Your best or your worst PM or IM opening lines... and if you want your reactions ...

[MsTexas]

Remember everything I put here is coming from my point of view and I don't speak for the women of Lit. and isn't intended to hurt feelings. I'm just being truthful.

In my opinion you should post often with them before PMing them.

If you're only PMing them in hopes it'll turn sexual and you really don't care for the person as an individual then you really need to be careful. There are some women that are here at Lit. for sexual release and that's it, but there are many here that come simply because they enjoy chatting with folks, they enjoy flirting and being flirted with. It makes us feel beautiful, when sometimes we don't feel all that attractive.

I personally wouldn't send someone glittery pictures and such, but again this is my opinion. It's cute, but...I'm 36 years old, I don't desire "cute", it doesn't turn me on, and it looks somewhat childish.

If you've posted with the person enough you should know something about them, enough to feel comfortable saying, "Hi. I really enjoyed posting with you today and look forward to posting with you again." Or "I really like your profile picture and your AV." ... Or "I've read some of your stories, and they're good. How long have you been writing?" Questions like these show you have taken the time to form complete sentences, as well as be polite to someone. If the receiver isn't keen on chatting with you, then their responses are going to be short and crypt. "Thanks." "Thanks." "Thanks." (Three quick responses to all three of the above sentences.)

Make your opening post a little more personal. It's pretty easy to recycle glitter art and it shows no personality of you, nor does it show that you took time to really get to know a little bit about the person you're trying to PM.

Fanfreakingtastic advice Red ...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I still remember the "Show me your naked Naples"

Funniest one evah!!

*shakes head* Sad, so sad.

Fanfreakingtastic advice Red ...

Thank you.

 

[yogiforlife]

Originally Posted by RedHairedandFriendly
Remember everything I put here is coming from my point of view and I don't speak for the women of Lit. and isn't intended to hurt feelings. I'm just being truthful.

In my opinion you should post often with them before PMing them.

If you're only PMing them in hopes it'll turn sexual and you really don't care for the person as an individual then you really need to be careful. There are some women that are here at Lit. for sexual release and that's it, but there are many here that come simply because they enjoy chatting with folks, they enjoy flirting and being flirted with. It makes us feel beautiful, when sometimes we don't feel all that attractive.

I personally wouldn't send someone glittery pictures and such, but again this is my opinion. It's cute, but...I'm 36 years old, I don't desire "cute", it doesn't turn me on, and it looks somewhat childish.

If you've posted with the person enough you should know something about them, enough to feel comfortable saying, "Hi. I really enjoyed posting with you today and look forward to posting with you again." Or "I really like your profile picture and your AV." ... Or "I've read some of your stories, and they're good. How long have you been writing?" Questions like these show you have taken the time to form complete sentences, as well as be polite to someone. If the receiver isn't keen on chatting with you, then their responses are going to be short and crypt. "Thanks." "Thanks." "Thanks." (Three quick responses to all three of the above sentences.)

Make your opening post a little more personal. It's pretty easy to recycle glitter art and it shows no personality of you, nor does it show that you took time to really get to know a little bit about the person you're trying to PM.

Thats all great advice Red. I'm proud to say I've used many of your suggestions myself, its the only way to go

 

[pleasingwife]

Here's the one I JUST got while reading this thread:



oh wife

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are you masturbating?


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Really??? Do you think that's what I do every second while on LIT? And if I did, do you think I'd tell you????? WTH?

pw

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Thats all great advice Red. I'm proud to say I've used many of your suggestions myself, its the only way to go

Thanks, and I wholeheartedly agree.

Here's the one I JUST got while reading this thread:


oh wife

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are you masturbating?

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Really??? Do you think that's what I do every second while on LIT? And if I did, do you think I'd tell you????? WTH?

pw

If we women, and men masturbated every time we were here at Lit. we'd be dehydrated.

 

[yogiforlife]

For worst, how about, "how would you like to play with my wife for a while?" First off, how do i know it would be your wife and not you, a person whos obviously struggling with their own sexuality. Secondly, if you can prove its her and not you, I really don't feel like entertaining her while you sit there masturbating to it. Move along please.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

For worst, how about, "how would you like to play with my wife for a while?" First off, how do i know it would be your wife and not you, a person whos obviously struggling with their own sexuality. Secondly, if you can prove its her and not you, I really don't feel like entertaining her while you sit there masturbating to it. Move along please.

Ew, that is bad.

 

[george51]

I don't know if it is all that bad.

 

[george51]

But then I probably wouldn't be looking past face value either.

(Can't edit previous post..)

 

[yogiforlife]

or how about from a male, an immediate request for a cock pic, you know, so he can show it to his "wife". Yah, sure. Again, move along please.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I don't know if it is all that bad.

