Names?

[dragonkin112]

I'm working on a project for my master and I was hoping I could get some input from people here. We've discussed adding a second sub or possibly more to our relationship. I would be the Alpha sub in the case of this happening. I'm known as Pet. If we were to add only one other girl we'd call her Slave, but I'm not sure what to do if we were to add more. I don't want to call them by their names and I don't really find any appeal in 'degrading' names like slut, cunt, whore, fucktoy, etc. I can use numbers for them but I'd rather use something else if I could find it. Ideas???

 

[wicked woman]

Seems to me you're putting the chicken before the egg. It's not an easy thing to find 2 additional people to fit into your current relationship, and until you do, what you call them is a moot point. Besides, I find those pet names depend on the individual, so on both counts I'd wait until you had someone, before bothering to name them.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Seems to me you're putting the chicken before the egg. It's not an easy thing to find 2 additional people to fit into your current relationship, and until you do, what you call them is a moot point. Besides, I find those pet names depend on the individual, so on both counts I'd wait until you had someone, before bothering to name them.

I agree with this completely. Finding someone who is willing to be a beta sub is not easy. It is easier (but not in any way easy) to find someone else who just wants to be a play partner to the both of you on an occasional basis. Also be aware that just because you start off as "Alpha" does not necessarily you will remain that way once the new person gets more comfortable.

Make sure without any doubt that you are prepared for all the emotions (good and painful) that come from adding a 3rd (or 4th)

To try to determine a name for her now without knowing personality or how she feels her position will be is absurd

 

[StrayKat]

If I was trying to establish workable poly relationship, what would I call them would be the least of my worries.
But maybe its just me

 

[msteel4u]

I don't want to become one of the cynical who rip on those in the lifestyle who post questions, but seriously? Not sure how long you've been a sub, but are you concerned that your Master wants to have a harem? If you've been together for a while, then perhaps adding someone might enhance things. I'm afraid I have to agree with some of the comments here. When I read it, it reads of an immature relationship and not a serious D/s one.

Giving you the figure of the doubt...What to call them? I'd say that you should find the individual first and see what they feel would be a good name. If they are not into humiliation or demeaning names, they might not take to a name like "bitch", etc.

Not that I want to encourage you, but as I kind of like this suggestion, if you like the "alpha" title, then call number two "beta", then "gamma"...kind of unique...

MS

I'm working on a project for my master and I was hoping I could get some input from people here. We've discussed adding a second sub or possibly more to our relationship. I would be the Alpha sub in the case of this happening. I'm known as Pet. If we were to add only one other girl we'd call her Slave, but I'm not sure what to do if we were to add more. I don't want to call them by their names and I don't really find any appeal in 'degrading' names like slut, cunt, whore, fucktoy, etc. I can use numbers for them but I'd rather use something else if I could find it. Ideas???

 

[midwestyankee]

I suggest Rosencrantz and Guildenstern.

 

[dragonkin112]

I was working on writing up a hypothetical scenario for him, which was why I was asking for suggestions. I thought people here might be more helpful. I appreciate the beta, gamma suggestion that's kind of cool

To address a few of the questions alluded to: no, I'm not worried that he has ideas about building a harem, if I did I wouldn't be with him. Getting another girl would probably be as much for me as for him, I have no problems with polyamoury or bisexualism. No, I would not ever stop being an alpha sub, and if I did, again, I would leave the relationship. Yes, we've been together for quite some time, and we have discussed this at length and for years, discussing implications, how things would work, dealing with emotions, jealousies, etc. We have done our homework so to speak.

So thanks for responding to my actual question, I'll keep the responses in mind when think about posting on here next time.

