Cock Talk

[Photog1rl]

Women are just far less likely to assault you out of the blue with pictures of what's between their legs.

There are some women that definitely lead with this. I think it is what some women think they should share and for others it may be what they consider to be their best assest. For a long time it was hard for me to understand why someone would start here. It felt like it left nowhere to go but I realized that mindset that felt rooted in judgment so I let the question go. It is a bolder move than I would make but that is so ok!

And if any of this reads like I think you don't think its ok, that was not my intention.

 

[EvaLane]

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

More thoughts - women, from what l've seen, have unfortunately adopted the male gaze as the default blueprint for their own sexual expression online.

"I'm no better than a man."
"Don't ask me the colour of anything."
"Destined to ride, forced to scroll."
"Raw. Deep. Passionate. Lights on. Next question."

Those kinds of comments are everywhere on other platforms.

The thirst is obvious. Women are just as visual and now they're starting to show it.

But what we're seeing isn't a natural shift.

It's a reflection. A learned language. A mirror held up to how men have historically objectified women, now spoken back to them with the same hunger, the same detachment.

Sure, women have always sexualized men, sometimes even harassed them. But this feels different. Louder. Sharper. More overt.

Is the grass really greener?
A lot of men are about to find out.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

A lot of men are about to find out.

Let the games begin!

(The guys who are learning the rules are killing it, btw. There are some quality men in this world )

 

[summer_reine]

Knobjectification

It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

I mean.. I heart every picture of guys that I come across on lit so I'm doing my part to change that

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I love guy watching, I love looking at men. Big, small, short, tall.. you guys are hot. I suspect we are a bit more subtle about it in public and likely it is becoming more socially acceptable now than in the past.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

Nah, I didn't even know that was a thing until high school and by then the Internet was already full of porn.

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

Does art count? I have two nudes I drew in college hanging above my bed.

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

There have definitely been some images that instantly arouse me but it is more the emotion evoked by the image, I think. I'm trying to think if I've ever been instantly aroused by seeing a man irl, I don't think so. Although I haven't been to see male strippers yet so.. maybe?

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

It can be, especially if I can imagine them performing for me

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Very much depends on context and my mood. Although I don't think I've ever thought 'ick' I've also never received an unsolicited dick pic (I will dox you, don't do it)

Do you like seeing a man cum?

A close up? Meh. Seeing a guy's body and his face as he cums.. absolutely

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Not yet, it's on my bucket list but I think I'd rather see them at least slightly clothed. If a guy dances naked for me I want it to be because he likes me rather than for my money. I'm not sure why there is a difference between semi and fully nude in my mind, but there is.

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

I prefer erotic solo pictures, I'm insecure and seeing beautiful women with a hot guy just makes me feel worse. But enjoying a guy who obviously wants me to see him, love that.

 

[hotwords229_A]

First issue came with a free rabbit as I recall.

I genuinely thought you meant the animal at first and I was confused.

I think women are as visual as men. It’s been proven in a few studies, actually.

context matters.

I think this is how I should have worded it originally. Context seems to matter more to women, where men just want (need?) to see. We really, really want/need to see.

Is this set of questions geared for women alone?

Pretty much, this time. But always feel free to spin the questions any way you like, or ask better ones.

@hotwords229_A derriere picture is practically iconic

People have referred to me as “quite an ass”.

Women are just far less likely to assault you out of the blue with pictures of what's between their legs.

I can confirm this statement is not entirely true.

We're more discerning and when a body is art, a person is art - we notice.

But also a banana duct taped to a wall has been called “art”.
I once worked with a guy named Art.

I'm partial to uncircumcised ones right now

historically most of what was available (ads, art, porn) was created by men for men women haven't had media that was targeted to them.

Okay, but this is why I brought up the Playgirl. It’s original purpose was to be Playboy for women, but it turned out to have an almost exclusively gay male readership.

And, at least do far, many of the women above who answered either didn’t own or see a Playgirl.
This is kind of my point.

As a guy, going in to buy a porn mag was humiliating and painful, but many (or most) of us did it, in spite of the disapproving looks from the register lady. We HAD to see it. It was a survival mechanism. Pre internet.

There was a store that sold t-shirts in the front and “novelty” items in the back that had greeting cards and I remember peeking at the ones that folded way down-to show a mans very large dick. We all giggled and continued to look.

Spencer Gifts? That was one of my favorites as a kid! Now they suck.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Does art count? I have two nudes I drew in college hanging above my bed.

Did you draw them in a Life Drawing class, or from a picture?
It counts either way.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Aw, is this to do with all men, or are you feeling a little lacking in attention?...

