I know you too well to share my kinks.

[hotwords229_A]

I am no way asking for particulars of their sexual, uh, liaisons.

OR ANYONE ELSE'S FOR THAT MATTER

Can you at least find out if they have an OnlyFans?

 

[Endless_Night]

Omg! Pervs.

I name no names, but you know who you are!

 

[lindi_85]

There are pervs here?!

On this site!?

 

[Taegul]

There are pervs here?!

On this site!?

Gasp

Huh? Someone call my name?

 

[Mo_Bandy]

I know one maybe two.

 

[lindi_85]

Sweet Jesus it’s like a bat signal

 

[Endless_Night]

Your discussion is fascinating. Sounds less sexual and more like a release-bond-codependency type situation ship . It almost sounds healthy

I missed this before, but . . . yes?

That's one of the things I continue to mull. It seems integral to their existence. For them, it's not a breech of ethics. I would be surprised if they even think about it in those terms.

(And to be clear, they don't cheat otherwise.)

 

[Mei5ter]

- They do not.
- I'm not sure how to answer as I'm not privy to all. I do know the first time was kicked off by the murder of someone they knew.
- Just one, I think. But somehow it often seems to be a stress that affects more than one individual.
- Uhhhhh. I'm not sure how too make this distinction?
- No. None of them is interested in a romantic relationship with any of the others.

Honestly, from what I've seen, the friendship bond seems to transcend most marriages.

You're sure this isn't a fever dream caused by you reading The Secret History after too much blue cheese?

 

[AveryElle]

There are pervs here?!

On this site!?

View attachment 2552676

The pervs! they're everywhere!
Just not when you want them to be

 

[Endless_Night]

You're sure this isn't a fever dream caused by you reading The Secret History after too much blue cheese?

Quite sure. I prefer a nice double-cream brie.


Thank you for the introduction of Donna Tartt! She was not on my radar and cleary needs to be read.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?
Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?
When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?
Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?
Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?
What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

It was always there but I do think its grown and developed new facets over time.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Definitely. In two ways, it gave me language to explain things. A shared language is so important. And it gave me the opportunity to safely talk to people who had experienced things I'd like to experience or people who shared a similar feeling or mindset as I did. This helped shake off shame and open up new avenues for my kink to be expressed.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

Lol, bit of both. Some people I find intriguing or their take on the thing is so novel or interesting that it makes my brain work overtime on my feelings about them. Some people are so rigid and closed minded OR was too over the top and dangerous that I just know who to avoid. I know when my vibe resonates with someone else's vibe in the right way.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

I have a pretty specific one that Ive been lucky enough to have a good experience once. I think that it will probably remain the stuff of fantasy moving forward. Fantasies get a bad rap though.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

It does! I just wish I had time to write more, finish a few things and start some thing else.

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

well that would give too much away!

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

I've had it my entire adult life.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Not really; I was involved in kink years before I discovered this site.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

Partially horrified, partially relatable. For me, its all in how people approach certain topics.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

Nope.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Participating in my kink scratched the itch LOL

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

Breeding; it lacks diversity.

 

[lindi_85]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

It’s always been there. I just wasn’t aware of it. It definitely explains a lot of my past sexual experiences and why, despite being a strong person, I was easy prey (so to speak). I’ve met many incredible people on here who have helped me learn what I like. One in particular has supported, encouraged, challenged, and adored me in ways I never thought possible.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Oh absofuckinglutely. Without lit and the people I’ve met here I would’ve had no clue. I’ve met besties and I have a person. I have discovered kinks I didn’t realise were kinks and discovered that I have an exhibition streak .

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

At first I wasn’t, but now I realise there is a dangerous side to it (and that could probably apply to any kink tbh). New members can be easy prey, and perhaps it’s not intentional from all parties but there’s a lot of pressure that comes from DMs which can be difficult to navigate at times. I think for a lot of us, loneliness led us here initially, and curiosity. It can be an interesting mix.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

Yes, in the sense that the few times I’ve mentioned it the DMs go nuts so I back off and hide again

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Oh my goodness yes. Not the writing, but the reading of stories. It also explained so much, like how my thoughts aren’t as gross or perverted than I’d once thought.

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

Hahahahahahaha nice try

 

[hotwords229_A]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

I think it’s been there forever.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Nope. It hasn’t really even developed it that much. But it is the thing that lead me here.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

Mostly horrified.
I occasionally peruse the Fetishes & Sexuality threads and I like a lot of the topics, but when I look into them I . . . kind of do the Homer Simpson back into the bushes thing.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

Yup.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Meh. There has been inspiration that sparked a “better” (in my mind) story, but not really. But also kind of.

