Cock Talk

[hotwords229_A]

I didn't realise there was a target we had to hit

You ladies have really dropped the balls on this one.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Oh, I wasn’t referring to unsolicited pics being stimulating, I just meant the idea of someone seeing me in that state was stimulating.

There is nothing exciting about sending an unsolicited pic. At least, not to me.

However, with the invention of the dick pic, Flashers have all but gone extinct. So that’s kind of a win?

A win for you, maybe Flashers are alive & well, and often populating my inbox. I get it guys, I post pics, you're tempted to post your own, too. However, you're too scared to do it publicly...so your solution is to send it to my, or some other unsuspecting woman's, inbox? I wish there was a way to assure these guys that they would get a MUCH better response to posting a pic in an am-pics thread, than they ever will with their crotch-shot-kamakazee game.

 

[hotwords229_A]

However, you're too scared to do it publicly...so your solution is to send it to my, or some other unsuspecting woman's, inbox?

That’s a good point.
It does seem like a public pic would garner a better result.
So now we’re back to the “why” of it all.

 

[MindYaBitness]

That’s a good point.
It does seem like a public pic would garner a better result.
So now we’re back to the “why” of it all.

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I'm 99% sure this was made by men hence the whole male gaze.
Edited to add, it was created and published by men. It did have a female editor-in-chief, at least in the 80’s. It would be fascinating to look into the subscribers and readership stats along with the ad revenue and article topics. Who the photographers were would be interesting too.
It was a man's world in 1973, when playgirl debuted, women couldn't even get a loan without a male co-signer so the ability to create a magazine for women by men was limited at best.

Coming back to this, let’s say Playgirl was completely run by women—publishers, writers, photographers, etc. What would be different about it?

Just focusing on the picture spreads, what would you expect would be different?

 

[Sammysub07]

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I don’t think women are less visual than men. I think women check out different features on men that are less obvious when we’re checking them out or flirting for the first time in an everyday scenario.

Hands. We’re likely to check them out and think of all the places they could be.

Or shoulders. Are they broad and strong? Great for that feeling of strength and protection. Or are they soft and cuddly? A great place to lay our head and snuggle.

Now, take us out of every day scenarios. Like here on these types of forums, out at a bar or club, hell yeah we’re visual! From hips, lips, and legs; we’re visual!

That’s from a distance though, if you’re trying to make a connection with us, make the connection first before sending us your dick. Don’t get me wrong, we like that, too; but we’ll like it more when there’s a connection to the guy with the dick! Haha

Just my two cents.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

I didn’t but found my parents and older brother’s stash. I definitely got away with adding SkinAMax to my parents cable subscription for a few months before the figured it out and removed it. Then the internet came and it was game on with nudes and a/s/l

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

Sure did!! Ripped those out of magazines or from the back walls at Spencer’s!

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

It’s both for me! The image of the naked man draws my attention first. I’ll find myself grazing my eyes along their body noting the features I like most. Then, sometimes imagining myself there with him in the fantasy the image creates. If there’s a connection to the man? Game on. Fire ablaze!

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

I don’t mind it but I’m not stimulated by it.

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Depends. If I’m looking at porn, images, etc., and it’s a good looking dick, the scenario it’s in is hot, etc., hell yeah it’s damn!

I dont think I’ve seen a dick I didn’t like. Unless it’s an unsolicited one I’ve been sent. I almost never like those! It could be a good looking dick, but I don’t see it that way.

Do you like seeing a man cum?

Omg!! Yes, fuck yes! To see the throb, the spurt, the ejaculation. The volume, consistency, where, and how he came is hot as can be! It’s also the culmination of the work put into the act. Again, if there’s a connection to the man, I’m done for! Haha

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Yes I have! It’s all fun. Men are visually appealing to me. From Soft Bods, Dad Bods, Toned or Ripped Bods. There are different things that are appealing to each body type.

But I mostly like those types of events for the fun. I like going out and having fun. So those situations for me are less about the entertainment and more about having fun!

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

I sure do! It’s a side hobby of mine to peruse both male and female boudoir and erotic boudoir. I appreciate both the male and female form in all of its glory!

Confidence is always sexy no matter the scenario.

 

[EvaLane]

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

I believe it mirrors the way some men long to experience things they never quite will, like being desired for more than just what they can offer. Maybe even like child rearing, in a twisted kind of empathy.

They know how lust pulls them apart, so it makes sense that eventually, they crave the same gaze in return - to be wanted and reduced to flesh the way they've seen women be.

And for some, that flips into a kind of panic. The idea that anyone isn't thinking the way they do feels impossible, so they behave in… bizarre ways.

