Vanilla sex and "subspace."

[liv21]

Okay, perhaps it's not subspace, but I've definitely had some kinds of intense psychological changes during vanilla sex, and I'm wondering if anyone else has heard of this.

I'll try to explain as best as I can. My fiance and I most commonly have vanilla sex. I'm very easy to get off, and I'd say I usually have between 20 and 30 orgasms (of varying intensity and location) before he gets his. Now, he's got some stamina. At some point later on in the act, I become thoroughly exhausted. I'll have a short break to get my heart rate and breathing back to normal, and continuing after that is when things get strange.

From that point on every touch is intense. I will not want to stop, I will not want to "officially" come because it already feels like I'm constantly coming. If he gets off when I'm in this state of mind, he notices differences with me even as long as a half an hour after sex. He tells me my voice is different, and the way I talk. I'm excitable and giggly. I continue to crave sex and want to be touched.

However, there's a point beyond my "sex high" which is very different. Continuing on when I'm way past the point of orgasm(s) makes me feel very numb. I'm not in any pain, but I'm not feeling any pleasure either. When sex is over in this state of mind, I get this indescribable feeling, one that I've actually experienced since I was about 4. I'm assuming it's dissociation--I feel heavy and slow. I can't talk or make any sort of sudden movement. There's this deep feeling of depression that for whatever reason I feel distinctly in my chest. I've been trying for about 15 years to come up with the right way to describe it, and so far no such luck.

Has anyone else experienced either of these mental states during vanilla sex? I know subspace and sub drop are common in BDSM, so I figure I'd ask the people who know about some of the psychological changes during sex.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not sure it is anything other than the way you react to arousal etc. I am told my eyes change colour to varying degrees when aroused, plus a few other things happen, but I just put it down to the physilogical changes that happen during sex. Someone else might have more o offer.

Catalina

 

[DVS]

I'm no doctor, don't play one on TV and don't know the answer to your situation by any means, but 20 and 30 orgasms? Wow, what a woman, even if they are, as you say "of varying intensity and location".

Still, after that much intensity and pleasure, I'd think you are bound to have at least a mild chemical reaction in your body, and maybe mentally, too. Drugs and alcohol can change someone's personality and if I'd had 20 and 30 orgasms in one afternoon, I'd consider that one very fine drug.

Do you have a sister?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Also not a doctor etc, but it sounds to me like adrenalin depletion. Or electrolyte imbalance, or both at once.

Have some orange juice handy, stay warm, and eat your dark green veggies!

 

[liv21]

I'm no doctor, don't play one on TV and don't know the answer to your situation by any means, but 20 and 30 orgasms? Wow, what a woman, even if they are, as you say "of varying intensity and location".

Still, after that much intensity and pleasure, I'd think you are bound to have at least a mild chemical reaction in your body, and maybe mentally, too. Drugs and alcohol can change someone's personality and if I'd had 20 and 30 orgasms in one afternoon, I'd consider that one very fine drug.

Do you have a sister?

Haha, it sounds like a lot when I put it in writing... During sex of course I'm not paying attention to--well, I hardly pay attention to anything during sex! Speaking of drugs, I imagine it could be an endorphin/dopamine thing. Much like with recreational drugs.

And I do have a sister. But she's still jailbait. (Plus I'm the cute one! )

Also not a doctor etc, but it sounds to me like adrenalin depletion. Or electrolyte imbalance, or both at once.

Have some orange juice handy, stay warm, and eat your dark green veggies!

Sweet. I'll drink Gatorade and pretend I'm an athlete!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Sweet. I'll drink Gatorade and pretend I'm an athlete!

Sounds like there's no pretending needed.

 

[temp256]

I've never been with anyone, but I'm familiar with the depression part. After 4-5 orgasms in 20 minutes, I often feel very depressed. I don't think it's low blood sugar because I've tried drinking juice before and after. My best guess is frustration, because even with 4-5 orgasms, I'm not the least bit satisfied. I really need a girlfriend...

 

[NomadLady]

I'd have to agree with Stella somewhat on this, could be low blood sugar, just not low enough for you to pass out. I'd try some protein before the fun, a couple of times and see if you can notice a difference or get an A1C bloog test if diabtetes runs in your family.
Keep orange juice close by and when you take a break, drink some and see if that feeling subsides.

 

[lovebound]

I get something similar when I have sex, and I usually credit it to adrenaline. I can't say I've ever had 20-30 orgasms (Wow!) in one sitting, as it were, but I expend a lot of energy during and I usually have a hard time getting up and moving around and putting thoughts together after.

 

[YourCaptor]

I'll try to explain as best as I can. My fiance and I most commonly have vanilla sex. I'm very easy to get off, and I'd say I usually have between 20 and 30 orgasms (of varying intensity and location) before he gets his. Now, he's got some stamina. At some point later on in the act, I become thoroughly exhausted. I'll have a short break to get my heart rate and breathing back to normal, and continuing after that is when things get strange.

