What I don't understand about guys on Lit

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I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??
 
Quality? There may be 6 watches in the case at Gucci, 150 at Wal mart. So are to saying Wal-Mart is the best place to shop for a watch?

Thrill of the hunt?

Who says they don’t place ads everywhere? Personally, I’ve only ever placed a couple, looking for someone specific, mostly I’m here for creative ideas and interactions.
 
Quality? There may be 6 watches in the case at Gucci, 150 at Wal mart. So are to saying Wal-Mart is the best place to shop for a watch?

Thrill of the hunt?

Who says they don’t place ads everywhere? Personally, I’ve only ever placed a couple, looking for someone specific, mostly I’m here for creative ideas and interactions.
This place is what we would call a sausage fest. I think most guys are genuinely interested in finding someone as opposed to just wasting their time. I could be wrong though. Most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women.

So you think the 6 women on Lit are all Gucci watches?
 
This place is what we would call a sausage fest. I think most guys are genuinely interested in finding someone as opposed to just wasting their time. I could be wrong though. Most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women.

So you think the 6 women on Lit are all Gucci watches?
I’ve found many quality people to interact with here.
 
Which I'm grateful for, it's easy pickings for a horny woman like me. It may take weeding out dozens of awful DMs but there's some gems here that I've had a wonderful time talking with.
That's good to hear! It's an ill wind that blows no good!
 
So many contact me and then they act like if I am not interested in them then there's something wrong with me 🤣

Like .. it couldn't be that you act like an asshole or a creep
Makes me wonder if they'd truly behave this way in RL as opposed to being online. Nevertheless, I've never understood that type of behavior, Mandy. Rejection sucks but they should get over it and move on.
 
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I'm one of the real ladies of lit... I've only been on here 3½ years, but I I enjoy the attention..
Most lit men are cool to me... I've even established my own wonderful set of admirers 💜

As far as men seeking women...I do see women seeking men as often.

I enjoy the over 2:1 ratio.
 
I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??
100 to 1 ?
I love that ratio 😛
 
While I don't disagree with the overall point of the OP, I do find it interesting that the recommendation is instead of posting on this site, they should be posting on another site. Is trying to meet someone in real life completely out of the question now?
 
While I understand what the OP is asking and trying to point out, it does seem like it is being conveyed as a put down. What does it matter what others do? To each their own and let everyone have their enjoyment and space here on Lit.
 
I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??
I've found dozens of wonderful lady chat partners on here. But almost always through PMs. Sometimes through them reaching out to me first. And I've even gotten a few hits from my own personals ads. But that's certainly not the most efficient way to make a connection.
 
While I don't disagree with the overall point of the OP, I do find it interesting that the recommendation is instead of posting on this site, they should be posting on another site. Is trying to meet someone in real life completely out of the question now?
For many of the people on this site, yes.
 
While I understand what the OP is asking and trying to point out, it does seem like it is being conveyed as a put down. What does it matter what others do? To each their own and let everyone have their enjoyment and space here on Lit.
Fundamentally I agree with you but you see these personals and all you see is the OP giving it a bump every week. I don't think some of these guys realize just how lopsided the proportion of men to women is here.
 
I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??

1. Sites where women outnumber men simply don't exist (despite what the link ads on porn sites tell you 🤣)

2. Women, quite sensibly, on the whole treat social sites as just that, social sites. If they do happen to connect on a deeper level than that, lovely, but it's a fact of life that women just aren't as desperate for online or r/l hookups as men usually come over.

3. Men's ads usually just look thirsty. You only need to check the "unanswered threads" page to see this multiple times every day.

4. When women get abusive responses to a polite expression of not interested, they unsurprisingly tend to stop responding altogether.

For guys who really want to connect with a woman on here I have no advice. Maybe just interact in threads in an insightful or humorous way. Don't treat every reply as a come-on (they aren't unless they explicitly state they are). Don't, whatever you do, use the term "female". Reducing complex human interaction to a biological term is just fucking dumb 🤣
 
I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??
Women on lit seem to be very open minded and adventurous

If a person has a kink they might find like-minded people here

Plus men are dumb sometimes
 
I constantly see guys putting ads on Lit. Sometimes the same guy putting up ad after ad. Or various guys putting up ads seeking women.

Here is what I don't understand. If you are a guy looking for a woman why go to a site where the men outnumber the women 100 to 1? You should be going to sites where there are a ton of women, not some site where it's all guys jerking themselves off. Really? This is how you are going to find a woman??
Name me ONE site where the men don't outnumber the women 100 -1 ???? ;-)
 
1. Sites where women outnumber men simply don't exist (despite what the link ads on porn sites tell you 🤣)

2. Women, quite sensibly, on the whole treat social sites as just that, social sites. If they do happen to connect on a deeper level than that, lovely, but it's a fact of life that women just aren't as desperate for online or r/l hookups as men usually come over.

3. Men's ads usually just look thirsty. You only need to check the "unanswered threads" page to see this multiple times every day.

4. When women get abusive responses to a polite expression of not interested, they unsurprisingly tend to stop responding altogether.

For guys who really want to connect with a woman on here I have no advice. Maybe just interact in threads in an insightful or humorous way. Don't treat every reply as a come-on (they aren't unless they explicitly state they are). Don't, whatever you do, use the term "female". Reducing complex human interaction to a biological term is just fucking dumb 🤣
I think it just comes down to, be a decent person, even if you're horny and perverted. If you can't be at least a decent person on here, you probably can't have positive interactions with women in real life, either. And you probably deserve to be alone.
 
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