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[mrppv]

Okay..

WARNING SERIOUS POSTING

This is going to be a more serious posting so feel free to skim over if you're just in my thread for sexy fun. I won't be offended. I just need some advice and this is the quickest way to reach my friends

So yes..down to business.

I got a friend request via facebook today from a man who raped and abused me for a long time. And I am not sure what to do. Before you immediately tell me..whats the problem delete the request..please read what I have to say

Firstly..I am ANGRY that he contacted me. I broke contact after he admitted he had raped me..that he knew all along I didnt want to do anything sexual - nevermind that I was a few years under age of consent..but anyways. That sparked me not longer being able to pretend it hadnt happened and I finally removed contact.

I was worried that he would send me nasty emails etc but there was nothing. So I was able to get stronger and begin to feel angry and sad about what happened. Now less than a year later this request happens with a "hey how are you" message and I am pissed.

Why now..why at all?

So That is my first reaction..to ask him why.

The second reaction is to send a long message about how I despise him and he is a pervert who deserves to be rotting in jail etc (you catch my drift)

My third reaction is to freeze. can't respond to him but for some reason I cant press the ignore button either - this is most probably related to the brainwashed child in me..it's like an automatic reaction; the need to please him.

My last and most disturbing reaction is to accept the request and pretend nothing happened.

So what do I do? Would confronting be a good idea?

He has told me it was my fault before..I made him do it because I was pretending to be innocent! So a long message about how he was wrong and I wasnt might provoke a very nasty message back - which could, potentially, set me back in my healing and cause lots of pain.

This isnt a simple problem..so I apologise for that. If you dont know what to say but want to say something in support of me..sending me hugs is more than enough to let me know you have heard me and you care

One thing I do ask is that no-one tells me how stupid I am for even considering accepting..I already know it is an unhealthy idea..and there is a lot more to it than I am willing to share via public audience...so please dont judge me

I vote number 2 Beth. Tell him what a low life piece of shit he is for putting you through all of that!!

 

[mrppv]

P.S Glad to see your on

 

[Beth87]

I vote number 2 Beth. Tell him what a low life piece of shit he is for putting you through all of that!!

I do rather like number 2..lots of things I would LOVE to say to him. It's just scary, you know? But I might regret not doing it because I never had the opportunity to report him to the police.

 

[Beth87]

P.S Glad to see your on

Ditto sweet cheeks

 

[mrppv]

I do rather like number 2..lots of things I would LOVE to say to him. It's just scary, you know? But I might regret not doing it because I never had the opportunity to report him to the police.

It's a big step to recovering some of what you lost. It may be scary but it would make you feel more alive to rip him a new one.

 

[Beth87]

It's a big step to recovering some of what you lost. It may be scary but it would make you feel more alive to rip him a new one.

I agree.

The other options are ones I did and do seriously consider..#2 is the one that makes me feel the happiest... except when i imagine sending the message. Have you ever needed to do something but the fear of doing it is almost equal to the need? I am in that horrid place.

I wont do it today...seeing his damn face was more than enough for today.

Stupid facebook

 

[mrppv]

I agree.

The other options are ones I did and do seriously consider..#2 is the one that makes me feel the happiest... except when i imagine sending the message. Have you ever needed to do something but the fear of doing it is almost equal to the need? I am in that horrid place.

I wont do it today...seeing his damn face was more than enough for today.

Stupid facebook

I am truly sorry Beth. That he has hurt you in the past. Now is the time to take it back. Yes I have felt that way. When I started my own pic thread. I was afraid no one would respond but they have. I felt like I needed to do it. After some prodding I did. Write the message up and wait a few days then send it, I am sure you will feel better for doing it.

 

[HBH619]

Well dear bethy, I think there are 2 popular trains of thought on a subject like this. Just depends on who you are. 1) if you've moved past it and not thought about it or him in awhile just ignore the loser and forget the request. 2) Tear into him, rip him apart and tell him flat out that if he contacts you anymore you will report him to the authorities, statutes of limitation onsomething like that is usually a few years.

I really hope this doesnt bring you down too much sweety. I so enjoy happy Bethy

 

[brickroadray]

I vote number 2 Beth. Tell him what a low life piece of shit he is for putting you through all of that!!

Gotta agree with mrp here! You were ready to let it go, but it appears he's not going to leave you alone.

 

[Beth87]

I am truly sorry Beth. That he has hurt you in the past. Now is the time to take it back. Yes I have felt that way. When I started my own pic thread. I was afraid no one would respond but they have. I felt like I needed to do it. After some prodding I did. Write the message up and wait a few days then send it, I am sure you will feel better for doing it.

I have a letter I wrote (for my journal) already. I might edit it a little bit but I have one

Thanks for apology..though you have nothing to apologise for (hugs) And I am glad you felt the fear and did it anyways

 

[mrppv]

I have a letter I wrote (for my journal) already. I might edit it a little bit but I have one

Thanks for apology..though you have nothing to apologise for (hugs) And I am glad you felt the fear and did it anyways

Thank you sweet Bethy!!

 

[Beth87]

Well dear bethy, I think there are 2 popular trains of thought on a subject like this. Just depends on who you are. 1) if you've moved past it and not thought about it or him in awhile just ignore the loser and forget the request. 2) Tear into him, rip him apart and tell him flat out that if he contacts you anymore you will report him to the authorities, statutes of limitation onsomething like that is usually a few years.

I really hope this doesnt bring you down too much sweety. I so enjoy happy Bethy

I was freaked but in a weird way it is a good time to contact me..because I am angry not sad. So rather than it derailing me it makes me angry that he feels he can do this and cause me pain all over again.

