Appealing?

[kdb]

Okay folks...

While I certainly wasn't TUI ("Typing Under the Influence") last night, I did post after some long, hard days. Apparently my filters wear thin on too little sleep, and I offer TMI.

Since I can't "unring the bell" I'll just go with it and thank y'all for your responses. I'm always struck by how kind and supportive everyone is here. [/QUOTE
At lunch so I will be brief. It was great to read all what you were feeling. You have passion and that is sexy. I hope to read and see more of you posted soon.

 

[purfecthost]

I'm going to believe this is the good "interesting" and not the polite "interesting". ;-) Glad you think it's sexy, Purfecthost.

Definitely a good interesting sweetie

 

[purfecthost]

After all these posts, the changes in my relationship and my life... here I am again - alone and without a partner. Sigh.

Perhaps if/when I have another encounter, I/he/we will oblige your request.

Double sigh.

Sorry to hear that sweetie
Can't believe you'll be like that for long

 

[purfecthost]

Aww, thanks, KDB.

I like what you said about "when I least expect it." I've never believed in looking or searching for a parnter. I've been lucky wih the loves I've had in my life - they just happened.

My parents met and were married 3 months later - they're still ridiculously in love 54 years later. My husband and I went on one date and were living together within 2 weeks. We were together for 20 years - who knows what would have happened if things had been different.

I don't necessarily believe in love at first sight, but I have witnessed and experienced the irresistible, electrifying, and all-consuming connection that occurs "when you least expect it" - it's a rare gift when it happens.

So... my apologies for the above post. I certainly didn't mean for it to sound as pathetic as it does.

What didn't get translated into my post are all of the thoughts and feelings racing around in my mind lately.

When my husband and I first discussed an "open marriage" and then that evolved into our separation and impending divorce... a part of me thought "Wooo hoooooo! Party time!"

Of course, the rest of me knew that that tiny part was crazy. The images of hedonistic abandon, sensory overload and wanton debauchery simply aren't me.

Well... they aren't me in a casual relationship.

But put me together with someone I care deeply about... and who cares deeply about me... and the sky's the limit. Not just phyisically, but emotionally, mentally, soulfully. I don't know how to share just a part of me - how to compartmentalize and segment different aspects of my self and offer only bits and parts of myself to some and other parts to others.

I have had offers/ advances from a couple of men here (in Texas), and the physical temptation was overwhelming... but I simply couldn't. There was an emptiness - a sense that each of them was after their own gratification (of course they were) and of course I was after mine.

But the thing is, I've found that when I'm with someone... the act of getting lost in each other - in trying to pleasure and gratify each other - me putting his needs above my own (and him putting my needs above his)... that is exponentially more gratifying.

So much more gratifying that I can't help but feel that a quick encounter with someone I don't know, that I don't feel for, that I don't have a connection with... I can't help but feel that it wouldn't be worth it.

Am I wrong? I don't know.

Maybe the day will come when I choose to explore casual, mindless sex... but right now, I don't see it.

What do y'all think? Am I just being naive? Is my reasoning addled by having gone without for too long? Would love to hear your opinions / experiences.

I think you're spot on sweetie
I was long enough after my divorce but it definitely is worth waiting for the right person

 

[armyguy614]

Casual sex is overrated. What you need is a guy that has spent the past year deployed so that when he comes back to Texas he's going to do whatever it takes to make your toes curl and scream his name as you have the most mind blowing orgasim you've ever had. This of course is my opinion, and I'll be back in Texas within a month

 

[txconfidential]

Okay folks...

While I certainly wasn't TUI ("Typing Under the Influence") last night, I did post after some long, hard days. Apparently my filters wear thin on too little sleep, and I offer TMI.

Since I can't "unring the bell" I'll just go with it and thank y'all for your responses. I'm always struck by how kind and supportive everyone is here.

At lunch so I will be brief. It was great to read all what you were feeling. You have passion and that is sexy. I hope to read and see more of you posted soon.

Thanks, KDB

Right now, I'd settle for passion for this project I'm working on... I'm writing in circles, so visiting Lit is avoidance behavior.

Definitely a good interesting sweetie

Whew!

Sorry to hear that sweetie
Can't believe you'll be like that for long

Thanks, purfecthost. What will be will be. I'm not one to force any issue... generally. I do have other areas of my life to focus on as well. I guess my personal life is the one with new developments, so it gets more attention consciously and subconsciously, simply because it's different. So, even though I'm consciously focusing on work, or family or whatever, beneath the surface my mind is picking up on things that are different and mulling them over without any conscious effort on my part. Then every once in a while... it forces random thoughts to the forefront and throws me for a loop. That probably didn't make any sense to you... sorry.