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

CFNM is my thing. I’m a closet exhibitionist.
Of course, being an exhibitionist in the closet where no one can see you is also like not being an exhibitionist.
Schrödinger’s Exhibitionism?

Anyway, CFNM usually deals with degradation and humiliation, two things I want no part of. I like when it’s just sexy fun for all parties, and it can proceed from there. But, it seems, most of it is domination, humiliation, degradation—all stuff I have no interest in.

Can’t anyone just get sexily embarrassed without all the dark stuff?

 

[Apisto42]

Mostly horrified.
I occasionally peruse the Fetishes & Sexuality threads and I like a lot of the topics, but when I look into them I . . . kind of do the Homer Simpson back into the bushes thing.

I agree with this so much. I used to look through F&S threads, but they generally just get gross or stupid quickly.

 

[Apisto42]

You beat me to it!

Liar. You’re always beating it.

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

No. I just love sex in its many and varied forms. If I had to define a kink, it’d be “new”.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Nope. But it did let me learn about a lot of stuff I’d never considered, so yes?

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

See above. I’m generally horrified by people on a regular basis. So it’s pretty normal horrific.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

Nope. I’m willing to dip a toe, cock and tongue into whatever floats a little man in a boat.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

No, just something I enjoy doing. Writing is fun (while occasionally laborious).

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

Honestly, nothing cums to mind.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

I’d say that there is a general “umbrella kink” that I have always had ( sure, we will go with that term), and over time, my eyes have been opened to new ways to express and enjoy it.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

Yes, I’d say so. It’s provided a safe space to discuss and explore. It gave me ideas, and has been a supportive venue.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

That’s not usually an issue for me but sometimes I feel like I don’t belong there because I don’t know enough about the subject to hold up my end of the conversation. As far as being horrified by the people there, from time to time, there is an outlier that might be alarming, but I haven’t seen too many of those. People that might have different viewpoints than I do are interesting to me. I like to see a range of opinions, as long as we aren’t crossing anything extreme or illegal, or not listening to people’s boundaries.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

No

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Yes

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

Oh wow. Hmm. I know it might not be everybody’s cup of tea…but I’ll go out on a ledge and say that under the breeding kink, my fantasies also contain milk. I felt so feminine and powerful when I had milk, and so reviving that feeling, and sharing that in a sensual way is in my fantasies a lot. I’d like to see more attention to those scenes. Sometimes those scenes can lean towards a Domme type feel which is not really my natural inclination, so that’s not the direction I’d want to see. But more part of the breeding kink where she is celebrated and He is proud of her being His and her milk is yet another sign of that and what they’ve created together.

Idk. Don’t mind me. I’m not explaining that well. But it works for me.

 

[lilmissdarling]

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

I think it became more fully developed on Lit. It all still has the same major theme. But its just grown to include other types of "kinks".

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others?

Yes. Because Im awkward as hell and an introvert. But that's totally on me.

 

[Apisto42]

I’d say that there is a general “umbrella kink” that I have always had ( sure, we will go with that term), and over time, my eyes have been opened to new ways to express and enjoy it.

Yes, I’d say so. It’s provided a safe space to discuss and explore. It gave me ideas, and has been a supportive venue.

That’s not usually an issue for me but sometimes I feel like I don’t belong there because I don’t know enough about the subject to hold up my end of the conversation. As far as being horrified by the people there, from time to time, there is an outlier that might be alarming, but I haven’t seen too many of those. People that might have different viewpoints than I do are interesting to me. I like to see a range of opinions, as long as we aren’t crossing anything extreme or illegal, or not listening to people’s boundaries.

No

Yes

Oh wow. Hmm. I know it might not be everybody’s cup of tea…but I’ll go out on a ledge and say that under the breeding kink, my fantasies also contain milk. I felt so feminine and powerful when I had milk, and so reviving that feeling, and sharing that in a sensual way is in my fantasies a lot. I’d like to see more attention to those scenes. Sometimes those scenes can lean towards a Domme type feel which is not really my natural inclination, so that’s not the direction I’d want to see. But more part of the breeding kink where she is celebrated and He is proud of her being His and her milk is yet another sign of that and what they’ve created together.

Idk. Don’t mind me. I’m not explaining that well. But it works for me.

I thought you explained it very well

 

[Mei5ter]

CFNM is my thing. I’m a closet exhibitionist.
Of course, being an exhibitionist in the closet where no one can see you is also like not being an exhibitionist.
Schrödinger’s Exhibitionism?

A superpervition of states?

Anyway, CFNM usually deals with degradation and humiliation, two things I want no part of. I like when it’s just sexy fun for all parties, and it can proceed from there. But, it seems, most of it is domination, humiliation, degradation—all stuff I have no interest in.

