I am tired of being asked if I'm a victim of domestic violence!

[SemiColon]

I do have 22 bruises on my right thigh, and more scattered across my body. No, I have no idea where they came from. I went in to the doc for a small procedure Monday and they couldn't stop the bleeding....ran out of gauze and had to cauterize. I'm being tested for an inherited bleeding disorder my father has.

So does this mean I can't wear short shorts this summer? Are bruises gross? (um, yeah, I know they are) I tried to take a picture but the angle made my thigh look fat, and we can't have that.

 

[sr71plt]

Could be an opportunity. How rich is your husband/significant other?

 

[kimbalee]

I do have 22 bruises on my right thigh, and more scattered across my body. No, I have no idea where they came from. I went in to the doc for a small procedure Monday and they couldn't stop the bleeding....ran out of gauze and had to cauterize. I'm being tested for an inherited bleeding disorder my father has.

So does this mean I can't wear short shorts this summer? Are bruises gross? (um, yeah, I know they are) I tried to take a picture but the angle made my thigh look fat, and we can't have that.

damn bad angles! hahah! and, no, we can't have that!

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I do have 22 bruises on my right thigh, and more scattered across my body. No, I have no idea where they came from. I went in to the doc for a small procedure Monday and they couldn't stop the bleeding....ran out of gauze and had to cauterize. I'm being tested for an inherited bleeding disorder my father has.

So does this mean I can't wear short shorts this summer? Are bruises gross? (um, yeah, I know they are) I tried to take a picture but the angle made my thigh look fat, and we can't have that.

It's the summer. Wear the shorts if it makes you more comfortable. And just tell those nosy-assed people you got into a girl gang fight and took out their leader after getting narrowly shivved.

 

[Guest]

I do have 22 bruises on my right thigh, and more scattered across my body. No, I have no idea where they came from. I went in to the doc for a small procedure Monday and they couldn't stop the bleeding....ran out of gauze and had to cauterize. I'm being tested for an inherited bleeding disorder my father has.

So does this mean I can't wear short shorts this summer? Are bruises gross? (um, yeah, I know they are) I tried to take a picture but the angle made my thigh look fat, and we can't have that.

Tell everyone you got them in kick-boxing class.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

It's the summer. Wear the shorts if it makes you more comfortable. And just tell those nosy-assed people you got into a girl gang fight and took out their leader after getting narrowly shivved.

Good response! Kind of like, "Hah! You shoulda seen t'other guy!"

 

[SemiColon]

God forbid my purple spotted thigh look anything but svelte. I also lost 50 pounds in 3 months (post childbirth). The first time it took me a year to lose the baby weight, so they are wondering what the deal is, though I like that part of it.

 

[SemiColon]

Here's a pic, if I attached it correctly. There's more, it's just one view.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Wear the shorts and damn the comments.

I'd vote for "My husband kicks in his sleep. I'm thinking of tying his legs together."

Good luck with the medical testing.

 

[TE999]

Wear what you please when you please.

If someone is rude enough to question you about your bruises, tell them you're a paintball junkie and they should see the ones on your ass.

ETA: Good luck with the testing.

 

[Katyusha]

I don't have a bleeding disorder but my legs bruise very easily. In the summertime when I'm wearing shorts or skirts, I am forever having people ask me if my husband beats me. When I say he doesn't, they get all parental on me and say, "It's okay, you know. Lots of women are beaten by their husbands; it's nothing to be so embarrassed about. You can tell me the truth." Yeah yeah yeah whatever get lost. He doesn't beat me. He's never even so much as jokingly threatened to hit me.

So I understand, to a degree, where you're coming from, at least with the questions and the speculation. Wear what you want anyway; that's what I do, and to hell with the questions and comments. I do hope that you get this situation resolved though...so many bruises isn't ever a sign of a good thing.

 

[Oblimo]

Next time someone asks, pull out a riding crop, and worry its strap between your teeth, your eyes burning, until they back away.

 

[Guest]

Next time someone asks, pull out a riding crop, and worry its strap between your teeth, your eyes burning, until they back away.

I like you.

