How many people have you had sex with?

[satindesire]

I'd rather not try to get drunk because, based on my family history, I'd very likely end up beating the shit out of someone in a not so fun, kinky way. I'm also not sure if it's possible, anyway. The time I smoked pot, I smoked more than someone that's been doing it since the 70s and absolutely nothing happened. It was supposed to be really, really good shit, too, that's so strong it choked said pothead (that also smokes a pack or more of cigarettes a day) the first time they tried it. Maybe I'm just special.

Actually, the first time anyone smokes pot, they usually don't get high. For some reason. I actually don't really know why, but that's EXTREMELY common!

You typically have to smoke pot three or four times or so to actually get high for the first time.

If you're curious about getting stoned, try it again with someone that you trust and like. You might get really sleepy, so make sure you're near a bed or couch to crash on.

 

[infinity706]

Said pothead is one of my good friends. The problem is that she wants to fuck me, but won't do it sober and wants us both to go get drunk/high so she can blame it on that since she's old enough to be my mom. I know, if it happens, she'll blow it off and use the one time as an excuse for letting me "take advantage of her" on lots more occasions. I'm just not sure if I want to break my rule of not fucking drunk/high people or not. It's not even about the getting high thing. It's more the ethical slut vs the proper lady (that has a million rules for no other reason than to break them in private). It's not even like she could get pregnant, considering she had a hysterectomy. Of course, if she ever got me drunk/high, there's no doubt she'd "rape" me since we've been friends for years and she knows me well enough to know she'd get away with it for sure. Yeah, it has to be complicated.

 

[satindesire]

If you want my opinion, I would certainly NOT do it. If she's itching to have an excuse to sleep with you, and hasn't done it yet, then that's not good enough. She should value you more than that.

 

[brickroadray]

I'm 23 and I've had sex with 17 girls.

WOW!!! I'm bowing to you my friend.

 

[infid3l]

One lover IRL.

- Kristina

 

[brickroadray]

I'm 19 and have had sex with 4 men.

Like to make it 5, gorgeous? *wink*

 

[TheCarver]

Somewhere around 30. Mostly female.

*edited*

Oh, and I'm almost 47.

 

[SweetErika]

WOW!!! I'm bowing to you my friend.

Would you say the same thing to a woman who'd had sex with 17 men at 23, if you had no chance of getting anything sexual from her?


I'm almost 30 and have had 10 male and female partners.

 

[TheCarver]

Would you say the same thing to a woman who'd had sex with 17 men at 23, if you had no chance of getting anything sexual from her?


I'm almost 30 and have had 10 male and female partners.

I think that's a great number. Shows initiative and motivation.

 

[infinity706]

If you want my opinion, I would certainly NOT do it. If she's itching to have an excuse to sleep with you, and hasn't done it yet, then that's not good enough. She should value you more than that.

This is one of those strange kind of situations that only I would get into, though. It's just one of those weird things about how our friendship works. We've both done the same kind of mind games thing for everything, even something as innocent as a kiss on the cheek or going bowling. We even do the same thing even if we're thinking about going out to eat dinner somewhere. The fact that its sex is completely irrelevant and more the fact that neither one of us is going to take charge unless its of immediate urgency that one of us has to. We even have a really good idea of what's going to happen if we ever do have sex because we've been slowly teasing each other with it for, oh, the last 5 months or so and on and off for the last 4 years or so. Somehow, I doubt it would have lasted that long if we weren't fucking a bunch of other people, though. Of course, we've been effectively been close to boyfriend and girlfriend for all that time. We're just "not dating," only see each other once a week unless there's special circumstances, and I'm officially her "gay friend that helps her with things" despite all the heavy flirting and petting in private. We're even taking a vacation together to the Bahamas next year. Of course, we're not going to move in together or spend too much time together, though, because we don't want the spark to diminish and it's also far easier to take someone back to our place and fuck their brains out when we're "single" and don't have any limitations on dating other people. (seriously, just think about how hard it would be for you to get a "date" if you actually wanted one) This isn't even the only relationship I have like that. I have 2 other "girlfriends" and 1 "boyfriend" with very similar circumstances. (yes, they know about each other) It's sort of cheating play, kind of how people have consentual "rape" and all kinds of other kinky shit. It's also kind of a weird, BDSM kind of thing because we both want to play the sub. That's a big reason for the being drunk/high and "raping" the other one. Of course, one of us is going to be the designated driver of this "rape" thing. She really wants to be the incapacitated one because I'm far stronger than her and can take charge if she gets too wild and risks getting hurt. I'm also the one with all the experience in kinky sex. She was one of those virgins until marriage (her mom even took her to the gynecologist for a "virginity test" as a condition for buying her wedding dress) Of course, all kinds of rediculous shit, happened in her first couple marriages, so she secretly dated a bunch of married guys and never managed to get good sex. When I met her at 42, it was her first day as a porn store clerk of all things that didn't have a clue what any of those toys were for or even that she had a thing called a clitoris. In her span of over a dozen guys, she still thought sex was penis in vagina and/or blowjobs. (yeah, that's what happens when an innocent woman learns sex from a typical guy) She's very interested in exploring all kinds of kinky sex once we get going, including fucking me with a Feeldoe that she now has in her dresser, getting beaten/beating me with a whip, bondage, squirting, doing porn... Who knows? She might even get her first orgasm with a partner. Afterall, I want to put my mouth between her legs and she has too much of a vagina hangup thanks to her mom. It's actually kind of funny because she can discuss her sexual history in graphic detail, but the very mention of female masturbation, cunnilingus, or the fact that she even has a vulva/vagina makes her turn red.

