The lifestyle is such a……I think a good word is “complicated” thing. This is mainly for couples. Let’s face it, a single guy will say yes when invited into the bedroom of a couple or the female half of a couple. Guys are….well, you fill in the right word here, lol!
We have discovered that a single woman will join a couple when she is horny, bisexual, and attracted to both the husband and the wife. The female half of a married couple will join another couple when she is not getting any at home and she is horny and/or bi.
For both single types, it is only about their physical pleasure, very simple. For a couple, it gets more complicated. Husbands usually have much more varied desires than wives. He may enjoy seeing or hearing about his wife having sex with another man in a hot wife scenario. Or he may enjoy being a culkold. Wives have many reasons why they want to play as well.
When we decided to dabble, we discussed it a lot. I mean a lot! The discussions were also part of our foreplay and created some of the most sensuous love making. We were lucky to make the acquaintances of a wonderful couple in the very beginning who took us under their wing and really broke down the lifestyle and explained all the do’s and don’ts, the positives and negatives. The tricks and the traps. We never ever wanted to be a marital aid for another couple so we never treated another couple as a marital aid either. Sadly, you may encounter others that just want you to be a sex toy for them. You mean nothing to them and when they are finished with you, you are discarded. Yes, there are many of those out there. And if you don’t mind being treated as a disposable, go for it! Or if you just want to use others and notch your belt, to each their own. I am not judging.
But the premise of this thread is with “friends”. YOU are bringing your friends to a whole new intimate level. We all have “friends” that we can say hello to on the other side of the fence or help out moving that new dresser into their house. We also have friends that we will share meals with. Attend their kid’s Bday parties. Invite to family functions. Talk and confide with. Have over for morning coffee. All different and various degrees of closeness.
But to invite friends over and strip naked and engage in sexual intimacy with, that is the deepest level. Your head needs to be screwed on right as well as theirs. Because it can be one of the most intense sexual experiences or it can be like stepping on a land mine. It may end up dissolving the friendship, and I mean ALL of it not just the sex part. No more visits, no more phone calls, no more talking, nothing, period. Or it can be incredible. “Mary, my husband’s birthday is coming up in two weeks, I want to give him a surprise birthday present. Would you come over on Friday evening and spend the night? I want him to have two women to love and exhaust him all night!
I would love that Jennifer! Let me ask my husband and of course, when it is my husband’s birthday, I hope you help me with his gift?”
So talk to each other about what you want and I really hope you have the type of friends that can handle this. You need friends that are not “in love” with you all but care so much about you both because then the sexual pleasure is intense! There is a difference between going thru the motions and really getting into it.
Hope I explained this well enough?
We have discovered that a single woman will join a couple when she is horny, bisexual, and attracted to both the husband and the wife. The female half of a married couple will join another couple when she is not getting any at home and she is horny and/or bi.
For both single types, it is only about their physical pleasure, very simple. For a couple, it gets more complicated. Husbands usually have much more varied desires than wives. He may enjoy seeing or hearing about his wife having sex with another man in a hot wife scenario. Or he may enjoy being a culkold. Wives have many reasons why they want to play as well.
When we decided to dabble, we discussed it a lot. I mean a lot! The discussions were also part of our foreplay and created some of the most sensuous love making. We were lucky to make the acquaintances of a wonderful couple in the very beginning who took us under their wing and really broke down the lifestyle and explained all the do’s and don’ts, the positives and negatives. The tricks and the traps. We never ever wanted to be a marital aid for another couple so we never treated another couple as a marital aid either. Sadly, you may encounter others that just want you to be a sex toy for them. You mean nothing to them and when they are finished with you, you are discarded. Yes, there are many of those out there. And if you don’t mind being treated as a disposable, go for it! Or if you just want to use others and notch your belt, to each their own. I am not judging.
But the premise of this thread is with “friends”. YOU are bringing your friends to a whole new intimate level. We all have “friends” that we can say hello to on the other side of the fence or help out moving that new dresser into their house. We also have friends that we will share meals with. Attend their kid’s Bday parties. Invite to family functions. Talk and confide with. Have over for morning coffee. All different and various degrees of closeness.
But to invite friends over and strip naked and engage in sexual intimacy with, that is the deepest level. Your head needs to be screwed on right as well as theirs. Because it can be one of the most intense sexual experiences or it can be like stepping on a land mine. It may end up dissolving the friendship, and I mean ALL of it not just the sex part. No more visits, no more phone calls, no more talking, nothing, period. Or it can be incredible. “Mary, my husband’s birthday is coming up in two weeks, I want to give him a surprise birthday present. Would you come over on Friday evening and spend the night? I want him to have two women to love and exhaust him all night!
I would love that Jennifer! Let me ask my husband and of course, when it is my husband’s birthday, I hope you help me with his gift?”
So talk to each other about what you want and I really hope you have the type of friends that can handle this. You need friends that are not “in love” with you all but care so much about you both because then the sexual pleasure is intense! There is a difference between going thru the motions and really getting into it.
Hope I explained this well enough?