 

[glynndah]

Just blush and whisper "hickeys".

 

[Katyusha]

Next time someone asks, pull out a riding crop, and worry its strap between your teeth, your eyes burning, until they back away.

Ooooooooo. I think I'm in love.

 

[Weird Harold]

Here's a pic, if I attached it correctly. There's more, it's just one view.

Wear what you want, and don't worry about being polite to people who ask stupid questions -- the only proper rresponse to suvh rudeness is "MYOB" or "Nunya," as in Mind "Your Own Business" or "Nunya damn bidness."

(People who think those marks are from abuse haven't got a fucking clue what abuse looks like.)

 

[lisa123414]

If you just don't want to deal with it, crop pants might be handy. No reason you should keep from wearing shorts, really, but sometimes you just don't want to give them an opening.

 

[Guest]

Wear what you want, and don't worry about being polite to people who ask stupid questions -- the only proper rresponse to suvh rudeness is "MYOB" or "Nunya," as in Mind "Your Own Business" or "Nunya damn bidness."

(People who think those marks are from abuse haven't got a fucking clue what abuse looks like.)

Agreed.

Our young son generally has bruises all over his legs. We were concerned, talked to the pediatrician, he told us that this was very normal, especially for very active young sons.

He said marks on his trunk, face, etc., would be of more concern.

 

[keeblercrumb]

Penis Envy AV

I do have 22 bruises on my right thigh, and more scattered across my body. No, I have no idea where they came from. I went in to the doc for a small procedure Monday and they couldn't stop the bleeding....ran out of gauze and had to cauterize. I'm being tested for an inherited bleeding disorder my father has.

So does this mean I can't wear short shorts this summer? Are bruises gross? (um, yeah, I know they are) I tried to take a picture but the angle made my thigh look fat, and we can't have that.

And for that matter, I cannot imagine why someone would attribute these leg bruises to domestic violence.

Unless you are married to a dwarf, I suppose.



-KC

 

[Guest]

Wear what you please when you please.

If someone is rude enough to question you about your bruises, tell them you're a paintball junkie and they should see the ones on your ass.

I like this one.



In a way, people are looking out for you.

In pregnancy I had a million tests and I got horrible bruises that did not have the time to go away before I got new ones.

After a while, friends started joking about domestic abuse. It was playful and all but it was also an opening for me to ask for help, if there was any such thing going on.

People today are more aware that it could be anyone. Sometimes they reach out.



Maharat

 

[SemiColon]

Thanks for making me laugh! I am going to buy that crop now...

 

[Guest]

A couple of months ago while unloading costumes and flowers from the back seat of the car after the cast/crew wrap party (ahem - it was near 1:00 a.m.) I managed to clip myself on the car door. Blood - lots of it - and then three stitches early the next morning. Lovely black eye, too.

But the first thing they asked at the doctor's, which shocked the hell out of me, was - "Do you feel safe at home?"

I just stared at the nurse. Stupidly. It took me awhile to figure out to what she was referring. She meant was I being abused? Did my spouse/SO beat me?

I did have, after all, what the doctor called a perfect "Boxer's Cut."

But I could happily reassure her that I was fine. Besides, my story was so strange. Who on earth would make that shit up?

But it does happen, of course. And it happens enough that they have to ask.

Doesn't that just turn your stomach?

 

[Oblimo]

Ooooooooo. I think I'm in love.

She loves me, she loves me!

...

I just ruined it, didn't I?

 

[Weird Harold]

But it does happen, of course. And it happens enough that they have to ask.

Doctors and nurses have to ask, but RLreverie's problem seems to be random busybodies more looking for good gossip rather than trying to help.

I like TE99's paintball excuse, but I'd extend it just a bit for the really obnoxious ones: "You want to kiss them better? The ones on my ass are really bad."

 

[Guest]

Doctors and nurses have to ask, but RLreverie's problem seems to be random busybodies more looking for good gossip rather than trying to help.

I like TE99's paintball excuse, but I'd extend it just a bit for the really obnoxious ones: "You want to kiss them better? The ones on my ass are really bad."

Ooh. So do I.