I know a couple that I would. We have been talking a long time.Today's question ...
I know there is a thread about this, but I wanted to ask here.
If you had the chance to meet another Litster, would you? How long would you have to chat via board, pm, voice message, phone calls before you actually felt comfortable in making the meeting?
Where would you meet? What would you do?
For the sake of argument, I'm going to use the things I did with a friend rather than my partner due to our current situation.I've been thinking about another question to ask everyone and here it is ...
Describe to me a perfect date that you have planned for your girl. I don't just wanna hear, dinner then we fucked!! Anyone can do that to be honest. I want to hear all the details of what you planned.
Do you plan far in advance? Do you want to surprise her? Is it during the day? Night?
Tell me ... I want to know!!!!
This is great!! I agree with all aspects of your statement!!!I would meet most of the Litsters I’ve interacted with long term. It’s pretty easy to spot spammers and scammers after a lengthy conversation. I have met 4 listers in person and all of them were great. 2 just ended up being friends. 1 likely would have led to something but COVID ended the travel that would have made it possible. And 1 led to a really close friendship. I would have a cup of coffee or a beer with any of them again.
As far as guidelines go:
1. Meet someplace open and public, a coffee shop, a sidewalk cafe, someplace safe for both parties.
2. Meet with no expectations. Even if you’ve cybered or sexted or more, in person meeting is totally different chemistry and resonance. It’s one reason that I don’t mind meeting somewhat sooner. It makes chatting more real.
3. Don’t be afraid to say “No.” #2 only means something if you adhere to it. No expectations. If the other person doesn’t respect that, let it be their problem.
4. Be open to possibilities. It’s okay to be pleasantly surprised. Just don’t rush.
5. For women especially, it’s okay to have an emergency contact on speed dial just in case. ‘Nuf said.
I have a different perspective than a lot of people. I led national wilderness outings and elderhostel courses for years. I took thousands of complete strangers on 1 to 2 week programs in remote wilderness areas and my home address and phone number appeared in national magazines. Today these organizations would never publish that kind of stuff, but email and the internet didn’t exist.I have a greater comfort level with strangers and make friends pretty easily. The biggest key is to do what you are comfortable with.
I think Lit is an amazing and creative community and if you think, “I’d go have a beer with guy/gal” then do it. I think this is a safer space overall than the average nightclub, and you have a greater chance to interact before the next step.
Today's question ...
I know there is a thread about this, but I wanted to ask here.
If you had the chance to meet another Litster, would you? How long would you have to chat via board, pm, voice message, phone calls before you actually felt comfortable in making the meeting?
Where would you meet? What would you do?
How long...it depends but after a few weeks of getting to know more I'd be fine...Today's question ...
I know there is a thread about this, but I wanted to ask here.
If you had the chance to meet another Litster, would you? How long would you have to chat via board, pm, voice message, phone calls before you actually felt comfortable in making the meeting?
Where would you meet? What would you do?
Yeah, but I really like onion rings.
Depends on the mood.Me too, sometimes more than fries ...
Always more than fries!Me too, sometimes more than fries ...
If you are the onion ring, I’m always n the mood. Does that make me moody?So, are you saying when you're moody you want rings?
