jimmyturtleman
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Thank you so much for your very detailed and informative reply. Your perspective is appreciated very much.We are indian couple settled in USA. Wanted to give our perspective since cuckold is taboo in our community but the lifestyle is growing within our community.
1) How long have you been married?
10 years.
2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
6 years.
3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Ongoing thing. Its become a lifestyle.
4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
We have 5 long term bulls. One is my wife’s ex. All are people we met and knew in real life. None are strangers.
5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
Our sex lives significantly improved since doing the lifestyle. We have more productive and enjoyable sex, we are needed to have bull sessions less and less. What started weekly during weekends has now become once ever two months/special occasions (birthdays, anniversary, etc.).
6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
It has literally saved our marriage. We got what is called arranged marriage (set up by parents; we met and talked few weeks before getting married). My wife had an ex/long term boyfriend who she couldn’t marry due to him being different religion. While we enjoyed each others company our sex compatibility wasnt there mainly because of my inexperience. Luck has it, her ex who is married coincidentally moved to same city as us, which helped us reconnect. I could see spark in her eyes when she met him and slowly I started to accept it. I was able to talk to her ex without her and told him my desire of cuckold to improve sex lives. We then was able to convince my wife and its a lifestyle we both embrace now.
I have started to build more trust with her. Let go of any ego or feel her body is for me alone. The fact that I dont “own her” is very liberating to her and watching her enjoy being with other men brings me a lot of joy and build a true love between both of us.
7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Initial sex before lifestyle was really bad sex, mostly me to blame. Especially when we had our second kid, sex was infrequent. Disagreements and unhappiness happened pretty fast, we were sleeping in different bedrooms. Afraid of divorce is what led to this lifestyle.
Sex now is amazing. I have physically been present and watched every session my wife had with bull without fail. Its more of “learning experience”. Her ex gave me a cage to wear during our first session. Learning to control erection/ejaculation with cage, learning what turns my wife on, different sex acts, learning to be rough and dirty in bed have been so valuable, my wife has less and less urges to be with bull and more with me.
8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Trust is so strong between us now. I enjoy that when she is in bed with bull she submits herself to bull completely. The humiliation of me during the session is very humbling and makes me a better husband after. I dont take her love for granted and she enjoys that these sessions are making me a more emotionally mature husband in relationship. She likes that I have become more of a “man” in bed and has trusted me for her to be submissive to me in relationship when it comes to sex.
9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Coming from religious family we dressed very conservatively before lifestyle and avoided all PDA or public affection. While we still maintain that with family, with friends and strangers we are much more comfortable doing PDA and wearing provocative clothes. She is comfortable now wearing tiny bikini in beach in front of other men, wearing clothes with lot of cleavage with friends, going to clubs and grinding/twerking to other men. We recently attended mardi gras where she was comfortable flashing to strangers.
10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
No complete secret with family. Most famiky is in india, which makes it easy to keep secret.
11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Absolutely for all reasons mentioned above. I encourage her to explore all taboos which we both like to explore. Interfaith, interracial, different sex acts (anal, rimjob, raw sex, etc). The taboo sex helps keep these sessions fun and spicy, and not get boring.
12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Meeting someone online of strangers I would try to avoid. It is paramount the guy/husband builds a strong friendship with bull prior to anything. The cuck to have complete trust with bull is paramount for wife to also have trust. Also take it slow and dont rush into sex. Go on dates and spend time at home with all 3 and get wife comfortable with sex just like real life “dates”. Have same unwritten rules, kiss after first or second date. Sex after few weeks, etc.
13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
Coming from indian community, I have seen poor sex lives cause rift and divorces, especially in arranged marriages. Cuckold is really a viable way to save a marriage from being unfaithful or leading yo divorce. It can really save a marriage if done correctly. Also take your time with lifestyle. Take a lot of time vetting for a bull. A bull that both wife and husband is comfortable with is paramount. It is a joint decision and set ground rules with bull early on what boundaries are. Good luck!
