Natalie Nessus
Gypsy Soul
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I think it is important, it is the glue to hold together.
It is the trust
It is the trust
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Hello, Very well put Richard, thanks for sharing....Richard49 said:Playing is one thing...a relationship is another
Love?
An interesting word...used by lots of people lots of ways.
Here isa defination I like and I think fits the D/s relationship very well
Love is when respect,caring,knowledge and responsiblity converge
Richard
michigan
Hi SpectreT, very eloquently put thanks for sharing....have a good day lexySpectreT said:It's also the foundation, as it is in any relationship. It gives the inspiration to give your partner what they need, and the drive to give them what they want, as well.
JazzManJim said:BUt love doesn't have to be there, necessarily.
Sometimes all you need is true, honest affection. It may sound like quibbling but for some folks, love is a very tough thing to even comprehend. Affection is much easier for them to come by and gives the same respect, and honest like, and joy for the companionship.
fallon2 said:cym writes (eloquently) about love in a BDSM relationship being possible but not always probable. But if the person giving loves what he is doing and she loves what she is receiving and the respect for both partners is there then that is love too.
Respect should always be there but (as in in marriage) it isn't always there but something is and in a BDSM relationship there should be respect. The giver must understand that the receiver has chosen him and he needs to build on that if the relationship is to be fruitful and meaningful.
Humans need love in order to exist and I hope everyone who reads this is loved or loves someone.
I think there's at least some need for a reality check: Love is precious to us precisely because it's so rare. This is no different from any other kind of relationship in this sense, is it? Really? Romantic love is fickle, often fleeting, difficult to find, and rare; such relationships are often devastating. In any dating relationship, there are sexual needs and there are emotional desires. We hope to find both, but why would we ignore our needs in the meantime?cymbidia said:
If we've already known the boundless abiding pleasure of our kind of sexual touching with a love partner, then we already know what we're missing when we do it with a respect/like partner.
So do we pass on something new cuz that abiding soul-deep love we once knew with another isn't there? What if no one ever love us like that again? Do we live forever, alone, untouched, unwilling to accept a part of someone else if we can't have their heart?
...But one doesn't always get love as an essential ingredient with this, boys and girls. Sometimes, it's just not a part of the mixture. Sometimes, you simply have to decide what you most need in your life right now from among the alternatives available to you.
There's no other way.
I would add this: Those of you who assert that love is everything, I would ask if this is your first relationship, if you've ever experienced the devastating loss of love and can still make this assertion.To you who have answered this question with an assertion that love is everything in a BDSM relationship: i hope you never lose your loved one and find yourself foundering on the less-sure and lonlier side of this issue, a place that so many of the rest of reside.
cymbidia said:
I ask you to forgive me my tantrum, please. As many here know, i've fairly recently lost my Dominant. I loved him with all my heart, an emotion that was, i thought, fully reciprocated. Our relationship was of a few years duration and we were very out about here at Lit, both of us. He abandoned me in December. I've been having a difficult time getting over it, him, the loss. Some days are better than other days, some weeks are better than other weeks. The last few days have been difficult. b.
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