Cock Talk

[summer_reine]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

 

[Photog1rl]

Okay, but this is why I brought up the Playgirl. Its original purpose was to be Playboy for women, but it turned out to have an almost exclusively gay male readership.

I'm 99% sure this was made by men hence the whole male gaze.
Edited to add, it was created and published by men. It did have a female editor-in-chief, at least in the 80’s. It would be fascinating to look into the subscribers and readership stats along with the ad revenue and article topics. Who the photographers were would be interesting too.
It was a man's world in 1973, when playgirl debuted, women couldn't even get a loan without a male co-signer so the ability to create a magazine for women by men was limited at best.

 

[EvaLane]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

It’s not that I don’t want dick pics, I just like a challenge and most can’t measure up

(Genuinely I’m joking, please don’t send me dick pics even if you’re super big. Congratulations, I’m very proud of you from afar)

 

[Photog1rl]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

For me it is also about context and lighting and composition. A dirty mirror, socks on the floor, or dirty nails will guarantee their dick is the last thing I'm looking at and don't get me started on the toilet selfies lol

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

Sadly, I also noticed this. The fact the ladies feel compelled to state that makes me mad/sad.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Knobjectification

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It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

We definitely do, though usually our objectification isn't sexually motivated

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

We can appreciate a good looking guy, or nice body. However, for me at least, I realized so often the most conventionally attractive men are also the biggest assholes and the least trustworthy. So my train of thought goes from "he's hot" to "I bet he critisizes his girlfriend's thighs" pretty quickly.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

No, I had never seen anything that even tried to pretend to be porn for women until mid 2010's

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

Yes, I had every movie poster of Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall. I loved his hair & that smile. I even had one in my bathroom. My husband (boyfriend at the tine) said that he didn't like feeling like a dude was smiling at whilst he peed. I reminded him that Brad was there before he was, and he'd just have to get used to it!

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

Definitely the fantasy created by the image. I can't say I've ever seen a pic/gif that truly turned me on by it's own merits. But, imagining me & my amigovio engaging in (insert naughtiness here) and suddenly I'm wetter than a submarine with a screendoor.

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

I dont seek it out, but it can be.

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

I used to be extra grossed out. Lit has rid me of my repulsion, but my response is more of a 'good for you' than anything else. Now, seeing a hot cock attached to someone I feel a connection to, that's an entirely different story.

Do you like seeing a man cum?

I like seeing my man cum for me. Ejaculating in porn is kind of meh, who cares. But, him cumming from our play is one of the sexiest things I've ever seen. It's not just cumming, though, it's the way his body & expression & voice change, are all very hot. (Having chromesthesia, the sound he makes is as important as seeing him actually cum) And, I get this vicarious sensation from it, like tension building in my torso, and a rubberband snapping followed my little tingles, and I break out in goosebumps. It's not quite an orgasm, I'm not sure what to call it.

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Sadly, no

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

pics of arms & nice shoulders are always welcome, whether a romance pic or a single nude, confidence is key.

 

[Mei5ter]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

 

[MindYaBitness]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

I think the tendency to find soft, round curves pleasing to the eye is just a part of us. Whether it's that our mothers are usually our first care takers, or because so much of nature's beauty is round (hills, trees, dunes etc). Round curves just tend to draw the eye and invite it to rest awhile.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The difference is we don’t need nor want a subscription service so we can get 20 new hot men of the month bent over and posed like school boys and secretaries.

This is the difference.

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

I am interested in the thought process behind guys who send unsolicited dick pics. Is it just a numbers game—eventually someone will give the reaction he’s looking for? Or is it simply a Neanderthal who doesn’t get how to behave?

Although I’m not eager to send my Schlong to every woman on Lit, I do still understand the stimulation factor of doing it.

I don’t know, it’s weird. Maybe someday we will figure it out, until then it does seem necessary to mention not wanting dick pics in your inbox.

On the other hand, there are a few women on Lit that complain that they don’t get unsolicited dick pics and they want them. I wonder if the solution is asking for them in order to not get any?