Thank you for your candid, thorough and well thought out responses. It sounds like you and your wife have a successful formula. I hope it continues for a long, long time.1) How long have you been married?
A) 7 years
2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
A) 3 months, we were still dating. We knew it was going to be a cuckold relationship from the outset as that is what I approached her with via a message on a vanilla dating site. She was already hooking up with younger guys so the only difference for her was doing it whilst in a relationship. It is also my first time as a cuckold, at least one who was aware. I had one girlfriend who cheated on me and I only found out after we broke up.
3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
A) It is ongoing, she prefers "Young Bucks" and sometimes sees women.
4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
A) The woman she sometimes sees is a friend who is also in a cuckold relationship as her husband can no longer perform sexually. The men she sees are strangers to us both.
5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
A) She sees different men, I would love it if she found one she wanted to see regularly but so far she tends to only see them once or twice. She goes to their places.
6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
A) It was cuckold from the outset as that is what I wanted to explore. I messaged her on a vanilla dating site and she was interested in the idea as she was already hooking up with younger men. She liked the idea of having both a stable relationship and seeing younger men when she pleases. I do not watch and the cuckolding is part of the Female Led Relationship that we are in.
7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
A) Yes, we have sex and she likes me to "finish her off" after she comes back from dates. I like going down on her when she talks to prospective dates or has phone sex with them.
8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
A) She is very protective and at the start kept telling me that these men are just toys to her. I reassured her that I am not jealous and am turned on by it and I hope she enjoys herself and tells me about cumming on their hard cocks. The benefits are we are happy with the situation and she loves that I do not get to see others myself as well as there being no pressure on her to see others. She does so when she feels like it.
9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
A) We engage in other kinks that are part of the Female Led Relationship we are in. She dresses normally, you would never suspect anything from the way she looks. She was already hooking up with younger men before I met her so really the only difference for her is that she does so whilst in a relationship and tells me about it. She also has a friend who is in a cuckold relationship as her husband can't perform sexually so she had some insight from that before I contacted her.
10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
A) No. We keep it private. People can be judgemental.
11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
A) It was always cuckold and mutually agreed upon and discussed I support her adventures and encourage her.
12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
A) Don't get it mixed up with the commercial porn cuckold stuff you see. Don't take it to extremes where the Cuck wants the Bull to move in and knock the wife up etc Just things I have read on forums where it seems the cuck takes it to such an extreme that the relationship becomes lost and soon the wife leaves him because she just wants something more normal. I don't watch or meet the Bulls. I am aware when she sees them and she takes calls around me or tells me to leave the room or leaves herself.. There aren't any secrets.
13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
A) I think it depends on the couple. I don't think it is for everyone and requires a lot of trust, honesty and openness.
Thanks. I think for us what helped is we started off with a view to FLR and cuckold. It’s not like we were cruising along on vanilla/monogamy mode for years then decided to veer off.Thank you for your candid, thorough and well thought out responses. It sounds like you and your wife have a successful formula. I hope it continues for a long, long time.
Thank you, for your candid addition to this forum. It is always nice to hear about another couple who has benefitted. As you said in your response, it is very important to talk openly about what is acceptable, and what is not.1) How long have you been married?
About 20 years
2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
15
3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
It was ongoing initially and with a few different men since
4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
Her first was someone she knew, I did not. Since then I have known 2.
5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
When she is with a guy regularly, they meet about weekly if possible. Usually a hotel.
6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
It has improved it. We had become a bit dull and this reinvigorated our sex life and her drive all leading to more intimacy for us.
7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
We adopted a lot of oral and toys for satisfaction a while back. That is what we do now too.
8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Her increased drive and happiness is a big benefit. Fears on my part are always a little worry that she could like someone too much. Yes, she is very comforting.
9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
More like reverted to how she was when younger. More into sex in general, she does dress more revealing.
10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Not to our knowledge.
11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Happier. We have more fun now and are more open with each other. I help make time for her to have her fun.
12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
It can be emotional. Talk to each other about what is okay and not okay.
13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
Totally depends on the couple.