Cuckold Survey

[jimmyturtleman]

I know the cuckold topic is getting over used lately, but I just need to ask a few questions of my fellow husbands who have been cuckolded in real life. (Those wannabe cucks can participate, but kindly identify yourself as such.) First off, my definition of a cuckold, and the one supported by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is simply put ; a man whose wife is unfaithful

Starting from there, let me explain that I consider myself to be the cuckold/stag. My wife is the Hotwife/Vixen, and her boyfriend/lover is her Bull. Now let me ask you;

1) How long have you been married?
A long time. 50 + years.

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
20 years.


3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
My best guess is that her first affair went on for about a year. My wife says it was much shorter. Her current affair has been ongoing for 8 months now and there is no sign of it slowing down anytime soon.


4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
He was known to me as a passing acquaintance to me, and an old High School boyfriend of my wife. They reconnected on Face Book after 50 years.


5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
There are daily chats going on between the two of them, but the physical distance (125 miles) is a bit of a problem meeting in person. They have hooked up twice in hotel rooms and plan on doing so in the next couple of weeks. My wife insists that she wants to have once a month, in person, meetings with him. With some being Date Nights, some overnight stays, and possibly longer. The idea of an all inclusive vacation has also been discussed. Possibly a cruise with the three of us, in two separate cabins. My wife and her Bull are not comfortable with me watching or participating.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
It has caused some stress between us, but overall, it has been a long time coming. I have been unable to 'perform' for many years now, and hinting that she might need to find another man to take care of her physical needs. I guess she does listen to me.


7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
We had no sex for over 8 years and very little for the two years previous to that. In the last month and a half, the sex has been phenomenal. Not that I can an erection, but oral and manual masturbation is fantastic. I am hoping to return to the good old days of fucking her like a stallion, but I am afraid those days are gone forever. I just want to be able to have intercourse with her when and if she wants me to.


8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
My wife is much more at ease lately, not constantly on edge. She seems to be much calmer and relaxed, and above ALL, she is happier than she has been in a long time. For me, the sex I can enjoy makes me happier than I have been in a long time too. Her Bull is also in a much happier place too. The biggest fear that I have is the fear of being left out in the cold and losing my wife. Be honest with her and ask for her reassurances. And be ready to give her the same reassurances, that you love each other just as much as ever.


9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Absolutely. Being a Mother and holding down a job outside the home is a terrific drain on anyone's time and energy. Time for sex is sparse. My wife asked me one day when our kids were young, how did I expect her to be this 'perfect 'Mom' all day long, then turn into a 'wanton slut' the minute we were alone in the bedroom. I couldn't answer her with any degree of honesty. Now, with grown children and grandchildren, she can devote her time to being the Hotwife, she always wanted to be. It was there all along. She just needed the time and energy to bring it out. With that, she loves to dress sexier, tight leggings, low cut tops, sexy lingerie from V.S. And she is not afraid to talk about getting fucked, sucking cock or having her pussy licked.


10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Not as far as we know, but what can you do if they do find out. Make no excuses for what we enjoy.


11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
We are happier with our sex today, than we were a year ago, or five years ago, or ten years ago. As for the rest of our life, we were never unhappy with it. We have always loved each other and treated one another as 'best' friends. We travel, enjoy movies, walking on the beach, holding hands, cruises, and just watching television together


12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Be absolutely sure that you can handle this type of lifestyle. Have times where you can discuss any issues that come up. Make it about 'her' and pleasing her needs and desires. Try not to make it about you and what you want. Her Bull should also be told this is a sexual relationship, not courting'


13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
If your wife needs things that you can not provide, like 'good' sex, then you might want to consider it. No sense pushing it on her, then it becomes all about you, not her. Let her make up her own mind as to who to have sex with. Your idea of a perfect sex partner for your wife may not be close to who she would pick. Be tolerant and respectful of her choice(s). Remember, sex is just sex. It really does not equate to love. Love can be included, but it is not necessarily.


Please answer honestly, and in as much detail as possible. My answers to these questions is included..

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I'm surprised there haven't been a lot of replies yet. I'll do it.

