Can I just rant for a second??

[Recidiva]

Never fight a land war in Russia

Unless you're Ghenghis Khan, in which case, go for it, even in winter, you will kick ass.

 

[1sickbastard]

Never fight a land war in Russia

Never go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line.

 

[Recidiva]

i'm so confused that i'm going to email him vagpics.

I'm going to ... observe. It's kinda like being clueless, but looks wiser.

 

[dolf]

That system works for men and women in any community or situation, by the way.

Basically...

do the things you like,
do a new thing every so often,
don't have sex with people from work or your "core" groups,
socialize and be social,
create a pattern that enables you to be seen... but not over-seen.

it seems like a lot of effort for a bit of slap & tickle.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

Unless you're Ghenghis Khan, in which case, go for it, even in winter, you will kick ass.

no one can beat a good Tartar

 

[Lancecastor]

I took a Pottery class last year, partly because I've always had a feeling I'd like the creative process and the sensuality of shaping the wet clay...

...and partly because I suspected the room would be filled with slightly offbeat hotties.

I was correct on both counts.

The OP is in Toronto...the Second City comedy course, for example, is a great way to have fun and meet interesting people...and learn how to see/craft a joke in most any situation...helping people smile is a life-long bonus skill that opens doors and makes life sweet.

I also used to attend tapings of The Mike Bullard Show when the studio was around the corner from my loft...I was on their standing list and they'd call me when they were short of guests...you'd always wind up chatting with a few people you didn't know.

 

[Lancecastor]

it seems like a lot of effort for a bit of slap & tickle.

That's the thing...if your goal is to get laid, that becomes obvious and therefore laborious and therefore elusive, because quality people will smell it and shun.

It's like chasing money...people who chase money aren't respected...whereas people who do what they love tend to attract money.

If instead your goal is to have fun and enrich your life, people will be attracted to you through the common interests you cultivate and because you will be happy and fun, people will want to get close to you.

At that point, you have your pick of mates be they short or long term...no effort required.

Take a macro view and the micro details will come to you.

 

[Recidiva]

Dammit. Lance. You appear to have grown as a human being.

 

[1sickbastard]

Dammit. Lance. You appear to have grown as a human being.

The Mayan Apocalypse must of happened. One GB regular actually said something nice about another.

Reality crumbling...

 

[CHNOPS]

Q: Can I just rant for a second??
A: Apparently, no, not for just a second.

I'm just frustrated.. in more ways than one.

I think I'd make a damn good girlfriend. I think I'm pretty good at understanding, communication, sharing work and fun, giving someone their space, not "using someone for money" and definitely try to be low key in not living up to the stereotype of bitchy/ nagy woman.

But guys around here won't take look at me for more than a second.
I live in a fairly major metropolis, and I swear, the guys here won't date anything over a size 6, making a so called romantic life at size 16 pretty much hopeless.

The kicker is.. apparently I'm ready and eager to offer up what apparently a lot of guys want. I'm more than happy to get kinky.. I'm very eager to practice becoming an elite member of the BJ club (which I just invented). I'm very much into giving, and love to read here and elsewhere various techniques and methods, physical and mental. Aside from wanting a fun companion to date, I want someone's body to make my new pastime. I just finish reading "He Comes Next".. and man am I eager to put some of those ideas to use, especially in the areas of fellatio. I'm eager to please... but no one's interested.

Only.. I'm as single as they get.

I guess I"m super grumpy at the moment as there's a pretty cute guy at work.. and I swear he's flirting with me.. but hes the kind of guy where as soon as you show you're interested back.. he turns into a jerk. He chases you.. you look back at him.. he turns all Macho and too cool for you... .

I've never had a long term steady BF. Partly, (mostly?) because of confidence, social anxiety and I am pretty sure, weight. But these last couple of years.. I've been looking, and I've been putting myself out there. I've even tried posting on craigslist looking for a FWB.. the guy I started chatting with canceled dates 9 times out of 10. After 8 scheduled arrangements, meeting in person only once.. I gave up.

