What is it about casual 'bdsm' that glorifies immature behaviour?

[BLoved]

We've had more than ample demonstrations of this phenomenon.

What is it about casual 'bdsm' that attracts the least mature?

Is it that love requires maturity, and lacking this they are left to congregate together for the purpose of mutual masturbation?

 

[FloggingMolly]

I think you'll find immature behaviour has its own rewards, not necessarily even tied to bdsm in any form. Laughter is good for the body, and for the mind, therefore, making each other laugh with immaturity, we're taking care of each other.

We're just one silly, childish, fun board to be on... If ya don't like it, STFU, or GTFO.

 

[BLoved]

I think you'll find immature behaviour has its own rewards, not necessarily even tied to bdsm in any form. Laughter is good for the body, and for the mind, therefore, making each other laugh with immaturity, we're taking care of each other.

We're just one silly, childish, fun board to be on... If ya don't like it, STFU, or GTFO.

It is a rather sad comment to suggest that those who are mature lack a sense of humour.

I am more inclined to believe those who are immature, unable to imagine anyone more mature, console themselves with such bedtime stories so as not to feel they failed to graduate from puberty.

 

[BLoved]

The Inner Child

I think there is a direct correlation ...

If you are uncomfortable with your own inner child, you will be uncomfortable with my inner child.

We all have one.

In some it is sweet, loving, precocious, gregarious, creative ...

In others it is a child neglected and abused, locked in a closet and punished if it should surface.

How we as adults relate to the needs of our inner child determines a great deal of who attracts us and who repels us. We respond to their inner child as if it were our own.

Thus there are those who nurture, and those who are abusive.

There are those who believe a master should demonstrate "self-control" by not expressing his feelings.

I say, what is the point of being a master if in the process I must give up my humanity?

The love I express as a master is an extension of who I am as a person, as a human.

I would not wish to live in fear of expressing an emotion before my Beloved. I would not wish to feel the need to hide anything of myself from such a one.

Just as I would not want my Beloved to be afraid of sharing everything with me. It is her humanity I wish to love, as expressed through her unique personality.

I feel sorry for those who feel the need to lock away pieces of their soul, especially those who must lock away their inner child.

To live in fear, doubt and self-denial to prove one has "self-control" seems to me to be a very destructive process.

If one cannot be all he or she is through mastery or slavery, one should not choose bdsm at all.


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The Little Things ...

The way she looks at you when she thinks you're not looking.

The way her hair smells when she rests her head on your chest.

The way your heart hurts every time you think of her, and the way it hurts every time you're near her.

The way you feel anger towards those who have hurt her, and the way you feel gratitude towards those who have helped her.

The way she laughs, the way she smiles, the way she sleeps in your arms at night.

The little things mean so much ...

 

[WriterDom]

What is it about immature love affairs that makes someone still in their honeymoon phase want to hang out on a casual porn board? Did you poke another hole in your beloved and let her air out again?

 

[FloggingMolly]

Yes yes, very witty... pretty certain you C&P'd most of that on the cascade of other threads you've annoyed on.

I am quite comfortable with my maturity. In real life, I'm a happily married (and have been since I was just 19), emotionally satisfied grown up with things going on that stress me. Do I want to come to a forum and be 'mature', dragging all my boring real life crap too or do I want to meet like-minded people and have fun and a laugh? I have contact with other humans in real life where I have to be mature, the internet is my escape, my way to relax. It is not my only friend...

just sayin'...

 

[FloggingMolly]

What is it about immature love affairs that makes someone still in their honeymoon phase want to hang out on a casual porn board? Did you poke another hole in your beloved and let her air out again?

WD, I think I love you

Now please fix the laptop that I just dropped from laughing so hard...

 

[greystardust]

The Inner Child ...

I think the "inner child" is an immature concept, really.

When people start talking about their inner child, what are they really talking about? Perhaps the idea, or notion that they have some deeper understanding of themselves. It is comical. If you were more in touch with yourself, would you lay a claim to it?

Believing in the inner child fantasy (and it is that, a fantasy, because it's an imagination, an idea or concept of thoughts and memories) is a past time that has very little to do with facing the moment.

Here's a question BLoved. How is indulging in any fantasy more or less mature than indulging in the fantasy of the inner child?