We use our own term because the popular ones seem to have baggage attached to them that we don't want. So to classify, we are a D/s couple where she is Mistress and I am her slave. I travel a lot for work, so when I'm home we're together and when I'm away, she sees anyone she wants. Since she is a married woman with absolute sexual freedom, we refer to her as a Freewife.

1) How long have you been married?
15 years

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
We have never been monogamous. In the past we both had separate outside interests. A few years ago she decided I would be monogamous to her, or loaned to her friends as she sees fit, while she remains free.

3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
She's had one time, a few times, and ongoing. Nothing is out of bounds and there are no rules she must follow.

4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
She has lovers, not "bulls." She chooses them herself. None were prior acquaintances. I have met several socially and liked them. She chooses well, which is one reason I don't worry much when she's out.

5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
Yes. Bars, restaurants, their homes, our home.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
When she became the dominant, it was a huge improvement. There was an anger in her, just below the surface, but always ready to erupt. I realized it had built up over many previous relationships with men who had to be in control. All the while she was sure she could make decisions and lead as well or better than they did. When we committed fully to a FLR, that anger disappeared completely and hasn't ever returned. Before she became a Freewife, we had rules like prior notification, veto, etc. Doing away with all rules restricting her has been wonderful for both of us. She has always been a free spirited slut and that is very attractive to me. So she gets to be herself, fully - and I get to be with the woman I was drawn to from the very beginning.

7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Yes, whenever I am home. It's BDSM, Vanilla, Romantic, whatever fits the mood.

8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Involving others will initially expose fear and insecurity. We had a few of those times, but we genuinely believe in D/s, Freewifing, and polyamory and we both feel strongly about living what we believe in. As for benefits, she gets to enjoy those "new lover butterflies" that a husband can't give because it'll never be her first time with him again. I get a happy wife with a wet pussy who's eager and ready when I get home. Win/Win!

9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Yes, but in her case it has more to do with us finally being free of houseguests. My wife is kind and generous by nature and likes a crowded house. In the 15 years we've been together, we've had 22 people live with us for periods from a few months to a few years. At present it's only the two of us and we've decided that going forward, we'll only have people who know and are comfortable with our lifestyle. It's not necessary that they participate, only that we don't have to hide anything in our own home anymore.

10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Her adult daughter is aware she's a "perv" and was aware we were open for a long time.

11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Extremely happy in our marriage. Seems like we handled all the growing pains as they came along and it's just "normal living" to us now. I serve, worship, and obey her as my Mistress, and encourage her to have as much fun as she wants as my Freewife.

12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
If either of you fear losing the other, this will not work. We agreed, in a very serious way, years ago that there would be no divorce, no starting over with a new spouse, no matter what. When you can make an agreement that you are together for life, no matter what happens, it opens a lot of doors.

Men, accept reality.

A) If she is active, she's going to meet men who are bigger than you are, and who can fuck her better than you can. The easiest way to stop worrying about that is to assume every guy she meets is a sexual virtuoso with a huge cock. There. Now you never have to annoy her with those questions. But really, do you want her to have bad/unsatisfying sex? What would be the point? So assume it's great, be happy about it, and enjoy her charged up libido spilling over into your relationship with her.

B) If she fucks the same man repeatedly, feelings will develop. It's inevitable. What kind of person would she be if they didn't? So you have to either accept that... or agree to limit the number of times she can see the same guy (which may or may not work). Age helps here. Ideally people bringing others into their relationship should be mature enough to enjoy the process of falling in love without losing their minds and running off.

13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
No. It's a very high risk maneuver for most relationships. That isn't changed by the fact that some people can pull it off. As such, I wouldn't recommend it. If someone already has their mind on it, I'd discuss the pros and cons, but I would do my best not to influence their decision.

Thank you for your very detailed and candid answers. I certainly appreciate your time and efforts.

If the Mistress/slave works for you then go for it. I do understand the baggage tied to the cuck, Hotwife, Bull tags, but I went with them in spite of it. My wife doesn't quite understand all of the verbage, nor does she care. What she appreciates is, the sexual freedom to pursue what she needs.

