Adjusting to the empty nest syndrome

[pink]

I took the kidlet back to college today. It'll be 4 weeks until I see her again. I don't think I will ever get used to leaving her there.


The good thing is...I am adjusting to being alone. I don't mind spending time by myself. I thought for sure I'd hate it, I really did. I've been spending my time working and enjoying my hobbies. Having my dogs to keep me company really helps too. I don't feel so alone.

 

[jomar]

Texting helps. Just keep it light on Friday and Saturday nights

 

[Sinny]

I am so going to suck at cutting the apron strings.

 

[Wat_Tyler]

My ex remarried and moved 800 miles away when Junior was 14. I think it took me two years to get over it. We made do by phone and occasional visits, and we have a good relationship.


Best wishes from one who knows.

 

[pink]

I am so going to suck at cutting the apron strings.

I'm doing good except for when it comes time to leave her.

 

[pink]

My ex remarried and moved 800 miles away when Junior was 14. I think it took me two years to get over it. We made do by phone and occasional visits, and we have a good relationship.


Best wishes from one who knows.

That is awful.

 

[ivantheterrible]

That is awful.

being alone , at first, is great. do what you want, how you want, and when you want.
but after awhile it gets to be sucky even with dogs around and things to do.
something you have to get used to. those who are divorced or recently childless due to your circumsances or others, or/and have an S.O. who doesn;t live with them , and says being single is cool, is full of shit. they have somone to play with on occasion when they FEEL like it.
the only thing that really helps is human contact, whether on an intimate physical level, or emotional- i love you type, or just by being out there in one way or another.
its rough, hang in there.

 

[Lancecastor]

I took the kidlet back to college today. It'll be 4 weeks until I see her again. I don't think I will ever get used to leaving her there.


The good thing is...I am adjusting to being alone. I don't mind spending time by myself. I thought for sure I'd hate it, I really did. I've been spending my time working and enjoying my hobbies. Having my dogs to keep me company really helps too. I don't feel so alone.

Look on the upside....by going to community college, your kid gets a chance at a better life than yours.

Even dorm life is better than living in a trailer, so be proud!

 

[redheadedtxn]

I took the kidlet back to college today. It'll be 4 weeks until I see her again. I don't think I will ever get used to leaving her there.


The good thing is...I am adjusting to being alone. I don't mind spending time by myself. I thought for sure I'd hate it, I really did. I've been spending my time working and enjoying my hobbies. Having my dogs to keep me company really helps too. I don't feel so alone.

shit girl, this is Your Time! Enjoy! Reconnect with YOU! Have fun! Go out! It's a good time!

 

[redheadedtxn]

being alone , at first, is great. do what you want, how you want, and when you want.
but after awhile it gets to be sucky even with dogs around and things to do.
something you have to get used to. those who are divorced or recently childless due to your circumsances or others, or/and have an S.O. who doesn;t live with them , and says being single is cool, is full of shit. they have somone to play with on occasion when they FEEL like it.
the only thing that really helps is human contact, whether on an intimate physical level, or emotional- i love you type, or just by being out there in one way or another.
its rough, hang in there.

I respectfully disagree. This is the time in one's life that they can afford to be selfish without regret. Learn new things, volunteer, get into your career, reconnect with friends, have fun!

It does NOT have to be a bad thing! Shoot, I'm having a fucking blast! I think the key is ...don't sit home and wallow in what was...take life by the horns and LIVE!

 

[Wat_Tyler]

That is awful.

It's not so bad. I'd bet he and I have a more open and honest relationship than he does with her. It would be nice to be able to see him more frequently, however.

 

[KRCummings]

People whose kids have moved out piss me off.

 

[redheadedtxn]

People whose kids have moved out piss me off.

Don't worry, you'll get your freedom eventually too.

 

[Shagly]

People whose kids have moved out piss me off.

The kids got smart and moved to where the work was.

 

[pink]

being alone , at first, is great. do what you want, how you want, and when you want.
but after awhile it gets to be sucky even with dogs around and things to do.
something you have to get used to. those who are divorced or recently childless due to your circumsances or others, or/and have an S.O. who doesn;t live with them , and says being single is cool, is full of shit. they have somone to play with on occasion when they FEEL like it.
the only thing that really helps is human contact, whether on an intimate physical level, or emotional- i love you type, or just by being out there in one way or another.
its rough, hang in there.

Holy shit, dude.

 

[KRCummings]

Holy shit, dude.

Come on, you should know better than to pay attention to him.

 

[pink]

People whose kids have moved out piss me off.

WTH???

 

[Shagly]

Holy shit, dude.

Another stage in the psychology chapters.

 

[pink]

Come on, you should know better than to pay attention to him.

He's was justa rattling on and on and on.

 

[albertaboy]

Our son moved out three years ago and only now that he has a serious live in girlfriend do we see him regularly.

Our daughter is 18 still at home, we will miss her even more when she goes.

That all being said, we will enjoy ourselves even more that we do now.

 

[smoothdevil]

What's the saying "can't live with them or without them" .... lol .... one lives and works in Vietnam, but comes home every xmas ... so far ... other is a few blocks away ... they need to live their lives ... we need to adapt and enjoy, else it will be a long and lonely road ....

 

[where]

your sex life will exponentially improve.

 

[smoothdevil]

your sex life will exponentially improve.

Is that optimism or wishfull thinking ?

 

[tactful]

shit girl, this is Your Time! Enjoy! Reconnect with YOU! Have fun! Go out! It's a good time!

Bingo, we have a winner.

 

[where]

Is that optimism or wishfull thinking ?

neither. fact. sex in the kitchen for the first time in 18 years!