Cock Talk

[Lord Pmann]

Well! This explains so much. I was wondering how meticulous P, who showers twice a day and is punctilious when it comes to the question of dress, managed having one of those little dogs who are relentlessly insistent about sleeping in the bed with their people.

#mysterysolved

No animals sleeping with me in my bed. I’be never been one to have an animal sleeping in my bed (I realize the obvious jokes that will flow from this line of discussion).

So, random question. Sparked by the visual talk.

I do not show my face on Lit. Even when I play. Admittedly, play for me is something of a rarity, but . . . no.

There's a handful of people that have seen a few body shots. Nothing too risqué, but enough to get a general idea of my form, but no face.

Lately, I find myself curious. Is that unusual? Do most people show their faces to their partner's when they play?

(Define play how you like.)


Also, ewwwwwww.

I’ve seen faces of all my friends. Except you.

There are a couple of others that I’ve actually not seen. If someone isn’t comfortable sharing, that’s their prerogative. I wouldn’t push for it. People have different levels of comfort. I find that if you aren’t pushy, someone will share.

Yeah, I'm cool with y'all knowing what I look like

https://reshoevn8r.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopRnMuaTyIbuumN-xs_6wIAcCxPQj4iL2r2ZJhZbU6AFHNYopNC

 

[AngelicaS1780]

So, random question. Sparked by the visual talk.

I do not show my face on Lit. Even when I play. Admittedly, play for me is something of a rarity, but . . . no.

There's a handful of people that have seen a few body shots. Nothing too risqué, but enough to get a general idea of my form, but no face.

Lately, I find myself curious. Is that unusual? Do most people show their faces to their partner's when they play?

(Define play how you like.)


Also, ewwwwwww.

I'll share my face in the Show Us Your Face thread once or twice a year. I never show my face in sexy photos (lingerie or nudes). If I have a connection with someone, platonic or sexy, I will show my face via photos +/- video chat. I don't immediately expect the same in return, but, if that trust isn't eventually reciprocated, it's unlikely that the connection will deepen or progress. I guess it's specific to the individual/situation for me.

 

[Lmizzler]

So, random question. Sparked by the visual talk.

I do not show my face on Lit. Even when I play. Admittedly, play for me is something of a rarity, but . . . no.

There's a handful of people that have seen a few body shots. Nothing too risqué, but enough to get a general idea of my form, but no face.

Lately, I find myself curious. Is that unusual? Do most people show their faces to their partner's when they play?

(Define play how you like.)


Also, ewwwwwww.

Yeah, I show my face to all of those that I'm close to. Whether a naughty relationship or a friendly one. It is just a vulnerability and trust thing for me. I do understand why some don't share or won't share though. I get it. This is the internet after all and there are weirdos everywhere. (I'm looking at you @hotwords229_A )

Isn't it a comical scenario though that online we are much slower to show our face and quicker to show our skin or private bits. But in real life it's exactly the opposite, most everyone will only ever see our face and never be granted access to the sensual parts of us. It's like some sort of backwards, bizarro world.

 

[hotwords229_A]

This is the internet after all and there are weirdos everywhere. (I'm looking at you @hotwords229_A )

Everything that’s been done with me was AI.
I’m not even on Lit.

 

[morelikeasong]

Your enjoyment of the helicockter is entertaining to me.

Entertain me, to entertain you! Joy all around!
Don’t you wanna add more joy to the world?

 

[hotoldrguy]

Yeah, I'm cool with y'all knowing what I look like

Such a fun cute pic!

 

[Apisto42]

Isn't it a comical scenario though that online we are much slower to show our face and quicker to show our skin or private bits. But in real life it's exactly the opposite, most everyone will only ever see our face and never be granted access to the sensual parts of us. It's like some sort of backwards, bizarro world.

We are oddly trusting of people we meet in public. When in reality, those are the ones most likely to talk behind our backs, fuck us over, and generally treat us like shit.

We’d probably be better off if we all wore masks in real life and used anonymous handles. While using face pics and real names on line.

 

[Peter_Out]

It doesn’t stimulate me sexually in and of itself. If there’s more to the image—words or another person—it’s the fantasy created by the image. If it’s just the man, I have to have some sort of more fleshed out (hehe) relationship with them. Even if that’s just friendship or more exposure to them. Seeing a one off image of a stranger isn’t going to do anything for me. I can admire it, definitely. But it isn’t going to stimulate me.

