Seeds of an idea for a trans story

[Saunaaddict]

Hi all,

I'm a straight cis man, and have written a few stories on literotica now.

I have the seeds of an idea for a story including a trans character, but am clueless about how to go about it. I'm also worried of approaching the topic insensitively.

Basically the idea is that a transwoman is made to use the mens locker room. She meets a guy in the showers, where they proceed to fuck.

I suppose i'm concerned this is insensitive, due to all the social and political dynamic of it. Transphobes often use locker rooms and bathrooms as a way to stir up hate against the trans community, which is definitely not my intention.

Also I'm completely clueless as to how locker rooms work for non binary and trans people, are they simply avoided all together?

 

[Escierto]

My girlfriend is transgender. In 35 years she has never used a men’s bathroom or locker room. She considers herself a woman. If she was ever forced to use a men’s facility, she would just not do the activity that required it.

 

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I have read a number of transgender stories and a lot of them are written by guys who live in Pornville, USA. It’s obvious they don’t know any transgender people so they make up these situations that are ridiculous. Transgender people are frequently the victims of violence so most of them try to live without calling a lot of attention to themselves. My girlfriend is a very sexy woman but when she goes out in public she really tries to tone down the sexuality so that she doesn’t get unwanted attention.

 

[TallOne]

The trans women I am friends with despise "chasers" and anyone that treats them as anything but women. If forced to use a men's locker room they would just not go to the gym at all no matter what repercussions. Someone wanting them for their girl cock isn't someone they want because they plan to to have bottom surgery as soon as they can afford it.

 

[Escierto]

It is important to note that not everyone wants bottom surgery, and rejecting a cis man's advances might not necessarily have anything to do with plans for bottom surgery.

As someone who works with my local trans population and is also trans, I can think of so many reasons that have been provided to me time and time again. Surveys, anecdotes, etc. (NOTE: I'm going to say "penis" here, but trans women call their genitals by so many different names. Clit, clitty, dick, cock, you name it.)

1. Erections don't happen / do not persist. (This often changes with time. Studies have shown that the initial decrease in libido and erectile strength due to MTF-HRT does not persist in many trans women and 'equals out,' same for the increase in libido for FTM-HRT.)

2. She is fine with keeping her penis, but she doesn't want to use her penis [at this time / for now / indefinitely]. Maybe she just likes how it looks.

3. She doesn't want to use her penis, with a man. Maybe women are sexier. Or trans men. Trans women. Trans people in general (binary or nonbinary).

4. She actually loves using her penis overall, but uses it in ways that are not penetrative. Rubbing? Dry humping? Gentle caresses? If penetrative, she would only use it orally. Maybe she gets turned off if this man says she wants her "rock hard cock" or some shit like that.

5. She likes her penis and likes men, but this man seems like a creep or just is not attractive, period.​

Just like any woman, and really any person of any gender, you can turn them off with your words and your behavior. And there are a lot of trans women who seek men on gay dating apps or on other online sites for casual sexual encounters, whether they are planning on getting bottom surgery or not. Straight men and bi men, rarely gay men (according to most recent studies). I've seen these women on these apps, I've heard from them, I've known them.

So, trans women are not a monolith. Like women, they all have different ideas about sex. Some would look at a guy who is coming at them for a "good" time and be repulsed. Some would jump at the opportunity, maybe any opportunity. Others are more picky, if you will.

And it all gets even more complicated when you put the stress of whether or not you disclose the fact that you are trans into the picture. But that's a tangent for another day.

Well stated.

 

[TallOne]

So, trans women are not a monolith.

Of course, hence the qualifier of ones that I am friends with (and their larger network through social media). 2 have had bottom surgery and are with cis men. The rest are lesbian or t4t only. And countless gofundmes for bottom surgery.

Just the reality I’ve seen is pretty much the opposite of the image the porn/sex tourism industry portrays. But that of course is just my experience.

 

[Escierto]

Of course, hence the qualifier of ones that I am friends with (and their larger network through social media). 2 have had bottom surgery and are with cis men. The rest are lesbian or t4t only. And countless gofundmes for bottom surgery.

Just the reality I’ve seen is pretty much the opposite of the image the porn/sex tourism industry portrays. But that of course is just my experience.

My experience and I know it’s rare, is my girlfriend doesn’t have any issues with her genitalia. She has always been female and has always been accepted as one by her friends and family. She is only attracted to cis men who are straight. Of course most cis men who are straight would not be willing to bottom for her. I told her that I love her so much that I would bottom for her even if that was not my inclination. She’s a beautiful person and she deserves every happiness that I can give her, in or out of bed.

 

[timreh]

A cis male writer on Lit was writing a story with a strong trans female protagonist. He asked if he could send me his work to review / comment on. So far he's taken all my comments / adjustments well and the character is believable from a trans perspective while following his artistic direction.