Signs of Female Arousal (And some myths)

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I'll just assume for the moment that we've all done it. Seen porn, read erotic stories, even the ones who don't write them. Let's take a picture for example:

http://encrypted-tbn0.***********/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSR9iqB3gH_Iu0fOId49mqTVO4KpNTDxnhhRXPC4QqgXrUVLyES

Is she turned on? Is he? How can you tell? For the purposes of writing (Or even reading) a story, there's ways to describe how excited she is, and ready to have sex.

For the sake of argument, I'll just point out that the erection is standard. It's not the only sign, and the man (Or men) can still have sex without it, but most of the descriptions tend to focus on that. Down to the inch, even the fractional inch.

"She's wet."

Okay, this is a bit simplistic, and there's always opportunities for purple prose her. Her fragrent orchid welling up with nectar... However, this is also a late sign, because she prodces that mostly on the inside.

It becomes hard for the reader to suspend their disbelief when she immediately soaks through her panties, and can be smelled across a crowded restaurant. Or the next table over, or really, anywhere outside her clothes, even in a miniskirt.

It quite honestly takes a while for it to run out, start dripping down her legs, or even wick between her labia high enough to moisten the skin covering the tip of her clitorus, and by then there's a lot of signs you could have skipped right past long before it even reaches the opening. (Which has 2 pairs of lips over it.)

Also, in porn movies, they have lubers. That's their job, they just stand bye with lube, just to make sure everything goes smoothly, so the shoot doesn't have to stop for the stars to read poetry to each other. There's also fluffers to get/keep the men hard, but a lot of scenes want to get right to the action, with little foreplay beyond getting the clothes off, because we came here to watch some fucking. Not a long walk on the beach.

Makeup

Women's makeup is primarily to simulate the signs of arousal. Plump red lips, a nice bloom of blush on the cheeks, even mascara, and eyeliner are intended to accentuate the eyes, which express how she's feeling, if you know what to look for.

Even if she's wearing red lipstick, you can see them plump, right in front of you, in the conversation. When she starts looking more like Angelina Jolie, or Scarlett Johannson, that's a good sign you don't have to stick your hands in her panties, and feel for the wet spot to check. She may also lick her lips, or "Bite" them. (Pinch behind her teeth, or between them, if she literally bites them, she's probably holding back, because she can't say anything nice.. "Mhm?")

Same with flush, and also relaxing of the eyelids. Sometimes described as fluttering, when she becomes aware of it, and blinks to get them to open again, imagining his weight on the pillow next to her when she finally gets him home to bed... Or, they just might droop lower, relaxing. Or blinks slowly. Not just to wet her eyes before they dry out, but look sleepy. "Dreamy,' with the other signs like flushing, and the blood rushing to her lips.

This can spread down her neck, up to her ears (If visible) down her chest, but once the clothes come off, rarely covers the breasts as darkly, or as totally as the upper chest, and shoulders. (On theory where the "Heart" symbol comes from. And why it's associated with the literal Heart.

Breath

Quite often "Breathless,"or her breaths became quicker, and shallower, thrilling with the anticipation... The heart rate goes up too, as does blood pressure to rush blood to all the places mentioned above, but you get the idea. It's exciting, and active sex is, pretty active. The body tends to get ready for that the same as any activity (Or simulated activity like playing a racing game.)

However, unless she's narrating, or the whole scene is 3rd person omniscient, you don't want to kill the mood by whipping out a Sphygmomanometer at Chez Chic. I've used it in a Nurse check-in at a doctor's office (For Viagra. "You don't need viagra!" Not right now...) but you can listen to her breathe. Notice that it's shallower, until she starts panting with the exertion...

The voice may also get lower, rougher, "Huskier" though that can be faked. (See makeup, and Lube, above.)

Nipples!

Guys do this too. In fact, next chance you get, stand in front of a mirror, and compare the color of your nipples to the color of your lips. Now, do whatever you need to to get aroused. Male or female, regardless of skin tone (Lips, and nipples don't tan, either) then compare the color of the 4 (2 lips, 2 nipples) when they're filled with blood. Yeah. When they harden from cold, or stimulation without (Before arousal) they stiffen, become "Erect," but don't fill up with blood. In fact, they tend to shrink, and become paler as the capillaries contract, to conserve body heat. Just like anything else.