 

[Willywin]

1) How long have you been married?
Ans: 40 years.

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
Ans: Before we were engaged, I joined the Navy as a junior rating. She started seeing someone else on the side

3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Ans: Been both over the years, longest extra marital relationship, five years.

4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
Ans: Initially, usually not someone I know, occasionally she will introduced them to me, me to them, sometimes do meet socially, at social events, occasionally I'm the third wheel.

5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
Ans: When in a relationship there are usually daily chats, texting, sexting going on. Regular dates while relationship lasts. Some overnight stays, occasional weekends or weekends away. Never our home. Holidaying, twice in 45 years. I am not usually present, but am aware - one of our rules - no secrets.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
Ans: First time led to us breaking up - we were young. Got back together some time later after she 'cheated' on him with me. This led to them breaking up and we got back together proper. Our way of life has benefitted us both over the years, enabled my wife to meet her needs - we established she is a cheater after she cheated on the guy she cheated on me with = with me. Helped my confidence, enhanced our intimacy, made us better communicators, kept her young, active, fashionable, kept me on my toes fitness and health wise and romance wise.

7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Ans: We have sex, have a healthy sex life. We, I try not to compete sexwise with her dates, she doesnt encourage it, doesnt like it when I try, can get annoyed with me if she feels I'm overdoing things - we realised that wasnt healthy, fed insecurities. Besides I had a small heart attack ten years go. We have what we have and enjoy what suits us and makes us happy. I masturbate, she masturbates me, we do ocasionally watch porn, me mostly by myself though. We have slowed down, I'm not the rooster I was, my wife has not slowed down so much.

8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Ans: Benefits, we have a strong sense of trust, emotionally and on a personal level. My wife is the driver but runs everything past me unless it is a unplanned, spur of the moment tryst. I'd say we both benefit. My wife would be a serial adulterer in any relationship, weve decided its her nature, this way its out in the open and our rules mean no secrets, no lies. Benefits for me - I have a hot sexy loving affectionate caring, considerate - sometimes feeling guilty wife, who not only spoils me rotten but loves to make 'it' up to me. We talk through necessity which I believe is a big benefit, stopped complacency setting in, compacency weve seen in the marriages of our friends. Does my wife meet my emotional needs - absiolutely, as I meet my wifes. Are we romantic, yes.

9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Ans: Ive known my wife since we were 14, thats when I first asked her out. I think her attitude towards sex has always been the same - she loves it, likes to experiment, not scared to experiment, inventive, imaginitive, skilled. Once we realised what kind of semi open relationship we had she did start to dress more to please, please herself, please me - and please admirers. Has continued to do so - never Mutton dressed as Lamb though - her phrase (said with kindness) when she see's women dressing younger than their years dictate. Has always talked about sex, I'd say it would be her favourite topic of choice as well as cricket, mine would be football and steam engines lol

10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Ans: Not new. Yes, her widowed sister - ribs me something terrible.

11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Ans: Once we knew what we had we became very happy and have remained so. We have always loved each other, even when we broke up all those years ago and treated one another as 'best' friends. We travel, enjoy movies, walking on the beach, holding hands, and just watching television together. We have a traditional life, a traditional relationship - apart from the sex side.

12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Ans: Personally - dont ask a question you might not like the answer to, especially where you have made a commitment to be honest and truthful. Its not fair to expect or put your partner into a position where they feel they need to lie or hold back. Other than that, be honest, be open, be fair, dont lie - and talk, text, write, whatever it takes to communicate,

13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
Everyone is different. We've not regretted one moment.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

1) How long have you been married?
Ans: 40 years.

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
Ans: Before we were engaged, I joined the Navy as a junior rating. She started seeing someone else on the side

3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Ans: Been both over the years, longest extra marital relationship, five years.

4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
Ans: Initially, usually not someone I know, occasionally she will introduced them to me, me to them, sometimes do meet socially, at social events, occasionally I'm the third wheel.

