Cock Talk

[Endless_Night]

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Nope.

Which makes all the other questions moot.

I have enough trouble managing sex with those I find attractive to consider it with those I am not.


I do, however, know of The Ick. So I'm counting this question set as a win since I so rarely know the sex terms bandied about.

Okay, so I didn't actually know it was called The Ick, but I knew what you were talking about!

 

[EvaLane]

Nope.

Which makes all the other questions moot.

I have enough trouble managing sex with those I find attractive to consider it with those I am not.


I do, however, know of The Ick. So I'm counting this question set as a win since I so rarely know the sex terms bandied about.

Okay, so I didn't actually know it was called The Ick, but I knew what you were talking about!

Interesting! There’s no one you’ve sort of avoided interacting with even online that sort of wiggled their way in eventually?

It doesn’t exactly have to be someone you didn’t like or get along with, just someone that was maybe in your peripheral.

Come onnnnnnnnn

@AtramentousRex this counts for you too I think

 

[Endless_Night]

Interesting! There’s no one you’ve sort of avoided interacting with even online that sort of wiggled their way in eventually?

It doesn’t exactly have to be someone you didn’t like or get along with, just someone that was maybe in your peripheral.

Come onnnnnnnnn

Nope.

I just don't function that way.

I've never grown any type of attraction. Not even with a platonic friend. I always hear these stories about people who've been friends for years and then suddenly *boom*.

If I'm not attracted right away it is never going to happen.

And if I'm not attracted in a sexual way . . . Nope.

I feel my answer is disappointing.

 

[EvaLane]

I feel my answer is disappointing.

No, not disappointing at all! Honestly, now I just have more questions as usual (you don’t have to answer them but this is what I’m wondering lol)

So if your attraction hits right away, does it fade just as sharply? Or once it’s there, is it pretty locked in?

I’m curious if when you are into someone, do their traits start to glow for you in ways they normally wouldn’t? Like, if someone you’re into plays the piano, does that suddenly become sexy in a way it wouldn’t if it were someone else?

Basically once your switch is flipped, does everything they do get filtered through that lens? And if that switch has been unswutched, what happened?

Absolutely not disappointing

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Good questions, @EvaLane These are making me think. Have I ever developed feelings of attraction for someone AFTER knowing them for a while?

Well, I tend to be attracted to people who are unique and do their own thing. That seems to be a common thread for me. I do not tend to go for men who are part of a big crowd, not that there’s anything wrong with that. But, since the common denominator is that they are their own unique person, sometimes it takes me a while to figure them out. Or to trust them. Or to see if they are even into me, because maybe they’re too different and we really have nothing at all in common other than I’m intrigued by them. So for that reason, sometimes the attraction takes a while to build.

Maybe not exactly what you meant but that’s how I’m answering it.

And there is never a pity fuck.

 

[EvaLane]

Where do I sign up for a pity fuck?

Is there an application I need to complete?

Ala Bonnie Blue, you can take a stub and get in line no need to compete.

 

[Endless_Night]

No, not disappointing at all! Honestly, now I just have more questions as usual (you don’t have to answer them but this is what I’m wondering lol)

*cracks knuckles*

So if your attraction hits right away, does it fade just as sharply? Or once it’s there, is it pretty locked in?

If an attraction hits right away, it is likely to remain pretty solid. If I, ahem, *do* anything about the attraction, it's locked in. The end.

I am rarely attracted. Even more rarely do I let that go forward. That may affect longevity.

I’m curious if when you are into someone, do their traits start to glow for you in ways they normally wouldn’t? Like, if someone you’re into plays the piano, does that suddenly become sexy in a way it wouldn’t if it were someone else?

They do. I tend to enjoy people who have different interests and knowledge bases than my own. If I become strongly sexually attracted or sexually attached, it's my tendency to start delving into their interests.

Basically once your switch is flipped, does everything they do get filtered through that lens? And if that switch has been unswutched, what happened?

Hmm. That's a tough one. Everything does get filtered to an extent, but I am still very aware of behaviors I would consider red flags.

I may choose to store that knowledge, rather than act on it, but I'm aware.

 

[LostHorizon]

Ala Bonnie Blue, you can take a stub and get in line no need to compete.

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That’s fine. As long as I am first on line.

Woah! This is the golden ticket!!!!! WooooooHooooooo!

 

[Mei5ter]

But exploring and figuring out the inner workings of someone you find alluring is half the fun. Learning just a tiny part of the unknowable is exciting, enthralling, and so incredibly hot

And thus your career in colorectal surgery began.