Down There

Long before the moisture starts to leak out where she can Feel it (By then, she's already felt it relax, and loosen inside, as the nerve endings fire up) all the erectile tissue in her general vulval area fills up too. This included her clitorus, which included the rest of it, which isn't hidden in the folds of her labia. The mons pubis, is the rest of the iceberg. It might be covered in pubic hairs, it might be shaved, but it still swells slightly. Not much, but if you watch it, you can see her get an erection with her knees clamped together.

Or not. I tend to watch porn until she starts visibly getting aroused. If she does, sometimes you can't see it at all. Any of these signs may or may not be visible to the naked eye, however the breathing can't be faked. Not really, even by extremely good actresses (Pornographic or not.) Since they may be attached to varying degrees, the inner labia may also fatten up. (There shouldn't be erectile tissue in there, but it's the same vascular bed as everything else.)

This is why they get "Hot." It's blood, flowing to the areas affected, so you can see it. I can see it on people with extremely dark skin, including Men who're still dressed, and cross their legs to cover up the tell-tail sign of their erection. The characters can Fell it, and it's a good way to add Depth to your descriptions. If you ever tire of reading the same line about the throbbing #inches beating with his pulse.

His quickened pulse? The veins showing blue along the sides like lightning bolts? What about her? is she turned on? How can you tell, is she wet yet?

eroticax-couple-s-porn-you-re-the-one-6.jpg


What about now?

This is a discussion, or not ment to be a lecture. I just ran through a short list of the things i think of off the top of my head. how do you tell if she aroused? Readers, what would you like to read that describes how hot she is for him (her, or them)? i tend to think of the blood. not just pumping, but where it goes. What about you?

Discuss...
 
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When I push him down on the bedand sit on his face, he generally gets the message that I am aroused.
 
If she likes you, she lets you. If she loves you, she helps you.
 
oh dear me

no one has time for this shit, just lean over and tell the person you are horny
 
I dont read the stories here.

So, you just come here to humiliate people who aren't ashamed of our sexual fantasies? That's not an accusation, I really want to know. What do you come here for? What do you get out of it?
 
I think, oftentimes, eyes get too described. In hentai, any sex act whatsoever seems to start female characters crying.

Here on Lit, eyes are described as “burning with lust.”

What does that look like, exactly?
 
Here on Lit, eyes are described as “burning with lust.”

What does that look like, exactly?

Hot? I'm guessing hot. (Since the only other option seems to be "Wet," and that doesn't sound right.)
 
I think, oftentimes, eyes get too described. In hentai, any sex act whatsoever seems to start female characters crying.

Here on Lit, eyes are described as “burning with lust.”

What does that look like, exactly?

iu
 

Sexy! Well, I guess it's time to move onto the (And some myths...) portion of the discussion.

Any questions?

"Don't look, Marion. Whatever happens, shut your eyes, and don't look..."

~I. Jones. You know, it was decades before I actually watched that scene?
 
When I push him down on the bedand sit on his face, he generally gets the message that I am aroused.

Okay, 1: I love the aggression here. 2: Is it safe to assume that subtle nuances were tried, and failed?
 
I think the start of it all is dilated pupils.

Quite often the first one you can see, but unfortunately what I call a Non-specific symptom. Especially if there's drugs/alcohol, mood lighting, or "I'm gonna get laid!" complex involved.

Good call! I just tend to focus on the eyelids, and what they express better.
 
Quite often the first one you can see, but unfortunately what I call a Non-specific symptom. Especially if there's drugs/alcohol, mood lighting, or "I'm gonna get laid!" complex involved.

Good call! I just tend to focus on the eyelids, and what they express better.

Points taken.

I disagree with what you wrote earlier. A woman can, and i have, been aroused in an instant, and it was detected by scent.
 
A woman can, and i have, been aroused in an instant, and it was detected by scent.

Point taken, and I've experienced that before too. However, it's not reliable, much less every single time a woman has sex. (Read some stories.) Also, you get more scent from the hair than the ladyspace, unless she's naked and spread eagle.
 
*sniff sniff*

Okay, sense weave reached a con-scents-us, (If not the Climax) in this discussion, can we discuss ways to describe a woman's feminine musk, other than the trite, and true feminine musk? That was the original intent here, I mostly put it on GB to have something to field other than arguments starting with "You think..."

