How to be Real on Lit

[SmokingFap]

My experience has been different. Say you're upfront with someone from beginning. The guy seems to be upfront as well. A little later it's 100+ kinks and his thinking he can coerce you into things you don't have an interest in, that you were upfront about. This isnt a one off.

Just remember this isn't Utopia. There are disingenuous assholes and bitches here, just like there are in real life.

 

[Lady2020]

Just remember this isn't Utopia. There are disingenuous assholes and bitches here, just like there are in real life.

Well, no shit.

 

[Greylag]

My experience has been different. Say you're upfront with someone from beginning. The guy seems to be upfront as well. A little later it's 100+ kinks and his thinking he can coerce you into things you don't have an interest in, that you were upfront about. This isnt a one off.

Perhaps it’s just the wrong connections just like it can be in RL?

 

[Lady2020]

Perhaps it’s just the wrong connections just like it can be in RL?

I tend to think it's more than that.

 

[Lady2020]

Just remember this isn't Utopia. There are disingenuous assholes and bitches here, just like there are in real life.

Isn't that the truth.

 

[Greylag]

I tend to think it's more than that.

Sad you feel that way. I wouldn’t be coerced into anything and have only had to block one person so far.

 

[Lady2020]

Sad you feel that way. I wouldn’t be coerced into anything and have only had to block one person so far.

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

 

[Greylag]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

From what I read from time to time I appreciate that point but still sad you have to make it!

 

[Coyote100]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

We rarely have to deal with obnoxious malès and unsolicited dick pics.

 

[Lady2020]

We rarely have to deal with obnoxious malès and unsolicited dick pics.

You could not even grasp the reality.

 

[Greylag]

You could not even grasp the reality.

All I can say on behalf of the decent guys on here is that I try to be respectful and considerate at all times!

 

[XShadynzX]

I'd like to think that I am the same person on Lit as in RL. I do not pretend to be anyone other than who I am...warts and all.
What you see is what you get.
For good or bad.

 

[Coyote100]

You could not even grasp the reality.

Maybe not. But i wouldn't want to be accused of being a cradle robber with you.

 

[Lady2020]

Maybe not. But i wouldn't want to be accused of being a cradle robber with you.

Huh?

 

[Greylag]

Maybe not. But i wouldn't want to be accused of being a cradle robber with you.

Sorry I struggle to grasp what age has to do with anything on here apart form in your psyche?

 

[stxjimmy]

You could not even grasp the reality.

Real or not what every one here should remember is that we’re all responsible for how we act and what we post.

 

[Cindy027]

Well that was some cunning advertising for this thread

 

[Pad_Foot]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

True… but we do deal with males pretending to be friendly women

Men can be assholes to many genders

 

[jehoram]

Alright, I might as well put in my one cent. In my experience, I think most folks on here are being more "real" in some ways than they are in their real lives. This is where people feel free and safe to talk about their secret memories, kinks, quirks, fetishes, and fantasies.

That was exactly the point of one of my stories. In part 2 of "A Desert Adventure," I wrote myself in as a character, and the other MC was a woman who had taken the time to research everything I'd written here and all the pictures and threads I'd "liked." So she knew every one of my particular kinks before we'd even met.

 

[LustyScribe]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

I have zero doubt that is true. In contrast, I have had extended conversations and relationships with some wonderful, honest women on here, and even when those relationships have faded, I count them as blessings in my life. I guess it helps that I'm mature enough to have reasonable expectations and respect for limitations. I think that's the key here. It is sad, but common decency...has become uncommon.

 

[v_indigo]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

This.

 

[v_indigo]

I have zero doubt that is true. In contrast, I have had extended conversations and relationships with some wonderful, honest women on here, and even when those relationships have faded, I count them as blessings in my life. I guess it helps that I'm mature enough to have reasonable expectations and respect for limitations. I think that's the key here. It is sad, but common decency...has become uncommon.

‘Common decency’ was never common. It’s just now women are speaking up about the situation loudly enough that we can no longer be completely ignored. Which isn’t to say we aren’t demeaned, insulted, and belittled when we do speak up.

 

[Acktion]

Not really much point when your first interaction is them telling you you typed too much.

 

[Lady2020]

Lot of different personalities on Lit with different goals and skill sets.

 

[Plasmaball]

This is kind of a complicated answer.
You have all sorts of folks who have come through here.
Some people are real but if you are jaded enough even then that seems suspect.
You have people who are only here to cause problems. Some pretend to be something they are not. ( men and women).
Very few I've come across are real real.