Maybe they just want to feel wanted and their dicks got there first

 

[hotoldrguy]

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

It baffles me. I have never sent an unsolicited dick pic to any woman. Dick pics are everywhere. I have no idea why these guys think theirs is so special.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

googled for you. This is an article from men's health
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a29737171/why-men-send-dick-pics/

 

[hotwords229_A]

They know how lust pulls them apart, so it makes sense that eventually, they crave the same gaze in return - to be wanted and reduced to flesh the way they've seen women be.

This is me.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Although I’m not eager to send my Schlong to every woman on Lit, I do still understand the stimulation factor of doing it.

I don’t know, it’s weird. Maybe someday we will figure it out, until then it does seem necessary to mention not wanting dick pics in your inbox.

On the other hand, there are a few women on Lit that complain that they don’t get unsolicited dick pics and they want them. I wonder if the solution is asking for them in order to not get any?

I have very very rarely received an unsolicited dick pic. But then I don't often post pics of myself. And definitely nothing showing full nudity.

But I agree about the stimulation factor of sending a pic. That's why it gets saved for only the special people. For me, anyway.

Someone once suggested to me the way that different people think can have a factor in the sending of unasked for pics. It belies a confidence, an entitlement of your attention, that is not founded in any reality. I mean, once you see this perfect dick, how could you possibly not want to be theirs for eternity?

 

[MindYaBitness]

I have very very rarely received an unsolicited dick pic. But then I don't often post pics of myself. And definitely nothing showing full nudity.

But I agree about the stimulation factor of sending a pic. That's why it gets saved for only the special people. For me, anyway.

Someone once suggested to me the way that different people think can have a factor in the sending of unasked for pics. It belies a confidence, an entitlement of your attention, that is not founded in any reality. I mean, once you see this perfect dick, how could you possibly not want to be theirs for eternity?

Well said!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Knobjectification

https://64.media.tumblr.com/4dae91e627cf3baed768584195ad093c/2ca48474bd69903d-df/s1280x1920/6911650e293d49ca4bea2ce7e1d9b76755418ef4.pnj

It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I think that this comes from girls generally wanting only to see dicks that interest them. Guys want to see tits or pussy from whomever. I mean, not me. I’m much more refined and I have standards. But most of the heathens here want to have any old pair of tits in their inbox.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

I don’t know any girl who ever looked at a Playgirl.

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

N/A. I never had posters on my wall at all.

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?
Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

I feel like these questions aren’t for me…

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Gross. A dick. Unless it’s mine and it’s like a beautiful sunrise.

Do you like seeing a man cum?

No. Unless it’s me. Or in porn.

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

I have barely been to a female strip club. I totally should’ve read the prompt better.

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

None

 

[hotwords229_A]

No. Unless it’s me. Or in porn.

So, yes?

 

[dawn_of_night]

So, yes?

Hio

 

[Endless_Night]

There are many different parts of the female body which are obviously beautiful, but if I had to pick only one part to see for the rest of my life, with the vulva. There is a reason Georgia O'Keefe made so many paintings based on the female genitals - it's a work of art.

So for me personally, it is absolutely about the variety and beauty.

This is well expressed. It gives me a clear picture of why the visual variety is so valued. Beauty, and beauty in the variation. I totally get it, which is something that's eluded me before.

It's interesting how my experience has led to a different perception. Much of my experience as a woman has been that of objectification. So, for me, the desire for volume -> collectables -> objectification.

Unless it's under very specific circumstances, I'm not interested in more objectification.

Viewpoint can translate action into near opposing outlooks.

 

[Endless_Night]

Someone once suggested to me the way that different people think can have a factor in the sending of unasked for pics. It belies a confidence, an entitlement of your attention, that is not founded in any reality. I mean, once you see this perfect dick, how could you possibly not want to be theirs for eternity?

This is brilliant.

Too, sometimes it seems as though men are so single-minded in the adoration of their own appendage that it is unfathomable to them that women might not feel the same. It's as though it genuinely doesn't occur to them there are scads of other appendages hanging about to choose from, or that women might have their own entirely different focus.

 

[Endless_Night]

I believe it mirrors the way some men long to experience things they never quite will, like being desired for more than just what they can offer. Maybe even like child rearing, in a twisted kind of empathy.

They know how lust pulls them apart, so it makes sense that eventually, they crave the same gaze in return - to be wanted and reduced to flesh the way they've seen women be.

And for some, that flips into a kind of panic. The idea that anyone isn't thinking the way they do feels impossible, so they behave in… bizarre ways.

Maybe they just want to feel wanted and their dicks got there first

Lovely.

