When to take that chat to PM or Lit Chat

[MaturemanAJ]

Just like @cheekygirl75 said, it depends.

It’s common here for men to complain that women don’t reply to their PMs, but women also complain about unsolicited (especially sexual) PMs.

I get that, I like to chat to get to know someone to make sure we have common interests non sexual and sexual.

 

[SamaelThicke]

Yes

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

It's different with every encounter. I speak only for myself here - connection. Connection is what draws me towards possibly taking it offline.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's different with every encounter. I speak only for myself here - connection. Connection is what draws me towards possibly taking it offline.

We're not talking about taking it off of this site, only about when not take over threads with "sexy time".

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

We're not talking about taking it off of this site, only about when not take over threads with "sexy time".

Thank you for clearing that up for me!

 

[SamaelThicke]

Well it depends on the mood and vibe

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Well it depends on the mood and vibe

Well, it depends on whether or not it’s super intimate and not appropriate for the public thread. If things are getting vibey like that, make a new thread just for it with an appropriate title so people know what’s up or take it to PM.

 

[JesseWallace]

What’s the actual success rate with PMs though? I can imagine a lot get ignored, but I guess it depends on whether you’ve built rapport in the larger threads and there’s something there … I’m certainly not averse to meeting someone I click with and taking our conversation one-to-one.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

What’s the actual success rate with PMs though? I can imagine a lot get ignored, but I guess it depends on whether you’ve built rapport in the larger threads and there’s something there … I’m certainly not averse to meeting someone I click with and taking our conversation one-to-one.

I would certainly hope that if people are talking to each other in a thread in a way that makes people want to say “Get a room,” that they would have a high success rate of getting a response from each other via PM. That’s what this thread is about, not general meeting people or introductions, not just playful banter, it’s about taking over threads with “get a room” type of back and forth posting.

 

[JesseWallace]

I would certainly hope that if people are talking to each other in a thread in a way that makes people want to say “Get a room,” that they would have a high success rate of getting a response from each other via PM. That’s what this thread is about, not general meeting people or introductions, not just playful banter, it’s about taking over threads with “get a room” type of back and forth posting.

Ah yes, if you strike out there then something’s very wrong - haha - or your partner just prefers to be watched.

Thanks for clarifying for me.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

@Samantha47 and @wo

Folks, we get it. “Lit’s a sex forum,” right? Well, yes, but it’s also a community with much more going on in the threads than cyber sex. There are lots of places to get your freak on here:

You could take it to PM.

You could take it to Lit Chat (there’s also a private room feature that is probably more satisfying for most for cyber play. Unlike PMs, the posts won’t stick around forever - which will be preferred by some and not by others).

You could take it to the Sexual Role Playing forum (which also has rules, expectations, and norms. Read the stickies).

Make your own thread and title it appropriately so people know what they are about to read. (And if people come in your thread and criticize or try to take over, report the posts).

What you shouldn’t do: take over threads with sexy times. People aren’t consenting to be part of it, even though this is a sex based site.

@Samantha47 and @Worzel550 Please read this and take note. Inboxes exist. Lit Chat exists. One of you, I’m nearly positive, is looking for marks, so public play is more likely to get that attention. But public play in a discussion forum is not welcome. Take it somewhere private or start a RP thread in the appropriate forum.

 

[zcraft5]

All PMs are private. Click on the envelope in the tool bar at the top or click on someone’s profile and, from there, click “start conversation.” As long as they have PMs enabled, you can send them a direct message this way.

NO PRIVATE EVERY ONE SEES MY RESPONSE WHEN THEY SEARCH FOR ME

 

[barefootgirl69]

NO PRIVATE EVERY ONE SEES MY RESPONSE WHEN THEY SEARCH FOR ME

They might see your posts, but no one but you and the person you're talking to sees what's in PM. "Private Messages"

 

[mrdeeds7625]

What is etiquette for sending a random private message, I sent one today and didn’t get a response?

 

[barefootgirl69]

What is etiquette for sending a random private message, I sent one today and didn’t get a response?

Etiquette is waiting patiently because someone might not be around - and realizing they may never respond. No one is obligated to return messages.

 

[mrdeeds7625]

Etiquette is waiting patiently because someone might not be around - and realizing they may never respond. No one is obligated to return messages.

I agree, just making sure I didn’t make a faux pas.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I agree, just making sure I didn’t make a faux pas.

It really depends on the content of the message. Unsolicited sexual text messages are not well received by many women. A greeting, a message referencing something from one’s profile or a thread post, things like this are often well received. But, also be aware that a large percentage of people who participate here are not looking to meet people. Some assume that participating here is a clear indicator of being down for online sexcapades, but that’s not something that’s really safe to assume.

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

I can never access chat. Am I banded or something??

 

[barefootgirl69]

I can never access chat. Am I banded or something??

You'll need to ask the moderators on the Lit Chat Support forum.

https://forum.literotica.com/forums/literotica-chat-support-forum.70/

 

[Pad_Foot]

Guys? Wait until you are asked for pm’s or dm’s. Later for off site chat
Just WAIT!
Far safer!!
And NO DICK pics
Only dicks send dick pics… ever

Or? Learn your own lessons

Oddly the women here (for the most part?) are real women. Would you try all these things with a woman you just met??

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Guys? Wait until you are asked for pm’s or dm’s. Later for off site chat
Just WAIT!
Far safer!!
And NO DICK pics
Only dicks send dick pics… ever

Or? Learn your own lessons

Oddly the women here (for the most part?) are real women. Would you try all these things with a woman you just met??

There is some ridiculous thought that some men have that being on a “sex site” is implied consent. It’s even worse in Lit Chat.

You are absolutely correct with your last sentence there: “Would you try all of these things with a woman you just met?” People need to keep this in mind.

 

[jonesinforfun82]

It's gonna be sticky alright

Let’s hope so

 

[Pad_Foot]

If you are lucky enough to get to private chat.
That does NOT mean that you are headed toward "sexy time"
Also... beware there are many MANY asking for your attention in DM's who are well? Not as they seem.

HOW can one "check" if your new friend is who they represent themselves to be without insulting them??
Should you even care? (one question mark!)

This is not to say that if someone doesn't want to engage in sexting that you should suspect they are not to be trusted. On the contrary, you probably have just endangered a real relationship by suggesting that you want sex from them. Treat people as REAL people. You wouldn't expect your sister to do "sexy" things with a stranger over a first or second "coffee" date, would you?

 

[barefootgirl69]

@Pad_Foot this thread was created to help people understand that their sexy chat taking over forum threads isn't always what people want to see. There's a time to either stop and enjoy that they had a titillating time, or go to PM and continue.

 

[Pad_Foot]

@Pad_Foot this thread was created to help people understand that their sexy chat taking over forum threads isn't always what people want to see. There's a time to either stop and enjoy that they had a titillating time, or go to PM and continue.

Sorry. I get that. Should I delete my post? Can and will do.