime.

Summer vacation is a few days and a mountain of exams away. Since I am dressing better now I think a choker would go well with my longer hair and nice blouses, but am I too old, will I look stupid, will people point and laugh? JK. Sir gave me a beautiful pearl choker with a white gold pendant with the logo I made with his initials and a personal inscription on the back, which is great for wearing with a black dress, but not everyday.

Recently I've become more enamored of jewelry. I put some rings on my thumbs and Sir told me that can have several meanings, but he likes them so I guess people will just have to wonder about me . I have also been experimenting with anklets. Sir likes just one, I like two.

Any advice from the jewelry mavens? I don't want to make too big of a fashion faux pas. Some guidance on chokers, thumb rings and ankle bracelets would be appreciated.

 

[SmileyGirl]

I agree with Rainshine I think you can get some really beautiful chokers
You are definitely not too old atall

 

[Lord Pmann]

39? As someone in my 30s, I'd say that is the perfect age for a choker. Or a collar even.

 

[emap]

You are only too old for something when you think you are.

Course the choker you describe is a definite night out dress up choker. You may wish to buy a more sedate choker, perhaps get a cameo choker. Said cameo can be personalized so it becomes a nice looking dog collar with nametag.

Here's the fun fact about chokers, they never went out of style, mostly because they were never really in style. At one point in time they were used to show a slave or indentured servant, same thing with a time frame. That went out of style long time ago so then slaves were not allowed so wear much or have a certain style of dress instead so chokers became free for women to personalize.

This is why they were never really in style. For every picture and painting of a woman who wore a choker in the past, there were three who didn't. For a time a choker was a status symbol for those who wished one besides having servants and a carriage. I believe there was a queen who used a choker as her crown. Course that may have been because her husband was domineering, BDSM is older than the written word, just didn't always have sex.

 

[fire_breeze]

The rule of thumb I have always heard was that if you are old enough to remember the last time chokers were in style your too old to wear one. I'm still 39, but not for too much longer. I don't remember the last time they were in style, but since I am a nerd, I can't say I've kept up to date on fashion trends throughout my lifetime.

Summer vacation is a few days and a mountain of exams away. Since I am dressing better now I think a choker would go well with my longer hair and nice blouses, but am I too old, will I look stupid, will people point and laugh? JK. Sir gave me a beautiful pearl choker with a white gold pendant with the logo I made with his initials and a personal inscription on the back, which is great for wearing with a black dress, but not everyday.

Recently I've become more enamored of jewelry. I put some rings on my thumbs and Sir told me that can have several meanings, but he likes them so I guess people will just have to wonder about me . I have also been experimenting with anklets. Sir likes just one, I like two.

Any advice from the jewelry mavens? I don't want to make too big of a fashion faux pas. Some guidance on chokers, thumb rings and ankle bracelets would be appreciated.

My grandmother, may she rest in the peace of her maker, wore chokers up to her death at 87. Her neck was gorgeous and long, and she made it work - it blended beautifully with her elegance and stunning carriage, so 39 is hardly 'too old'.

And no, reading her journals, she was not in BDSM relationship - or if she was, she was most definitely the dominant one... if the beating that she gave my grandfather for tracking in mud is any indication .

As someone who occasionally wears thumb rings and always wear forefinger rings, sometimes a piece of jewelry is a piece of jewelry - actually, this is the most cases; they are usually fashion statements. Rarely do people look for deeper meaning (unless, of course you are in an environment where people within your chosen lifestyle associate the symbolism. But I am talking about the general public) and those who do general misinterpret the symbolism anyway.

If you feel like you can rock it, rock it. However, if you are wondering if you are 'too old' to wear a piece of fine jewelry, then maybe you're not comfortable with it. If you are self-concious of something, then you will unwittingly draw attention to it and people will notice. It sounds, and forgive me if I am reading too much into this, that you are a bit self-concious about this. If you are, then I suggest starting with something innocuous and inconspicuous and working it to the piece that you wish to wear. YKMV.