 

[wicked woman]

I was working on writing up a hypothetical scenario for him, which was why I was asking for suggestions. I thought people here might be more helpful. I appreciate the beta, gamma suggestion that's kind of cool

To address a few of the questions alluded to: no, I'm not worried that he has ideas about building a harem, if I did I wouldn't be with him. Getting another girl would probably be as much for me as for him, I have no problems with polyamoury or bisexualism. No, I would not ever stop being an alpha sub, and if I did, again, I would leave the relationship. Yes, we've been together for quite some time, and we have discussed this at length and for years, discussing implications, how things would work, dealing with emotions, jealousies, etc. We have done our homework so to speak.

So thanks for responding to my actual question, I'll keep the responses in mind when think about posting on here next time.

Well while you're keeping our responses in mind when you post on here next time, you may want to distinguish a real life question versus one for a writing exercise. If you'd stated your question was for a writing exercise you might have gotten more suggested names (although there's no guarantee they wouldn't include humorous ones like Yank's reply). As a real life question, I still think the responses were fair in suggesting that the name for the fourth potential person in your relationship wasn't the issue that you should be focusing on at this stage. We tend to take things fairly seriously and attempt to help if we think someone is headed down the wrong path...whether that help is asked for or not.

 

[Etoile]

No, I would not ever stop being an alpha sub, and if I did, again, I would leave the relationship.

Glad to hear you're prepared to leave him, because adding people does change things, and maybe not in the way you would like. Voice of experience.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

You know, I don't know that I think the actual name matters as much when compared to how it is used or what becomes associated with it. The name of my ex has a profound effect on me but is actually a very generic American male name. That aside, I don't think I could name any pet of any kind before I met them and played with them for a while. However, after a time, the right name will come and is just the right one. I think that part is actually kinda fun and the naming feels even a bit ceremonious and intimate thing to share.

I think many people can fill a role for a while, but ultimately they need to breathe and be themselves, and that may vary greatly depending on the space between acting skills and self awareness. They may even act from the most genuine and affectionate place, but ultimately they are who they are and need to be themselves to sustain it long term. I think it is in uncovering these truths that can either swell or shatter even the sweetest of romances.

A relationship of any kind between two people requires so much compromise, patience, forgiveness, and understanding that I can only imagine one that is poly would require exponentially more. I don't think the posters meant an attack as much as they meant to warn you about the common perceptions (or maybe common misconceptions) of poly relationships that has come from well earned experience and wisdom... Given what I know, I think it is coming from a place of caring concern and not simply harsh judgement, so please try to be open to that if you can.

All that said, I sincerely wish you the very best of luck finding exactly what you are looking for, because ultimately that is what we are all doing and I think we can use all the luck we can get!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm working on a project for my master and I was hoping I could get some input from people here. We've discussed adding a second sub or possibly more to our relationship. I would be the Alpha sub in the case of this happening. I'm known as Pet. If we were to add only one other girl we'd call her Slave, but I'm not sure what to do if we were to add more. I don't want to call them by their names and I don't really find any appeal in 'degrading' names like slut, cunt, whore, fucktoy, etc. I can use numbers for them but I'd rather use something else if I could find it. Ideas???

I was working on writing up a hypothetical scenario for him, which was why I was asking for suggestions.

I'm often guilty of this same mistake-- forgetting some very important element in my query, like, for instance, the part about how you are writing a bit of fiction.

 

[Jaded_One]

How about days of the week... Monday's child and all that

Foreign language names for girl.. senorita, fraulein.. or Frau Blocher.

Ummm... flowers...Lily, Hyacinth, Rosebud...

Literary characters... Alice... Rumpelstiltskin

Numbers in other languages... uno dos tres....

Using just the last name like servants are addressed

Ohhh... colors in other languages... Noir, Rouge, Blanc, Vert

Dopey, Sneezy, Grumpy, Doc, Happy... can never remember the rest.

(I am trying to be helpful... as well as a smart ass... sorry...)

 

[dragonkin112]

I apologize. When I replied before I was feeling a little over sensitive. I do appreciate the concern.

He he I just thought of an idea "pet" names like spot.