5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
Ans: When in a relationship there are usually daily chats, texting, sexting going on. Regular dates while relationship lasts. Some overnight stays, occasional weekends or weekends away. Never our home. Holidaying, twice in 45 years. I am not usually present, but am aware - one of our rules - no secrets.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
Ans: First time led to us breaking up - we were young. Got back together some time later after she 'cheated' on him with me. This led to them breaking up and we got back together proper. Our way of life has benefitted us both over the years, enabled my wife to meet her needs - we established she is a cheater after she cheated on the guy she cheated on me with = with me. Helped my confidence, enhanced our intimacy, made us better communicators, kept her young, active, fashionable, kept me on my toes fitness and health wise and romance wise.

7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Ans: We have sex, have a healthy sex life. We, I try not to compete sexwise with her dates, she doesnt encourage it, doesnt like it when I try, can get annoyed with me if she feels I'm overdoing things - we realised that wasnt healthy, fed insecurities. Besides I had a small heart attack ten years go. We have what we have and enjoy what suits us and makes us happy. I masturbate, she masturbates me, we do ocasionally watch porn, me mostly by myself though. We have slowed down, I'm not the rooster I was, my wife has not slowed down so much.

8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Ans: Benefits, we have a strong sense of trust, emotionally and on a personal level. My wife is the driver but runs everything past me unless it is a unplanned, spur of the moment tryst. I'd say we both benefit. My wife would be a serial adulterer in any relationship, weve decided its her nature, this way its out in the open and our rules mean no secrets, no lies. Benefits for me - I have a hot sexy loving affectionate caring, considerate - sometimes feeling guilty wife, who not only spoils me rotten but loves to make 'it' up to me. We talk through necessity which I believe is a big benefit, stopped complacency setting in, compacency weve seen in the marriages of our friends. Does my wife meet my emotional needs - absiolutely, as I meet my wifes. Are we romantic, yes.

9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Ans: Ive known my wife since we were 14, thats when I first asked her out. I think her attitude towards sex has always been the same - she loves it, likes to experiment, not scared to experiment, inventive, imaginitive, skilled. Once we realised what kind of semi open relationship we had she did start to dress more to please, please herself, please me - and please admirers. Has continued to do so - never Mutton dressed as Lamb though - her phrase (said with kindness) when she see's women dressing younger than their years dictate. Has always talked about sex, I'd say it would be her favourite topic of choice as well as cricket, mine would be football and steam engines lol

10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Ans: Not new. Yes, her widowed sister - ribs me something terrible.

11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Ans: Once we knew what we had we became very happy and have remained so. We have always loved each other, even when we broke up all those years ago and treated one another as 'best' friends. We travel, enjoy movies, walking on the beach, holding hands, and just watching television together. We have a traditional life, a traditional relationship - apart from the sex side.

12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Ans: Personally - dont ask a question you might not like the answer to, especially where you have made a commitment to be honest and truthful. Its not fair to expect or put your partner into a position where they feel they need to lie or hold back. Other than that, be honest, be open, be fair, dont lie - and talk, text, write, whatever it takes to communicate,

13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
Everyone is different. We've not regretted one moment.

Thank you for your time and effort to complete the survey. I can see from reading your answers, why it works for you. A good model for cuckolding.

 

[Islander55]

I will just give a brief response here. I am the wife and we got into this lifestyle after retiring in our 60's and after being married for 40 years. I do not really consider him a cuckold as he simply has encouraged me to explore my sexuality and enjoy other men. Initially it was not a lack on his part and we started with the intent of swapping. It soon became apparent that it was much easier for me to find a lover than for us to find a couple so we started with that. We started with my dating men and all of them were long term. Over a year. Only a few over night dates as I preferred to come home after and share my adventures with him. All of my dates have been known to him but after I selected them and then introduced them to him. The lifestyle improved our sex life physically but it also gave us a fun topic to discuss. It became a normal part of our day to talk about my lovers and do some plotting and planning.

 

[Filipinawife]

My husband told me he wanted to watch me with a guy on honeymoon. I was obviously surprised. We watched wife sharing videos and talked about it. Made love fantasising about it. I was worried my husband might hate me afterwards. Eventually with the help of lots of wine, I went for it. My husband watched a hunky guy make love to me. He loved the experience found it very erotic and we had great sex after. We both enjoyed the experience and have had a few great experiences since.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I'm glad it works for you and your husband. If it feels good ... "DO IT."