 

[Mei5ter]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

Firstly, the man in this picture is wearing white socks with black shoes. That's beyond ick. He's also left handed, which is crucial to the plot on page 172.

Secondly...my guess is that people's answers to these questions will correlate to whether they like casual/NSA/ONS sex or not. Some do, some don't; no right or wrong. But if you're someone who needs to feel strong attraction, built over time, before you'll even  consider having sex with someone, you're not going to fuck someone you didn't even think you liked.

Personally, my threshold for attraction and connection is, and always has been, set very high. I'm not sure that's necessarily a good thing - maybe you don't know how strong sexual chemistry will actually be until you actually try and see how you combine and react? But that's how I've always been, and I'm not changing.

Online, especially on sites like Lit, can feel different. You meet people differently. I don't spend lots of time in pic threads here, but I know what lots of Litsters look like naked even if I know nothing else about them beyond their screen name. And anyone who's here is here because it's a sex site. Sex is normalised here, and the rules feel different from the offline world. Before Lit I was on a fairly similar site where, for a while, I took advantage of that, played around more casually and had fun doing so (and I hope my partners did too). When you spend your offline life being utterly anonymous and invisible, as men quite quickly become, the online equivalent of picking up a girl in a bar for a naughty blowjob in the parking lot does give you a quick ego boost. It's a thrill knowing you can attract someone in that way. But I found the novelty wore off pretty quickly, and it confirmed my conviction that casual sex just doesn't work for me.

I don't think I'd be so ungentlemanly as to say that any of my online partners from that time gave me the ick. Some went on to become friends or partners. A few turned out to be Ms Right Now, and that was fine too. But not the ick.

 

[lavendersilk]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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Ah! Required reading grade 12.

We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

This has never happened to me. Either I'm attracted to someone or I'm not. No slow build for me.

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

If you are asking what attracts me, first thing is looks. It can be an outfit, a pair of glasses, height(I love tall people)... then sense of humor, being passionate about something... stuff like that.

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

I'm "attracted" to people that I don't want to have sex with, and I've found that out while starting to have sex with them, but go ahead and have sex with them anyway. That is the weird and complex thing about "sexual chemistry" for me.

I'm not sure if someone has done that to me. Lol, not sure if I should ask...

Who were they to you before?

Acquaintance.

Who were they to you during?

Date.

Who are they to you now?

Somebody that I used to know.

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Afterward I felt kinda bad because I didn't really get anything out of the exchange. It did make me feel kinda cheap if I'm being honest... a bit used. But I could have walked away, so it was on me.

I try not to put myself in situations like that anymore. I approach people I'm attracted to with caution. Take things a lot slower.

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Have I lost that "loving feeling?" Yes, I feel things very intensely at first and then it mellows out. But I enjoy the mellow period sometimes more because I can be more "real" if that makes sense. The "rose colored glasses" come off so to speak.

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

I think it is ultimately about me and what I'm needing at that time. I've never been in a long term relationship, so maybe I'm not the right person to answer this... I'm not satisfied at the end of the day because I'm not going to see that person again or for longer than a couple months anyway. I used to only look for FWB's, but now I'm finally looking for more.

 

[velona]

I’m not going to try to answer the exact questions as I don’t think I can…like I expect a lot of people, I have more than one side.

So on the one hand I’ve had very pleasurable one-night stands with people I didn’t know well, or at all, just the attraction, the spark, and the mutual desire to see where it would go.

On the other hand, I’ve had relationships end and the sexual chemistry die with it. The person still has the same physical attributes but the pull is just gone when the relationship ended (I’ve remained friends with some exes for many years, and it has never come back, yet).

And people definitely become more/less attractive to me as I get to know them. Not just that I learn about them and the attraction grows but my perception of their physical attractiveness changes. There are people I thought unattractive when I first met them who seem utterly beautiful to me once I really got to know them.

Either way I definitely have had the experience with people I just met or have know a long time when something changes and you just feel that current of sexual energy. And I agree that can be intoxicating!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

I feel so prudish. I’m very sheltered . None of this has ever happened to me.

 

[ScarletDaisy]

I feel so prudish. I’m very sheltered . None of this has ever happened to me.