I havent moved past it...only just really realised it for what it was..but I know what you mean. And ignoring and blocking is still a way of admitting I know he hurt me. Because it wouldnt be pretending otherwise

There isnt a statute of limitations here..that I am aware of. But the nature of what happened would make it near impossible to convict. The police were involved at one point..but I wouldnt talk.

Gotta agree with mrp here! You were ready to let it go, but it appears he's not going to leave you alone.

No..i think maybe he is bored or lonely and wants a play toy or something

 

[Beth87]

Thank you sweet Bethy!!

you're welcome

 

[mrppv]

I say an eye for an eye. Make him pay for what he has done to you. #2

 

[Beth87]

I say an eye for an eye. Make him pay for what he has done to you. #2

an eye for an eye? I think that would mean me going down for murder...but #2 may be enough

 

[brickroadray]

an eye for an eye? I think that would mean me going down for murder...but #2 may be enough

Yeah, I would stick to that - don't let him ruin your life anymore by going to prison!

 

[Beth87]

Yeah, I would stick to that - don't let him ruin your life anymore by going to prison!

would be worth it ..id make a good inmate's lesbian friend Earn my safety with girl on girl...it would be great for me

 

[mrppv]

an eye for an eye? I think that would mean me going down for murder...but #2 may be enough

I only meant make him feel like you have. Payback can be oh so fun.

 

[brickroadray]

would be worth it ..id make a good inmate's lesbian friend Earn my safety with girl on girl...it would be great for me

Ok, well you transitioned back to sexy pretty good - now I'm thinking about you doing a little girl on girl in the prison. mmmmmmmmmm

 

[starport968]

Hey princess. At the risk of just going with the herd, I would go with 2 as well. But not too soon, think it over, make sure you send it when you are ready, this time you are in control, not him.

and don't apologise for posting stuff like that on here, we are all adults,we know how a computer works, if we dont want / cant read it, its no hardship to skip over. I think you are very brave to open up about it, so good girl (sorry that sounds a bit patronising).

 

[drtshare]

Okay..

WARNING SERIOUS POSTING

This is going to be a more serious posting so feel free to skim over if you're just in my thread for sexy fun. I won't be offended. I just need some advice and this is the quickest way to reach my friends

So yes..down to business.

I got a friend request via facebook today from a man who raped and abused me for a long time. And I am not sure what to do. Before you immediately tell me..whats the problem delete the request..please read what I have to say

Firstly..I am ANGRY that he contacted me. I broke contact after he admitted he had raped me..that he knew all along I didnt want to do anything sexual - nevermind that I was a few years under age of consent..but anyways. That sparked me not longer being able to pretend it hadnt happened and I finally removed contact.

I was worried that he would send me nasty emails etc but there was nothing. So I was able to get stronger and begin to feel angry and sad about what happened. Now less than a year later this request happens with a "hey how are you" message and I am pissed.

Why now..why at all?

So That is my first reaction..to ask him why.

The second reaction is to send a long message about how I despise him and he is a pervert who deserves to be rotting in jail etc (you catch my drift)

My third reaction is to freeze. can't respond to him but for some reason I cant press the ignore button either - this is most probably related to the brainwashed child in me..it's like an automatic reaction; the need to please him.

My last and most disturbing reaction is to accept the request and pretend nothing happened.

So what do I do? Would confronting be a good idea?

He has told me it was my fault before..I made him do it because I was pretending to be innocent! So a long message about how he was wrong and I wasnt might provoke a very nasty message back - which could, potentially, set me back in my healing and cause lots of pain.

This isnt a simple problem..so I apologise for that. If you dont know what to say but want to say something in support of me..sending me hugs is more than enough to let me know you have heard me and you care

One thing I do ask is that no-one tells me how stupid I am for even considering accepting..I already know it is an unhealthy idea..and there is a lot more to it than I am willing to share via public audience...so please dont judge me

HUGS​

yes 2 but when block it



fred

 

[Beth87]

I only meant make him feel like you have. Payback can be oh so fun.

That is what I felt like...if government guidelines didnt intervene I would have died at 15 in direct relation to what he did. I took took 2 overdoses..one day after the other. My lowest point I am pleased to say - in that i am loads better now

And im being morbid..snap out of it bethy As fun as an eye for an eye is..im not like him. So i might fantasise about it..sometimes..but i wouldn't. Plus I dont really want to go back to his home so I can do it. Maybe if he came here

 

[starport968]

would be worth it ..id make a good inmate's lesbian friend Earn my safety with girl on girl...it would be great for me

Ha ha ha, with your body, you would own that prison before long...

 

[Beth87]

Ok, well you transitioned back to sexy pretty good - now I'm thinking about you doing a little girl on girl in the prison. mmmmmmmmmm

One of my many talents That and being awesome

Hey princess. At the risk of just going with the herd, I would go with 2 as well. But not too soon, think it over, make sure you send it when you are ready, this time you are in control, not him.

and don't apologise for posting stuff like that on here, we are all adults,we know how a computer works, if we dont want / cant read it, its no hardship to skip over. I think you are very brave to open up about it, so good girl (sorry that sounds a bit patronising).

Lol not patronising..a pat on the head may have been

True..but i still like to apologise..its my thing Sorry for being sorry

HUGS​

yes 2 but when block it

fred

Yeah I was thinking send then block - thereby totally avoiding any possible comeback

And thank you for the hugs. lots of kisses xxxxx

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Hi all

 

[Beth87]

Ha ha ha, with your body, you would own that prison before long...

I can make the bitches MY bitches. Bring me some grapes and a man please