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I will just give a brief response here. I am the wife and we got into this lifestyle after retiring in our 60's and after being married for 40 years. I do not really consider him a cuckold as he simply has encouraged me to explore my sexuality and enjoy other men. Initially it was not a lack on his part and we started with the intent of swapping. It soon became apparent that it was much easier for me to find a lover than for us to find a couple so we started with that. We started with my dating men and all of them were long term. Over a year. Only a few over night dates as I preferred to come home after and share my adventures with him. All of my dates have been known to him but after I selected them and then introduced them to him. The lifestyle improved our sex life physically but it also gave us a fun topic to discuss. It became a normal part of our day to talk about my lovers and do some plotting and planning.

Thank you for taking the time to respond with your experiences. I really appreciate it. For the benefit of others, the cuckold definition need not be a negative connotation for us men who are. It quite simply means that our wives are having sex outside the marriage. Nothing more. Merriam-Webster Dictionary, defines cuckold as ; a man whose wife is unfaithful.

 

[screwher]

I know the cuckold topic is getting over used lately, but I just need to ask a few questions of my fellow husbands who have been cuckolded in real life. (Those wannabe cucks can participate, but kindly identify yourself as such.) First off, my definition of a cuckold, and the one supported by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is simply put ; a man whose wife is unfaithful

Starting from there, let me explain that I consider myself to be the cuckold/stag. My wife is the Hotwife/Vixen, and her boyfriend/lover is her Bull. Now let me ask you;

1) How long have you been married?
This year makes it 34 yrs.

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
About four years. She had one very quick, terrible relationship before me. So I think she was getting that itch to experience other men.


3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
She had one timers with three different men. One of them had the potential for an on going affair.


4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
She met her current boyfriend/bull at the gym without me. But quickly introduced me.


5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
They are currently in a bit of a dry spell. It feels like they haven’t hooked up for a couple months now. When they do hook up again it will most unlikely be in our bedroom. Just how I prefer because it gives me the opportunity to watch their first session. Then I give them privacy for their second.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
I wouldn’t say it’s done either. Her having sex with other men is just something both want.


7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
We still have a fantastic sex life! Her trysts are just a bonus that arouses us.


8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
The benefits are that our desires are being fulfilled. We’re upfront about it. I guess the only fear I would have is the idea of her leaving me for a lover. But I honestly don’t see 5at ever happening.


9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Not really. She does talk more about sex after her bull has left. But that’s all part of it for us.


10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
That’s one of my boundaries. I want to keep Family and friends from “my side” of our marriage in the dark. But I’m sure at least family member of my wife’s knows. And a few friends.


11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
We are happier in the way our desires are being met. I give her my full support and approval.


12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Be 110 that this is what you really want. What seems like hot pillow talk may be a different ball game when other players are now involved. One it’s done, there’s no going back. You can’t unfuck someone.


13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
No. I would never recommend it to any couples. My wife and I got lucky. We both wanted it and it took many years to get to the point.

 

[Islander55]

Thank you for taking the time to respond with your experiences. I really appreciate it. For the benefit of others, the cuckold definition need not be a negative connotation for us men who are. It quite simply means that our wives are having sex outside the marriage. Nothing more. Merriam-Webster Dictionary, defines cuckold as ; a man whose wife is unfaithful.

I take your point though I would say that I am not unfaithful as this is a shared interest. I get to do the fun stuff but he shares in the plotting and planning. I also understand that the term cuckold contains a variety of interests. Some cuckolds enjoy the humiliation or feelings of inadequacy and perhaps even tend toward submissive. Perhaps we need a few different terms for husbands who permit or encourage their wives to have sex with other men. In our case, my husband is very much of a voyeur and loves to watch me have sex with other men or just to hear about it. I think about it as satisfying his kink rather than cuckolding him. Of course, it happens to work well for me as I enjoy variety so it has been really good for both of us.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

Thank you for your time and effort to respond to my survey. I can see that you and your wife are enjoying this lifestyle. Good for both of you. You only live once. Go for it.

