Cock Talk

[Apisto42]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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Not because it’s clever, but because it’s true​

We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Nope. If someone gives me the ick that’s it. There’s too many good tacos to eat to waste my time on a shitty taco.

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

For a long term relationship, you have to keep having new experiences to build on. Even just something like trying the new taco joint while you’re out running errands together.

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

Satisfaction is a choice.

 

[AmberLGreen]

This is why I’m always polite to people I’m drinking with.

Also, I’d like to meet Cherry someday. She sounds fabulous.

You don’t need to meet Cherry. Pull my hair, spit in my face and call me a whore and I will quite happily shit on you

 

[MindYaBitness]

Is there a manual? Afaf

I wish! Unfortunately, its one those figure-it-out-as-I-go type of things. A manual would have been SUPER helpful. Though, I wouldn't have survived my learning curve without the friends I'd made here (I'm looking at you @Lmizzler & @Mr_bogey )

 

[Apisto42]

I wish! Unfortunately, its one those figure-it-out-as-I-go type of things. A manual would have been SUPER helpful. Though, I wouldn't have survived my learning curve without the friends I'd made here (I'm looking at you @Lmizzler & @Mr_bogey )

If you’re looking for a good curve…

 

[EvaLane]

I could probably use a pity fuck. I’m not that proud that I’d turn down a good pity fuck.

But are you right for the job? ​

Related-but-not: I was once called a “risky hire” because of my lack of experience and education. Bold of them to admit that after I’d already proven I was the best thing to happen to them. Y’know, aside from the petty theft

Anyway, let’s apply that logic to sex:

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?

Do you have a solid résumé to back it up or are you more of a hands on learner?

Are you anxiously awaiting your next performance review or are you planning on a raise?

Bonus points if you’ve ever been promoted for extracurricular excellence and would like to share with the class how you achieved such excellence

 

[Qky75]

But are you right for the job? ​

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Related-but-not: I was once called a “risky hire” because of my lack of experience and education. Bold of them to admit that after I’d already proven I was the best thing to happen to them. Y’know, aside from the petty theft

Anyway, let’s apply that logic to sex:

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?

I think that depends on your preconceived notions vs how well you know me. A sure thing doesn't always mean a good thing.

Do you have a solid résumé to back it up or are you more of a hands on learner?

Ive either been with liars or I seemed to have done the job well as I've never had negative comments about my performance. Ive found success in treating every encounter as a listening and hands on experience.

 

[Endless_Night]

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?

I might be a tad capricious.

 

[lavendersilk]

But are you right for the job? ​

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Related-but-not: I was once called a “risky hire” because of my lack of experience and education. Bold of them to admit that after I’d already proven I was the best thing to happen to them. Y’know, aside from the petty theft

Anyway, let’s apply that logic to sex:

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?

Do you have a solid résumé to back it up or are you more of a hands on learner?

Are you anxiously awaiting your next performance review or are you planning on a raise?

Bonus points if you’ve ever been promoted for extracurricular excellence and would like to share with the class how you achieved such excellence

https://imgur.com/a/rRAqu4q

 

[Mei5ter]

I could probably use a pity fuck. I’m not that proud that I’d turn down a good pity fuck.

I think I'd sign up for eternal celibacy in preference to pity fucks, but that won't surprise those who know me.

But this got me thinking. The term 'pity fuck' just sounds so unspeakably ghastly that if I thought anyone were offering me one, even declining politely might be hard. But there are plenty of stories on Lit where s/he comes back to the shared apartment after another disastrous date and their friend helps relieve that frustration and disappointment, and I do like those for...reasons.

So if @hotwords229_A will excuse me asking this here:

Are pity fucks and FWBs a Venn diagram or a spectrum? Asking as someone with experience of neither?

 

[Apisto42]

I think I'd sign up for eternal celibacy in preference to pity fucks, but that won't surprise those who know me.

But this got me thinking. The term 'pity fuck' just sounds so unspeakably ghastly that if I thought anyone were offering me one, even declining politely might be hard. But there are plenty of stories on Lit where s/he comes back to the shared apartment after another disastrous date and their friend helps relieve that frustration and disappointment, and I do like those for...reasons.