I'm similar.

Don't get me wrong, I love all the tits 'n' bits posted, and some might even stir me, but for me they are "just photos" unless there is some kind of personal connection. The connection and permission are both necessary for me to enjoy the photos fully. (Hey, I'm trying to be discreet here, okay!).

An exception, for me, is @JustAnotherFlower because I adore her artistry. Her imagination and skill (or her photographer's skill if she doesn't take them herself) take them to a different level, for me. I don't know her well enough to be attracted to her herself, let alone have her consent, so it's still an aesthetic appreciation but I do find more in them than "just the subject".

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Yeah, I'm cool with y'all knowing what I look like

I love your fun energy!

 

[Peter_Out]

So, random question. Sparked by the visual talk.

I do not show my face on Lit. Even when I play.
...
Lately, I find myself curious. Is that unusual? Do most people show their faces to their partner's when they play?

I don't know about unusual, I don't have a large enough sample size, but of the people I've played with online, the majority have not shown their faces. Similarly, I don't show mine, and of course that might have influenced the behaviour of those people as well, I can't tell.

In almost all cases my reluctance isn't to do with the other person themself but rather how to do so safely. There's also the fact that I simply don't like being the subject of photos. There are a handful of photos of my face that I liked - all a few years old now so would be misleading - and every single one of them was taken when I was unaware, and it's quite difficult to do that with a selfie

 

[hotwords229_A]

https://external-preview.redd.it/NlnxEHd_SxnexobHpu_S1BlDehGKKHNgWVidyjvU86E.jpg?auto=webp&s=929f67a6184c34ad8354284af8d48a75790b1d14
Has anyone ever received an unsolicited face pic?
What if his head looked like a dick?

 

[SassySheDevil]

So, random question. Sparked by the visual talk.

I do not show my face on Lit. Even when I play. Admittedly, play for me is something of a rarity, but . . . no.

There's a handful of people that have seen a few body shots. Nothing too risqué, but enough to get a general idea of my form, but no face.

Lately, I find myself curious. Is that unusual? Do most people show their faces to their partner's when they play?

I'm probably different in the sense that I'm more likely to show my face. Until this recent weight loss. I liked my face. I also have no secrets. My husband knows I'm here. I don't have a job that might frown upon my face being out there.

My vajayjay is what I hold more sacred. I happen to think that's beautiful and should be shared with those who've earned my trust.

Very much like Angelica stated. I know I'm easy to get face pics out of. But if it doesn't eventually get reciprocated. I tend to start backing away. I want that mutual trust or it only goes so far.

 

[Apisto42]

Has anyone ever received an unsolicited face pic?
What if his head looked like a dick?

That’s a riot.

I’ve sent unsolicited face pics in a link to people that I was getting to know. Gave them the option to click if they wanted to. I’m much less paranoid about it now than I was 10 years ago.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

This would be a good reason not to share.
On the other hand, everyone’s info is everywhere, so why hide it!

It’s a conundrum.

 

[Endless_Night]

For some people, seeing a play partner's face is what gives them the comfort level to play without inhibitions. For others, that comfort level comes from anonymity. While I'm Team Anonymity here, I'm not saying either is right or wrong - just that some people clearly expect one, while others clearly expect the other, and I'm not sure where they'd then find common ground.

This. It seems like an oil and water mix. How do you resolve one person's needs with another's boundaries?

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

This utterly horrified me! Then I remembered I don't do social media so have no pictures up.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

This would be a good reason not to share.
On the other hand, everyone’s info is everywhere, so why hide it!

It’s a conundrum.

I have posted face pics on and off on the show us your face thread. But I always make a pic just for that so it does not appear anywhere else. Of course when everyone can eventually have a facial recognition app, the game is over LOL

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

This would be a good reason not to share.
On the other hand, everyone’s info is everywhere, so why hide it!

It’s a conundrum.

Me! I was "sextorted" out of a LOT of money. And my only 2 other socials at the time were FB and LinkedIn. It took them longer than they expected, but they finally pieced it all together, and that was without a solid face pic, and my face was never associated with my naked body. But they took the backgrounds which happened to be the same to use as correlation of it being me.