You can hide with me under this rock right over here.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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Not because it’s clever, but because it’s true​

We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

So reading some replies I do think I have something that might be more responsive…but it’s mostly that attraction and sexual desire are not strongly correlated in my mind. There’s plenty of folks I meet and feel a spark with. And want to talk to and spend time with and am excited to see then they walk in the room (metaphorically or not). But that’s almost never driven by a need or desire to want to fuck them.

That is a desire that only arrives later. And needs to have some pretty clear hints that it’s desired. As I said plenty of times before I’ve only had two physical partners and both of those I dated for weeks before anything physical happened and months before sex was involved.

Even here on lit I’ve tried being a lit hoe once or twice. It’s not really pleasurable for me. The people I’ve been close with had immediate interest from me, but took a very long time to work up to that sort of intimacy.

I don’t put sex on a pedestal exactly but I don’t take it lightly either. I dunno. Brain just doesn’t work like that.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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Not because it’s clever, but because it’s true​

We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Never. If somebody gives me the ick, I cannot get past that. Even if later, I found them attractive, the ick would still be there and I wouldn’t be able to have sex with them

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

I have no response to these questions as it has never happened and never will

 

[EvaLane]

Interesting … not… weird for me or revealing in the slightest…

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I mean, really, it’s a bit hard for me to understand or believe that no one’s ever gone to school, or worked with, or interacted with someone who initially rubbed them the wrong way but developed an attraction to later.

I don’t mean anything heinous like suddenly finding yourself attracted to an intolerant person and I’m really not even talking about fucking someone you don’t like and then liking them more after, although I’m curious about that too, it’s more about how you got from A-to-Z and how the dynamics shifted afterwards.

Maybe I should’ve just asked you all what you’re wearing and if you’ve touched your (metaphorical) cock today, kept it simple

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Interesting … not… weird for me or revealing in the slightest…

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I mean, really, it’s a bit hard for me to understand or believe that no one’s ever gone to school, or worked with, or interacted with someone who initially rubbed them the wrong way but developed an attraction to later.

I don’t mean anything heinous like suddenly finding yourself attracted to an intolerant person and I’m really not even talking about fucking someone you don’t like and then liking them more after, although I’m curious about that too, it’s more about how you got from A-to-Z and how the dynamics shifted afterwards.

Maybe I should’ve just asked you all what you’re wearing and if you’ve touched your (metaphorical) cock today, kept it simple

I’m super judgmental. And very stubborn.

I can understand intellectually that these things happen. And that sometimes people might wanna fuck someone just for the experience or just because the moment or mood coincide or whatever other reason.

But like the reality of shutting my brain off and not worrying about tomorrow or next week or whenever because right now this person is here…not a thing I can do.

 

[lavendersilk]

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I do love reading "enemies to lovers" romance novels though. And it's a great rom-com trope.

Also, I usually sarcastically mock or insult someone as a casual way of flirting... with mixed results. I think it weeds out people who take themselves too seriously.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Interesting … not… weird for me or revealing in the slightest…

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I mean, really, it’s a bit hard for me to understand or believe that no one’s ever gone to school, or worked with, or interacted with someone who initially rubbed them the wrong way but developed an attraction to later.

I don’t mean anything heinous like suddenly finding yourself attracted to an intolerant person and I’m really not even talking about fucking someone you don’t like and then liking them more after, although I’m curious about that too, it’s more about how you got from A-to-Z and how the dynamics shifted afterwards.

Maybe I should’ve just asked you all what you’re wearing and if you’ve touched your (metaphorical) cock today, kept it simple

I have definitely been attracted to somebody I didn’t like originally. It might be a thing they do or say and I can think “they are worth one”. The problem is, the reason I didn’t like them originally will always be there and that would surface if I tried to get intimate with them.

I am wearing a green patterned summer dress, white bra and panties. Today ends in a Y so of course I have touched my metaphorical cock

ETA - A little story time for you. It is something that my friend did and she knows I tell people and is ok with that.

Once upon a time, a young woman named Cherry (name has been changed to protect the true identity of this amazing person) went to a house party. Cherry was a beautiful woman with a fuller figure. She oozed confidence and wasn’t short of male admirers.

At this particular party, there was a young fellow named Dick. His personality matched his name exactly.

All night, Dick kept poking fun at Cherry’s weight, making very upsetting comments. Near the end of the night, and after drinking several beers, Dick began to realise he was such a fucking knobhead that he wasn’t going to get laid with any of the women he had tried it on with. Cherry suddenly became his target. Now Cherry had really (and quite rightly) taken a dislike to the Knobhead but thought it would be fun to play along. Eventually, they left the party together and headed back to his house.

