A physical reminder in a LDR

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I want to recreate the same feelings other pyls get from the deep bruises and welts after being with their PYL. That twinge of pain when they move about to remind them of the good times. Only problem is I can't physically touch my slave. And I don't really want to ask her to beat her own ass to create a bruise cause that's my job. :caning:

I figure since I can't give her the bruises and welts it would have to be something she wore or did so that it constantly gave her that kind of reminder.

I was hoping for something discreet, easily made from an item at home, and something that will give her a little reminder every time she moved.

I would prefer something small. Like a band-aid attached to skin and hair and every time she moved it would cause the band-aid to pull on the hair causing a little jolt of pain.

The problem is it has to be discreet. Preferably concealed under clothing.

Anyone have any ideas? Thanks.

 

[madetotakeit]

How about an anklet. Take two pieces of layered leather, to the bottom layer attach studs or tacks that would press against the skin. Make sure that they are not sharp enough to pierce the skin or draw blood and that it is large enough that they aren't constantly pressing into the flesh. Just the unexpected jolt when they do. The top layer can be decorated with something that is special between the two of you.

 

[cherokee_dove]

I want to recreate the same feelings other pyls get from the deep bruises and welts after being with their PYL. That twinge of pain when they move about to remind them of the good times. Only problem is I can't physically touch my slave. And I don't really want to ask her to beat her own ass to create a bruise cause that's my job. :caning:

I figure since I can't give her the bruises and welts it would have to be something she wore or did so that it constantly gave her that kind of reminder.

I was hoping for something discreet, easily made from an item at home, and something that will give her a little reminder every time she moved.

I would prefer something small. Like a band-aid attached to skin and hair and every time she moved it would cause the band-aid to pull on the hair causing a little jolt of pain.

The problem is it has to be discreet. Preferably concealed under clothing.

Anyone have any ideas? Thanks.

Sir, here is an idea.

The object: A thin emory board, the type made of cardboard; that has a rougher side and a smoother side. They are about 4 inches long. Cut in half.

Have her tape it with a medium size band aid, rough side against the skin; on the under side of one of her ass cheeks. That way, it is discreet; and not able to be seen as easily.

Every time she would walk or even shift cheeks, that would be a reminder to remember.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

How about an anklet. Take two pieces of layered leather, to the bottom layer attach studs or tacks that would press against the skin. Make sure that they are not sharp enough to pierce the skin or draw blood and that it is large enough that they aren't constantly pressing into the flesh. Just the unexpected jolt when they do. The top layer can be decorated with something that is special between the two of you.

Thanks for the idea.

Sir, here is an idea.

The object: A thin emory board, the type made of cardboard; that has a rougher side and a smoother side. They are about 4 inches long. Cut in half.

Have her tape it with a medium size band aid, rough side against the skin; on the under side of one of her ass cheeks. That way, it is discreet; and not able to be seen as easily.

Every time she would walk or even shift cheeks, that would be a reminder to remember.

Thank you!

I had something like this in mind but yours is better. Thanks again.

 

[cherokee_dove]

Thanks for the idea.



Thank you!

I had something like this in mind but yours is better. Thanks again.

Your welcome. Just a crafty masochist for ya.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Every Friday I wear a clit clip. I have been doing it for the past 2 years, maybe more. They are easily available and inexpensive. I have two. It is reasonable comfortable but I have to be a little careful because sometimes it can get caught and pinches.

Every Tuesday I wear a buttplug or something similiar. I worked my way up from 30 minutes a day to now I wear it 8 hours a day.


Both are very discreet, yet effective

 

[rida]

Every Friday I wear a clit clip. I have been doing it for the past 2 years, maybe more. They are easily available and inexpensive. I have two. It is reasonable comfortable but I have to be a little careful because sometimes it can get caught and pinches.

Every Tuesday I wear a buttplug or something similiar. I worked my way up from 30 minutes a day to now I wear it 8 hours a day.


Both are very discreet, yet effective


Here is a little pic of my clit clip that I'll leave up for a little while

I have one but never been able to put it on properly. Now perhaps I'll be able to.

P.S. it looks lovey

 

[SubKekiLee]

Every Friday I wear a clit clip. I have been doing it for the past 2 years, maybe more. They are easily available and inexpensive. I have two. It is reasonable comfortable but I have to be a little careful because sometimes it can get caught and pinches.

Every Tuesday I wear a buttplug or something similiar. I worked my way up from 30 minutes a day to now I wear it 8 hours a day.


Both are very discreet, yet effective


Here is a little pic of my clit clip that I'll leave up for a little while

Never had one but might have to hope Sir will find this thread... It looks B E A U T I F U L ....

 

[myinnerslut]

i have a piercing i wear in my belly button, and the charm is his initial. i also have a "R" cutting on the top of my left thigh, and a puzzle piece cell popping on the top of my right thigh. obviously my colar is around my neck. i also hae an anklet with my slave registry number strung on it in the form of siver number beads. i cant remove this one, it has no lock.

ill ask Master to fill in all the active ideas, my arm hurts. typing is tough right now.

 

[Homburg]

Zippers are a fave. Yes, she puts them on, but the clothespins control the amount of pain, while you would control the timing of it by phone, text, etc. I have her put them on one by one, then rip them off on command. Usually masturbation is involved, and she orgasms fiercely when I have her yank off the zippers. The nice things is that the clothespins leave marks, at least on her, and frequently little bruises.

I like the underside of her breasts (hidden by her bra, rubs against the bra so she feels its) and the inside of each thigh towards the tops (hidden by clothes, feels it while walking, etc).

Yes, it adds her into the equation, but is not the same as her beating herself.

