What do all of you in sexless marriages do for sex? What alternatives?

[Abeona1]

Things I do instead of sex:
Read erotica.
Talk to men on lit.
Learn more about my body.
Buy sex toys.
Become familiar with my shower head.
Beg for a cuddle.
Plead for a caress
Somnophilia he knows.
Take advantage when his had a drink.
Tried and tested know exactly what to do my fingers.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Things I do instead of sex:
Read erotica.
Talk to men on lit.
Learn more about my body.
Buy sex toys.
Become familiar with my shower head.
Beg for a cuddle.
Plead for a caress
Somnophilia he knows.
Take advantage when his had a drink.
Tried and tested know exactly what to do my fingers.

Not so sure about "taking advantage when he's had a drink". My cocksucker certainly took advantage of my lowered inhibitions when I'd had a drink or two, but, even in retrospect, I didn't feel like I was being taken advantage of.

And I won't beg or plead. I'm past that.

 

[Sienna62]

Things I do instead of sex:
Read erotica.
Talk to men on lit.
Learn more about my body.
Buy sex toys.
Become familiar with my shower head.
Beg for a cuddle.
Plead for a caress
Somnophilia he knows.
Take advantage when his had a drink.
Tried and tested know exactly what to do my fingers.

Wow.

 

[Britva415]

Im not in a sexless marriage, but if I were I’d address it. If that didn’t work, then I’m cheating. No doubt about it.

People should absolutely address it and not put up with being ignored or gaslighted.

I did address it, and it did work. It's still a sexless marriage but I have extramarital sex with her knowledge and consent.

If addressing it hadn't worked, I'd just leave, not cheat.

 

[babyface23]

I write. Some are fantasies. Some are real. Some are requests. Knowing others lime them is great. Knowing it helps them cum is better. And I always cum hard when finishing writing.

 

[BDA73]

I masturbate daily. Sometimes more than once a day. I have no alternative.

Same boat

 

[efnicole]

I write. Some are fantasies. Some are real. Some are requests. Knowing others lime them is great. Knowing it helps them cum is better. And I always cum hard when finishing writing.

Sounds it benefits for both parties...

 

[Freebeener]

Chat on different platforms and honestly find sex elsewhere. Discreetly

 

[babyface23]

Sounds it benefits for both parties...

I guess you could say she was a sex fiend….

 

[neighborpipe]

I don’t go to bars. I don’t advertise myself as being single on hook-up apps. I don’t make inappropriate unsolicited comments. But when I encounter someone in a similar position, get to know them, and understand beyond a shadow of a doubt that we’re both hungry for the same thing, I have no qualms discussing consensual sex that prioritizes both of our existing relationships. Not an everyday deal for me, but a knowing nod to the reality of marriage and sexual desire.

 

[Volk359]

I don’t go to bars. I don’t advertise myself as being single on hook-up apps. I don’t make inappropriate unsolicited comments. But when I encounter someone in a similar position, get to know them, and understand beyond a shadow of a doubt that we’re both hungry for the same thing, I have no qualms discussing consensual sex that prioritizes both of our existing relationships. Not an everyday deal for me, but a knowing nod to the reality of marriage and sexual desire.

Same here. The tough part for me is finding women that are in the same position. There’s a couple at work that I’m attracted to, but I’m concerned about approaching them in case I’ve misread their signals, then getting my name spread around as a cheater.

 

[YummyCumDump18]

I love servicing men who have sexless marriages they fuck so good and are so eager to get their release

 

[neighborpipe]

I love servicing men who have sexless marriages they fuck so good and are so eager to get their release

See? That’s exactly what I’m talking about.

 

[amigayorbi]

I love servicing men who have sexless marriages they fuck so good and are so eager to get their release

I wish I had more women like you around

 

[Volk359]

I love servicing men who have sexless marriages they fuck so good and are so eager to get their release

A pity I don’t live closer to you!

 

[Unapologetic_Bull]

Being more in the hotwife/cuckold side of things as a bull I'm playing more and more often with wives in sexless narriages who are exploring without the husband's knowledge.

One wife I see is 43, her husband is 50. They last had penetrative sex in 2022. After 40 she went through 'the surge'. Going without sex simply wasn't an option for her. Ironically, she says her infidelity has saved her marriage.

 

[21finish]

Lots of masturbation, fantasies while watching porn or reading erotic stories, cam to cam sessions to watch and be watched, and a few gay sessions of mutual masturbation and oral sex.

 

[Britva415]

Ironically, she says her infidelity has saved her marriage.

Totally. Not ironic at all. Some people don’t want side action because they don’t love their spouse, they want it because they do.

 

[Unapologetic_Bull]

Totally. Not ironic at all. Some people don’t want side action because they don’t love their spouse, they want it because they do.

Agreed. I do think some people find sex outside their marriage so they can stay married.

 

[Forrest69]

I see that like the guy that asked his wife what she wanted for her birthday. She responded, 'a divorce'.
He said he wasn't planing on spending anywhere near that much!

Yes, a divorce is financially costly, emotionally draining, and at an older age traumatizing to have to relocate and reset living arrangements. The alternative of remaining in a sexless marriage/relationship is also extremely expensive and harmful to mental and physical health and happiness. I continue to struggle with an “effective” solution, and add that each person’s situation, although similar perhaps sexually, is usually unique in several aspects. Mine involve possibly losing a huge financial retirement income, relocating/selling a home of 25 years, and trying to negotiate/settle ownership of beloved pets. Life is fraught with agonizing decisions, especially in older age. In hindsight, marriage would NEVER be my choice to live well again.

 

[MamaBitte]

(...) In hindsight, marriage would NEVER be my choice to live well again.

I would sign that immediately. Today, I long for freedom. Never having to answer to anyone, no secrets. Especially not about my own sexuality.

 

[Pervymac]

I visit escorts whenever I get the chance!

 

[MamaBitte]

• Hanging out on Lit
• Let my fantasies run wild in my head.
  https://64.media.tumblr.com/d5525231feb96252f88c5f37fac73c77/tumblr_oakyricGkN1qa596jo1_500.jpg
  https://galleryofmen.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/2135-rearview-muscular-stud-naked-in-bed.jpg
  ... and more
• Using a hooker every now and then
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[Spicylady22]

Is it very unusual for the woman to want sex more than the man? This thread seems to be all men. Asking for a friend

 

[bobb_sledd]

• Using a hooker every now and then

This! This right here!