As for advice, it really depends on your colouring, your frame, your lifestyle (eg. are you outdoorsy or hate any form of exercise), your style of dress, your place of work, what you generally wear, and your sense of style. I am a huge fan of a simple choker with an elegant pendant or as emap suggest, a cameo. Timeless and classic, but that's my style. You may also wish to wear a very short necklace in either silver or gold chain, delicately resting on your collarbone. Or you can wear a thick leather choker with a funky pendant.

The important thing is to let the choker decorate your neck and NOT let it overpower. Any piece of jewelry should blend seamlessly into your wardrobe and compliment you. Like with make-up, it should accentuate your features, casually draw the eye to it, not scream 'look at me' (unless, you have that personality. If you do, then go for it!)

I am personally a fan of deception - so my bracelet that I wear all the time (no symbolism) is, on the surface, very simple looking, but is in fact a complex series on interlocking pieces. This is me, though - it works very well into who I am. Find something YOU like and wear it. If you want to make your choker your signature look, then make it.

(by the way, I know some people who wear 'evening' jewelry everyday and it completely works, even if they are wearing jeans. It's become their signature look).

Happy stylin'.

 

[gagginforit]

Removed apparently unthoughtful reply.

 

[Kim_Burly]

Thanks for the thoughtful replies ladies and P-mann. While I am not bursting with confidence I am not the timid mouse that I was 7 months ago, Sir has built up my self-esteem immensely. Let me put it this way, this year I let my hair grow long, go back to it's natural color, I wear dresses and skirts exclusively, I wear more/flashier jewelry, I show leg and a bit of cleavage even in my daily wear, when Sir I go out I dress very, very sexily, and I wear contacts now. So 2013 is the year of blossoming for me.

I had a funny experience the very first day I wore thumb rings, a nice lady I know noticed them and almost knocked me over approaching me. She held my hands and looked at the rings and then stared at my face. "I love your rings." She looked at me as though the two of us had a secret "We need to get together, just the two of us." I had a feeling what she meant but I thought I must be mistaken. Sir told me she thought I was bi because of the rings and couldn't stop laughing at my story and my naivete. I told her the next time I saw her that the rings didn't have any real meaning to me, she looked sad and embarrassed. I shocked myself when I told her she was a beautiful woman and if I felt that way about women I would love to get together with her. She seemed sincerely complimented. So anyhow, I digress.

The old mousy Kim is dead. I don't want to wear a overwhelming choker. What I would like to wear is a thin, black fabric, ribbon choker and while a cameo sounds very pretty, I like the pendant that Sir gave me. My question is, can I wear the same one every day? I know the answer to that, but I feel like if I wear the same one every day with Sir's pendant on it I am showing his ownership in a subtle way. Does that make sense? I would love to wear a leather one, but I feel that is over the top for a teacher to wear to school.

P-mann, I do have a real collar I wear a Sir's house, with a dog bone shaped tag, that says "(Sir's name) slut". I wear it with stupid tall heels, slutty earrings, bells on my nipples and nothing else .

 

[Que]

You see I read the thread title completely wrong..


I was going to say as long as she's got a good heart rate and seems to have a good set of lungs go ahead and choke her out.

 

[DeYaKen]

If it is good enough for Vanessa

The rule of thumb I have always heard was that if you are old enough to remember the last time chokers were in style your too old to wear one. I'm still 39, but not for too much longer. I don't remember the last time they were in style, but since I am a nerd, I can't say I've kept up to date on fashion trends throughout my lifetime.

Summer vacation is a few days and a mountain of exams away. Since I am dressing better now I think a choker would go well with my longer hair and nice blouses, but am I too old, will I look stupid, will people point and laugh? JK. Sir gave me a beautiful pearl choker with a white gold pendant with the logo I made with his initials and a personal inscription on the back, which is great for wearing with a black dress, but not everyday.

Recently I've become more enamored of jewelry. I put some rings on my thumbs and Sir told me that can have several meanings, but he likes them so I guess people will just have to wonder about me . I have also been experimenting with anklets. Sir likes just one, I like two.

Any advice from the jewelry mavens? I don't want to make too big of a fashion faux pas. Some guidance on chokers, thumb rings and ankle bracelets would be appreciated.