I can share.

 

[EvaLane]

I think this is how I should have worded it originally. Context seems to matter more to women, where men just want (need?) to see. We really, really want/need to see.

But women do have that same need, we also really, really want and need to see.

The difference is we don’t need nor want a subscription service so we can get 20 new hot men of the month bent over and posed like school boys and secretaries.

This may be a bit of projection, but when I find something I like, I return to it, over and over and over again. Pornography, erotica, people . I can’t really imagine owning 20, 120, 340 different images of naked dudes with their shlongs out and not feeling horrified.

Yet, goon caves are on the rise and wall to wall tits, ass, and spread holes is the standard. Hundreds of women. And then multiple monitors, to display even more women.

Is that a need? Where is the line drawn?

Hopefully out of the splash zone

Edit - lol my math skills displayed in real time. 20 x 6 (months) is 120. Yes. 120 + 120 is not 340. That’s ok. I have my words, my pretty little words.

 

[summer_reine]

Did you draw them in a Life Drawing class, or from a picture?
It counts either way.

Life drawing class, the guy was a theater student. He said I drew him hotter than he actually was, I begged to differ

 

[summer_reine]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

 

[Photog1rl]

Okay, but this is why I brought up the Playgirl. Its original purpose was to be Playboy for women, but it turned out to have an almost exclusively gay male readership.

I'm 99% sure this was made by men hence the whole male gaze.
Edited to add, it was created and published by men. It did have a female editor-in-chief, at least in the 80’s. It would be fascinating to look into the subscribers and readership stats along with the ad revenue and article topics. Who the photographers were would be interesting too.
It was a man's world in 1973, when playgirl debuted, women couldn't even get a loan without a male co-signer so the ability to create a magazine for women by men was limited at best.

 

[EvaLane]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

It’s not that I don’t want dick pics, I just like a challenge and most can’t measure up

(Genuinely I’m joking, please don’t send me dick pics even if you’re super big. Congratulations, I’m very proud of you from afar)

 

[Photog1rl]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

For me it is also about context and lighting and composition. A dirty mirror, socks on the floor, or dirty nails will guarantee their dick is the last thing I'm looking at and don't get me started on the toilet selfies lol

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

Sadly, I also noticed this. The fact the ladies feel compelled to state that makes me mad/sad.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Knobjectification

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It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

We definitely do, though usually our objectification isn't sexually motivated

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

We can appreciate a good looking guy, or nice body. However, for me at least, I realized so often the most conventionally attractive men are also the biggest assholes and the least trustworthy. So my train of thought goes from "he's hot" to "I bet he critisizes his girlfriend's thighs" pretty quickly.

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

No, I had never seen anything that even tried to pretend to be porn for women until mid 2010's

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

Yes, I had every movie poster of Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall. I loved his hair & that smile. I even had one in my bathroom. My husband (boyfriend at the tine) said that he didn't like feeling like a dude was smiling at whilst he peed. I reminded him that Brad was there before he was, and he'd just have to get used to it!

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

Definitely the fantasy created by the image. I can't say I've ever seen a pic/gif that truly turned me on by it's own merits. But, imagining me & my amigovio engaging in (insert naughtiness here) and suddenly I'm wetter than a submarine with a screendoor.

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

I dont seek it out, but it can be.

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

I used to be extra grossed out. Lit has rid me of my repulsion, but my response is more of a 'good for you' than anything else. Now, seeing a hot cock attached to someone I feel a connection to, that's an entirely different story.

Do you like seeing a man cum?

I like seeing my man cum for me. Ejaculating in porn is kind of meh, who cares. But, him cumming from our play is one of the sexiest things I've ever seen. It's not just cumming, though, it's the way his body & expression & voice change, are all very hot. (Having chromesthesia, the sound he makes is as important as seeing him actually cum) And, I get this vicarious sensation from it, like tension building in my torso, and a rubberband snapping followed my little tingles, and I break out in goosebumps. It's not quite an orgasm, I'm not sure what to call it.

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Sadly, no

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

pics of arms & nice shoulders are always welcome, whether a romance pic or a single nude, confidence is key.

 

[Mei5ter]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

 

[MindYaBitness]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

I think the tendency to find soft, round curves pleasing to the eye is just a part of us. Whether it's that our mothers are usually our first care takers, or because so much of nature's beauty is round (hills, trees, dunes etc). Round curves just tend to draw the eye and invite it to rest awhile.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The difference is we don’t need nor want a subscription service so we can get 20 new hot men of the month bent over and posed like school boys and secretaries.

This is the difference.

Interesting how every woman who responded and said dicks are hot also added that we do NOT want random dicks in our inbox..

