Should I beat her up?

[cherubini]

She wants to be beaten up.
And I know she deserves it.
Only one problem.
I don't beat people up.
Except myself.
Yeah, that's another story.
But I'm tired of being the one
with the bruises.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Nope.

 

[ImOnIt]

Yeah don't, Stella is normally right about these things.

 

[catalina_francisco]

If you need to ask, the answer has to be no.

Catalina

 

[Eros_dom]

No

No, this has bad idea written all over it. I'm not a personal believer in bullying your sub. Punishment has its place, but to just beat your sub up? That is not ok.

 

[Stella_Omega]

This isn't a BDSM relationship, seems to me.

Might be the kind of relationship Cherubini needs to walk out of, though. Although, if it generates good poetry...

 

[rosco rathbone]

"Beaten up" is mad sketchy.

Some females will definitely benefit from a strop across the ass, but you sound unstable, so I'd just say forget the whole thing.

 

[Keroin]

I don't beat people up.
Except myself.

Are you Ed Norton in Fight Club?

 

[YourCaptor]

If you are intimate, yes.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Depends, is she going to beat you back?

 

[IrisAlthea]

She wants to be beaten up.
And I know she deserves it.
Only one problem.
I don't beat people up.
Except myself.
Yeah, that's another story.
But I'm tired of being the one
with the bruises.

With the dynamic that seems to be peeking out through your eloquent lines, it might end up being just another way of beating yourself up.

 

[cherubini]

With the dynamic that seems to be peeking out through your eloquent lines, it might end up being just another way of beating yourself up.

You are absolutely right. Maybe I just needed to hear it. There is no rhyme or reason to why we fall for people who are completely wrong for us. The sad truth is, our heads don't always align with our hearts. They are two different animals.

I have no intention of beating anyone up. She is just a fascinating submissive who has captivated me for many years. I would gladly move on, if moving on didn't feel like a kind of slow death.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You are absolutely right. Maybe I just needed to hear it. There is no rhyme or reason to why we fall for people who are completely wrong for us. The sad truth is, our heads don't always align with our hearts. They are two different animals.

I have no intention of beating anyone up. She is just a fascinating submissive who has captivated me for many years. I would gladly move on, if moving on didn't feel like a kind of slow death.

I call bullshit on this, my dear. The truth is more likely that the trouble she brings you is not yet bad enough to tip your personal scales in the get-out direction. To put it another way, your head is weak and your heart is over-exercised.

 

[cherubini]

I call bullshit on this, my dear. The truth is more likely that the trouble she brings you is not yet bad enough to tip your personal scales in the get-out direction. To put it another way, your head is weak and your heart is over-exercised.

Stella, I thought that was implied. "Slow death," as a rule, is not an idiom of the headstrong.

 

[chy_girl]

Depends, is she going to beat you back?

I'd say it depends on if she's going to land the OP in jail. That part about "But I'm tired of being the one with the bruises," could be taken literally or figuratively. But either way, it doesn't sound so good.

You are absolutely right. Maybe I just needed to hear it. There is no rhyme or reason to why we fall for people who are completely wrong for us. The sad truth is, our heads don't always align with our hearts. They are two different animals.

I have no intention of beating anyone up. She is just a fascinating submissive who has captivated me for many years. I would gladly move on, if moving on didn't feel like a kind of slow death.

I call bullshit on this, my dear. The truth is more likely that the trouble she brings you is not yet bad enough to tip your personal scales in the get-out direction. To put it another way, your head is weak and your heart is over-exercised.

Yeah. That's the long and short of it there.

Stella, your wisdom in things makes me very unsure if I want to grow up to be as wise as you or not. Mostly because the lessons that produce wisdom tend to be rather harsh in my experience. Either way, I'm glad you're around. You're a very smart and caring individual.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Stella, I thought that was implied. "Slow death," as a rule, is not an idiom of the headstrong.

This is quite true. But slow is kind of an awful way to go, don't you think? Fast is better-- or not dying at all until your proper time.

Thank you, chy_girl it's the old song; "If I knew then what I know now..."

 

[cherubini]

I can see this is a tough-love crowd. Thanks all.

 

[chy_girl]

Thank you, chy_girl it's the old song; "If I knew then what I know now..."

You're welcome.

I'm curious, though, If you knew then what you know now... would you do anything differently? I've thought extensively about that question over the years and, when it comes down to it, I can't say as I would because then I'd be a different person on a different journey than I am today.

I can see this is a tough-love crowd. Thanks all.

*looks around the room*
You do realize that this is a BDSM board, right? And a large number of us identify as sadists, masochists, or both? Tough-love is a bit of an understatement.

 

[janeyruth]

Yes! Beat her up. Here's a how-to vid...

http://content.whippedass.com/imagedb/4283/v/h/320/hires/4283_7.wmv

 

[SimonBrooke]

She wants to be beaten up.
And I know she deserves it.
Only one problem.
I don't beat people up.
Except myself.
Yeah, that's another story.
But I'm tired of being the one
with the bruises.

I know I'm late to the feast, but the reason to beat a girl who wants you to beat her is not because she wants you to beat her. It's because you want to beat her. Obviously I'm not suggesting anyone should beat women who don't want to be beaten, But provided that she wants it, how why and when she wants it is irrelevant. It's what you want that counts.

If that isn't your dynamic - if that isn't the way you think about your relationship - just don't go there. You get into morally very uncomfortable territory.

 

[Que]

With the dynamic that seems to be peeking out through your eloquent lines, it might end up being just another way of beating yourself up.

wow..incisive! I'm surprised that didn't jump out at me too, as in a way that is my own internal track at times.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You're welcome.

I'm curious, though, If you knew then what you know now... would you do anything differently? I've thought extensively about that question over the years and, when it comes down to it, I can't say as I would because then I'd be a different person on a different journey than I am today.

I would do it sooner-- and, I like to think, I'd do it better.

 

[chy_girl]

I would do it sooner-- and, I like to think, I'd do it better.

LOL - Good answer, Stella, a very good answer. And one that isn't typically given (or thought of, I'd imagine) when someone is asked that question. Kind of like "is the glass half full or half empty?" When, in reality, it's all the way full. One half with water and one half with air.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

No, this has bad idea written all over it. I'm not a personal believer in bullying your sub. Punishment has its place, but to just beat your sub up? That is not ok.

It can be ok...

 

[Marquis]

Lit fact:

If you wait long enough, someone will eventually post what you want to hear.

Then you can agree with them and pretend it was all their idea.