From that point on every touch is intense. I will not want to stop, I will not want to "officially" come because it already feels like I'm constantly coming. If he gets off when I'm in this state of mind, he notices differences with me even as long as a half an hour after sex. He tells me my voice is different, and the way I talk. I'm excitable and giggly. I continue to crave sex and want to be touched.

However, there's a point beyond my "sex high" which is very different. Continuing on when I'm way past the point of orgasm(s) makes me feel very numb. I'm not in any pain, but I'm not feeling any pleasure either. When sex is over in this state of mind, I get this indescribable feeling, one that I've actually experienced since I was about 4. I'm assuming it's dissociation--I feel heavy and slow. I can't talk or make any sort of sudden movement. There's this deep feeling of depression that for whatever reason I feel distinctly in my chest.

Wow, that sounds amazing… I want to fuck you.

Ehhh, I mean that respectfully.

It sounds like you either have a very powerful dopamine response to sex, or you’re wired so that one is just not enough. Either case you’re just waltzing over every orgasm that should be saying, k that’s enough. Orgasms release lot’s of other neurotransmitters that produce anything from jitteriness to depression to affection.

You probably just keep and keep being stimulated, ignoring everything all those orgasm release, till you run dry on DA. It’s called synaptic depression, when the nt release is greater than production/reuptake it stops till reserves are replenished. That’s probably the chance your body uses to realize it has 30 orgasms worth of craziness to deal with.

Well, that’s my theory.

The science to prove me right has yet to be done. Would you like to volunteer as a lab rat?

 

[lovebound]

Wow, that sounds amazing… I want to fuck you.

Ehhh, I mean that respectfully.

It sounds like you either have a very powerful dopamine response to sex, or you’re wired so that one is just not enough. Either case you’re just waltzing over every orgasm that should be saying, k that’s enough. Orgasms release lot’s of other neurotransmitters that produce anything from jitteriness to depression to affection.

You probably just keep and keep being stimulated, ignoring everything all those orgasm release, till you run dry on DA. It’s called synaptic depression, when the nt release is greater than production/reuptake it stops till reserves are replenished. That’s probably the chance your body uses to realize it has 30 orgasms worth of craziness to deal with.

Well, that’s my theory.

The science to prove me right has yet to be done. Would you like to volunteer as a lab rat?

That's one case study that wouldn't require much financial compensation. Can I help too??

 

[liv21]

Wow, that sounds amazing… I want to fuck you.

Ehhh, I mean that respectfully.

It sounds like you either have a very powerful dopamine response to sex, or you’re wired so that one is just not enough. Either case you’re just waltzing over every orgasm that should be saying, k that’s enough. Orgasms release lot’s of other neurotransmitters that produce anything from jitteriness to depression to affection.

You probably just keep and keep being stimulated, ignoring everything all those orgasm release, till you run dry on DA. It’s called synaptic depression, when the nt release is greater than production/reuptake it stops till reserves are replenished. That’s probably the chance your body uses to realize it has 30 orgasms worth of craziness to deal with.

Well, that’s my theory.

The science to prove me right has yet to be done. Would you like to volunteer as a lab rat?

I figured it would have something to do with dopamine. That's my first explanation, though I have yet to test the blood sugar/other deficiencies theory. Next time it happens, I'll try juice. I am actually borderline hypoglycemic and sensitive to changes in blood sugar (thanks, birth control), so that could make me susceptible to it.

And I'm willing to do whatever needs to be done in the name of science!

 

[NomadLady]

Being a diabetic myself I can tell you that I've experienced the same thing and while the dopamine response is a huge factor so is the blood sugar. I've had pretty much the exact same response you described before and during the "break" I recharged with some protein and a few carbs, then kept right on with the fun with somewhat less of a "high" feeling mentally but was prefectly able to focus, as had not been the case in times past.

 

[YourCaptor]

That's one case study that wouldn't require much financial compensation. Can I help too??

It’s very bothersome but I suppose we can accommodate you. This is a restricted study though. I’ll have to do an extensive orgasmic examination to determine your qualifications.

I figured it would have something to do with dopamine. That's my first explanation, though I have yet to test the blood sugar/other deficiencies theory. Next time it happens, I'll try juice. I am actually borderline hypoglycemic and sensitive to changes in blood sugar (thanks, birth control), so that could make me susceptible to it.

And I'm willing to do whatever needs to be done in the name of science!

How to test this?

I could put you on a Da drip and see if you keep orgasming indefinitely.
Side effects may include but are not limited to, bruising, semen after taste, pregnancy, sex addiction, loss of touch with reality, and gang rape hallucinations.

Oh what sluts wont do for science.