Stella_Omega
No Gentleman
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- Jul 14, 2005
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Well, yeah, that seems confusing, and there is no one answer. I'm not a one-descriptor girl.If you want to be seen as something other than a female first, stop insisting that you're a female first.
I love you Stella, but you've gone off the deep end.
let me see if I can clear it up;
I am stuck in a female body (since there are only two choices, after all) and so I have no choice but to be seen as female.
Therefore, I have no choice but to respond to societies expectations and pressures and politics that deal with women. Doesn't matter if I agree or not, people look at my tits and my wider hips, and they begin from one or another sets of pre-formed assumptions.
The female stereotypes as exemplified by the ones we've been talking about here are, to me, stultifying, inaccurate, inadequate, and unwearable. I know that's true for a significant number of other people who also are born in female bodies.
Doc, back when this thread started, you wanted to talk about your need to dominate, and you linked it directly to your masculine identity and your partner's feminine identity. I offered you a slightly different paradigm, by way of my own need to dominate which is damn near identical to yours-- except that I don't have the 'shame' buzzword back there in my brain, and I am not male in body.
It seemed to me that the essence of my statements were invisible to you, and that, if you responded at all, you picked out some element that did not address my thoughts on gender, and my perception that it might not be so necessary.
And here's me on a bad day; I wake up grabbing for the dick that isn't there.
If you want to talk about castration worries, I can tell you all about what it's like to actually be castrated.