So if @hotwords229_A will excuse me asking this here:

Are pity fucks and FWBs a Venn diagram or a spectrum? Asking as someone with experience of neither?

To be clear, I was joking. Though I’d definitely fuck @EvaLane in the confessional booth if given the chance.

To answer your question: I don’t believe in FWB, I think one person in that scenario is always wanting/hoping for more. Same with pity fucks. So it’s probable that the Venn diagram would be the most apt comparison.

 

[Endless_Night]

To answer your question: I don’t believe in FWB, I think one person in that scenario is always wanting/hoping for more.

Do you really think so? I feel like this exists.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

I have to at least like someone to want to fuck them. There's got to be some kind of attraction for me. Physically, emotionally, cognitively, etc.

I've certainly fucked people I wasn't sure how much I liked them. Sex helped me figure out how I feel.

Ah, that post but clarity
(Or delightful delusion that comes after five orgasms and a substantive loss of bodily fluids)


Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

Before: a stranger who I knew I wanted to get to know better. Someone I felt compelled to be sexual with, even though I hadn't picked up the physical attraction yet.

During: someone who blew my mind and provided a safe space to have outstanding sex.

After: a lover who I'm falling deeper in to in a way that is really sustainable and delicious. A dear friend who I want to continue fucking, snuggling, kissing, and eventually traveling with.

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

I learnt to listen to a different voice within me.
Before I would have demanded a physical attraction with deep lust on order to have sex.
Now I'm listening to a deeper, erotic voice who demands emotional safety. My sexual confidence is skyrocketing now that I have a safe container to practice in.

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?
There's a concept called "New Relationship Energy". That will certainly burn out in time. That can be replaced with eroticism, but that takes intention and skill. Sex is like any other hobby- it can require a time commitment to hone your skills and it should be enjoyable

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

Ding Ding Ding!!
Of course it was about me.
Everything is going on in my brain. The way I'm interpreting the world. My warped perception of what's going on.

Relationships are where we learn the most about ourselves

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I think I'd sign up for eternal celibacy in preference to pity fucks, but that won't surprise those who know me.

But this got me thinking. The term 'pity fuck' just sounds so unspeakably ghastly that if I thought anyone were offering me one, even declining politely might be hard. But there are plenty of stories on Lit where s/he comes back to the shared apartment after another disastrous date and their friend helps relieve that frustration and disappointment, and I do like those for...reasons.

So if @hotwords229_A will excuse me asking this here:

Are pity fucks and FWBs a Venn diagram or a spectrum? Asking as someone with experience of neither?

For what it's worth, I'm excellent at the "pity fuck".

Although the way I approach it is as a healing balm of an experience for someone I love dearly who is in a lot of pain. Intimacy and touch can be such as important need during hard times. It's an honor when I can show up for my friends in this way.

And I'm grateful when they show the same kindness to me in ghastly times.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?
My first instinct was risky, but I actually think I'm more solid than I give myself credit for.

Do you have a solid résumé to back it up or are you more of a hands on learner?
I make a living out of diving in deep in to companies that are experiencing issues and just need help figuring out what the hell is going on and get things back on track. I have to follow my instincts and keep an open mind.

These are excellent qualities both at work, and more importantly when not at work.

Are you anxiously awaiting your next performance review or are you planning on a raise?

Baby, in this economy... I demand to be met with exactly what I'm worth

Bonus points if you’ve ever been promoted for extracurricular excellence and would like to share with the class how you achieved such excellence

I'm so glad you asked.
I earned mad street cred after being fisted recently
There's video. No (most of) you can't see it.

 

[EvaLane]

I earned mad street cred after being fisted recently

I was genuinely out here, a 29 year old woman, thinking fisting meant, y’know, an actual fist knuckles out, bar brawl style.

Butttt from what I’ve gathered, it’s more of a squid glide situation? Less punching and more… plunging?