Sheesh! Guys are hard to understand.

ETA: I find it interesting that auto fill capitalized Schlong!

 

[hotwords229_A]

I think the tendency to find soft, round curves pleasing to the eye is just a part of us. Whether it's that our mothers are usually our first care takers, or because so much of nature's beauty is round (hills, trees, dunes etc). Round curves just tend to draw the eye and invite it to rest awhile.

I agree. I think it has something to do with breastfeeding.

As Dracula says, Boobs are the life. Or something like that.

 

[EvaLane]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

I don't think anyone decided it.

It's more like the difference between a storm and a painting. Men's bodies feel like power. I think of words like movement, collision, impact. Women's bodies get to be still, adorned, gazed at.

One is (in my opinion) worshipped for what it does. The other, for how it looks while enduring it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Life drawing class, the guy was a theater student. He said I drew him hotter than he actually was, I begged to differ

This sounds like the perfect beginning to an erotic story.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Although I’m not eager to send my Schlong to every woman on Lit, I do still understand the stimulation factor of doing it.

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

Somewhat related, there is scientific study that examines human preference for curved lines over angular lines.
MindY's right. We're psycholgically and evolutionally predisposed to see curve and relate it to openness, kindness and nurturing.

So I guess in answer to, "Who decided it?"...
we all did.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

Oh, I wasn’t referring to unsolicited pics being stimulating, I just meant the idea of someone seeing me in that state was stimulating.

There is nothing exciting about sending an unsolicited pic. At least, not to me.

However, with the invention of the dick pic, Flashers have all but gone extinct. So that’s kind of a win?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Knobjectification

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It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

I didn't realise there was a target we had to hit

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I don't think I work the same way as a lot of people. Visual is way down on the list of things I find attractive in someone so I'm not likely to openly lust after a selfie. I don't visit many ampics threads here for example because random naked people don't get me off. If I like a person though then I absolutely turn into a shameless pervert!

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

No I read J17 and More magazines. They talked about sex and sexuality in - at the time - quite progressive ways.

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

I had rock stars and rugby players. I had a gorgeous one of Jon Bon Jovi with a crown of thorns in a lake or something and I'd gaze at it while pretending he was singing to me

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

Feelings absolutely. Not as far as love but definitely a good connection at least. Like I said, random naked people don't do much for me. I don't watch a lot of porn but audio certainly helps with the fantasies .

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

It can be. I do sometimes fantasise about mmf threesomes

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Depends on who the hot dog vendor is. I don't want or like rando dick pics at all but someone I'm already attracted to sharing himself with me is very sexy

Do you like seeing a man cum?

Yes absolutely if I've been a part of the journey to get him there. It's a mix of sexual power and vulnerability and it's a huge turn on

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Thankfully the hen nights I've been on have not involved strippers. It's not really my thing

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

Hmm specific body parts of specific people. If I like someone they become 100% more attractive to me and I want to see everything

 

[hotwords229_A]

I didn't realise there was a target we had to hit

You ladies have really dropped the balls on this one.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Oh, I wasn’t referring to unsolicited pics being stimulating, I just meant the idea of someone seeing me in that state was stimulating.

There is nothing exciting about sending an unsolicited pic. At least, not to me.

However, with the invention of the dick pic, Flashers have all but gone extinct. So that’s kind of a win?

A win for you, maybe Flashers are alive & well, and often populating my inbox. I get it guys, I post pics, you're tempted to post your own, too. However, you're too scared to do it publicly...so your solution is to send it to my, or some other unsuspecting woman's, inbox? I wish there was a way to assure these guys that they would get a MUCH better response to posting a pic in an am-pics thread, than they ever will with their crotch-shot-kamakazee game.

 

[hotwords229_A]

However, you're too scared to do it publicly...so your solution is to send it to my, or some other unsuspecting woman's, inbox?

That’s a good point.
It does seem like a public pic would garner a better result.
So now we’re back to the “why” of it all.

