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do you ever find yourself inappropriately verbally 'leaking' your kink?
say when you have had too much wine or something?
say when you have had too much wine or something?
the captians wench
sewing wench
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I don't worry about it with friends or family. Friends because I met most of them through my kink. Family because I just don't give a rat's ass what they think as most of them have bigger issues they aren't as open about, and besides that the rumors they spread about me are obserdly mild compaired to the reality, so Mom and I have a good laugh about them.
Now, work is another issue. I tend to talk too much when I'm tired. Once a week I have to do a closing shift. Being a morning person, I'm ready for bed by 10pm. Around 11:30 my mouth starts moving before my brain can catch it. So I've outed myself to a few crew people.
Now, work is another issue. I tend to talk too much when I'm tired. Once a week I have to do a closing shift. Being a morning person, I'm ready for bed by 10pm. Around 11:30 my mouth starts moving before my brain can catch it. So I've outed myself to a few crew people.
FloggingMolly
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yep, I've only been in my current job a month, and have already had to deal wth awkwardness when my colleagues tell me I should should 'demand' or 'deny' him sex, depending on the situation. Oh, and why I do all the housework...
the captians wench
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deny sex?!?!?
I do not understand this concept.
I do not understand this concept.
Netzach
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This kind of thing is exactly why I hate working with other people - it's not just kink it's all the inanity if you're any kind of different.
Netzach
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deny sex?!?!?
I do not understand this concept.
I'm into this kind of thing and I don't even get it lol.
redheadedtxn
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yes, yes, yes. I don't understand denying The Man sex either. My brain just can not comprehend "using sex as a weapon" to "get my way".
Stella_Omega
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yes, it's pretty difficult to have more than three convos with the same group of people without the topic of sex coming up. It's just part of our culture.
Which is what makes DADT so barbaric and so isolating for gay military people, even absent any kink.
Which is what makes DADT so barbaric and so isolating for gay military people, even absent any kink.
the captians wench
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I've been known to beg and plead.
Of course this started before any kind of kink entered my life.
satindesire
Queen of Geeks
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I accidentally say all manner of weird things, but I'm well known as the "sweet looking girl that says totally inappropriate and shocking things on a regular basis" so my friends just ignore it as "well, that's just Megan." 
Keroin
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Not a problem but then I'm not that hardcore at all.
Funny moment at the tennis court last week, though. L is selling these electric physio massage units (basically a fancy tens unit) and he was demonstrating to one of our tennis club members how to use it. Joking around, I said, "You're lucky, whenever he puts it on me he likes to crank it up on full." - then I mimed me being 'shocked' by the machine.
Well, one of the other members, DR, (a sixty-something, retired doctor, with a refined British accent), said to me, "You know that's called sado-masochism. Are you into that?"
I smiled and held my thumb and forefinger up in the 'pinch' position. "Mm, little bit," I said.
"Ooo," DR replied, "would you let me watch sometime?"
"Certainly," I said.
It was all very cute and tongue-in-cheek but, at the same time, I wouldn't be at all surprised if he has the appetite.
Funny moment at the tennis court last week, though. L is selling these electric physio massage units (basically a fancy tens unit) and he was demonstrating to one of our tennis club members how to use it. Joking around, I said, "You're lucky, whenever he puts it on me he likes to crank it up on full." - then I mimed me being 'shocked' by the machine.
Well, one of the other members, DR, (a sixty-something, retired doctor, with a refined British accent), said to me, "You know that's called sado-masochism. Are you into that?"
I smiled and held my thumb and forefinger up in the 'pinch' position. "Mm, little bit," I said.
"Ooo," DR replied, "would you let me watch sometime?"
"Certainly," I said.
It was all very cute and tongue-in-cheek but, at the same time, I wouldn't be at all surprised if he has the appetite.
I let things drop a lot, but I've never thought about whether it was appropriate or not. I'm basically kinky vanilla though and don't do anything terribly shocking. My friends/coworkers just laugh and maybe think I'm a little weird. I can imagine them being horrified if I were in any kind of power exchange relationship (other than top/bottom).
Harmony_1985
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Psh who needs the booze? I don't mind telling people, I just have to watch WHO I tell lol.
wicked woman
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Absolutely not. There's no slipping. Either I tell them (which means I already know they're kinky) or I don't (which is most of the time).
I rarely have too much wine to drink and if I do, it would already be with someone who knows.
