Collars and Collaring

[TeachMeSir]

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[EmpressFi]

You know the sub is yours even if she is married or partnered? Buh?

I thought the same thing.

maybe it's worded incorrectly but what is wrong with what he said?

I'm married to Malin and owned by my Master. Am I any less "his" because I'm married?

 

[Netzach]

H was married when I considered him mine and his partner didn't know. He also considered himself mine.

Let the fucking stoning commence. Should we tie me up first or just go?

 

[EmpressFi]

H was married when I considered him mine and his partner didn't know. He also considered himself mine.

Let the fucking stoning commence. Should we tie me up first or just go?

depends...

do you want to be tied up?

 

[SubKekiLee]

H was married when I considered him mine and his partner didn't know. He also considered himself mine.

Let the fucking stoning commence. Should we tie me up first or just go?

Netzach...

NO way no stoning neccessary things happen for a reason... I dont think anyone has control over how things happen.. they happen for a reason... Ive made mistakes in my life... I truly have.. but no stoning neccessary...

 

[intothewoods]

depends...

do you want to be tied up?

Ha! Spoken like a true sub. How can we make this stoning work for you, Netz.

I feel no urge to stone you, but I am curious if H is collared, and how you view collaring v. marriage.

ETA: Never mind! Making my way back to the collaring ceremony thread...

 

[Snoozebutton2]

I've given a few collars in my time. I am warmed in the heart knowing they were a comfort and a connection to the love they symbolized. A promise that at that moment in time meant something. As you can't be sure of things lasting a lifetime. You can just give from the heart and hope it strenghtens the bond between you. You hear it's a unbroken bond, the eternal circle. But I see it now as a opening of ones heart. The collar like a hug holding it's lover tight. And just like all things you hold close and dear. There may be a time you have to let it go as your time has passed. You just hope you've taught them what love is, was and can be always.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

The Dominator

Black leather, rounded spikes facing in towards neck. A control stick connects, allowing the dom to twist the stick and drive the spikes inward to cut off oxygen and blood to the head.

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Black leather, rounded spikes facing in towards neck. A control stick connects, allowing the dom to twist the stick and drive the spikes inward to cut off oxygen and blood to the head.

OK a bit to extreme for me but everyone has their own tastes.

 

[gingermango]

Mine is a very scary-looking, thick black leather affair with stainless steel spikes around the periphery and a large steel ring in front for a leash. Goddess bought it at PetsMart of all places (MUCH cheaper than fetish store collars and better quality too). Anyway . . .

Given my work in a professional, suit-and-tie environment, I can't wear it all the time, though I do find its weight and slight constriction very comforting. Goddess has me wear it for all play sessions unless it is not appropriate - for instance, when she has me wearing an evening gown instead of a corset - ). So, because there are many circumstances where I may not display my ownership publicly, Goddess had me marked permanently with her chosen symbol tattooed onto my upper thigh/hip several years ago as a constant reminder.

 

[girlofurdreams]

not yet...

one day i would be honored to wear some sort of physical item of branding/ownership for my Master... i believe that is a big step in a M/s relationship and even though i love Sir deeply i would hope that whatever he chose for me to wear wasn't just for 'wearing's sake'... does that make sense??? lol.

but it's something i definitely look forward to if Master so wishes

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I am not taking the collaring lightly. I never had a collar but I see it as a strong bound between two people who love and respect each other and wanna commit to each other.

I hope to get my first collar soon and I wanna wear it collar untill I die. I am naive I know, but thats what I do when I love. I dunno different. lol

 

[kittenartist]

This topic brought up fond memories of when I collared my bunny boy

We initially met online. We fell very hard, very fast. I remember the day he referred to himself as "mine" in casual conversation. I called him on it as we had discussed no such thing. He was surprised he had written it but then paused a moment to think and said, "It feels true". And it was true. Shortly after that I went to buy him a collar -- something I had never done or felt the desire to do with anyone in the past. I opted for a simple nickel plated choke collar from a pet store. Without looping it through itself it became a simple long chain with two rings on the end that I connected with a small lock.

