Your best or your worst PM or IM opening lines... and if you want your reactions ...

[MikeCasanova]

I agree. I know I'm more relaxed here on the Playground than on the other forums which is really idiotic of me, because lurkers lurk every where. I know when I have posted in the past on other forums I feel somewhat on guard, more than I do in this one. It makes no sense to have that feeling because it is all connected via the same source.

I actually think it does make sense - there's just more community in here, almost continuity, really. The same (great) faces pop up over and over and rarely (ok, seldom) are they people solely trolling for pics or cam or getting their nuts off. If that happens, fantastic, but it's not the primary objective, you know?

It's a great, somewhat environment, een though it may be a bit intimidating at first blush.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I actually think it does make sense - there's just more community in here, almost continuity, really. The same (great) faces pop up over and over and rarely (ok, seldom) are they people solely trolling for pics or cam or getting their nuts off. If that happens, fantastic, but it's not the primary objective, you know?

It's a great, somewhat environment, een though it may be a bit intimidating at first blush.

I know my primary objective when coming to Lit. was not and is not to get off, and like you said, if it happens great. It is enjoyable to connect with someone in a way that you feel that you can trust them enough to share intimate moments with them, but in the end I definitely value friendship over anything sexual.

I am definitely more intimidated in forums where I feel like a third wheel. I would like to feel comfortable posting (for example) in the BDSM forum, but like other forums when I do have the desire to put in my input I feel as if I would not be welcomed into the fold. I have posted a few times, but usually pop in and then pop out.

I posted frequently in the AH forum, but after leaving Lit., and then coming back I have lost that connection too. The Playground is definitely more my "home" than the other areas.

 

[Berwyn]

Wow Red, I just looked over your list of contributions. That's quite a bit of writing (and I'm going to come back and read at least a few). But I noticed that none were more recent than 2008. To be that prolific and then all the sudden stop? May I ask what happened? If it's not something you want to discuss, feel free to tell me to StFU. You wouldn't be the first

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Wow Red, I just looked over your list of contributions. That's quite a bit of writing (and I'm going to come back and read at least a few). But I noticed that none were more recent than 2008. To be that prolific and then all the sudden stop? May I ask what happened? If it's not something you want to discuss, feel free to tell me to StFU. You wouldn't be the first

Nah, I don't mind sharing. I do however have a new story submitted today, it's the last chapter to a chain story, but in a few days I'll have some new stand alone pieces to submit, just have to edit. I think there are three new ones.

I was working on 19 SRPs, 3 chain stories, rewriting a piece I hoped would turn into a novel. I also was trying to write new stories on top of all that. My marriage was crumbling and I was struggling to come to terms that there was more to me than just the title "wife, mom, and daughter." I had lost myself and unfortunately it took a long time to find out who I was. I was emotionally drained.

My writing pretty much came to a standstill when I felt deflated after the gentleman that was editing my potential novel continually sent me back page upon page of "red ink". When asked if the story even was one that was interesting and worthy of being considered for publication, his response was: I prefer editing things that don't interest me.

I thought crap, if I can't interest my editor than what the fuck am I doing writing? So that added to my already crumbling mental state, because I really love writing. I could talk about it all day. lol

Eventually I stopped writing and stopped posting, chatting and communicating online. I went back to school after a short stint in retail. I went back to writing, attempting to write on a different site. I was able to write stories there, under the pen ThatRedHairedGal, but left that site because I guess the "draw" to my Lit. "home" was stronger.

I started posting here again and eventually the muse was stroked once more to life. I have decided I'll work at a much slower pace than before and I'm not too overly concerned about being a "writer." If I sell some stories, great, if not that's okay too. I simply loved writing so much, I miss that part of myself and am looking forward to finding it again.

 

[border_humper]

Nah, I don't mind sharing. I do however have a new story submitted today, it's the last chapter to a chain story, but in a few days I'll have some new stand alone pieces to submit, just have to edit. I think there are three new ones.

I was working on 19 SRPs, 3 chain stories, rewriting a piece I hoped would turn into a novel. I also was trying to write new stories on top of all that. My marriage was crumbling and I was struggling to come to terms that there was more to me than just the title "wife, mom, and daughter." I had lost myself and unfortunately it took a long time to find out who I was. I was emotionally drained.

My writing pretty much came to a standstill when I felt deflated after the gentleman that was editing my potential novel continually sent me back page upon page of "red ink". When asked if the story even was one that was interesting and worthy of being considered for publication, his response was: I prefer editing things that don't interest me.

