a little trouble during sex

[Anthem_of_life]

Ok.. now whenever my wife and I have sex there are sometimes that I lose my erection and we have to stop for a while. I'm really not sure why it happens. I mean i'm in the zone i guess you could say, i'm enjoying the pleasure that i'm giving her and she's giving me, but every so often i just lose my erection. The same thing goes for when she gives me oral, I'll be kickin back enjoying her wonderful mouth and all of a sudden i'll lose it. when this first started happening she would complain that she wasn't doing a good enough job. But believe me she is an animal in bed and i love having sex with her. I'm starting to get afraid that it'll happen during sex and i can't get very focused to do my best.. any ideas?

 

[exposed]

How old are you, maybe you're just reaching that age.

 

[ples]

there's a pill for that - you can go to the doc and get something or end up giving oral and going to sleep.

Ok.. now whenever my wife and I have sex there are sometimes that I lose my erection and we have to stop for a while. I'm really not sure why it happens. I mean i'm in the zone i guess you could say, i'm enjoying the pleasure that i'm giving her and she's giving me, but every so often i just lose my erection. The same thing goes for when she gives me oral, I'll be kickin back enjoying her wonderful mouth and all of a sudden i'll lose it. when this first started happening she would complain that she wasn't doing a good enough job. But believe me she is an animal in bed and i love having sex with her. I'm starting to get afraid that it'll happen during sex and i can't get very focused to do my best.. any ideas?

 

[Anthem_of_life]

How old are you, maybe you're just reaching that age.

lol.. no where near that age.. we're both 19 ( i know.. married young but we love it!)

 

[helix27]

prolly in your head somewhere an i mean the one on your shoulders. do you worry about during the act? how often do yu masturbate? maybe you have become some what desensitized.

 

[Gil_T2]

lol.. no where near that age.. we're both 19 ( i know.. married young but we love it!)

Are you over weight?
have high blood pressure?
on script meds or other drugs?
do you masterbate a lot?
do you have any health issues?

So many questions but why not visit your doctor as he can eliminate medical problems & or refer you on to where you need to go to solve the problem.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Ok.. now whenever my wife and I have sex there are sometimes that I lose my erection and we have to stop for a while. I'm really not sure why it happens. I mean i'm in the zone i guess you could say, i'm enjoying the pleasure that i'm giving her and she's giving me, but every so often i just lose my erection. The same thing goes for when she gives me oral, I'll be kickin back enjoying her wonderful mouth and all of a sudden i'll lose it. when this first started happening she would complain that she wasn't doing a good enough job. But believe me she is an animal in bed and i love having sex with her. I'm starting to get afraid that it'll happen during sex and i can't get very focused to do my best.. any ideas?

Ok, that bolded part right there is what will turn this occasional problem into a vicious cycle for you. Mind over matter. Focus on the moment and don't look down.

You say you're 19, do you still masturbate a lot? A fist is much tighter and more stimulating than a pussy and may be desensitizing you to the gentler sensations of intercourse. Masturbate less frequently, using lubricant and a much softer grip and you'll re-educate your penis. Better still, stop masturbating for a while and concentrate on enjoying sex.

Is it possible you have this problem because of condoms? Try thinner brands like durex featherlight and put just a little lubricant onto your penis before you put on the condom. If you think it might be a reaction to latex, try latex free. Experiment until you find something that works or talk about some kind of birth control for your wife if you haven't done so.

You also need to talk to your wife as her complaining is just going to make you feel worse about everything, which means things are less likely to perk up again. You need to get her on your side with this by not making a big deal and moving back to focusing on foreplay again until you feel relaxed enough to become aroused. If she's got into the habit of acting petulant or staring at it while tapping her foot, she is part of the problem.

I seriously doubt you need any kind of pill or medical intervention at such a young age. Time, patience and confidence will fix this faster than anything else.

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

i dont think your wife was complaining about you losing the erection, i think its just her feeling like its her fault. "If i had done this differently or moved my hips right, you wouldnt have lost erection" Just reassure her that its not her fault and that she's great in bed.

I suggest the same thing Velvet said - try thinner condoms or have your wife find some other kind of birthcontrol. If shes on birthcontrol and you arent using condoms, i suggest stop worrying about it so much. If that doesnt help, i suggest talking to your doctor to rule out the possible medical issues.