After buying the collar I put it in a pretty little pink bag. Pink, because he hates that color Then, for the next few weeks I kept the bag near the computer and would show it too him on occasion. Telling him he had a present but never admitting that it was a collar. I also began wearing the key to the lock around my neck and would fiddle with it on camera.

Eventually he came for his first visit. We met, it was joyous, and then we came back home. I made to sure to set the pink gift bag in plain sight opposite the couch. We sat together for awhile, kissed a bit, and generally enjoyed being able to actually touch. After the initial excitement died down he actually noticed the pink bag but did not say anything. I watched his eyes keep sliding back to it. I let him sweat it out for a bit. Eventually I asked him if he saw something he wanted and he said yes so I had him go grab the bag. He did, he opened it, and found the collar locked shut with the lock. We talked at that point about me having the key, that I would always have the key, and that he would be wearing the collar 24/7 as a symbol of belonging to me... Then I unlocked the lock, wrapped the collar around his neck, and locked it with a kiss. And there is stayed... until he had to take it off for the military.

Our D/s relationship has grown a lot since then. I want to re-collar him when he comes home but it will be a long time before he had have a 24/7 collar again. I'd like to get him something special to wear that is discreet... I believe I will settle for a wedding ring. And a non-locking collar for when we are in private. Non-locking because unlocking the lock hurts emotionally every time. A tattoo would be nice but he is not the tattoo type... yet.

I would like to have a more formal ceremony someday. Well, as formal as I get... Our upcoming marriage is going to be one of legality and quickness. We are planning to have a "pretty wedding" once he is out of the military. I am thinking of working the D/s stuff into that ceremony. Not sure how yet (or how obvious it should be in front of family and friends). Maybe just a hint of it in the vows or maybe a full collaring in front of everyone... probably, I will just get the wedding band engraved with something significant. Maybe we could have a second, more private ceremony with select friends for locking on the collar again. And maybe we will just keep it private. Lots of maybes, eh?

 

[gingermango]

I am thinking of working the D/s stuff into that ceremony. Not sure how yet (or how obvious it should be in front of family and friends). Maybe just a hint of it in the vows or maybe a full collaring in front of everyone... probably, I will just get the wedding band engraved with something significant. Maybe we could have a second, more private ceremony with select friends for locking on the collar again. And maybe we will just keep it private. Lots of maybes, eh?

My Goddess and I have been married for 6-1/2 years. At our tenth anniversary we plan another ceremony of that sort with carefully-invited friends. Formal collaring will certainly be involved but given the nature of our particular relationship, it's entirely possible she will be in a tuxedo, I will be dressed as the bride but bound and gagged, and I will have to indicate assent via nods. At the end of the ceremony when it usually goes "You may kiss the bride," we may use, "You may spank the bride" . . .

 

[kittenartist]

My Goddess and I have been married for 6-1/2 years. At our tenth anniversary we plan another ceremony of that sort with carefully-invited friends. Formal collaring will certainly be involved but given the nature of our particular relationship, it's entirely possible she will be in a tuxedo, I will be dressed as the bride but bound and gagged, and I will have to indicate assent via nods. At the end of the ceremony when it usually goes "You may kiss the bride," we may use, "You may spank the bride" . . .

Ah, to have friends that we could even consider inviting to a ceremony of the sort you described... Alas, while our RL friends (and my family) know they most certainly do not want to know detailed information. Maybe I need to make some new friends

 

[girlofurdreams]

branded...

yesterday i had SJB (Sir Julian's Bitch) tattooed on the back of my neck... just low enough for Sir to still see if i'm wearing a collar when he takes me from behind

i created the artwork within a minute of Sir suggesting SJB when i asked if he would like me to be branded with my Master's name/initals as i was having other work done over the weekend. i was so pleased when he said it was perfect most people have said it looks like a butterfly!

http://i57.photobucket.com/albums/g215/bid222/th_SP_A0017.jpg


http://i57.photobucket.com/albums/g215/bid222/th_SP_A0018.jpg​

still fresh... a bit red and fuzzy, will post better pics when healed completely

 

[serijules]

H was married when I considered him mine and his partner didn't know. He also considered himself mine.

Let the fucking stoning commence. Should we tie me up first or just go?