The delightful Vanessa (on amateur pics thread) sometimes wears a choker to very good effect. She is Forty Eight.

Age has nothing to do with it. The question is do you have the neck for it (no pun intended)? A choker will draw attention to your neck. If you have a short neck it will make it look shorter, if you have a long elegant neck then a choker will show it off to good effect.

People with obvious double or treble chins, or those with lots of loose skin around the neck shouldn't wear them IMHO.

Otherwise, if it feels good, do it.

 

[fire_breeze]

Thanks for the thoughtful replies ladies and P-mann. While I am not bursting with confidence I am not the timid mouse that I was 7 months ago, Sir has built up my self-esteem immensely. Let me put it this way, this year I let my hair grow long, go back to it's natural color, I wear dresses and skirts exclusively, I wear more/flashier jewelry, I show leg and a bit of cleavage even in my daily wear, when Sir I go out I dress very, very sexily, and I wear contacts now. So 2013 is the year of blossoming for me.

I had a funny experience the very first day I wore thumb rings, a nice lady I know noticed them and almost knocked me over approaching me. She held my hands and looked at the rings and then stared at my face. "I love your rings." She looked at me as though the two of us had a secret "We need to get together, just the two of us." I had a feeling what she meant but I thought I must be mistaken. Sir told me she thought I was bi because of the rings and couldn't stop laughing at my story and my naivete. I told her the next time I saw her that the rings didn't have any real meaning to me, she looked sad and embarrassed. I shocked myself when I told her she was a beautiful woman and if I felt that way about women I would love to get together with her. She seemed sincerely complimented. So anyhow, I digress.

The old mousy Kim is dead. I don't want to wear a overwhelming choker. What I would like to wear is a thin, black fabric, ribbon choker and while a cameo sounds very pretty, I like the pendant that Sir gave me. My question is, can I wear the same one every day? I know the answer to that, but I feel like if I wear the same one every day with Sir's pendant on it I am showing his ownership in a subtle way. Does that make sense? I would love to wear a leather one, but I feel that is over the top for a teacher to wear to school.

P-mann, I do have a real collar I wear a Sir's house, with a dog bone shaped tag, that says "(Sir's name) slut". I wear it with stupid tall heels, slutty earrings, bells on my nipples and nothing else .

Honestly, Kim, I think you're over-thinking it. People wear the same jewelry all the time. How is it any different from a necklace that no one takes off, be it a simple chain or a religious pendant? It's not like you're wearing the same shirt every single day. As I mentioned before, I wear the same bracelet and the same ring every single day and no one has ever commented on it.

If you are a teacher at a school, you may wish to check up on the clothes policy. If there's something remotely against it, then don't wear it. It's not worth losing your job over.

As for the rings, it must be a regional thing. I've been wearing thumb rings for over 15 years and never once was I approached because of it. I've asked my lesbian cousin and co-workers and they looked at me as if I was from Mars before saying 'Um.... noooo'. It may be significance to where you live, which is why I'm bringing it up: people will generally wrongly assume the significance of jewelry (wedding rings are exceptions!), so why care what others think?

 

[Kim_Burly]

The delightful Vanessa (on amateur pics thread) sometimes wears a choker to very good effect. She is Forty Eight.

Age has nothing to do with it. The question is do you have the neck for it (no pun intended)? A choker will draw attention to your neck. If you have a short neck it will make it look shorter, if you have a long elegant neck then a choker will show it off to good effect.

People with obvious double or treble chins, or those with lots of loose skin around the neck shouldn't wear them IMHO.

Otherwise, if it feels good, do it.

OK, here's the rub, I'm not sure what a treble chin is, but prior to my weight loss I had what I would call a weak chin. Now that I am perhaps a bit underweight, my neck, chin and cheekbones all look much better. With that in mind, I am asking Sir to let me stay at my current weight. Now that I have brought the weight loss slide to an end, I hope as long as I don't start losing again, he will let me stay where I am at. I don't have a long, graceful neck like Fire Breeze, stil it's more of an average length. I am very happy with the look of a choker on my "current" neck .