Not that I have ever researched such things...obviously...but there seem to be very different flavours of CFNM. There's one where clothing is emblematic of power, and the naked man is humiliated and inferior before the clothed and empowered woman. Like you, that's not my thing. But there's another which is very different, and which CFNM videos often show as bachelorette parties, where the naked man is objectified and desired by the clothed women watching him. Zero humiliation - if anything, it's the opposite - and the man gets to feel the thrill of being the object of the women's raw desire. I suspect you may already know this, but it's an excellent example of why labels and "genres" are so often completely hopeless, because although both get lumped under CFNM they're totally different things.

Can’t anyone just get sexily embarrassed without all the dark stuff?

What's wrong with the dark stuff?

Breeding; it lacks diversity.

Especially in Lit's incest stories.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Oh my goodness yes. Not the writing, but the reading of stories. It also explained so much, like how my thoughts aren’t as gross or perverted than I’d once thought.

I think that this, even when I’ve decided that Lit isn’t a good fit for me and I have taken long breaks, this is what pulls me back. I feel like there is some comfort in knowing that there is a community who values this sexual side of ourselves and needs to express it.

 

[Mei5ter]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

For me, this comes down to dynamics and relationships, which are shaped by both of you.

I like @Love_Is_Blonde 's term 'umbrella kink', and not just because pushing that button up from the sensuously curved handle and hearing the soft swoosh of the spokes sliding against the shaft as it proudly tents over your head...sorry, where was I? Oh yes. Umbrella kink. My sexual tastes have remained broadly similar for as long as I've been sexually active. I suppose, stripped to their basics, I like doing things to people and being in control in the bedroom, and I'm extremely bad at having things done to me and even worse at being helpless. But exactly how that primal desire manifests itself will depend on my partner, what she likes as much as what i like, and the wider dynamic of our relationship.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

It helped me understand it and explore it, yes. Lit drives me mad, but it's the only safe place I've found where I can do that. But I'm afraid my sexual tastes are just innate. They haven't really changed, but I do understand them better.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

Yes. Both. It's liberating to know it's not just you, but the gatekeeping is extremely tedious, and the labels are worse.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

No. I have a few niche ones, but nothing on the "I can only orgasm in the presence of a dead badger and molasses while listening to BTS" scale. My bases are covered just fine.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Writing did. I stopped though.

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

My kinks are getting all the attention they need, thank you!

 

[luvzmature]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?

I don't think I have a predominate kink, I have many, many fetishes that have grown and ebbed over time, but I have always known, even from a young age, that I was more into sexual thoughts and deeds than most. It used to concern me, a lot, but as I grew and found they didn't consume me, they were easier to accept. IRL I keep most things hidden, not that anything is harmful or unlawful, but vulnerability has always been a double-edged sword and seems to slice a limb off the trust tree, at least for me. I want to be vulnerable but not everyone is worthy of it. I learned that early in a bad marriage with my ex-wife.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?

It's certainly opened new doors and brought to light nuance that I hadn't seen. I've found for most people, me included, sex is a slippery slope. In the profound words of the Doobie Brothers; "what were once vices are now habits" so let's do it again. Lit has played a huge role in this

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?

I am not a judgmental person, to each their own as long as you do no harm

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?

No, nothing stands out.

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?

Indeed they do. I love to read and get immersed in a good author's works

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?

Family dynamic- cousins, aunts-nephews, drunken days or evenings that lead to forbidden encounters. There is a lot of that genre on Lit, but there can always be more.

 

[Erosfan]

I think it’s been there forever.

Nope. It hasn’t really even developed it that much. But it is the thing that lead me here.

Mostly horrified.
I occasionally peruse the Fetishes & Sexuality threads and I like a lot of the topics, but when I look into them I . . . kind of do the Homer Simpson back into the bushes thing.

Yup.

Meh. There has been inspiration that sparked a “better” (in my mind) story, but not really. But also kind of.

CFNM is my thing. I’m a closet exhibitionist.
Of course, being an exhibitionist in the closet where no one can see you is also like not being an exhibitionist.
Schrödinger’s Exhibitionism?

Anyway, CFNM usually deals with degradation and humiliation, two things I want no part of. I like when it’s just sexy fun for all parties, and it can proceed from there. But, it seems, most of it is domination, humiliation, degradation—all stuff I have no interest in.

Can’t anyone just get sexily embarrassed without all the dark stuff?

My thoughts on CFNM are very much like yours. Humiliation and degradation are not for me. Another aspect I have no interest in is cuckoldry. I am not and have never been a cuck. My experience with CFNM has been in a loving, nurturing environment. A real love born of trust and understanding. With that woman, I am hers and she knows it. She is gentle and loving and ready to take me/us to places that the two of us will enjoy and share. I consider it something like gentle femdom.