I think you're spot on sweetie
I was long enough after my divorce but it definitely is worth waiting for the right person

Good to know. And I'm not one of those that subscribes to the notion that there is one and only one person out there. We are different people at different times of our lives. How wonderful it would be to meet young, fall in love and live hapily ever after - like my parents did. (Boy, talk about an impossible standard to live up to... sheesh!)

But it can also be wonderful to connect and discover someone new. Someone who brings a wealth of experiences that differ from, yet compliment your own. Someone to challenge your ideas and beliefs and help you discover more about yourself than you would have otherwise... and vice versa.

Okay, stopping now before I go on and on again. What I won't do to avoid working...

Casual sex is overrated. What you need is a guy that has spent the past year deployed so that when he comes back to Texas he's going to do whatever it takes to make your toes curl and scream his name as you have the most mind blowing orgasim you've ever had. This of course is my opinion, and I'll be back in Texas within a month

Ha ha ha ha... you do make a good argument ArmyGuy. Stay safe!

 

[kdb]

Thanks, KDB

Right now, I'd settle for passion for this project I'm working on... I'm writing in circles, so visiting Lit is avoidance behavior.



Whew!



Thanks, purfecthost. What will be will be. I'm not one to force any issue... generally. I do have other areas of my life to focus on as well. I guess my personal life is the one with new developments, so it gets more attention consciously and subconsciously, simply because it's different. So, even though I'm consciously focusing on work, or family or whatever, beneath the surface my mind is picking up on things that are different and mulling them over without any conscious effort on my part. Then every once in a while... it forces random thoughts to the forefront and throws me for a loop. That probably didn't make any sense to you... sorry.



Good to know. And I'm not one of those that subscribes to the notion that there is one and only one person out there. We are different people at different times of our lives. How wonderful it would be to meet young, fall in love and live hapily ever after - like my parents did. (Boy, talk about an impossible standard to live up to... sheesh!)

But it can also be wonderful to connect and discover someone new. Someone who brings a wealth of experiences that differ from, yet compliment your own. Someone to challenge your ideas and beliefs and help you discover more about yourself than you would have otherwise... and vice versa.

Okay, stopping now before I go on and on again. What I won't do to avoid working...



Ha ha ha ha... you do make a good argument ArmyGuy. Stay safe!

So true, your comment about different times of our lives. My wife and I joke we would have never dated or been interested in each other had we met back in university days. She would have thought I was too much biker and I would have thought she was the prom queen type.lol

What are you writing for a project?

 

[txconfidential]

Ok, after reviewing the entire thread... i have some picture requests

(not that i feel i have some sort of right to demand)

I think these will be within your limits/rules, but appreciated by your adoring fans all the same

Ok, enough rambling, i think that your avatar is just gorgeous, such lovely lips and such a warm smile

What i'd like to see is;

1. a picture of you sucking your finger

and/or

2. a pictire of you chewing a pencil, in a sexy kinda way



In return i'm happy to pm you a pic of a TX caused local flood

Okay, when I play with photobooth, there are MANY pics that can never be posted here. So, I remembered one that may work after some creative cropping.

Would you settle for me chewing on my finger, sort of? It's kind of a two-for-one deal, no?

Of course, now y'all know that I said "NO!" to braces.

I bet if I go back and track the density of my posts, the high densities would correlate to my deadlines. I am the queen of avoidance behavior. Of course... it's "percolating" while my dinner cooks and I post.

Can you tell I've had one too many of those energy drinks?

 

[kdb]

Okay, when I play with photobooth, there are MANY pics that can never be posted here. So, I remembered one that may work after some creative cropping.

Would you settle for me chewing on my finger, sort of? It's kind of a two-for-one deal, no?

Of course, now y'all know that I said "NO!" to braces.

I bet if I go back and track the density of my posts, the high densities would correlate to my deadlines. I am the queen of avoidance behavior. Of course... it's "percolating" while my dinner cooks and I post.

Can you tell I've had one too many of those energy drinks?

Im curious as to know about this stash of pics that can't be posted?

 

[txconfidential]

So true, your comment about different times of our lives. My wife and I joke we would have never dated or been interested in each other had we met back in university days. She would have thought I was too much biker and I would have thought she was the prom queen type.lol

What are you writing for a project?

Hey! What's wrong with prom queen types?


re: Writing: I'm a freelancer, but don't want to say, sorry.

 

[txconfidential]

Im curious as to know about this stash of pics that can't be posted?

LOL... I probably overstated that. Some pics have my face in them, others are just "Fails" and then some are more explicit or suggestive than I care to post.