I deleted my old account here, went from tight FB controls to Ft. Knox, and kept a low profile digitally for over a year.

 

[Endless_Night]

No animals sleeping with me in my bed. I’be never been one to have an animal sleeping in my bed (I realize the obvious jokes that will flow from this line of discussion).

How odd. That would be my preference.

https://reshoevn8r.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopRnMuaTyIbuumN-xs_6wIAcCxPQj4iL2r2ZJhZbU6AFHNYopNC

Y'all. Are. So. Mean. To. Each. Other.

Has anyone ever received an unsolicited face pic?
What if his head looked like a dick?

Dude! Seriously. That almost required a link.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Everything that’s been done with me was AI.
I’m not even on Lit.

That explains so much

 

[MindYaBitness]

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

This would be a good reason not to share.
On the other hand, everyone’s info is everywhere, so why hide it!

It’s a conundrum.

I dont share pics, on here or with others, that are posted on my socials for just this reason. However, if we're in a situation-ship, I've probably given you enough information to find me anyway.

On the flip side, I'm not great at staying angry or holding a grudge, people who do just make it look exhausting. So, I can't think of something that would cause me to dox someone and try to hurt their real life, and I'll try my best to stick with people who are similarly minded

 

[Endless_Night]

Me! I was "sextorted" out of a LOT of money. And my only 2 other socials at the time were FB and LinkedIn. It took them longer than they expected, but they finally pieced it all together, and that was without a solid face pic, and my face was never associated with my naked body. But they took the backgrounds which happened to be the same to use as correlation of it being me.

I deleted my old account here, went from tight FB controls to Ft. Knox, and kept a low profile digitally for over a year.

Back to utterly horrified.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Me! I was "sextorted" out of a LOT of money. And my only 2 other socials at the time were FB and LinkedIn. It took them longer than they expected, but they finally pieced it all together, and that was without a solid face pic, and my face was never associated with my naked body. But they took the backgrounds which happened to be the same to use as correlation of it being me.

I deleted my old account here, went from tight FB controls to Ft. Knox, and kept a low profile digitally for over a year.

My love of horror movies has distorted my way of thinking to always wonder the worst possible scenario.
Hopefully, this has kept me safe, but probably not.

It is horrifying to think what a crazy person might do, but I suppose the same could be said for someone just seeing you in the grocery store and following you home.

Sorry to make everyone terrified, but like a girlfriend of mine used to say “You’re only paranoid if someone isn’t following you.”

Imagine what happens when computers have dick, boobs and ass recognition!
Then we’re all screwed!

 

[Peter_Out]

I also wonder, on a more serious note, how many have shared their face with someone they trusted, then the relationship went bad, and that person did a reverse image lookup only to discover Facebook, Instagram, etc. pics of you with your personal info?

Oh, it can be worse than that. Someone used similar methods against an ex of mine and was able to find out where she worked. He then turned up there unannounced one day. She no longer has any social media presence at all as a result, and partly as a result of that incident and partly another incident that was even more serious, she had to change her address and phone number. She's basically a hermit.

And all the while, Hollywood pushes the trope to men that if she says "no", if the man pursues her hard enough she will eventually "see sense" and realise that he is her one twue wuv and she'll give in and marry the entitled, mentally deranged, twat.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Oh, it can be worse than that. Someone used similar methods against an ex of mine and was able to find out where she worked. He then turned up there unannounced one day. She no longer has any social media presence at all as a result, and partly as a result of that incident and partly another incident that was even more serious, she had to change her address and phone number. She's basically a hermit.

And all the while, Hollywood pushes the trope to men that if she says "no", if the man pursues her hard enough she will eventually "see sense" and realise that he is her one twue wuv and she'll give in and marry the entitled, mentally deranged, twat.

That’s a horrible story, but also a time when she needs some good guy friends to help that guy understand the err of his ways and what could happen if he continues, if you know what I mean.

 

[MindYaBitness]

That’s a horrible story, but also a time when she needs some good guy friends to help that guy understand the err of his ways and what could happen if he continues, if you know what I mean.

One of the few times my scary big brothers would come in handy, that's for sure. One brother has said he's "not afraid to go back to jail, if someone is trying fuck with you or the kids". It's a good feeling, having a now respectable, yet easily unhinged, scary person in my corner.