I "belonged" to another Domme when Ma'am decided I was hers. The fact that I was already in a relationship (with a good friend of hers no less) didn't matter. She was patient. She knew I'd come to her because she just simply knew that I was Hers.

It's funny because she would always call me her garnet, even then, and call me one of her girls, although she did nothing to pursue me other than that. Took me ages even after I broke up with ex-domme to realize who I was meant to be with even though I wanted to be with Ma'am. I didn't think she'd take me.

 

[ataxia.girl]

I "belonged" to another Domme when Ma'am decided I was hers. The fact that I was already in a relationship (with a good friend of hers no less) didn't matter. She was patient. She knew I'd come to her because she just simply knew that I was Hers.

This is my philosophy on it as well. When you are owned you just are and when you aren't you aren't and wearing a collar won't change it just because you want it. i was "collared" once and looking back it was rather silly. i just wanted to be owned but wearing the collar didn't make it so. i have heard others express similar sentiments that being owned came first and then perhaps a collar as a token to express what both already feel. i like that, it feels right but i don't think the token is really necessary by itself. my Bastard Daddy never "collared" me but i still consider him the only one to have truly owned me. If he had decided he wanted me to wear some symbol of his ownership i would have been proud to do so but i never once even thought about it while i was his. i didn't start wishing for a collar until he was gone and i missed being owned. Funny with him i never felt the need to announce that i was owned but with others where it was contrived i needed to shout to everyone, more to convince myself i am sure than anyone else.

 

[tastychococakes]

Don't know what to do!

I've been instructed to handle the collaring ceremony for me and my Master when we see eachother in June. I want it to be meaningful without going over the top.
I welcome any suggestions that could help make this experience unique while still keeping it simple.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Really I don't wear anything that's symbolic of our relationship, I know my place and that's enough for the both of us. The only times I end up collared is if it's a special event or if she's taking me out on a walk. But then I'm probably also wearing a rope harness under my clothes.

-poppet

 

[asteele1390]

Sir had mentioned getting me a collar for my brithday, which is tomorrow, but He has not spoken to me for a few days now. i'm very worried that he may no longer be interested in me.....

 

[slavemarissa]

Is it wrong that i have asked to be collared? I read 'story of O' recently and he wanted to know what i thought. I emailed him some thoughts about it (we are long-distance online) and i put in at the end about thinking that i would love to be collared, and it felt right and i wondered what he thought about it.
We were speaking and he mentioned my email, saying it was a big step and we would have to find something that i can never take off. At these words my whole being started to go into some strange trance almost, it was weird, just like everything was going perfectly, and i was melting into it all.
Its really hard to find affordable plain silver rings though. I've found one but i bought the wrong size and now i can't get back to the shop for a while! I just can't wait until i have it, although he did say that i can't wear it until we have talked more about it. I just hope its soon!
Everytime i think about it i get such a wonderful complete feeling, but is it really right that a slave has asked her owner to be collared?

 

[raediant1791]

Quite honestly, i'm new.
New to the site, new to this particular thread, and new to the scene.
i've been interested in the scene since, well, since i knew what to call it.

Quite honestly, i didn't know exactly what about it i wanted, just that i wanted it all. i immersed myself in research. learning most of the terms, different types of play, all of it. i figured out what i wanted.

But that's just the thing. It wasn't so much what i wanted anymore. It was whatever They wanted. Whatever They needed me to do or to be.

i am not owned, but being collared is one of the fantasies i hold closest to my heart. i have been looking, but things always seem to be... off. As someone earlier had said, there are a lot of posers and fakes in the scene, it's very disappointing.

i am engaged, although, he is also a sub, and owned. he just moved in with his Owners at the beginning of the month. i miss him dearly, but am also entirely envious, and very, very, very happy for him. i don't know if i--personally-- could ever marry the Dom that owned me. To me, that is an entirely different level of commitment, but again, that's my personal opinion...

 

[cockteaser22]

well when i was with my ex and he dom me he would put my collar on after we fucked so i could lick the cum off the surface being the table floor sheets whatever and it was just a black collar with the glittering silver slave sparkled word on it

 

[Nightbird]

I have a question,

If I wanted to "collar" someone who had a real issue with having things around their neck what would be a suitable alternative?