Why is Phone/Voice sex on the decline?

[kymusicguy]

I’ve done voice a few times but never live phone sex, it seems intimidating tbh

I think you would be good at it

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I used to not like my voice, but since I have done lots of audios here for lit listeners, and have received VERY + feedback.... I enjoy using my voice to make others cum

 

[Hmmmmaybe]

Don’t go in cold. Get to know them. Even have an explicitly non sex call. If they are empathetic then they will be a guide when you start the naughty stuff. It’s so fun.

This is exactly why I haven’t had super great experiences trying it. I grew up talking on the phone, and it’s such a great way to get to know someone and make a connection. It’s terrible that so many people have phone anxiety now.

 

[spawnofdavey]

Not sure it is. I'm having the time of my life exploring the possibilities of phone sex.

 

[Noor]

Lack of decent partners?

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I LOVE phone/voice sex. Hearing the other persons excitement in your ear.. the change in breathing as they change pace.. the ultimate pinnacle when they cum. I cum SO hard doing that. Well, with someone who is vocal. Dead silence doesn’t get me off.

I'm thinking that I would love to hear your voice.
And for you to hear mine, if you were so inclined.
The new thing seems to be recording voice messages and posting them.
What makes phone sex work, when it is hot, is knowing that you are hearing it while it happens, and the chance to share the experience.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Hot naughty phone playdefinitely trips my trigger!!!

 

[live4thebj]

I have brought this up earlier but the thrill of voice/phone conversations with a stranger as you get to know each other and become intimate, is just another dimension of excitement and pleasure.

Why is it on the decline here on Lit? Anyone care to shed some light?

currently 51. The last time I say you can call what we did was phone sex was in my 30’s with this oversexual mom who was using the Hitachi Magic Wand on herself while getting to know me. The sex was actually lame with her.

Before that it was lack of internet or better put technology.

 

[athelticguy04]

I've always came the hardest with a woman on the phone

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I've always came the hardest with a woman on the phone

Same here!!!

 

[StrongMaster7]

There was a period many years ago when I did a lot of phone. I had a private trailer office and a WATTS line and privacy at home. I loved hearing the sexual excitement in a woman's voice, hearing them come. And that is what they seemed to enjoy as well, hearing me come. I kind of graduated from that to one-on-one video chat with a few carefully chosen women (at home only). That was even more exciting. When we moved, I lost that privacy and stopped.

One cautionary tale. I met a woman online and she seemed VERY hot. We chatted typing back and forth and she suggested phonesex. Stupidly, I gave her my cell number. We had great phonesex and I thought we were done. That Saturday, I come inside from doing yardwork and my cell is ringing. My wife was going to answer, but she saw me and I picked it up. It was the phonesex woman, drunk out of her mind!!! She was cursing and slurring and it would have been a disaster if... So, be aware that while most people are safe and sane, not all are.

 

[Noor]

There was a period many years ago when I did a lot of phone. I had a private trailer office and a WATTS line and privacy at home. I loved hearing the sexual excitement in a woman's voice, hearing them come. And that is what they seemed to enjoy as well, hearing me come. I kind of graduated from that to one-on-one video chat with a few carefully chosen women (at home only). That was even more exciting. When we moved, I lost that privacy and stopped.

One cautionary tale. I met a woman online and she seemed VERY hot. We chatted typing back and forth and she suggested phonesex. Stupidly, I gave her my cell number. We had great phonesex and I thought we were done. That Saturday, I come inside from doing yardwork and my cell is ringing. My wife was going to answer, but she saw me and I picked it up. It was the phonesex woman, drunk out of her mind!!! She was cursing and slurring and it would have been a disaster if... So, be aware that while most people are safe and sane, not all are.

Use something else like teams for voice, not your phone number.
Phone sex doesn’t automatically mean a one night stand. Be clear of your intentions from the beginnning. Some phone sex relationships go on for decades.

 

[Noor]

They sound of wanking that men make can be distracting, it can take you out of fantasy into reality. Why is it there sometimes but not others? Is it because they are using lotion?

