Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[CuriousRick]

I need a nap but it feel like a waste of a Saturday afternoon

 

[Strixaluco]

I need a nap but it feel like a waste of a Saturday afternoon

I would have wanted one but just couldn't for some reason.

Oh well, maybe tomorrow...

 

[CuriousRick]

I would have wanted one but just couldn't for some reason.

Oh well, maybe tomorrow...

I slept horrible last night night and had to get up early after staying up later then normal. I know if I sleep now I will be up later again.

 

[dawn_of_night]

Bringing in a brand new AC for a special cool room. Want to keep everyone happy

Like a cool box....
Yesssss.

 

[CuriousRick]

Like a cool box....
Yesssss.

Should I bring in an ice bath too.

 

[dawn_of_night]

Should I bring in an ice bath too.

Not for me.... But I love a cold room with warm. Blankets and comfy furniture

 

[CuriousRick]

Not for me.... But I love a cold room with warm. Blankets and comfy furniture

Do we need a cookie warmer too?

 

[dawn_of_night]

Do we need a cookie warmer too?

Naw.... I like em roomtemp

 

[barefootgirl69]

Let's change the subject for a bit.

Until I came to Lit ten years ago, I had never heard the term "Daddy Dom" or had any idea what DD/lg was.

I had known for years that my natural tendency was submission, but only when I felt safe and cared for. I had been in M/s before my marriage, and I thought I was getting D/s when I married. That's a story for another day, but goes deep into my WAIT AND VET, DON'T RUSH stance.

After filing for divorce, I knew that I wanted D/s, but nothing to do with humiliation or sadism. I wanted "a sensual Dom" - those were the words I used.

You see, even though I had been in that M/s dynamic, I hadn't been TAUGHT what to look for outside of that. Lit became a great place to learn many things, not always for the best. But, many took the time to teach and advise.

One of those things was to get involved with a local BDSM community. Go to events, ask questions, get to know people.
Is anyone else familiar with their local community?

 

[Strixaluco]

Is anyone else familiar with their local community?

After running head first into this thread (or it was version 3 I think) and finding about the whole DD/lg, I quickly happened to find an online Daddy. It started quite quickly, but I got lucky and have nothing to regret. It gave me time to explore, explore and frankly speaking to recover from my precious (vanilla) relationship, depression etc. To start living again.

And I did search for things online, including Fetlife (which I am not a fan of at all, but there were some good sources there too) -and that was also my way to finding the association in this city. I think you were the one hinting that Fetlife could be the way to find them. Now I had the local munches in my calendar over a month before I even moved back to the city!

After moving I finally got to my first munch. My expectations were low - mainly to learn to know some of local people and whom I could maybe ask more about the whole thing and also possibly background checks etc.

Well, it was vacation time and quite quiet, but there were some people. I was told there's a specific bdsm forum in this country, and somehow I hadn't found it yet. And while I wasn't really looking for a partner quite yet, it so happened that the man I sat next to, is now my Dom... He DM'ed me soon after I joined that forum, wanting to take me on a date. In the next munch we got lost in each other's eyes. That was actually 3 years ago this Saturday . (And yes, I also did a little background check on him and was only told positive stuff.)

 

[Strixaluco]

oh and that look... He didn't even know he tamed me right then and there.

“To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world…” (Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery)

 

[CuriousRick]

I have never been a very social person. Definitely have social anxiety. So, I have never been to any local events. I like the term sensual Dom, also erotic power exchange. To me more d/s less s/m

 

[Strixaluco]

But the local community? Oh yes. It has grown stronger after that, and there are surprisingly many little. The association even has a discord server, with one channel for little stuff. Those who are visibly little are, well, seemingly in majority. (In the bdsm scene in this country some even think that being little always means having a little a@e or regressing. So I'm actually kind of keeping the flag up for my more subtle kind of littleness. But it feels good to be able to have spaces to be little in and not just at home.

 

[Strixaluco]

I have never been a very social person. Definitely have social anxiety. So, I have never been to any local events. I like the term sensual Dom, also erotic power exchange. To me more d/s less s/m

The events tend to be full of neurodivergent people, and also nervous newcomers are common. Not speaking and just observing is usually totally OK.

And you can also have D/s without any S/m at all. The amount of B and D may vary, too.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have never been a very social person. Definitely have social anxiety. So, I have never been to any local events. I like the term sensual Dom, also erotic power exchange. To me more d/s less s/m

I'm not a social butterfly, either. I know it doesn't seem like that! I  can put my adulting on and "make things happen" but walking into a situation cold? Yikes!

One Litster encouraged me to do it as soon as I could where I lived, and do it again after my move...and I chickened out using my move as an excuse. So, then, the advice was to message the leader of the munch and tell them my fears. Get with them first and let them introduce you to other "regulars". Then, find a group that is talking, and TALK too. If they get quiet, find another one. Basically, never shut up and allow my fears to overwhelm me.

It worked! Soon, I was other people's "anchor".

 

[dawn_of_night]

I joined fet life about 10-12 years ago? I don't know for sure... But it was definitely in a different time of my life ...
I'm not sure now I'd be able to make it happen.
When the opportunity was there, I found it difficult to connect with established groups.
Just me obviously, and I never tried again after that first summer ....
And now I hang out here and look for that connection I crave.
I think it works for what it's worth, maybe not for everyone.... Obviously.

 

[CuriousRick]

Good night everyone. Time for a soak then bed.

 

[dawn_of_night]

Good night everyone. Time for a soak then bed. View attachment 2555233

Looks good!

 

[CuriousRick]

Thank you! It is a luxury I am glad I could afford! I am in it at least once a day if not twice. Even when it’s hot

 

[CuriousRick]

Looks good!

Room for more hop on in!

 

[dawn_of_night]

Room for more hop on in!

Uhm....
I don't have a suit....

 

[dawn_of_night]

You are assuming I am wearing one!!

Lol

I was.... But I'm not anymore ... Lol

 

[barefootgirl69]

You might want to continue in PM and not take over the thread, please.

 

[CuriousRick]

You might want to continue in PM and not take over the thread, please.

Sorry let me get rid of a few j

 

[barefootgirl69]

I'm not trying to. I'm just joking.

It's okay.