I seemed to have missed a lot. Step away from one minute.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Coming back to this, let’s say Playgirl was completely run by women—publishers, writers, photographers, etc. What would be different about it?

Just focusing on the picture spreads, what would you expect would be different?

I think there would be much more of a tease, less blatant dick, and more titillation. Back when the Dick-Pic Judging Thread was going, I noticed that the most common question about a pic was "does this make me want to see more of him?". A good pic is like meeting a new guy at a bar, in that it's likely his laugh, or a joke he tells, that makes you want to see more of him.

I recall a documentary about how Playboy started, and Hugh Hefner said that in the beginning they tried to trigger the fantasy that the woman was waiting for you, by doing things like having two glasses of wine in the shot, or a bed with just her side rumpled. He tapped into the male fantasy. Now, figure out how to translate to a print that the sexiest mother fucker on earth is the guy doing the dishes, and remembering Mother's day, and you'll be a millionaire.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

This is well expressed. It gives me a clear picture of why the visual variety is so valued. Beauty, and beauty in the variation. I totally get it, which is something that's eluded me before.

I don't believe I represent the majority of men, not that I'm some altruistic guy or anything, but it's beauty and the physical part of the female form I desire most. And just as all the lovely women have stated regarding the connection, if I have a relationship with the woman attached, it is a significantly more meaningful to see.

It's interesting how my position view creates a different perception. Much of my experience as a woman has been that of objectification. So, for me, the desire for volume -> collectables -> objectification.

Yup, I totally get it. Women are ostensibly objectified at every turn and often their value is adjusted based on their physical attributes. It's wrong, and it's bullshit.

Unless it's under very specific circumstances, I'm not interested in more objectification.

Viewpoint can translate action into near opposing outlooks.

I appreciate your response!

I believe it mirrors the way some men long to experience things they never quite will, like being desired for more than just what they can offer. Maybe even like child rearing, in a twisted kind of empathy.
They know how lust pulls them apart, so it makes sense that eventually, they crave the same gaze in return - to be wanted and reduced to flesh the way they've seen women be.

This resonated with me a bit. It's twisted, but my worth has always been based on what I can do and provide for others. I want to be physically desired. I want to be objectified because I want to feel desired. I know it's not necessarily a healthy mindset, but I want to be more than a workhorse and ATM.

And for some, that flips into a kind of panic. The idea that anyone isn't thinking the way they do feels impossible, so they behave in… bizarre ways.

Maybe they just want to feel wanted and their dicks got there first

 

[morelikeasong]

It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

I do think I do my fair share, but I’ll admit, some of the other ladies are slacking

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I think a lot of women are very visual but not usually primarily visual. So some other element has to be triggered, aroused, intrigued, before the visual element kicks in.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

Don’t think I’ve ever seen a copy. I also never saw playboy, either.

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

So many. Men and women. All over my walls. A giant shrine to music, angst, and sexual appeal.

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

It doesn’t stimulate me sexually in and of itself. If there’s more to the image—words or another person—it’s the fantasy created by the image. If it’s just the man, I have to have some sort of more fleshed out (hehe) relationship with them. Even if that’s just friendship or more exposure to them. Seeing a one off image of a stranger isn’t going to do anything for me. I can admire it, definitely. But it isn’t going to stimulate me.

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

Can be. Not a major fantasy of mine but there’s certain situations where I find it sexy.

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

If it’s someone I’m not involved with, I usually think… why is it not being spun in a circle for my enjoyment??

Do you like seeing a man cum?

If I had a hand (hehe) in the execution or inspiration.

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

I’ve never been to any type of strip club, of any gender.

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

I prefer the man/woman combo I think, because it provokes more of a fantasy than a random man.

 

[Lord Pmann]

So, yes?

Correct.

I just noticed the pic in your original post. I feel like that is aimed at me.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/4dae91e627cf3baed768584195ad093c/2ca48474bd69903d-df/s1280x1920/6911650e293d49ca4bea2ce7e1d9b76755418ef4.pnj

 

[summer_reine]

This sounds like the perfect beginning to an erotic story.

.... Thank you, muse

 

[hotwords229_A]

If it’s someone I’m not involved with, I usually think… why is it not being spun in a circle for my enjoyment??

Your enjoyment of the helicockter is entertaining to me.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Correct.

I just noticed the pic in your original post. I feel like that is aimed at me.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/4dae91e627cf3baed768584195ad093c/2ca48474bd69903d-df/s1280x1920/6911650e293d49ca4bea2ce7e1d9b76755418ef4.pnj

Wouldn’t that be Naked Men Behind People in Horse Costumes?