 

[Kim_Burly]

Honestly, Kim, I think you're over-thinking it. People wear the same jewelry all the time. How is it any different from a necklace that no one takes off, be it a simple chain or a religious pendant? It's not like you're wearing the same shirt every single day. As I mentioned before, I wear the same bracelet and the same ring every single day and no one has ever commented on it.

If you are a teacher at a school, you may wish to check up on the clothes policy. If there's something remotely against it, then don't wear it. It's not worth losing your job over.

As for the rings, it must be a regional thing. I've been wearing thumb rings for over 15 years and never once was I approached because of it. I've asked my lesbian cousin and co-workers and they looked at me as if I was from Mars before saying 'Um.... noooo'. It may be significance to where you live, which is why I'm bringing it up: people will generally wrongly assume the significance of jewelry (wedding rings are exceptions!), so why care what others think?

Well, over thinking things is how I roll, I've accepted that. I don't know about the hidden meanings of jewelry. It certainly meant to the lady in Jazzercise that I was looking for some female companionship. I have had three men ask me what the thumb rings or anklets mean. I'm just so happy my nipple piercings don't show through my everyday bras.

I kind of led one guy who asked about the rings on. I deadpanned: it means exactly what you think it means. I don't know what he thought it meant, but he looked dumbfounded .

 

[Loverskitten]

As for the rings, it must be a regional thing. I've been wearing thumb rings for over 15 years and never once was I approached because of it. I've asked my lesbian cousin and co-workers and they looked at me as if I was from Mars before saying 'Um.... noooo'. It may be significance to where you live, which is why I'm bringing it up: people will generally wrongly assume the significance of jewelry (wedding rings are exceptions!), so why care what others think?

I've been wearing the same thumb ring for about 10 years. Never once has anyone asked what it means or even mentioned it at all. I frequent both gay and straight bars.
It has deep meaning, which is, it won't fit on any other finger.

 

[DeYaKen]

OK, here's the rub, I'm not sure what a treble chin is, but prior to my weight loss I had what I would call a weak chin. Now that I am perhaps a bit underweight, my neck, chin and cheekbones all look much better. With that in mind, I am asking Sir to let me stay at my current weight. Now that I have brought the weight loss slide to an end, I hope as long as I don't start losing again, he will let me stay where I am at. I don't have a long, graceful neck like Fire Breeze, stil it's more of an average length. I am very happy with the look of a choker on my "current" neck .

You say you are happy with the look so there is no question. Like I said if it feels good do it. Age is irrelevant. Perhaps you might prefer a nice suede collar.

 

[Wide_eyed_Indulgence]

In my view 39 is way too young to be thinking " . . . am I too old . . . ?" The choker you described sounds perfectly lovely for you to wear.

 

[sethp]

Pics of the choker please!

 

[COCK_STAR]

The question is if you have that old neck look. Most women can't hide their age when you check out the neck. I suggest you don't draw attention to your almost 40 neck.

 

[Emerson40]

The question is if you have that old neck look. Most women can't hide their age when you check out the neck. I suggest you don't draw attention to your almost 40 neck.

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[COCK_STAR]

39 year old white female

 

[Emerson40]

39 year old white female

I'll see your "39" year old, and raise.


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[Stella_Omega]

The rule of thumb is; if you want to wear a choker, if wearing it makes you feel good, if seeing you in one makes your nearest-and-dearest smile-- then you most definitely should wear one.

Young boys have their opinions about what they think is old, of course. The number of fucks an adult woman should give about those opinions is zero.

 

[theslutbunny]

Never too old for a choker.

 

[Emerson40]

Young boys have their opinions about what they think is old, of course. The number of fucks an adult woman should give about those opinions is zero.

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[COCK_STAR]

Stella, I think you are doing this poor woman a disservice. The woman asked a question, and ten people before me gave a sugar coated bullshit answer. The truth is the neck ages rather quickly. Is 39 old? Absolutely not. Have a great day.

 

[theslutbunny]

It isn't sugar-coated just because you say it is. Your opinion is not fact.