 

[EktachromeJP]

old school Lit...I feel like It happened quite a bit (or at least semi-frequently) for me. It feels like women were more likely to engage back then, but my gut tells me they had some bad experiences with some of the guys here (or elsewhere) and likely aren't as open to it.

seems like it would be easier now, back then i had a google voice number (do those even exist anymore?).

That said...its likely supply and demand related. Ample supply...to meet the demand.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

They sound of wanking that men make can be distracting, it can take you out of fantasy into reality. Why is it there sometimes but not others? Is it because they are using lotion?

It never occurred to me to put the phone next to my cock. It was always about my voice (at my end, but hers too), both the words I used to describe, and the way my arousal and release sound in my voice.

 

[annmsguy]

I THINK that…
Sometimes a woman’s need to concentrate on what she is feeling and fantasizing makes it hard to carry the conversation and still be able to fully or adequately enjoy herself. Unfortunately, a lot of guys can’t or just don’t want to have to carry the conversation.

I don’t mind carrying it. Yes, I like it when a woman is able to give as good as she gets in the dialogue department. But if she needs me to carry it, I can and will. And I’ll enjoy it because I’m still getting to hear her sounds of pleasure…the sounds my voice is provoking. That jacks me up as much as anything she can say to excite me.

So my guess is some bad experiences with guys that can’t keep up their end or help keep up hers has cause a lot of women to just pass. But ladies, there are some of us out here that can speak well and have vocabulary and vivid imagination.

Suggestion…voice chat some without it being or becoming phone sex first and see how the conversation goes. If he can’t do it then, it’s not likely he will when his heart starts pounding. If he’s not interested in that type of a conversation then he’s probably not going to prioritize your needs during phone sex. The fact is that everything isn’t for everybody. And phone sex just is not for some.

My 2 cents.

 

[annmsguy]

They sound of wanking that men make can be distracting, it can take you out of fantasy into reality. Why is it there sometimes but not others? Is it because they are using lotion?

That very well could be what you are hearing. Or guys may make that noise on purpose because they think it will excite you the way hearing such noises from you would excite them. You could always ask about it and tell them it’s keeping you from concentrating. It might be a momentary buzzkill, but you can come back from that in a few minutes with some effort on both ends.

 

[annmsguy]

One cautionary tale. I met a woman online and she seemed VERY hot. We chatted typing back and forth and she suggested phonesex. Stupidly, I gave her my cell number. We had great phonesex and I thought we were done. That Saturday, I come inside from doing yardwork and my cell is ringing. My wife was going to answer, but she saw me and I picked it up. It was the phonesex woman, drunk out of her mind!!! She was cursing and slurring and it would have been a disaster if... So, be aware that while most people are safe and sane, not all are.

Yep. Never give out your number. I use Google chat with an email address used only for that purpose.

 

[CLK5002005]

Yep. Never give out your number. I use Google chat with an email address used only for that purpose.

Agreed…that keeps it all anonymous and allows you to have fun

 

[Pad_Foot]

Well? First Skype could be anonymous and free… and have video

Now? There are lots who want to go to some platforms where they can ask for money and nothing can be recorded.

So? Skype is gone, but I found the remote for Lovense is better than Skype. If both participants have toys? Well!

 

[Daddydude55]

I have brought this up earlier but the thrill of voice/phone conversations with a stranger as you get to know each other and become intimate, is just another dimension of excitement and pleasure.

Why is it on the decline here on Lit? Anyone care to shed some light?

I looooove voice n phone play

 

[Noor]

It never occurred to me to put the phone next to my cock. It was always about my voice (at my end, but hers too), both the words I used to describe, and the way my arousal and release sound in my voice.

I don’t think it’s next to their cocks because their voice is there, I think they are just loud.
I like listening to breath and voice changing

 

[Daddydude55]

I don’t think it’s next to their cocks because their voice is there, I think they are just loud.
I like listening to breath and voice changing

I'd so phone play with you

 

[Noor]

I think it’s fun if they get so involved, distracted, whatever that forget where they are and fall off their chair

 

[Daddydude55]

I think it’s fun if they get so involved, distracted, whatever that forget where they are and fall off their chair

Are you into phone play