 

[kdb]

Gentlemen, I'm curious...

If and when you ever picture me welcoming the feel of your skin on mine... Giving in to my yearnings... And finally revealing to you what has remained hidden and unused for too long...

If and when you imagine me reaching down and touching myself for you...feeling the slick folds of my flesh... Thenfinally spreading my legs and parting my labia to invite you in...

I wonder how you picture me. Am I sleek and bare? Or do I hav a natural bush? Or is it somewhere in between?

And I'm curious about what men prefer... How do they react when they first slip their hand into a womans panties and are surprised that she's bare?... Or, more likely, I imagine the surprise would be to discover the rich texture of a bush leading to the wet folds of flesh within.

So, please share... What do you prefer? Bare? Hair? Why do you prefer it? How do you react when you encounter the unexpected? Are you disappointed? Or is the difference that much more arousing?

Seems I am just getting caught up on some good discussion. I like bare, It feels so smooth which allows my hot, moist tongue to get full contact on that smooth skin. If you are getting after it from behind it is like putting a smooth peach in your mouth. All styles are welcome. Most guys will welcome whatever they encounter...lol Years ago a gal who was bare was more "naughty", now bare is the norm.
But given my choice I will take bare.

 

[bliss4u22011]

Thanks for sharing what you have...i find you very attractive...and a word of wisdom as much as casual encounters can be fun they are just sex.....no passion, no rock your world moments because for most women and me included (im a man ) you still need the chemistry and mental connection...when you trust your partner it's getting to the level of yes that was fantastic sex ....just my 2 cents
thanks for sharing and love to see more

LOL... I probably overstated that. Some pics have my face in them, others are just "Fails" and then some are more explicit or suggestive than I care to post.

 

[kdb]

Gentlemen, I'm curious...

If and when you ever picture me welcoming the feel of your skin on mine... Giving in to my yearnings... And finally revealing to you what has remained hidden and unused for too long...

If and when you imagine me reaching down and touching myself for you...feeling the slick folds of my flesh... Thenfinally spreading my legs and parting my labia to invite you in...

I wonder how you picture me. Am I sleek and bare? Or do I hav a natural bush? Or is it somewhere in between?

And I'm curious about what men prefer... How do they react when they first slip their hand into a womans panties and are surprised that she's bare?... Or, more likely, I imagine the surprise would be to discover the rich texture of a bush leading to the wet folds of flesh within.

So, please share... What do you prefer? Bare? Hair? Why do you prefer it? How do you react when you encounter the unexpected? Are you disappointed? Or is the difference that much more arousing?

LOL... I probably overstated that. Some pics have my face in them, others are just "Fails" and then some are more explicit or suggestive than I care to post.

LOL.. I just spent 20 minutes looking at the first 10 pages of your thread trying to see all the pics you have posted and to see more of who you are.

 

[kdb]

Hey! What's wrong with prom queen types?


re: Writing: I'm a freelancer, but don't want to say, sorry.

Nothing wrong with prom queen types lol. It was more of a term to describe the extreme different lifes we had back then. By the time we met we had so much in common that I "knew" after the 2nd date she was the one. We met about 2 years after my 1st marriage ended. That was 1993.

 

[Diverb2705]

I have to tell you I am new to this thread, and have been paging through it for about a half hour. All I can say is you seem to be an amazing woman, fantastic outlook and sense of commitment. That being said, beautiful too, sexy, curvacious, alluring, arousing and about another dozen adjectives... almost forgot incredibly sexy! Thanks for sharing with us.

 

[txconfidential]

Thanks for sharing what you have...i find you very attractive...and a word of wisdom as much as casual encounters can be fun they are just sex.....no passion, no rock your world moments because for most women and me included (im a man ) you still need the chemistry and mental connection...when you trust your partner it's getting to the level of yes that was fantastic sex ....just my 2 cents
thanks for sharing and love to see more

I love that so many of you are chiming in on casual encounters - both here and in PM. The general consensus seems to confirm my suspicions.

LOL.. I just spent 20 minutes looking at the first 10 pages of your thread trying to see all the pics you have posted and to see more of who you are.

LOL... if you want to see more of who I am, then the posts without the pics are far more revealing..

The interesting (sad?) thing is, anyone here who has read my posts knows me far more intimately than virtually everyone that I see on a daily basis.

 

[txconfidential]

Nothing wrong with prom queen types lol. It was more of a term to describe the extreme different lifes we had back then. By the time we met we had so much in common that I "knew" after the 2nd date she was the one. We met about 2 years after my 1st marriage ended. That was 1993.

Funny how you can just "know" so quickly, huh?