 

[muycurioso]

I am divorced now. but some time b4 she decided she wanted a divorce I strongly hinted that she could have fun on the side if it would make her happy. Just dont embarass or humiliate me. Like most things I said to her (many kind words) she was alreadly planning her escape and wasnt listening to me. To bad for her, she could have had it all. I did plan on at some point joining at least one of her paramours if she would have been listening instead of wanting so bad to push me away. 21 years married and 25 altogether. so now I am more looking for a female with benefits -- she does not have to be exclusive to me.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

So sorry that things didn't work out for you.

 

[kucked2x]

1) How long have you been married?
It lasted 16 years.


2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
About 10 months


3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
My best guess is that her first affair went on for almost a year.


4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
Stranger to me, they worked together.


5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
As it started, she stayed after work a few nights a week in one of their cars "talking" at first, then she admitted they were fooling after a bit. Once they consumated, a few weekend nights at a motel.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
It has caused great stress between us.


7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
No sex while she was involved with him.


8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
She became quite confident and strong during the affair.


9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Absolutely.


10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Yes, and some friends knew.


11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
It put great Strain on it.


12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Be absolutely sure that you can handle this type of lifestyle. Have times where you can discuss any issues that come up. Make it about 'her' and pleasing her needs and desires. Try not to make it about you and what you want. AGREED


13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
If your wife needs things that you can not provide, like 'good' sex, then you might want to consider it. No sense pushing it on her, then it becomes all about you, not her. Let her make up her own mind as to who to have sex with.

Well said.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

Thank you for your reply. I hope things work out for you and your wife.

 

[lazy_literotic]

I know this is a discussion for just guys -
the other side viewpoint, me at least.
I live in a 55+ community, so I have interactions w guys around my age -
I really enjoy being around them, chatting with contemporaries. it's fun.
but I don't see their hands going up and down on me, y titties and puss. cock slipping in.
I'm a cradle robber - stuck on like 38 to 44 yo guys.
guess what I'm saying, I wish I could find a cuck guy.

 

[hotcpu]

I know this is a discussion for just guys -
the other side viewpoint, me at least.
I live in a 55+ community, so I have interactions w guys around my age -
I really enjoy being around them, chatting with contemporaries. it's fun.
but I don't see their hands going up and down on me, y titties and puss. cock slipping in.
I'm a cradle robber - stuck on like 38 to 44 yo guys.
guess what I'm saying, I wish I could find a cuck guy.

Such a bummer to know that I'm not in your league ...

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I know this is a discussion for just guys -
the other side viewpoint, me at least.
I live in a 55+ community, so I have interactions w guys around my age -
I really enjoy being around them, chatting with contemporaries. it's fun.
but I don't see their hands going up and down on me, y titties and puss. cock slipping in.
I'm a cradle robber - stuck on like 38 to 44 yo guys.
guess what I'm saying, I wish I could find a cuck guy.

On the contrary, this discussion was/is meant for anyone to join. I should have referenced it differently to include the female perspective. As in my opening paragraph, the only qualification to be a cuckold is defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary ; as a man whose wife is unfaithful.
When I made the confession to my wife, that I was happy for her to hook up with other men, she was more than shocked. She and her BF both used the same word to describe my encouragement of her efforts ... weird. I tried to convince her (and him) that what I was doing was not a unique situation to myself. I started to send her links to cuckold sites that catered to men who think like me. Although it is difficult to thoroughly explain the why, I can only say it is a real and committed movement. We, the cuckolds, are dedicated to our wives pleasure, no matter the sacrifices we are required to make. It is not for the weak of heart, nor the "sort of" interested. If you want your wife to fuck other men, then there is no way for her to "unfuck" them, should you have a change of mind.

I welcome the female side of this equation's opinion and honest advice on how we can make it better experience for "Everyone." Us, "cuck guys" are everywhere, you just need to look closer. We are attentive to our wives needs and dote on them. We are not of any specific age, or other characteristic. We just want our women to enjoy life to its fullest. None of us 'fit' into any narrow category. We are not all bisexual in nature, nor are we being denied sex at home, we are all not looking to be humiliated. We are just men who like our wives needs to be met, by whatever means necessary.