I thought crap, if I can't interest my editor than what the fuck am I doing writing? So that added to my already crumbling mental state, because I really love writing. I could talk about it all day. lol

Eventually I stopped writing and stopped posting, chatting and communicating online. I went back to school after a short stint in retail. I went back to writing, attempting to write on a different site. I was able to write stories there, under the pen ThatRedHairedGal, but left that site because I guess the "draw" to my Lit. "home" was stronger.

I started posting here again and eventually the muse was stroked once more to life. I have decided I'll work at a much slower pace than before and I'm not too overly concerned about being a "writer." If I sell some stories, great, if not that's okay too. I simply loved writing so much, I miss that part of myself and am looking forward to finding it again.

So how is this? If we were living in an earlier century, I'd be volunteering to sharpen all your pencils or to fetch you a new quill and refill your inkwell.

Write away RH&F, write away!

 

[Berwyn]

Thanks for the reply. I have a friend that is a struggling writer and you two sound like you have a lot in common. She's even a redhead as well She wrote a fair amount of erotica and then quit after her first child. Said she just couldn't find the mood anymore. It’s too bad because her stories were damn hot. Now she does a good bit on a writer's website she helps run.
The comment from your editor must have been tough. My friend convinced me to post a fantasy story on her writer's site once. I wasn't in the best place at the time and the helpful criticism I got was not taken well. Which would have been nothing compared to that comment from your editor.
Good to hear you made it through it and are now back to writing. I have noticed that for creative people, art is what they are. It can be suppressed, but only for so long.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

So how is this? If we were living in an earlier century, I'd be volunteering to sharpen all your pencils or to fetch you a new quill and refill your inkwell.

Write away RH&F, write away!

That would be a great job wouldn't it. You at my beck'n call. *w00t for me*

Thanks for the reply. I have a friend that is a struggling writer and you two sound like you have a lot in common. She's even a redhead as well She wrote a fair amount of erotica and then quit after her first child. Said she just couldn't find the mood anymore. It’s too bad because her stories were damn hot. Now she does a good bit on a writer's website she helps run.
The comment from your editor must have been tough. My friend convinced me to post a fantasy story on her writer's site once. I wasn't in the best place at the time and the helpful criticism I got was not taken well. Which would have been nothing compared to that comment from your editor.
Good to hear you made it through it and are now back to writing. I have noticed that for creative people, art is what they are. It can be suppressed, but only for so long.

I really feel it is in me to write erotica. My spouse would like to steer me toward more conventional romance that would be something he could tell people about, but I have tried to think in terms of "toning" it down when it comes to sexual content, but honestly I don't have the same desire, or drive to do that.

I don't "get off" with my stories, at least not very many of them. I simply just love writing them. So now, if folks ask me publicly what my hobby is, I openly admit I write erotic fiction (believe me that gets the eyebrows rising). My spouse's family still doesn't know, his choice not mine. Mine have known since I started, they too aren't thrilled, but oh well, I'm okay with that.

 

[rbijon]

I just discovered this thread......sounds fun!

How about; You should be arrested with have two legs like that, you're giving me three.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

any line containing the phrase "pillow princess"

 

[ShyKittyKat]

"My eyes are burning, give me a towel!"

lol! Whoever you are, I hope you found a towel.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I just discovered this thread......sounds fun!

How about; You should be arrested with have two legs like that, you're giving me three.

Oh, that's horrible. lol

any line containing the phrase "pillow princess"

*chuckles*

"My eyes are burning, give me a towel!"

lol! Whoever you are, I hope you found a towel.

I do to!

 

[virus372842]

So.. how did I rate, Red?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

So.. how did I rate, Red?

Well I'm still talking to you, so that's one thing in your favor.

How are you this evening?

 

[virus372842]

Well I'm still talking to you, so that's one thing in your favor.

How are you this evening?

I'm okay... I haven't been on Lit much lately, thought I'd check out the boards and see what are intriguing threads... tell me about yourself?

As you can tell, I'm normally a lurker...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I'm okay... I haven't been on Lit much lately, thought I'd check out the boards and see what are intriguing threads... tell me about yourself?

As you can tell, I'm normally a lurker...

Not been on much... you have like 5 posts and two of which you earned in the last few minutes. You've been here since 2003. What brought you out of the closet?

Me... I'm just another face in the crowd. Redheaded, married woman, with three kids. I like to write and I am going to school.