Sorry, still a little bitter. So anyway, one of the most difficult senses to put into words is olfactory. So, any suggestions?

(Also, sorry about all those puns.)
 
[lots of stuff to read, but worth it]
Discuss...


I'm ignant.


My default is that to not only assume she's not aroused, but even if she says she is, there's a decent chance she's not.

I kind of had an argument with KimGordon67—I might post it here later—where I was arguing that at least according to some feminists I've heard or read a bit, women aren't really into sex—at least PIV sex—it's a male thing.

First, there's the possible evolutionary thing: men do it, women take it; that I've heard that women are more into chocolates, rubs, hopes of devoted partners, maybe Sex in the City episodes. If women enjoy sex, men really needn't be part of it—they have their toys, themselves, and for the more liberated, each other.

I read somewhere that women can't write erotica, not stuff they like at any rate, because they tailor such for an audience in our heterosexist patriarchal society.

This despite the fact that the best stuff I read here in Literotica—at least the several stories—was from a woman—albeit from a male POV.

The Liberation of Kate: 5 Part Series
https://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=2976261&page=submissions

I certainly liked it, but then again she might have been tailoring to people like me, a privileged white cishet male.






Where does that leave my writings?

Women as not particularly aroused and things like two naked snarky lesbians:

More like what did Marlene and Nisha said!
https://chyoa.com/chapter/More-like-what-did-Marlene-and-Nisha-said!.379137
 
Pitching to the wrong crowd. People here think Lit was formed so losers like them who have been booted from any legit chat forum can have a place to sling poo and yammer about politics.

They hate to think that this is a porn site and not an actual political forum and don't get that the stories they mock are the reason they have a place to pretend to be something they're not; relevant.

And let's face it the majority of the men here have never aroused a woman other than to pay them an extra hundred to moan louder.

Try this in the fetish forum where people actually want to talk about sex on a sex site.
 
I'll just assume for the moment that we've all done it. Seen porn, read erotic stories, even the ones who don't write them. Let's take a picture for example:

http://encrypted-tbn0.***********/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSR9iqB3gH_Iu0fOId49mqTVO4KpNTDxnhhRXPC4QqgXrUVLyES

Is she turned on? Is he? How can you tell? For the purposes of writing (Or even reading) a story, there's ways to describe how excited she is, and ready to have sex.

For the sake of argument, I'll just point out that the erection is standard. It's not the only sign, and the man (Or men) can still have sex without it, but most of the descriptions tend to focus on that. Down to the inch, even the fractional inch.

"She's wet."

Okay, this is a bit simplistic, and there's always opportunities for purple prose her. Her fragrent orchid welling up with nectar... However, this is also a late sign, because she prodces that mostly on the inside.

It becomes hard for the reader to suspend their disbelief when she immediately soaks through her panties, and can be smelled across a crowded restaurant. Or the next table over, or really, anywhere outside her clothes, even in a miniskirt.

It quite honestly takes a while for it to run out, start dripping down her legs, or even wick between her labia high enough to moisten the skin covering the tip of her clitorus, and by then there's a lot of signs you could have skipped right past long before it even reaches the opening. (Which has 2 pairs of lips over it.)

Also, in porn movies, they have lubers. That's their job, they just stand bye with lube, just to make sure everything goes smoothly, so the shoot doesn't have to stop for the stars to read poetry to each other. There's also fluffers to get/keep the men hard, but a lot of scenes want to get right to the action, with little foreplay beyond getting the clothes off, because we came here to watch some fucking. Not a long walk on the beach.

Makeup

Women's makeup is primarily to simulate the signs of arousal. Plump red lips, a nice bloom of blush on the cheeks, even mascara, and eyeliner are intended to accentuate the eyes, which express how she's feeling, if you know what to look for.

Even if she's wearing red lipstick, you can see them plump, right in front of you, in the conversation. When she starts looking more like Angelina Jolie, or Scarlett Johannson, that's a good sign you don't have to stick your hands in her panties, and feel for the wet spot to check. She may also lick her lips, or "Bite" them. (Pinch behind her teeth, or between them, if she literally bites them, she's probably holding back, because she can't say anything nice.. "Mhm?")