My wife has done her research since I 'set' her free to express her sexuality. She has found that cuckold porn is the second most searched genre. She had no idea it was such a popular past time. I knew it was popular, but had no idea myself just how popular it had become.

Today while shopping with my wife, I was carrying her intended purchases, new leggings and some sexy tops, she looked at me and wondered aloud how many of the husbands following their wives around were cuckolds. She chuckled as I suggested maybe "all" of them.

I didn't mean to leave the women's opinion out, so please participate and keep looking for a cuck guy. Good luck.

 

[pike07]

We are a married couple, together for over thirty years. We have been practicing cuckold relationships for more than five years. For the last three years we have had a permanent partner. Everyone loves it. Husband and our friend have a close friendship. And of course our partner takes precedence.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

We are a married couple, together for over thirty years. We have been practicing cuckold relationships for more than five years. For the last three years we have had a permanent partner. Everyone loves it. Husband and our friend have a close friendship. And of course our partner takes precedence.

That is fantastic. In my opinion a steady partner can have it's drawbacks, but it sure can have a lot of advantages, once you establish a trusting threeway relationship. My wife is trying to make a closer bond between myself and her BF. I am all for it.

Thank you for your input.

 

[TallOne]

1) How long have you been married?
20 years

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
Had our first mfm threesome where I did a lot more watching than participating a few years before marriage but didn't have a cuck label on it. We've staged some outright "cuck" fetish scenes since then where I would be locked up in chastity and only involved in prep and a cleanup after or only allowed to listen. But generally it's been 3 or moresomes.

3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Our play partners have been one time deals with an exception or two that had a repeat performance. Her preference is for someone brand new and exciting. Hates when guys keep texting her after a hookup like it means they're dating. Especially nonsense small talk like the weather.

4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
Strangers we met at swing clubs or online.

5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
No, this is a "once in a blue moon" sort of activity where we could have a few meets in a month and then nothing for a year or more.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
Has improved our bond. We communicate more and clearly lay out needs/wants. She is much more confident as well.

7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Yes still have sex usually 3-4 times/week. Only thing really different is the dirty talk referencing past encounters or future desires...and having our own homemade porn to watch.

8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Nothing really of note. Yes we are still very much there for each other emotionally.

9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Yes absolutely. She is a 'bbw' and was very self conscious. As we have had more encounters she has become more open about sex. Dresses sexier. More confident. Realizes now that there are many men(and women) that desire a bbw body and not something to be ashamed of.

10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Family, no. Family is mostly out of state and only really interact with the occasional phone call on holidays. As such we wouldn't be particularly bothered if they found out but also wouldn't just come out and tell them.
Some mutual friends and friends of hers do know though. They've expressed some jealousy of our openness to such fun.

11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Yes happy that we can be truly ourselves with each other. We certainly have had some flare up fights around the topic but those were usually rooted in something else is going on and we've gotten better about communicating before things get to that point over the years. I do support and help find/screen playmates.

12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Generally avoid newbies to this sort of play or loners who may try to latch on. If you put a profile out on a site, pass over those guys that message repeatedly without a response from you. Anyone who acts obsessed over your profile really. Older experienced "daddies" have proven more fun than a young 20 something. Also look out for guys who label themselves dom/alpha/bull.

13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
If it's something you're truly interested in and both are up for it? Absolutely, you only live once.

 

[Alimabegum]

Lot of questions n lot of answers.
Sigh.
All have their own life's territory which even they never aware of it.
Its just fate not lust which is guiding them onto it like my husband let me touch shard rigid full hard black cock as my presentation to my 20 the year of our marriage on a great great Moharam day.

Its no haram just his order.
His means my husband n Allah.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

Whatever works for you. There used to be a certain standard for descriptors, but a lot of people decided to add their own twist to them. Stag is good, but it does not change the meaning of a cuckold, supported by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, simply put ; a man whose wife is unfaithful

 

[tim33]

I know this is a discussion for just guys -
the other side viewpoint, me at least.
I live in a 55+ community, so I have interactions w guys around my age -
I really enjoy being around them, chatting with contemporaries. it's fun.
but I don't see their hands going up and down on me, y titties and puss. cock slipping in.
I'm a cradle robber - stuck on like 38 to 44 yo guys.
guess what I'm saying, I wish I could find a cuck guy.