I will also direct her to write various things on herself with a sharpie. Again, not the same as you doing it yourself, but still handy. While it might not give that twinge of pain, she will know it is there.

In the end, the pain is not an end in itself. It is a method. What you are doing here is injecting yourself into her day, keeping her submission/surrender in her mind even while she is not near you. If you already do non-pain reminders then feel free to ignore this, but my advice is to work on other reminders as well. Pain can be overdone, and can lead to tolerances being built up in weird ways if it is done the same way too often.

 

[celticsunspiral]

I have a silver anklet that I wear, it is the kind that twirls around. I like it because depending on how i sit it digs into the skin and leaves marks on both legs, it has also on accasion cut in the skin of my ankle causing it to bleed a little, eventually i will get a charm with my SLRN number. Very discreet and noone else would have any idea why you are wearing it.

I was looking for a picture but i think it is on my other computer.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Thanks every one for the ideas.

Just to clarify I would like some common item that can be used as a physical reminder. Right now neither I nor my slave can buy anything to do the job. So it has to be something she can make at home with common items found around the house like the band-aid and emory board or the clothespins.

I will also direct her to write various things on herself with a sharpie. Again, not the same as you doing it yourself, but still handy. While it might not give that twinge of pain, she will know it is there.

In the end, the pain is not an end in itself. It is a method. What you are doing here is injecting yourself into her day, keeping her submission/surrender in her mind even while she is not near you. If you already do non-pain reminders then feel free to ignore this, but my advice is to work on other reminders as well. Pain can be overdone, and can lead to tolerances being built up in weird ways if it is done the same way too often.

Oh I've got the non-pain reminders in place already. That is why I am looking for a painful reminder.

Like what you said I want a physical reminder that will evoke an emotional response. Something to help her when we haven't talked or can't talk and she is around her family or watching tv or whatever that will bring her back instantly to her submission to me when she feels the pain.

Still haven't figured exactly what I'm going to do yet, so if anyone else has any ideas please post them.

 

[Homburg]

Oh I've got the non-pain reminders in place already. That is why I am looking for a painful reminder.

I figured as much, as you've been doing this a while now. Good luck, man.

 

[ataxia.girl]

Pain can be overdone, and can lead to tolerances being built up in weird ways if it is done the same way too often.

my Daddy B has quit giving me pain at all maybe because of this. He didn't tell me why i have just noticed that suddenly there is no pain from him just nice things. i am finding it strangely compelling... different. Suddenly i am being treated like something quite fragile and it makes me softer and more open to him.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

My slave accidentally scratched herself from the cut end of the plastic part that holds on a sales tag and it gave me an idea.

How can I create scratches on her?

I don't want her to use a knife or scissors and I don't want the scratches to be deep or even draw blood(maybe a drop or two at most).

I almost want like a cat scratch on her. Just something that will last a day. Any ideas?

 

[SweetErika]

My slave accidentally scratched herself from the cut end of the plastic part that holds on a sales tag and it gave me an idea.

How can I create scratches on her?

I don't want her to use a knife or scissors and I don't want the scratches to be deep or even draw blood(maybe a drop or two at most).

I almost want like a cat scratch on her. Just something that will last a day. Any ideas?

For intentional scratching, you could go with:
Staples, paperclips, guitar finger picks ($1 each at Amazon.com; see pic below), toothpicks, sharp ends of metal nail files (either individually, or sometimes nailclippers have a file w/ a sharp end that flips out), sharp/pointed tweezers, or anything else that's sharp, but capable of more shallow scratches. I'd dip all of these things in rubbing alcohol and swab the skin first, just to be safe.
http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41XFWpXLtEL._SL160_AA160_.jpg

Oooh...papercuts!

On the original topic:
If she has a bra and/or panties she's willing to part with, you might consider attaching the rough side of velcro with an adhesive backing (little circles and other sizes are widely available in sewing and hardware stores), so it abrades her skin a bit when she moves enough. I haven't tried this personally, but I can imagine the fun of the scratchiness of multiple dots or squares on nipples, the undersides of breasts, the ass, labia, a shaved mons...

 

[girlofurdreams]

i loved the sensation from the tattoo needle digging into my skin as i had Sir Julian's branding permanently marked on the base of my neck.... i get shivers just thinking about the way it made me feel...

 

[Hisscarlett]

if i may offer a couple of ideas

cut pieces of rough sandpaper and glue to the inside edge of the clothespins - this makes them much more painful than regular clothespins

a friend of mine did this on instruction from her Master - take an old bra and press thumbtacks into the material - cover them on the outside with some duct tape to ensure they stay in place and then wear the bra

as with all of the ideas proffered these can of course only be used for controlled periods of time as harm can be done to the nipples and clitty easily if pressure is prolonged and with the bra the tacks and breasts need to be cleaned before and after wear so that infection doesn't set in

\public service announcement

i was in a LDR with Master for six months before He packed me up and moved me from one continent to another so i know from experience that having to "do the pain" myself on His instructions does not take away from it as much as you might think - it is infinitely preferable that Master gifts me His pain but whilst we were apart it was ok - though it was the nonpain physical things such as my collar and tattoo that helped me feel my slavery to Him - that and the constant communication

i wish You and yours well

 

[cherokee_dove]

My slave accidentally scratched herself from the cut end of the plastic part that holds on a sales tag and it gave me an idea.

How can I create scratches on her?

I don't want her to use a knife or scissors and I don't want the scratches to be deep or even draw blood(maybe a drop or two at most).

I almost want like a cat scratch on her. Just something that will last a day. Any ideas?

A typical back scratcher (the long handled item that has something similar to a hand at one end) used harshly on her back. That can leave some scratches she would feel for a couple of days.

Just using my own, i can verify that one.