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I myself enjoy Collar 6, have for a long time, and before that Crimson Latex While it is true that the artist is no Rembrant or a Botticelli, I would say that neither of those guys could draw a rubber clad slavegirl getting whipped by her Mistress. Keep it up Wolfman!
hi, i am extremely new to all of this and am trying to get information to try to understand what i have asked for from my partner. the biggest question i have is that my needs seem to combine all the aspects of BDSM as a slave and i cant seem to find any info that combines all of these aspects. Is there any type of basic outline for this?Thanks for all those who have posted on here.
What kind of slave do you want her to be? The kind that mostly does the housework and makes the sammiches?hi, i am extremely new to all of this and am trying to get information to try to understand what i have asked for from my partner. the biggest question i have is that my needs seem to combine all the aspects of BDSM as a slave and i cant seem to find any info that combines all of these aspects. Is there any type of basic outline for this?Thanks for all those who have posted on here.
I am thus looking to talk to Dom's to understand what it is I need to do for my wife and looking to talk to subs to see what it is that they want from their Dom to get an understanding because at the moment I feel like I am failing miserably. I know that my wife is confiding her inner feelings with online Dom friends I just wish she would do they same with me
Limit of what?My Dom wants to take me to my limit. He's said it won't be for a while (until we have our own place, or go on vacation, at least), but now I'm psyching myself out about it. Has anyone else been taken to their limit? How did it make you feel? I have this paranoia about being unfixable afterward, that it will shatter my perception of myself. Can anyone speak to whether that's true or not? Any personal experiences at all may help me.
Limit of what?
My Dom wants to take me to my limit. He's said it won't be for a while (until we have our own place, or go on vacation, at least), but now I'm psyching myself out about it. Has anyone else been taken to their limit? How did it make you feel? I have this paranoia about being unfixable afterward, that it will shatter my perception of myself. Can anyone speak to whether that's true or not? Any personal experiences at all may help me.
Limit of what?
Cry? Get terminally pissed off and remove his testicles with nail clippers? Dissolve into hysterical laughter and total incontinence? There's literally no way of knowing how you will react once you reach your limits for *any*thing, unless you've been taken to and beyond your limits in the past, and even those experiences may not apply to this one.Pain tolerance, I'm almost sure. He wants to know what I do when I get to that point.
Break your arm, and you'll find out. Or give birth. Or let a tooth rot in your jaw...Pain tolerance, I'm almost sure. He wants to know what I do when I get to that point.
Cry? Get terminally pissed off and remove his testicles with nail clippers? Dissolve into hysterical laughter and total incontinence? There's literally no way of knowing how you will react once you reach your limits for *any*thing, unless you've been taken to and beyond your limits in the past, and even those experiences may not apply to this one.
I'd suggest that the two of you, first, communicate a little better. If he says only that he wants to take you to your limits, *you* should ask him WHAT limits he's referring to, how he plans to take you to/beyond them, and what plans he's made to deal with your reaction should it turn into an emergency situation. YOU are responsible for what the two of you do together, too, you know. And in that vein, I also suggest that another thing you communicate about should be the concept of safewords, what they are, why they were invented, how they're used, and what purpose they serve. Unfortunately, I have the feeling that the two of you, if you've even heard of them, think safewords are for pussies. <Sigh>
Break your arm, and you'll find out. Or give birth. Or let a tooth rot in your jaw...
What you guys more likely want to do, is increase your sense of sexualised pain, right? Get yourself into a good deep headspace. That's not going to change or break you either-- no more than getting puking drunk does. You might want to do it again a whole lot for a while, or you might decide that space isn't actually somewhere you want to go so often.
it's not so mystical as all that...
Aww...Thank you for understanding what I really meant. I've never really tried to ask the Internet what I wanted to know before regarding bdsm, so I really do appreciate your knowledge. And I feel reassured by your answer. You are awesome
Aww...
You know what, have you ever thought about going to a local dungeon? I don't know where you are located, but there are a lot of them nowadays. Very few are the kind of tawdry /scary/slimepits of slavetrade that popular notion makes them out to be, nor are many of them the regal upperclass snobbish affairs of song and story either.
You'd have the chance to yell your head off without interference from the neighbors...Standard Dungeon etiquette is intended keep you both safe and secure.
If the idea intrigues you, you might try joining fetlife.com and do a locality-based search.
Yeah, I was a bit hostile about safewords. My bad. I was projecting on you an attitude we've seen all too many times here. However, even though you've "yet to need one," I think it would be a good idea to have one set up *before* it's needed so it will be there at that time. Better to have it and not need it, etc., etc., blah blah...Actually, it's more of the fact that I've never had need of a safeword in the past that makes me lack one now. Really, if I say please do something, He does it/ stops doing it. Honestly you seemed a bit hostile about safewords... I know what they are, how they're used, and why they were invented, but I've yet to need one at this moment in time.
But, as far as main details, we haven't gotten to that point for this yet. As I said, it isn't going to happen for a while. My question was unclear overall, though, I can understand that. I just want to know how other people have felt about using their safeword in a pain context, essentially. I know He and I share responsibility for what goes on, and I am scared as all hell about when this will happen, but I am willing to try it. I'd just like a little reassurance/perspective from someone who's been there before.
Yeah, I was a bit hostile about safewords. My bad. I was projecting on you an attitude we've seen all too many times here. However, even though you've "yet to need one," I think it would be a good idea to have one set up *before* it's needed so it will be there at that time. Better to have it and not need it, etc., etc., blah blah...
As a sadist rather than masochist or other pyl-type, I can't offer any experience in using safewords in a pain (or other) context, but I can tell you that I've been royally pissed on a couple of occasions when someone who should have used a safeword at a play party refused to do so, feeling they would be letting their PYL down. Fortunately, those people weren't my partners (or even play partners), because that's pretty much a deal-breaker for me. If you need to use a safeword, use it. If you need it and don't use it, you're breaking trust with me.