I wished I could find a hotwife like you.

 

[JR284]

1) How long have you been married?
Married 3 years, but together for almost 9

2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
We had been together about 4 years when I found out that she had been cheating on me


3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
She had a few one night stands, and a couple of ongoing things


4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
They were all strangers to me with the exception of one of her co-workers whom I had met a couple of times


5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
She doesn't have just one guy who she meets regularly with. She usually has two or three guys that she's talking to at any given time but doesn't keep them around for more than 2 to 3 months. In any case, she usually sees someone every other week or so, sometimes a bit more frequently.

6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
It improved it in so many ways. Although it's clear that there were some issues there if she felt the need to cheat, it allowed us to be completely honest with each other and really opened up our communication. We are completely transparent with each other now. It also improved our sex life tremendously. Neither of us were really happy with the sex life that we had, but with everything out in the open, we were able to identify what was lacking and now we have great sex and a lot of it.


7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Before all this our sex was very mechanical. By that I mean that it didn't feel like there was any passion to it. We would get naked and have sex and that was it. There was no dirty talk, no build-up, very little foreplay, just no intensity to it. Now it's very different. Sometimes she'll initiate it, and sometimes I will, but it's done in such a playful and desirable way. I can feel that she wants to have sex with me, and she also says that she feels a lot more desired by me than she used to. Our sex sessions are also much longer now. They used to last 10 maybe 15 minutes. Now usually we'll fool around for almost an hour on average. Lots of dirty talk, lots of ways to get each other off.


8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
Benefits are the ones that I mentioned, communication and a much better sex life. The only real fear that I had was that she would form an emotional relationship with someone else. There was one guy specifically that she started to spend a lot of time with outside of the bedroom. They started to just hang out without there being any sex involved which definitely worried me. I held it in for some time because I didn't want to come across as jealous or overreacting, but eventually she's the one who noticed that I wasn't as excited about her dates with him as I was with her dates with other guys. She asked me if her relationship with him bothered me and we had an honest conversation about it. Within a week she cut all ties with him which was surprising and extremely reassuring for me. The fact that she had no issue cutting something off just because she knew that it was affecting me in a negative way.

9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Yes and no. Yes in the sense that I learned that there was a much bigger sexual side to her than I knew about. She had been suppressing her desires because she didn't think that I would be receptive to them. So to me, it certainly seemed like a big change in how she approached sex. However, for her it wasn't a change at all. It was simply a side of her that she had hidden away when she met me. She had always been extremely sexual and very promiscuous before she met me. She did change the way that she dressed though. She started wearing clothing that showed off her cleavage a lot more, started grooming herself differently, just spending more time on how she looked. She began losing quite a bit of weight as well. And yes, sex became a much bigger topic of conversation for us than it used to be.


10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
Her sister and her sister's husband know about it. In terms of non-family, a lot of her friends know and a couple of my friends found out as well.


11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
It certainly made our relationship a lot stronger. As messed up as it may sound, it's because she started cuckolding me that I knew I wanted to marry her. I support and encourage her and lots of different ways. Everything from just being a sounding board for her when she's talking to different guys, to taking her shopping for lingerie to wear on her dates, to giving her ideas on where to meet, driving her to her dates, or at times even taking care of certain things around the house so she can make time to go on a date.


12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
Don't go into it with preset expectations. Understand that when you try to script a date, or script sex, it can make it more of a burden than something fun. Of course, have a lot of communication and an understanding from everyone of what's okay and what's not okay. But don't try to plan out every single little detail. Let chemistry take over and just allow the moment to happen.


13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
That's a very difficult question to answer. If both partners are interested in it, and the relationship is on solid ground, I think it can be extremely enjoyable. That being said, every individual is different. Every couple is different. If you're going to try it out, make sure you can actually handle it. If at any point you start to feel any kind of resentment or simply unsure if it's for you, speak up.