Cherry had mediocre sex (her description of it was worse) with the Knobhead and he fell straight asleep afterwards. Cherry is a very giving person and didn’t want to leave without giving him something to remember their night together. Knobhead was asleep on his back. Cherry positioned herself in a squat position over his chest. Making sure she was in the perfect place, she did a nice big shit on his chest. Climbing off him, she went to the bathroom, cleaned herself up and left his home with a big smile on her face.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Interesting … not… weird for me or revealing in the slightest…

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I mean, really, it’s a bit hard for me to understand or believe that no one’s ever gone to school, or worked with, or interacted with someone who initially rubbed them the wrong way but developed an attraction to later.

I don’t mean anything heinous like suddenly finding yourself attracted to an intolerant person and I’m really not even talking about fucking someone you don’t like and then liking them more after, although I’m curious about that too, it’s more about how you got from A-to-Z and how the dynamics shifted afterwards.

Maybe I should’ve just asked you all what you’re wearing and if you’ve touched your (metaphorical) cock today, kept it simple

Lol it always goes that opposite way for me babe! idk what to tell you. I think it's bc it takes a LOT for me to officially dislike someone. Benefit of the doubt, devils advocate, etc.

But if you have stories, I'm ALL ears!

 

[LostHorizon]

Interesting … not… weird for me or revealing in the slightest…

Okkkkkkk. So. You guys just fuck people you like and that’s that?

I mean, really, it’s a bit hard for me to understand or believe that no one’s ever gone to school, or worked with, or interacted with someone who initially rubbed them the wrong way but developed an attraction to later.

I don’t mean anything heinous like suddenly finding yourself attracted to an intolerant person and I’m really not even talking about fucking someone you don’t like and then liking them more after, although I’m curious about that too, it’s more about how you got from A-to-Z and how the dynamics shifted afterwards.

Maybe I should’ve just asked you all what you’re wearing and if you’ve touched your (metaphorical) cock today, kept it simple

I am wearing black pants, a dark blue ribbed polo, black shoes, and a grey suit jacket.

And no, I haven’t touched my metaphorical cock. I am waiting for the right metaphorical woman to slide into my DMs I guess.

I also haven’t touched my real cock much today other than to pee, wash it in the shower and move it out of the way once in a while.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Well I have a few hours so I may as wellllllllll

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Not because it’s clever, but because it’s true​

We all have them, the people we feel drawn to who aren’t much of anything until, suddenly, they’re something, aren’t they?

I want to know about who you found your self into - that well, you got into, y’know, with your cocks (or metaphorical cocks for those of us lacking).

We’ve all heard of the ick, but have you ever fucked someone you didn’t even like… until afterwards? Have you ever been the ick turned intoxicating? What changed? What clicked?

Who were they to you before? Who were they to you during? Who are they to you now?

What did the experience change for ABOUT you? Your self worth, your ego, your confidence - did it take a hit or did it boost something in you? Do you approach connections differently now? If so, how?

Do you think it always burns out? Should it? Are you ever tempted to check if the fire’s still burning hotter than you remember?

Or was it never really about them at all? Was it about feeding something you were missing at the time? Are you finally satisfied? Is it even possible?!

I've got a very limited sexual history, so I can't answer most of these.

However, I'll say that I think I've often been "the ick" that became enticing, for someone else.

I have worked in a male dominated industry for decades. In this field, men that are 10-15 years older than me seem to be unable to tolerate a woman who is competent, confident, and knows more about a project, or has more/better connections than they do. It annoys them beyond words that I'm almost impossible to offend, and that my skills of turning their insults back around on them are Olympic level. It's a game to me at this point.

I've noticed that it's often the man that's the most adversarial, the most insulting, with the most "get the broad out if here and let the man-folk talk" attitude, that eventually make a pass at me.

I've never gotten the ick & moved passed it. If you're icky, you're icky.

 

[EvaLane]

The problem is, the reason I didn’t like them originally will always be there and that would surface if I tried to get intimate with them.

Oh now this is exactly the insight I was looking for! Yes! Yes! Yes.

Very true.

But if you have stories, I'm ALL ears!

Ohhhh we know I have stories and I’m always eager to share

 

[MindYaBitness]

I do love reading "enemies to lovers" romance novels though. And it's a great rom-com trope.

Also, I usually sarcastically mock or insult someone as a casual way of flirting... with mixed results. I think it weeds out people who take themselves too seriously.

I've got some books recommendations for you...