I am interested in the thought process behind guys who send unsolicited dick pics. Is it just a numbers game—eventually someone will give the reaction he’s looking for? Or is it simply a Neanderthal who doesn’t get how to behave?

Although I’m not eager to send my Schlong to every woman on Lit, I do still understand the stimulation factor of doing it.

I don’t know, it’s weird. Maybe someday we will figure it out, until then it does seem necessary to mention not wanting dick pics in your inbox.

On the other hand, there are a few women on Lit that complain that they don’t get unsolicited dick pics and they want them. I wonder if the solution is asking for them in order to not get any?

Sheesh! Guys are hard to understand.

ETA: I find it interesting that auto fill capitalized Schlong!

 

[hotwords229_A]

I think the tendency to find soft, round curves pleasing to the eye is just a part of us. Whether it's that our mothers are usually our first care takers, or because so much of nature's beauty is round (hills, trees, dunes etc). Round curves just tend to draw the eye and invite it to rest awhile.

I agree. I think it has something to do with breastfeeding.

As Dracula says, Boobs are the life. Or something like that.

 

[EvaLane]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

I don't think anyone decided it.

It's more like the difference between a storm and a painting. Men's bodies feel like power. I think of words like movement, collision, impact. Women's bodies get to be still, adorned, gazed at.

One is (in my opinion) worshipped for what it does. The other, for how it looks while enduring it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Life drawing class, the guy was a theater student. He said I drew him hotter than he actually was, I begged to differ

This sounds like the perfect beginning to an erotic story.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Although I’m not eager to send my Schlong to every woman on Lit, I do still understand the stimulation factor of doing it.

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Interesting question, as always.

I've seen a few comments about women's bodies being more attractive than men's bodies. Not just as an expression of personal preference, but as a general statement.

I'm just wondering who first decided that?

Somewhat related, there is scientific study that examines human preference for curved lines over angular lines.
MindY's right. We're psycholgically and evolutionally predisposed to see curve and relate it to openness, kindness and nurturing.

So I guess in answer to, "Who decided it?"...
we all did.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Please expand on this! What makes a guy want to share his lap taffy with unsuspecting viewers? I'm so curious to know what goes through a guy's mind as he wars with the logic of knowing an unsolicited pic likely won't be received well, and the complusion to send it any way.

Oh, I wasn’t referring to unsolicited pics being stimulating, I just meant the idea of someone seeing me in that state was stimulating.

There is nothing exciting about sending an unsolicited pic. At least, not to me.

However, with the invention of the dick pic, Flashers have all but gone extinct. So that’s kind of a win?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Knobjectification

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It has come to my attention that women don’t objectify men enough.

I didn't realise there was a target we had to hit

Why do you think women don’t seem as visual as men, or are they and they are just better at keeping it under wraps?

I don't think I work the same way as a lot of people. Visual is way down on the list of things I find attractive in someone so I'm not likely to openly lust after a selfie. I don't visit many ampics threads here for example because random naked people don't get me off. If I like a person though then I absolutely turn into a shameless pervert!

Did you have a subscription to Playgirl growing up, or date someone who did?

No I read J17 and More magazines. They talked about sex and sexuality in - at the time - quite progressive ways.

Did you have a sexy poster of a guy on your wall?

I had rock stars and rugby players. I had a gorgeous one of Jon Bon Jovi with a crown of thorns in a lake or something and I'd gaze at it while pretending he was singing to me

Does looking at naked men stimulate you, or is it the fantasy created by the image more than the man himself, or do you have to have feelings for the man in the image?

Feelings absolutely. Not as far as love but definitely a good connection at least. Like I said, random naked people don't do much for me. I don't watch a lot of porn but audio certainly helps with the fantasies .

Is guy-on-guy hot or not?

It can be. I do sometimes fantasise about mmf threesomes

When you see an image of a hot cock, do you think “Damn!” or “Gross, a dick!”?

Depends on who the hot dog vendor is. I don't want or like rando dick pics at all but someone I'm already attracted to sharing himself with me is very sexy

Do you like seeing a man cum?

Yes absolutely if I've been a part of the journey to get him there. It's a mix of sexual power and vulnerability and it's a huge turn on

Have you gone to a male strip joint, bachelorette party, etc.? Full nude?

Thankfully the hen nights I've been on have not involved strippers. It's not really my thing

Do you prefer an erotic image of a sexy man with a woman (romance novel style cover), or a hot naked, confident man who looks ready to fuck, or just specific body parts, or all of the above?

Hmm specific body parts of specific people. If I like someone they become 100% more attractive to me and I want to see everything