But then I probably wouldn't be looking past face value either.

(Can't edit previous post..)

It is bad, especially if the attention wasn't even warranted. If someone shows no desire to have such a PM sent to them, then it's not all that great.

or how about from a male, an immediate request for a cock pic, you know, so he can show it to his "wife". Yah, sure. Again, move along please.

One of the worst was someone who said they came on my face. . .Um. . .well that's nice, but how'd you get a picture of my face?

 

[george51]

Fair enough. I didn't read far enough back in this thread. Just the one upon which I commented.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Thanks, and I wholeheartedly agree.



If we women, and men masturbated every time we were here at Lit. we'd be dehydrated.

Water....please...bring...water....

 

[Sidney_1]

I don't PM a lot, but I feel very fortunate that I've mostly had positive, polite , and friendly interactions, as brief as they may be.

 

[george51]

Good one. Love it....!

 

[george51]

The water one I mean...

(The sooner this edit thing is fixed the better...)

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Fair enough. I didn't read far enough back in this thread. Just the one upon which I commented.

Gottcha. Yeah, this thread is full of crappy ways to come on to people, and good ways too.

Water....please...bring...water....

*tosses you a bottle of water* Go get 'um pal.

I don't PM a lot, but I feel very fortunate that I've mostly had positive, polite , and friendly interactions, as brief as they may be.

It is nice to come to the boards and be greeted in those ways.

I don't believe I've posted with the three of you, much if at all, it's a pleasure meeting you. Hopefully you won't have too many "unwanted" reasons to post on this thread.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Good one. Love it....!

The water one I mean...

(The sooner this edit thing is fixed the better...)

Are you getting the "invalid" link issue? I only ask because I got that this morning and am still experiencing it.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

OK..

Knowing that I can delete this later

Knowing that dumbshits won't get it anyway...

I'll tell you a great opening line for a PM


Hi,
I've enjoyed posting with you because...(you need to add something here)

Thanks



Seriously...BS walks...

 

[yogiforlife]

Originally Posted by RedHairedandFriendly
Thanks, and I wholeheartedly agree.
If we women, and men masturbated every time we were here at Lit. we'd be dehydrated.

These are the same people who assume that because you have a webcam, you only use it for the purpose of masturbating to an audience, and when the cam is turned on, that that is obviously what you are doing. I mean really, who has the time and energy for that?

 

[george51]

Thank you.

I don't send random PMs except about a clever signature or profile. I do however exchange a fair few with the same people though. And that is good.

The longer I stay the more I enloy the clever, amusing posts. And there are some good ones.

I would hate to see the women driven away from the site. Women make this place...speaking as a male obviously..

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

lakesailer - you mentioned wanting to delete the post sometime, so I won't quote it for you, otherwise it'd still be in the thread.

I have PMed folks that line... and it's always been sincere. Usually it's because we've posted back and forth in a thread and then I've had to leave. I want them to know it was fun posting with them. It doesn't mean it's an opening for them to take our posting to a more intimate level.

These are the same people who assume that because you have a webcam, you only use it for the purpose of masturbating to an audience, and when the cam is turned on, that that is obviously what you are doing. I mean really, who has the time and energy for that?

I don't use my cam. I used it once, and it wasn't for that purpose. I can't see myself ever masturbating on cam. It's just not me.

Thank you.

I don't send random PMs except about a clever signature or profile. I do however exchange a fair few with the same people though. And that is good.

The longer I stay the more I enloy the clever, amusing posts. And there are some good ones.

I would hate to see the women driven away from the site. Women make this place...speaking as a male obviously..

Women have been driven from this site, usually it is the lovely ladies that share their pictures. Which is a bummer for all, men and women. I admire women that show their bodies so openly in the pic forum. They have an inner strength and such wonderful self-esteem that I envy. It's said when they feel harassed and are forced to leave, or gain a new identity.

 

[george51]

Are you getting the "invalid" link issue? I only ask because I got that this morning and am still experiencing it.

Yes. For me, when I look back and realise my first attempt was rubbish, it really isn't helpful...

I am sure the boffins will get to it.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Yes. For me, when I look back and realise my first attempt was rubbish, it really isn't helpful...

I am sure the boffins will get to it.

Yeah, I noticed there was a post from Manu, one of the administrators here that they were working on it. No worries. Life continues to move on, and Lit. flows even with her bumps and grinds being disturbed every once in a while.

 

[mercuryfrost]

I have yet to experience a bad PM but I guess as a male I am not subjected to it as often. Although I do feel for the rest of you. Its not a great way to start with a hi send me a bic... or do you want to suck/lick/fuck etc you know the rest.

I wonder how many people who are here for just sex and release do even read this thread? Oh well as least its amusing to read.