Why is Phone/Voice sex on the decline?

[hrdmngd2find]

Interesting thread. I don't know that there is a decline of phone sex overall. There are more ways to have phone sex- voice and video options via different apps. I had a long-building online fling with a woman in Singapore who I met on okcupid, we had several sessions using whatsapp chat before we went to voice.

On literotica, I think people are just cautious about giving a number out, getting scammed, or snagging some kind of stalker or person who has bad boundaries.

To me the phone (voice) sex versus some kind of chat is a no brainer. It's way more erotic to add the voice and the sounds while you are keeping the hands free to do things. But, it's riskier and requires another layer of trust.

I have done phone sex two ways: 1) a directed masturbation session, where I am telling her what to touch, how to touch it, and so on, ostensibly so she can imagine I'm doing it to her. I'm stroking while I'm telling her what to touch.
2) a more fantasy-driven session where I'm creating a whole erotic story (with some degree of her interaction) while we both masturbate. In this method, she might be masturbating any number of ways, maybe matching what I say I'm doing when the story gets to that point, or maybe just imagining it while she rubs her clit or inserts something.

 

[rodeoclown]

It's not easy to do. I've wished for the same thing.

I have had a couple of video calls, it's not the same. I enjoy the phone call better, just my preference. I just wish I could find a regular partner so you get to know what makes them wet at the drop of a hat and they get to know how to make you super hard instantly with just words.

 

[FeistySubmissive]

I remember my hottest experience with phone sex we had met on an online roleplaying site and exchanged phone numbers she was single I was single but it would have been a long distance relationship and she was quite a bit younger then me

one night she calls me on the way to a party I tell her I wish I was taking her to that party that I would take her into a room as soon as we got there pin her down to the bed and fuck her on the spot make her mine(she was a sub and had been hoping to find a Master around the time we met) her answer to me was Master(said out of respect) I'm driving please don't start anything you can't finish...

I said I will help you finish pull the car over and start to play with your fucking pussy she Master I can't I can't cum using only my fingers and I don't have a toy with me I said you can and you will cum when i tell you to cum

We both came hard about 5 mins later

a few years later we met in real life to celebrate her birthday we were at a bar and for some reason she started talking to her fiance about role play and phone sex and she told him that the hardest she had ever cum from phone sex was that night with me

Um…. Fucking hell.

 

[amigayorbi]

good to see this thread has touched a few strings, and revived some old memories, all hope is not lost!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Phone for me is a super turn on. I crave it constantly!!!

 

[J D Danger]

Typing out moans is not nearly as good as actually hearing them, and there aren't always words for every second. I love written sex, but voice can be delicious if there is compatibility.

compatibility is key but once found phone sex can be alot of fun

 

[Illnevertell79]

The best part of voice sex is the aftercare

Many many people do not understand this and it is an immediate turn off. Coming from someone who like to get a little spicy on the phone if I could guess I'd say 1 out of every 20 men grasp this concept. I'm not sure about the ladies because well I just haven't done that.

 

[gregy70]

Many many people do not understand this and it is an immediate turn off. Coming from someone who like to get a little spicy on the phone if I could guess I'd say 1 out of every 20 men grasp this concept. I'm not sure about the ladies because well I just haven't done that.

I’m so glad to hear your response.
For me I like to be saved for one woman and so when I do cum it’s quite special state of surrender for me, so a lady just doing a wham bam on me leaves me feeling well not so great.

 

[Dishrag]

There are a bunch of apps we could use. Just ask me. Or tell me. Force me! Lol

 

[Photog1rl]

I don’t think it’s on the decline. I think folks just don’t use the phone/their phone numbers for it anymore.

 

[Dishrag]

Call me lol

 

[Smoothshavendad]

All I know is that I love hot phone play.

 

[DynamicFigure]

I've had some fun phone play over the years. 1. Helped someone achieve their best orgasm to date via phone. 2. From a post on Lit, I engaged in phone play that had me discover that I was a switch after being dominant all my life.

 

[SmokingFap]

People who are not good at phone sex are usually not good at texting either. You need imagination, and more importantly, you need to listen to your partner and interact with them.

I take umbrage with this. I'm amazing at sexting. But I just feel so goofy acting like I'm having sex with someone over the phone when I can't even see them. I might say, "Oh, fuck yeah, baby. That's it, right there. Your pussy feels amazing." But then burst out laughing at how ridiculous it sounds. Maybe it's because I rarely talk dirty when I'm having sex IRL. But in text, I can get most women off pretty easily.

 

[amigayorbi]

Could really use a voice chat partner these days

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Could really use a voice chat partner these days

A sexy, naughty phone call can be exhilarating!

 

[tnhardon]

I have brought this up earlier but the thrill of voice/phone conversations with a stranger as you get to know each other and become intimate, is just another dimension of excitement and pleasure.

Why is it on the decline here on Lit? Anyone care to shed some light?

To me, a lot of it has to do with the types of people you find that are into it. A lot of them are weird or simply not enjoyable to do it with. I’ve had more sessions than I can count where I’ve hung up less than two minutes in, just because it was giving me the ick.

When you find one that is good, it is quite the rush, though.

 

[BigEd1]

I still love phone/ voice, but I get off on being verbally humiliated and being called names by older guys. I do agree it is hard trying to find partners on here, I think a lot prefer cam.

 

[DynamicFigure]

Call me!

 

[CLK5002005]

I’ve done it on Skype and similar apps and had awesome experiences and chatted with some nice people. All with the intention of achieving a great orgasm ofc and if we got on a live call together, it’s never been a disappointment.
Again, through apps has been fine. I will always remain discrete here

 

[hulmule]

I think cam is better. I use whereby. On line now

 

[Dangerousliaisons]

Because fake females are out of the bag

 

[TheStefanSinadinovicLore]

Because sexting feels much better

 

[amigayorbi]

Because fake females are out of the bag

seriously, it's such a waste of time with guys pretending to be women!

is there a thread to report fake profiles?

 

[loveseethrough]

mmmm i've had some amazing voice chat experiences with other guys on whereby. so much fun to look at porn together, talk dirty, and stroke