 

[infinity706]

Would you say the same thing to a woman who'd had sex with 17 men at 23, if you had no chance of getting anything sexual from her?


I'm almost 30 and have had 10 male and female partners.

Yeah, and why don't I get congratulated for having over 250 partners? I've even gotten the female number up above 17, now, even though, they've been added to my special friends list rather than being random hookups. Of course, to answer the question, I'd definately congratulate the woman just as easily as the guy if we were friends. I'd be the first to smack her on the butt and tell "Way to go, girlfriend!" Women should definately be entitled to equal sexual privledges, including bragging about getting "nailed like a piece of lumber."

So, how does the "10 male and female partners" work, though? Is it 10 partners including males and females or 10 males and 10 females. I'd lean toward the former considering your values, but it's pretty ambiguous.

 

[Kinkybytch]

I am 29 *almost 30* and have been with 17 men and 1 woman

 

[Bandit58]

I'm 51 and for the first 43 years of my life I had sex with 1 man.
In the last 8 years though I've had 4 male and 8 female partners, although nowadays I limit myself to my Husband/Dom and one regular female friend I have been seeing for the past 4 years

 

[belle1025]

I'm an almost thirty female and I've been with nineteen men and six women. I think that's right. I may have forgotten a man or woman.

From 17-21, I have one partner.
At 22, a seccond partner.
From 23 to 25 I had a multitude of partners. I was an international flight attendant while in graduate school. I had "friends" in every zipcode/postal code.
From 26- close to 30 I've been four partners.

As an aside, I NEVER tell people the truth. I have been saying "You're my fourth partner for years now!". Judge if you want.

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, and why don't I get congratulated for having over 250 partners?

Maybe some people think you're exaggerating or it squicks them.

So, how does the "10 male and female partners" work, though? Is it 10 partners including males and females or 10 males and 10 females. I'd lean toward the former considering your values, but it's pretty ambiguous.

Ten total. Eight men and two women.

A good part of it is the fact that I value fidelity, but it's also just a numbers game. My husband and I were monogamous for five years, which is almost a third of my sex life.

 

[moistmissy]

im 37 and married for 10 yrs, and ive slept with about 80 people, all people i know, never slept with a stranger, and about 10 of those were women/girls1!!

 

[moistmissy]

im 37 and married for 10 yrs, and ive slept with about 80 people, all people i know, never slept with a stranger, and about 10 of those were women/girls1!!

can i just put in, i havent slept with anyone else since being married, if i did it would be a woman with my husband!!! we spend one night a week getting "wasted" and spend the night "together" whilst kids are in bed, its been crucialto our adoration/love/desire for each other!
and my husband has only slept with 6 people, so i kinda moulded him!!

 

[amissmosely]

..........................................................

 

[curiousisjane]

.....

Now I am feeling my age. 48 and never kept a record but can't be more than 8 men and no women, yet.

 

[moistmissy]

lets see.....
does rape count?
what about oral only?

if rape counts but oral doesnt I've been with 6 guys....
if oral counts, the number is unfathomable....lol

ohhh thats a fine line if it was unwilling rape rather than fantasy....id never include my experiences..........not important

 

[infinity706]

Maybe some people think you're exaggerating or it squicks them.


Ten total. Eight men and two women.

A good part of it is the fact that I value fidelity, but it's also just a numbers game. My husband and I were monogamous for five years, which is almost a third of my sex life.

Well, it's not an exaggeration. I do wish more of them had been worthwhile, even on a sexual level, but then, that's just a risk you take with hookups.

Ironically, I value fidelity too, though. It's not like I've ever had sex behind any partner's back that had a reasonable expectation of monogamy.

 

[Luna_Bella]

Satin, I wasn't entailing that those people were your friends, just that in my entourage I was one with the lower numbers even though I turn out to be one of the most experienced/kinky ones ( funny how that work huh!) and that the average of 7 partners/woman brought up by infinity was not, in my opinion, really up to date or accurate.

I would add to that, I understand where you are coming from .... I am in a similar situation, small town where most every one has slept with every one else (because they were drunk or stoned or just plain bored!) My local library is also a very good friend to me!!!! It really does keep me out of trouble

 

[satindesire]

My local library is also a very good friend to me!!!! It really does keep me out of trouble

I lived in larger cities all over CA for years, when I moved back to Oklahoma, I was met with a bad case of culture shock. I'm not a drinker, so bars/clubbing was never my 'thing', and in CA there was always something for people my age to do that didn't involve alcohol. Here, no such luck.

It's sad. I think a lot of the drunk driving problems and relationship issues here would be resolved if there was something to do OTHER THAN go out and get wasted.

 

[infinity706]

Satin, I wasn't entailing that those people were your friends, just that in my entourage I was one with the lower numbers even though I turn out to be one of the most experienced/kinky ones ( funny how that work huh!) and that the average of 7 partners/woman brought up by infinity was not, in my opinion, really up to date or accurate.

I would add to that, I understand where you are coming from .... I am in a similar situation, small town where most every one has slept with every one else (because they were drunk or stoned or just plain bored!) My local library is also a very good friend to me!!!! It really does keep me out of trouble

The 7 partners number is supposed to be a representative average for women in the US overall not a select group of people you know. It might be rather low for the 20 something age group, though. Of course, I'm not really sure if promiscuity is really on the rise or it's just more truthfully disclosed.

 

[LaSalsa]

Around 40 all male, waiting for the Female experience though