BurningMonkey
TheMan In TheMirror
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- Jan 21, 2014
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I've been exchanging IMs with a woman who came here looking for "something", i.e., some emotional connection that she's not getting at home (she's married).
I have/had no intention of "hooking up" with her, either online (which I don't think is real, anyway) or in person (maybe if she were willing, and close by...but she's not, and she's not, so that's a nonstarter). I just wanted to find a new friend to chat with.
Well, she got "involved" with another member of Lit who's idea of a relationship was different than hers. And she got hurt. I think she invested much more in that exchange than was warranted, but that's beside the point, really. She's hurt, angry, feels worthless and stupid, etc., etc.
I've felt that way before, and I truly sympathize. My question is: Is there any gentle, quiet way to get her out of the Slough of Despondency and Self-Loathing? I really like what I know of this woman, and I think she'd be a nice friend, but she's so prickly right now that nobody can approach her.
Is there any way to break through? Or should I just write it off and forget it?
I have/had no intention of "hooking up" with her, either online (which I don't think is real, anyway) or in person (maybe if she were willing, and close by...but she's not, and she's not, so that's a nonstarter). I just wanted to find a new friend to chat with.
Well, she got "involved" with another member of Lit who's idea of a relationship was different than hers. And she got hurt. I think she invested much more in that exchange than was warranted, but that's beside the point, really. She's hurt, angry, feels worthless and stupid, etc., etc.
I've felt that way before, and I truly sympathize. My question is: Is there any gentle, quiet way to get her out of the Slough of Despondency and Self-Loathing? I really like what I know of this woman, and I think she'd be a nice friend, but she's so prickly right now that nobody can approach her.
Is there any way to break through? Or should I just write it off and forget it?