I’m not asking for the video, but could you help a previously un-fisted Litster understand I don’t even know what to ask because I know so little about the experience and it’s 4:40AM but let me try -

How did your partner react, were they experienced or just enthusiastic? Would either of you do it again? Is it something you’d recommend to a curious friend, or more of a “you had to be there” moment?

Was it something you planned and talked about or more heat-of-the-moment? How did you feel afterward, physically, emotionally?

️ you deserve all the gold stars, flowers, chocolates, and admiration for your service.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Would you be considered a risky hire, or are you a sure thing?

Nothing risky here. I'm very reliable.

Do you have a solid résumé to back it up or are you more of a hands on learner?

Not the longest resume but I'm comfortable with it. But hey, hands-on is a great way to learn more, right?

Are you anxiously awaiting your next performance review or are you planning on a raise?

Not really anxious nowadays. I know what I'm about.
That said, always room for more raises!

Bonus points if you’ve ever been promoted for extracurricular excellence and would like to share with the class how you achieved such excellence

I'm afraid that's paywalled content

 

[chame1eon]

I was genuinely out here, a 29 year old woman, thinking fisting meant, y’know, an actual fist knuckles out, bar brawl style.

Butttt from what I’ve gathered, it’s more of a squid glide situation? Less punching and more… plunging?

I’m not asking for the video, but could you help a previously un-fisted Litster understand I don’t even know what to ask because I know so little about the experience and it’s 4:40AM but let me try -

How did your partner react, were they experienced or just enthusiastic? Would either of you do it again? Is it something you’d recommend to a curious friend, or more of a “you had to be there” moment?

Was it something you planned and talked about or more heat-of-the-moment? How did you feel afterward, physically, emotionally?

️ you deserve all the gold stars, flowers, chocolates, and admiration for your service.

That's what I thought fisting was too lol

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Well, it's both. The squid is good for stretching, but the punching is intensely delightful.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm afraid that's paywalled content

How much are we talking here?
I've got enough curiosity and a dozen dollars to spare

 

[LadyLascivious1]

There's video. No (most of) you can't see it.

Now I’m insanely curious (actually that’s my default state, but it’s now an elevated insanely curious) what type of conditions do you have for sharing such a cool and intimate experience?

Asking for me, of course

 

[jason28053]

Now I’m insanely curious (actually that’s my default state, but it’s now an elevated insanely curious) what type of conditions do you have for sharing such a cool and intimate experience?

Asking for me, of course

Same!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'm so glad you asked.
I earned mad street cred after being fisted recently
There's video. No (most of) you can't see it.

You also earned mad incontinence and a trip to the diaper aisle.

Was it something you planned and talked about or more heat-of-the-moment? How did you feel afterward, physically, emotionally?

I don’t think one can casually slip in a fisting. Like, one might “slip” their dick into the wrong hole. But even that, it’s more like a knock at the door. You’re not barging in like the SWAT team.

But a fist? No. That doesn’t just happen casually. I have zero experience fisting and it will remain that way. However, there’s no way it happens without a LONG conversation and a bunch of illicit drugs.

Dammit, @aussiegeekygal. You gave your first blowjob and fisting within like two months of each other. That’s just bizarre. Those things should be decades apart. At this rate, gonna be shooting electric eels out of your twat by July 4th.

Let freedom ring.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Now I’m insanely curious (actually that’s my default state, but it’s now an elevated insanely curious) what type of conditions do you have for sharing such a cool and intimate experience?

Barry White, candlelight and cocaine.

 

[EvaLane]

But a fist? No. That doesn’t just happen casually. I have zero experience fisting and it will remain that way. However, there’s no way it happens without a LONG conversation and a bunch of illicit drugs.

Coming from the Playgrounds resident puppet, I’m inclined to believe you, but I dunno… you just talk like a man with first-hand and forearm experience

 

[AtramentousRex]

My hands are positively huge and so there will be no fisting from me. And before anyone asks, NO I wont be on the receiving end either! A finger, tongue or dildo are one thing, but not a whole fuckin hand!. I'm too old for that shit.

...don't you dare. *glares @Lord Pmann *