 

[MindYaBitness]

That’s a good point.
It does seem like a public pic would garner a better result.
So now we’re back to the “why” of it all.

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I'm 99% sure this was made by men hence the whole male gaze.
Edited to add, it was created and published by men. It did have a female editor-in-chief, at least in the 80’s. It would be fascinating to look into the subscribers and readership stats along with the ad revenue and article topics. Who the photographers were would be interesting too.
It was a man's world in 1973, when playgirl debuted, women couldn't even get a loan without a male co-signer so the ability to create a magazine for women by men was limited at best.

Coming back to this, let’s say Playgirl was completely run by women—publishers, writers, photographers, etc. What would be different about it?

Just focusing on the picture spreads, what would you expect would be different?

 

[Sammysub07]

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I don’t think women are less visual than men. I think women check out different features on men that are less obvious when we’re checking them out or flirting for the first time in an everyday scenario.

Hands. We’re likely to check them out and think of all the places they could be.

Or shoulders. Are they broad and strong? Great for that feeling of strength and protection. Or are they soft and cuddly? A great place to lay our head and snuggle.

Now, take us out of every day scenarios. Like here on these types of forums, out at a bar or club, hell yeah we’re visual! From hips, lips, and legs; we’re visual!

That’s from a distance though, if you’re trying to make a connection with us, make the connection first before sending us your dick. Don’t get me wrong, we like that, too; but we’ll like it more when there’s a connection to the guy with the dick! Haha

Just my two cents.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

I didn’t but found my parents and older brother’s stash. I definitely got away with adding SkinAMax to my parents cable subscription for a few months before the figured it out and removed it. Then the internet came and it was game on with nudes and a/s/l

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

Sure did!! Ripped those out of magazines or from the back walls at Spencer’s!

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

It’s both for me! The image of the naked man draws my attention first. I’ll find myself grazing my eyes along their body noting the features I like most. Then, sometimes imagining myself there with him in the fantasy the image creates. If there’s a connection to the man? Game on. Fire ablaze!

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

I don’t mind it but I’m not stimulated by it.

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Depends. If I’m looking at porn, images, etc., and it’s a good looking dick, the scenario it’s in is hot, etc., hell yeah it’s damn!

I dont think I’ve seen a dick I didn’t like. Unless it’s an unsolicited one I’ve been sent. I almost never like those! It could be a good looking dick, but I don’t see it that way.

Do you like seeing a man cum?

Omg!! Yes, fuck yes! To see the throb, the spurt, the ejaculation. The volume, consistency, where, and how he came is hot as can be! It’s also the culmination of the work put into the act. Again, if there’s a connection to the man, I’m done for! Haha

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Yes I have! It’s all fun. Men are visually appealing to me. From Soft Bods, Dad Bods, Toned or Ripped Bods. There are different things that are appealing to each body type.

But I mostly like those types of events for the fun. I like going out and having fun. So those situations for me are less about the entertainment and more about having fun!

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

I sure do! It’s a side hobby of mine to peruse both male and female boudoir and erotic boudoir. I appreciate both the male and female form in all of its glory!

Confidence is always sexy no matter the scenario.

 

[EvaLane]

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

I believe it mirrors the way some men long to experience things they never quite will, like being desired for more than just what they can offer. Maybe even like child rearing, in a twisted kind of empathy.

They know how lust pulls them apart, so it makes sense that eventually, they crave the same gaze in return - to be wanted and reduced to flesh the way they've seen women be.

And for some, that flips into a kind of panic. The idea that anyone isn't thinking the way they do feels impossible, so they behave in… bizarre ways.

Maybe they just want to feel wanted and their dicks got there first

 

[hotoldrguy]

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

It baffles me. I have never sent an unsolicited dick pic to any woman. Dick pics are everywhere. I have no idea why these guys think theirs is so special.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Surely there's a study somewhere that explains this phenomenon. I'm afraid to google it.

googled for you. This is an article from men's health
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a29737171/why-men-send-dick-pics/