If you HAD to be vanilla...

[sweetnpetite]

If you had to be vanilla for some reason, but could keep 3 "kinky" elements in your sex life, what would they be.

I would have to chose:

hair pulling
biting
scratching

(might not be much, but I've encountered some guys who just won't pull my hair or bite me or don't like to be scratched and it is SO frustrating)

Unless I could count them all as pain then it could be:

pain
humiliation
rollplay

 

[chy_girl]

Can I pick bondage, D/s and Sadomasochism?

 

[sweetnpetite]

Can I pick bondage, D/s and Sadomasochism?

lol...no, they have to be specific... ie- forced blowjobs, being tied up (or tying) or facials...

basically, it's your 3 favorite things or 3 you need/want the most.

 

[SpiritRider]

Can narrow it down to two....

Spanking
Biting

There's other things but these days they don't seem that kinky...lol

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Can I pick bondage, D/s and Sadomasochism?

chy wins this thread.

 

[graceanne]

Can I pick bondage, D/s and Sadomasochism?

LOL!!

I'd pick breath play, that's for sure. Otherwise I can't think of anything I couldn't live without.

 

[Primalex]

If you had to be vanilla for some reason, but could keep 3 "kinky" elements in your sex life, what would they be.

My wife.

 

[DVS]

I can't narrow it down. Bondage, spanking, anal sex and electroplay. And not in that order. I don't think I could live without a combination of these. Sorry.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I can't narrow it down. Bondage, spanking, anal sex and electroplay. And not in that order. I don't think I could live without a combination of these. Sorry.

Spanking, anal sex and electroplay *while she's bound?* Would that work?

For me...

• Impact play (spanking, paddling, caning)
• Anal sex
• Whatever she wants most... or least?

 

[CutieMouse]

Mindfucks... Which (done well), cover just about everything.

 

[Keroin]

Chocolate, chocolate and chocolate.






What?

 

[KoPilot]

I keep coming up with stuff, and then I think "wait... is that really kinky? Hm... I should come up with something better."

I know that there's discussion and speculation going on about "What Is Vanilla?" at any given moment, but it just makes me wonder about it even more.

For instance, I like being done from behind. To most people, that's not particularly exciting. But for me, it very much appeals to a fetish I have, and I could be getting my fetishy kicks that way without the other partner ever knowing. Would that be considered kinky or vanilla? It could go either way, I guess, which is why I think this topic is silly. :B

 

[vintage63]

Hand spanking, anal, shabiri ropes

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'd keep oral and always being the boss.

 

[VelvetSin]

If you had to be vanilla for some reason, but could keep 3 "kinky" elements in your sex life, what would they be.

bondage / rope fun
spankings
hair pulling

 

[catalina_francisco]

I can't answer this as the thought of having to go back to vanilla is far too painful to even contemplate!

Catalina

 

[Kikori]

Smothering
Anal
Biting/Hair Pulling/Scratching/Can't decide between lightly painful "I'm loving it" reactions. D:

 

[DVS]

Spanking, anal sex and electroplay *while she's bound?* Would that work?

For me...

• Impact play (spanking, paddling, caning)
• Anal sex
• Whatever she wants most... or least?

Yes, it works quite well, thank you. Especially when she whimpers and twitches a little bit.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I keep coming up with stuff, and then I think "wait... is that really kinky? Hm... I should come up with something better."

I know that there's discussion and speculation going on about "What Is Vanilla?" at any given moment, but it just makes me wonder about it even more.

For instance, I like being done from behind. To most people, that's not particularly exciting. But for me, it very much appeals to a fetish I have, and I could be getting my fetishy kicks that way without the other partner ever knowing. Would that be considered kinky or vanilla? It could go either way, I guess, which is why I think this topic is silly. :B

Well, I'll tell you what made me think of it. I like this guy and we started sleeping together. Well, when he touches me it's sort of electrifying... something I haven't felt in some time... and it's quite thrilling to just have ordinary sex... but I do have certain things I really like and I think that they are pretty vanilla, but I can't get him to do them... He's just very gentle with me... (terrible thing to complain about) like I tell him to pull my hair and he does but just not hard enough....

So I KNOW he's not gonna be into the really rough stuff... it just got me thinking, I could give up most of it... but man, i need to be bit and have my hair pulled, and my wrists pinned down! (Next tier would be a good hard slap and the occasional breathplay)

Do I THINK that these are particularly kinky? Not at all. Might they be kinky to some partners? Yes certainly. There are plenty of people for whom those simple little pleasures for me, are HARD LIMITS (even though they have no idea what hard limits are). I could give up lots of things for a while anyway, but I just don't think I could find ANY kind of satisfaction if I couldn't get my hair pulled! If I'm having sex with somebody and they don't pull my hair, I'm gonna be telling them that's what I need.

Sooooo basically, this is why I ask

 

[kiwi_submissive]

He's just very gentle with me... (terrible thing to complain about) like I tell him to pull my hair and he does but just not hard enough....

i hate that its almost worse than if they say no and won't.

my 3 would be

choking
hair pulling
biting

 

[where]

anal isn't in the vanilla repetoire? who knew?

for me it would be ropes, choking and hair pulling.

 

[DVS]

anal isn't in the vanilla repetoire? who knew?

for me it would be ropes, choking and hair pulling.

There's kinky, there's perverted, and then there's just plain sick. Yes, I'd suppose anal is on the vanilla sexual menu, but something tells me the sauce I like is a bit hotter.

 

[ArchLady03]

Being physically overpowered / held down
Biting / nibbling
Hair pulling

Nothing wrong with a little vanilla now and then

 

[where]

There's kinky, there's perverted, and then there's just plain sick. Yes, I'd suppose anal is on the vanilla sexual menu, but something tells me the sauce I like is a bit hotter.

heh, you use tabasco as lube? I bet you are popular!

 

[DMConnor109]

Biting, sweet/threatening whispers, and bondage