New Female Dom Needs Advice

[LaraLash]

Hello All!

So down to the dirty business...

"I NEED HELP!"

I'm a girl with a sticky sweet disposition who's ready to flip the script on her boyfriend.

I want to be the perfect DOM but I could use some suggestions =/

All the research I've done has been well... lacking and none of it really suggests any kind of dialogue (I have no idea how to talk dirty or give commands)

any help???

 

[CutieMouse]

Hello All!

So down to the dirty business...

"I NEED HELP!"

I'm a girl with a sticky sweet disposition who's ready to flip the script on her boyfriend.

I want to be the perfect DOM but I could use some suggestions =/

All the research I've done has been well... lacking and none of it really suggests any kind of dialogue (I have no idea how to talk dirty or give commands)

any help???

Decide what you're interested in/want him to do, and tell him to do it.

"Darling? Be a good boy? I'd like a cosmopolitan while you do my foot massage (feed me strawberries, give me the best oral of my life, yadayadayada...)"

 

[Stella_Omega]

The Mouse is right on. Start off being pleasant but forthright.

The dirty talk will creep in on you in a very natural way.

 

[CutieMouse]

The Mouse is right on. Start off being pleasant but forthright.

The dirty talk will creep in on you in a very natural way.

Shame it never did a damn for me... I was [briefly;technically] a rather good Top once upon a time.

 

[Aussie___Guy]

Though I can not really speak of being a Domme (being male and all), from a male perspective, that there is no need to ditch the sticky sweet disposition. In fact I prefer the attitude to be more caring than trying to be queen bitch of the universe. Assertive and directional. I also really like the "good boy" type of thing.

I think maybe reading some erotica which revolves around a Domme whos attitude you would like to take on would be a good start? Lucky you are already on Literotica

 

[DominantCouple]

I think you just need to be yourself and ask directly for what you want. I think too many people try to adopt a persona for their given role. You can be nice and sweet and very direct and very clear in your expectations while losing nothing.

"Please take care of"
"I'll be expecting"

One thing I found more than anything is to just be direct. Good luck

 

[Cold_Eyes]

Hello All!

So down to the dirty business...

"I NEED HELP!"

I'm a girl with a sticky sweet disposition who's ready to flip the script on her boyfriend.

I want to be the perfect DOM but I could use some suggestions =/

All the research I've done has been well... lacking and none of it really suggests any kind of dialogue (I have no idea how to talk dirty or give commands)

any help???

You don't have to play "the bitch" to domme. Use your sticky sweetness as part of the act -- personally, I find the contrast between a sweet attitude and harsh domination incredibly hot.

Have you talked to your BF about it?

 

[Adakgirl]

My best suggestion is, don't want to be, or try to be, "the perfect Dom". There is not and never will there be such a person. Because you are a human animal and none of us are perfect beings. So just try to do the best you can, you'll learn as you go.

 

[xhardchick]

Begging is the ultimate sign of submission, and it can be an incredibly sexy experience for both individuals. When trying to dominate a man, the idea is to show him how much he really wants you to dominate him, in spite of all those verbal denials he keeps making. The easiest way to accomplish this is via oral sex. Also, telling him precisely how you’re going to dominate him is a guaranteed challenge. And dominating a man is all about a challenge; it’s an invitation for him to try her best moves on you, and an opportunity for you to show him who’s really in charge.

 

[Im_no_angel]

I happened on this thread and I'm finding it helpful. I'm exploring dominance with a man and I've never done it before and had no idea where to start. Thanks for posting this!

 

[cf23430]

Shame it never did a damn for me... I was [briefly;technically] a rather good Top once upon a time.

would love for you to be my TOP