Everyone is entitled to their fantasies

 

[TypicalDeviant]

A smartass who disagrees with you isn't necessarily immature. Overall, these boards are pretty lighthearted. If you don't like the lighthearted nature of the posters here, why do you keep posting?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Danger! Danger! Level of life-giving attention critically low!

 

[PhaonsBrother]

this twit has nothing. no twat to call his own.

 

[neci]

mutual masturbation?

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_PgcfslPosq4/Se7bgZky9YI/AAAAAAAAAFY/N7E5iffZckM/s400/masturbation.JPG
jarold sng

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_S92yCwESt4Y/Stj8mKFoigI/AAAAAAAAAb0/As2zRjyekxo/s400/2009o_0008.jpg
jonathan herbert

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_S92yCwESt4Y/S1mlK_UtngI/AAAAAAAAAdc/vOyG34EwnEk/s400/9w_zoyamasturbating.jpg
jonathan herbert

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roberth chirinos

 

[00Syd]

Danger! Danger! Level of life-giving attention critically low!

> Win.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Danger! Danger! Level of life-giving attention critically low!

Exactly.

He saw his other thread dying and started this one to keep himself relevant.

He has already said he's been banned from a bunch of other BDSM sites, he's not active in his local BDSM community, and does not seem to even have other friends in the BDSM community.

Without us, he does not exist.

 

[intothewoods]

Agreed. Age play has always weirded me out.

But that's not even the half of it.

Casual bdsm also attracts people who like to pretend they are horses, cats, dogs or even bunnies. Talk about dysfunctional!

 

[unpredictablebijou]

*runs in, makes a really juvenile fart joke, runs out*

 

[Scotsman69]

I just added this shit to my ignore list. He's the first one ever, apart from recent spammers. I commend you all to do the same. Maybe he'll retire to his immature wee imagination then. Wanking to the thought of his 'true love'. Who doesn't exist. Well, I hope she doesn't, for her sake.

 

[Etoile]

http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4021/4629267954_d68fd65b35.jpg

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

http://home.mchsi.com/~beyondbelief/thisshit.jpg

 

[Harmony_1985]

http://home.mchsi.com/~beyondbelief/thisshit.jpg

Ahahahahahaha, love it!

 

[shamegirl]

http://i45.tinypic.com/2mca78i.jpg

I'm not even part of this and I'm tired of it.
It's got to the point that every time I see the name Beloved I wince at what's coming next. It's like a car crash.

 

[00Syd]

http://i45.tinypic.com/2mca78i.jpg

I'm not even part of this and I'm tired of it.
It's got to the point that every time I see the name Beloved I wince at what's coming next. It's like a car crash.

I'm currently reading "The Ethical Slut" and every once in a while they use the word 'beloved' and I can't read it without internally wincing. It sucks.

(would love to know what BL thinks of that book, btw, but I get the feeling that the title alone would be too much of a contradiction for him to even consider reading.)

 

[chy_girl]

I'm currently reading "The Ethical Slut" and every once in a while they use the word 'beloved' and I can't read it without internally wincing. It sucks.
*snip*

You too?

It's nice to share the pain...

 

[Keroin]

I'm currently reading "The Ethical Slut" and every once in a while they use the word 'beloved' and I can't read it without internally wincing. It sucks.

(would love to know what BL thinks of that book, btw, but I get the feeling that the title alone would be too much of a contradiction for him to even consider reading.)

You too?

It's nice to share the pain...

Yeah, it totally sucks. A past man of mine used to refer to me as his "beloved K". I used to adore that sentiment, especially since he was a diabolical sadist so it was so diametrically opposed to his behaviour. But that has been ruined for me now.

And I also used to sign all my pm's and emails with "Smiles - K"...likewise spoiled. Mind you, my smiles did not mean "fuck you".

Blurg.

 

[chy_girl]

*snip*
And I also used to sign all my pm's and emails with "Smiles - K"...likewise spoiled. Mind you, my smiles did not mean "fuck you".

Blurg.

LOL - There's a group over on fet that another member and I are on together... It's been oh, so tempting to post a ~smile~ when we're posting at the same time just to see if she catches it.

Then I think about having to explain the back story 2 words at a time and it's not so funny.