Same with flush, and also relaxing of the eyelids. Sometimes described as fluttering, when she becomes aware of it, and blinks to get them to open again, imagining his weight on the pillow next to her when she finally gets him home to bed... Or, they just might droop lower, relaxing. Or blinks slowly. Not just to wet her eyes before they dry out, but look sleepy. "Dreamy,' with the other signs like flushing, and the blood rushing to her lips.

This can spread down her neck, up to her ears (If visible) down her chest, but once the clothes come off, rarely covers the breasts as darkly, or as totally as the upper chest, and shoulders. (On theory where the "Heart" symbol comes from. And why it's associated with the literal Heart.

Breath

Quite often "Breathless,"or her breaths became quicker, and shallower, thrilling with the anticipation... The heart rate goes up too, as does blood pressure to rush blood to all the places mentioned above, but you get the idea. It's exciting, and active sex is, pretty active. The body tends to get ready for that the same as any activity (Or simulated activity like playing a racing game.)

However, unless she's narrating, or the whole scene is 3rd person omniscient, you don't want to kill the mood by whipping out a Sphygmomanometer at Chez Chic. I've used it in a Nurse check-in at a doctor's office (For Viagra. "You don't need viagra!" Not right now...) but you can listen to her breathe. Notice that it's shallower, until she starts panting with the exertion...

The voice may also get lower, rougher, "Huskier" though that can be faked. (See makeup, and Lube, above.)

Nipples!

Guys do this too. In fact, next chance you get, stand in front of a mirror, and compare the color of your nipples to the color of your lips. Now, do whatever you need to to get aroused. Male or female, regardless of skin tone (Lips, and nipples don't tan, either) then compare the color of the 4 (2 lips, 2 nipples) when they're filled with blood. Yeah. When they harden from cold, or stimulation without (Before arousal) they stiffen, become "Erect," but don't fill up with blood. In fact, they tend to shrink, and become paler as the capillaries contract, to conserve body heat. Just like anything else.

Down There

Long before the moisture starts to leak out where she can Feel it (By then, she's already felt it relax, and loosen inside, as the nerve endings fire up) all the erectile tissue in her general vulval area fills up too. This included her clitorus, which included the rest of it, which isn't hidden in the folds of her labia. The mons pubis, is the rest of the iceberg. It might be covered in pubic hairs, it might be shaved, but it still swells slightly. Not much, but if you watch it, you can see her get an erection with her knees clamped together.

Or not. I tend to watch porn until she starts visibly getting aroused. If she does, sometimes you can't see it at all. Any of these signs may or may not be visible to the naked eye, however the breathing can't be faked. Not really, even by extremely good actresses (Pornographic or not.) Since they may be attached to varying degrees, the inner labia may also fatten up. (There shouldn't be erectile tissue in there, but it's the same vascular bed as everything else.)

This is why they get "Hot." It's blood, flowing to the areas affected, so you can see it. I can see it on people with extremely dark skin, including Men who're still dressed, and cross their legs to cover up the tell-tail sign of their erection. The characters can Fell it, and it's a good way to add Depth to your descriptions. If you ever tire of reading the same line about the throbbing #inches beating with his pulse.

His quickened pulse? The veins showing blue along the sides like lightning bolts? What about her? is she turned on? How can you tell, is she wet yet?

eroticax-couple-s-porn-you-re-the-one-6.jpg


What about now?

This is a discussion, or not ment to be a lecture. I just ran through a short list of the things i think of off the top of my head. how do you tell if she aroused? Readers, what would you like to read that describes how hot she is for him (her, or them)? i tend to think of the blood. not just pumping, but where it goes. What about you?

Discuss...
There's one completely unmistakable sign that she is ready for sex that not even the dumbest guy could miss:

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I'm ignant.

My default is that to not only assume she's not aroused, but even if she says she is, there's a decent chance she's not.

Strawman, strawoman, strawfeminist, allusion to a conversation not in evidence with a threat to show us it... Later... You're one imaginary body shy of an Orgy fantasy here, if anyone can get turned on.

Worth reading, though I can only reply to what you wrote for yourself. With a question: How is that not rape?

Now you can tell if she is (Or not faking it.)
 
And let's face it the majority of the men here have never aroused a woman other than to pay them an extra hundred to moan louder.

I will never understand this. I mean, how difficult is it to:
  • Pay attention
  • Ask questions
  • Act reciprocally
 
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