 

[virus372842]

Well... you... brought me out.
What school do you go to? What are you there for?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Well... you... brought me out.
What school do you go to? What are you there for?

Me... ? After being a member since 2003, I suddenly grabbed your attention? How?

I'm hoping to gain a degree in Culinary Arts.

 

[Starr_girl]

The worst pm I ever received was this...and only this...

"do you have big pussy lips?"


I'm thinking... Does this usually
work for him? And if not.... Why me? What a way to break
the ice lol. And I didn't reply.

Fun thread!

 

[koalabear]

The worst pm I ever received was this...and only this...

"do you have big pussy lips?"


I'm thinking... Does this usually
work for him? And if not.... Why me? What a way to break
the ice lol. And I didn't reply.

Fun thread!

well do you?........

 

[Starr_girl]

well do you?........

Haha!

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

The worst pm I ever received was this...and only this...

"do you have big pussy lips?"


I'm thinking... Does this usually
work for him? And if not.... Why me? What a way to break
the ice lol. And I didn't reply.

Fun thread!

I've learned very quickly that once I tell them to chat with me on the boards, they usually disappear or they post a couple times to me and then try to PM me again, usually asking me to chat with them through one of the messenger systems. I stopped using them a while back. Once more I tell them I prefer the threads, that's when they don't bother me overly much anymore. It usually takes less than 5 PMs back and 5 posts on the boards.

 

[sereneone4u]

Remember everything I put here is coming from my point of view and I don't speak for the women of Lit. and isn't intended to hurt feelings. I'm just being truthful.

In my opinion you should post often with them before PMing them.

If you're only PMing them in hopes it'll turn sexual and you really don't care for the person as an individual then you really need to be careful. There are some women that are here at Lit. for sexual release and that's it, but there are many here that come simply because they enjoy chatting with folks, they enjoy flirting and being flirted with. It makes us feel beautiful, when sometimes we don't feel all that attractive.

I personally wouldn't send someone glittery pictures and such, but again this is my opinion. It's cute, but...I'm 36 years old, I don't desire "cute", it doesn't turn me on, and it looks somewhat childish.

If you've posted with the person enough you should know something about them, enough to feel comfortable saying, "Hi. I really enjoyed posting with you today and look forward to posting with you again." Or "I really like your profile picture and your AV." ... Or "I've read some of your stories, and they're good. How long have you been writing?" Questions like these show you have taken the time to form complete sentences, as well as be polite to someone. If the receiver isn't keen on chatting with you, then their responses are going to be short and crypt. "Thanks." "Thanks." "Thanks." (Three quick responses to all three of the above sentences.)

Make your opening post a little more personal. It's pretty easy to recycle glitter art and it shows no personality of you, nor does it show that you took time to really get to know a little bit about the person you're trying to PM.

Excellent advice RHF!

I had a real "winner" the other day that informed me that because I would not cyber with him that I needed to find another board to post on bc what other reason would I have for being here Talk about a jaw dropping PM! I did not realize membership here meant it was my duty to service every man on Lit when ever the mood suits them.

Luckily, I have found that Lit men in general are a great bunch.

 

[border_humper]

Excellent advice RHF!

I had a real "winner" the other day that informed me that because I would not cyber with him that I needed to find another board to post on bc what other reason would I have for being here Talk about a jaw dropping PM! I did not realize membership here meant it was my duty to service every man on Lit when ever the mood suits them.

Luckily, I have found that Lit men in general are a great bunch.

And what about guys who are half lit?

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Excellent advice RHF!

I had a real "winner" the other day that informed me that because I would not cyber with him that I needed to find another board to post on bc what other reason would I have for being here Talk about a jaw dropping PM! I did not realize membership here meant it was my duty to service every man on Lit when ever the mood suits them.

Luckily, I have found that Lit men in general are a great bunch.

That's the way some feel, that if you're one a site such as this, then you must want to cyber or meet folks for one-nighters. A few men and women are, and that's okay, usually though they advertise that fact in a thread they start for that purpose, very rarely do they actually post a lot and interact with people on an intelligent basis.

I really think what happens is the man/woman finds a name on the home board of the forum, where it lists who is online and they choose names they think sound good, then send out their idiotic PM to five people all at the same time. They really put forth a lot of effort.

There are a lot of very decent men on Lit. Thank goodness, because it is the decent folk, both men and women that keep me here.

 

[Nightbird]

I still remember the "Show me your naked Naples"

Funniest one evah!!