I'm so very frustrated. Any advice out there?
THanks.

Thanks..

Honestly.. I don't think I come across as too desperate..
I think my confidence is fine in person, I'm not that sad girl in the corner dying for attention..

Thanks RoryN..

Never did figure out why anything I posted to GB ends up rounding up all the jackasses on here.. though a general rant didn't seem to fit in the how to column where I mostly stay..

LOL..
Alright already!!

I never knew BJ had such a bad rep...

I want to take all the techniques I've been reading about recently for filling.. gripping and stroking through till the end.

I want to play with him and feel him as he turns from soft to god dammed rock hard in my hand, knowing I caused that. I want to play with the frenulum.. teasing the shit out of him, and caress the corona..

When he's nice and hard.. I want his cock in my mouth.. where I can swirl my tongue around the head.. under.. flicking in on the underside, tapping, licking, sucking, and I do love sliding up and down.. having that little "pop" from passing over the crown.. its' really such a delightful spot..

I want to play with and massage his (shaved!) balls with my fingers, thenkiss with my mouth. I'll get in as much t'aint play and bum spreading as possible. If he'll let me ever directly massage his g spot.. then he can fuck me up the ass.. fair's fair.

Yes I want to suck his cock. I'm only assuming that it's beautiful.. I hope he's uncut.. I've seen some suggestions on having wicked fun with that little piece of skin..

But yeah.. I secretly say "BJ".. cause I don't "really" like em. GFY.

True to the clinical.. thanks. I was wondering who'd be the first to point that out.


But you can visualize it all.
Saying "cock" the whole way through.. not really the same.
If you have better, SPECIFIC, common words.. throw em out there!

 

[Lancecastor]

Dammit. Lance. You appear to have grown as a human being.

I've always been this way, both here and IRL...however, as in the example of visiting a bar for 1 or 2 but not staying long enough to become too familiar...it takes time to see all of Me.

Consequently, my inner circles tend to be of very long standing and rock solid.

And those in more distant circles are only seeing certain facets.

I think we all do that to some degree.

In the case of the OP, if she becomes more focused on herself and intentional in enjoying life...the boys will fall out of the trees at her feet in short order...because she'll have figured out how to be in the right places at the right times.

 

[trysail]

Never fight a land war in Russia

*edits compulsively*

-Recidiva​

Um.., er..., uh...,
I can't find a source to attribute the quote to Douglas MacArthur so I am forced to credit the damned Princess Bride. I believe the correct quotation is, "Never get involved in a land war in Asia."



...and that, sir, is all I have to say on that topic.




compulsively
recidiva
compulsively*

 

[Recidiva]

I've always been this way, both here and IRL...however, as in the example of visiting a bar for 1 or 2 but not staying long enough to become too familiar...it takes time to see all of Me.

Consequently, my inner circles tend to be of very long standing and rock solid.

And those in more distant circles are only seeing certain facets.

I think we all do that to some degree.

In the case of the OP, if she becomes more focused on herself and intentional in enjoying life...the boys will fall out of the trees at her feet in short order...because she'll have figured out how to be in the right places at the right times.

Well, I saw the icky parts up front. Nice to see other bits.

I think being yourself and getting about doing what you're doing is the best thing to do. I can't promise anyone that they will find true love or any love at all. However, if you just go about being a person who is interested in living and being who you are, the people who are attracted to you will know what they're in for in the long haul. Faking it and putting extra effort for bait just results in a crushed relationship before it gets a chance, and fends off all the people you might get along with well because they don't see the things in you that they might otherwise be attracted to if you're hiding them.

Practice doing the best you can to care for yourself and be yourself and then if you're lucky and the opportunity comes about to care for another as themselves, you'll have some practice.

There are billions of us, I refuse to accept the idea that there aren't matches out there.