I rarely have too much wine to drink and if I do, it would already be with someone who knows.
Scotsman69
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Folks sometimes look at the identical chains around our necks when we're together, but nobody's asked yet.
intothewoods
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This is basically me. I don't talk about my sex life with most people -- just my close girlfriends, and we're all a bit freaky in one way or another.
Kojote
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Most people I meet already think I must be into kinks.
I am the guy who earns his money with this gothic stuff and even sells leather bonds and love swings.
Sometimes I get the image that they even expect me to do much darker things than I am actually into. Like sacrificing chicken or virgins (or virgin chicken) on the graveyard at full moon…
(Don’t get that wrong. I like graveyards for their peaceful atmosphere and virgins for being tasty. But eating on a graveyard? C’mon…)
And I tend to further those thoughts by overacting...
Every once in a while when she acts all too sassy I will say something like 'When we get home I will beat the shit out of you for that'.
Of course everybody laughs, but some wait to catch her alone and ask her if she is going to have any problems or if she needs help.
They get used to it after a couple of evenings...
Interestingly most people who know both of us a bit better (but not really close) seem to think that we are totally not into kinks anyway.
Must be the overacting.
It corresponds with the saying that presenting the truth boldly is the best way to keep the truth secret.
I am the guy who earns his money with this gothic stuff and even sells leather bonds and love swings.
Sometimes I get the image that they even expect me to do much darker things than I am actually into. Like sacrificing chicken or virgins (or virgin chicken) on the graveyard at full moon…
(Don’t get that wrong. I like graveyards for their peaceful atmosphere and virgins for being tasty. But eating on a graveyard? C’mon…)
And I tend to further those thoughts by overacting...
Every once in a while when she acts all too sassy I will say something like 'When we get home I will beat the shit out of you for that'.
Of course everybody laughs, but some wait to catch her alone and ask her if she is going to have any problems or if she needs help.
They get used to it after a couple of evenings...
Interestingly most people who know both of us a bit better (but not really close) seem to think that we are totally not into kinks anyway.
Must be the overacting.
It corresponds with the saying that presenting the truth boldly is the best way to keep the truth secret.
FungiUg
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Thankfully when I was doing the big "coming out" thing (mostly to myself) I managed to shut my mouth and not tell my boss. She was a great boss and I loved working with her, but she really didn't need to know anything about that stuff.
For the rest... well, I don't make a big deal of it, but I don't hide it either. So I probably have "leaked" more than once.
For the rest... well, I don't make a big deal of it, but I don't hide it either. So I probably have "leaked" more than once.
KoPilot
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One of my friends probably suspected that I was a macro (he joked about it a lot to try and get under my skin, but I'm sure it was real suspicion). Best way to deal with those situations is to roll with the punches and play nonchalant.
As for the other kink, nah, nobody suspects a thing. It helps that I'm in an LDR, but man, if anyone were to ever eavesdrop on one of our phone calls...
Also, when I get that collar in the mail. If I end up wearing it a lot, I'm sure I'll get questions, no doubt.
As for the other kink, nah, nobody suspects a thing. It helps that I'm in an LDR, but man, if anyone were to ever eavesdrop on one of our phone calls...
Also, when I get that collar in the mail. If I end up wearing it a lot, I'm sure I'll get questions, no doubt.
Lizzie_Borden
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Yeah.
I got into a bruise comparison competition at work, without thinking far enough ahead to have a smooth answer for 'so, how did you get that one?"
I got into a bruise comparison competition at work, without thinking far enough ahead to have a smooth answer for 'so, how did you get that one?"
DVS
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Every time I start a new job, the inevitable questions start. Am I married? Do I have any kids? The sort of thing guys always ask other guys, I guess. I think they sometimes are quizzing to find out if you're gay. At 57, you'd think I would have been married at least once, but none of my siblings have ever been married, either.
Recently, I was in the process of answering these normally innocent questions and made the comment, "no, I'm not married. I guess that might be because of my sexual quirks." I meant it to be taken as a joke. The other guy laughed and came back with "not all women enjoy being beaten". I should have laughed and left it at that but I then said, "yes, but some do."
Recently, I was in the process of answering these normally innocent questions and made the comment, "no, I'm not married. I guess that might be because of my sexual quirks." I meant it to be taken as a joke. The other guy laughed and came back with "not all women enjoy being beaten". I should have laughed and left it at that but I then said, "yes, but some do."