I have to tell you I am new to this thread, and have been paging through it for about a half hour. All I can say is you seem to be an amazing woman, fantastic outlook and sense of commitment. That being said, beautiful too, sexy, curvacious, alluring, arousing and about another dozen adjectives... almost forgot incredibly sexy! Thanks for sharing with us.

Wow! Thank you for so many wonderful compliments.

I did say above that y'all know me far better than those around me, but that wasn't quite accurate. You know my thoughts and feelings.

You don't know how I interact with people.. whether I'm kind, supportive and loving (or just think I am - but we all think that of ourselves, don't we?)... if I'm able and willing to give those I care about what they need, rather than focusing on what I need only.

I'd like to think that I am and do all of those things. But only those who know me personally, IRL know for sure. Sometimes I think it would be easier for my two worlds to overlap -- but most people I know would probably go into shock if they found this thread.

Sigh.

 

[bliss4u22011]

I have to agree...it is almost like 2 seperate lives, the ability to share with perfect strangers but yet some of our closest friends would never understand nor comprehend sharing or exposing ourselves both physically and emotionallyin such a mannor...also it can be easier to share and trust when we are not afraid of being hurt or judged ....overlaping of the real and the unreal would work just fine... : )

Funny how you can just "know" so quickly, huh?



Wow! Thank you for so many wonderful compliments.

I did say above that y'all know me far better than those around me, but that wasn't quite accurate. You know my thoughts and feelings.

You don't know how I interact with people.. whether I'm kind, supportive and loving (or just think I am - but we all think that of ourselves, don't we?)... if I'm able and willing to give those I care about what they need, rather than focusing on what I need only.

I'd like to think that I am and do all of those things. But only those who know me personally, IRL know for sure. Sometimes I think it would be easier for my two worlds to overlap -- but most people I know would probably go into shock if they found this thread.

Sigh.

 

[Diverb2705]

I'm having a little trouble concentrating myself!

This could be why a gentleman pulls the chair out for a lady, so he can stand behind and over her.

 

[justhavingfun95]

[\QUOTE]


Of course, now y'all know that I said "NO!" to braces.

I bet if I go back and track the density of my posts, the high densities would correlate to my deadlines. I am the queen of avoidance behavior. Of course... it's "percolating" while my dinner cooks and I post.

Can you tell I've had one too many of those energy drinks?[/QUOTE]

hey lover...
love the pic of the finger and lips....
If you need help procrastinating, I'd be happy to help.

BTW - how ya liking this weather in Austin... been much better the past few days!

 

[txconfidential]

I have to agree...it is almost like 2 seperate lives, the ability to share with perfect strangers but yet some of our closest friends would never understand nor comprehend sharing or exposing ourselves both physically and emotionallyin such a mannor...also it can be easier to share and trust when we are not afraid of being hurt or judged ....overlaping of the real and the unreal would work just fine... : )

And, come to think of it... our closest friends may be doing the very same thing. LOL

This could be why a gentleman pulls the chair out for a lady, so he can stand behind and over her.

One more reason to keep chivalry alive.

hey lover...
love the pic of the finger and lips....
If you need help procrastinating, I'd be happy to help.

BTW - how ya liking this weather in Austin... been much better the past few days!

Hello JHF -

No time for real-life procrastination - just to check in while food cooks/ heats. Will be ready for letting loose when all is done, probably.

Plus, just got an infusion of enthusiasm after making plans for my West Coast conference in a few weeks.

But I am headed slightly north to enjoy the GORGEOUS sunshine. I feel so bad for everyone in the northeast - but I'm sure we'll be envying them in a few months.

 

[kdb]

I love that so many of you are chiming in on casual encounters - both here and in PM. The general consensus seems to confirm my suspicions.




LOL... if you want to see more of who I am, then the posts without the pics are far more revealing..

The interesting (sad?) thing is, anyone here who has read my posts knows me far more intimately than virtually everyone that I see on a daily basis.

Good Point Txcon. With your skills as a writer I suspect it is easy to get your thoughts down on the PC and share what you are feeling and thinking. This site allows for a common connection between members. Having read 30+ pages I can see you have passion, are a thinker, have a deep soul, and have a sleeping sexual diva inside you. That being said, I would still enjoy seeing pictures of all your sexy curves...How's that for a guy being honest? LOL

 

[moji12]

whereabouts on the west coast will you be visiting? seems like your smile would make anywhere around you that much brighter

 

[txconfidential]

whereabouts on the west coast will you be visiting? seems like your smile would make anywhere around you that much brighter

Ha ha! "West coast" is as narrowed down as I'll get. Sorry.