BlueSugar
Faceted Sensualist
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I was just confirming what you said in the thread earlier about suction cups. You said it makes for a better handle of the toy, correct?
The idea that someone like that could possibly exist goes beyond shame. It literally makes me want to kill myself. How the fuck could you deal with something like that? That's a red flag. That's a sign of psychopathy that means that person is probably an abuser. They show you shit like that in psychiatrist offices. You can get arrested for shit like that. It shows a complete lack of empathy that is literally illegal, and that is in the DSM as a warning sign for psychopathy. It's a form of domestic abuse.
Doing this is like tickling your partner to get close to them but still annoying them in some little way. It is a part of the game - unless it is done maliciously - which it usually isn't.
Lighten up CandiCame
I really won't. I work with at-risk kids and most of the ones who were forced into abusive sexual relationships were with partners who display the EXACT behavior that you're talking about. It's a major red flag. I get joking about it in an over-the-top joking way, like the kitty was talking about, in a "I know this is your limit and I'm just teasing you" way but that's completely different from a "I'm not going to buy lube because I fully intend to sexually abuse you" way. That's not something to take lightly. That's something to call the fucking cops over. Because that's just an outward sign of an emotionally manipulative relationship that is either 1:already physically abusive or 2:about to become physically abusive.
The idea that someone like that could possibly exist goes beyond shame. It literally makes me want to kill myself. How the fuck could you deal with something like that? That's a red flag. That's a sign of psychopathy that means that person is probably an abuser. They show you shit like that in psychiatrist offices. You can get arrested for shit like that. It shows a complete lack of empathy that is literally illegal, and that is in the DSM as a warning sign for psychopathy. It's a form of domestic abuse.
Double ended silicone dildo by NS Novelties, Esprit.
Don't cheap out on what goes IN your body.
What about suction cups? They're cool
They have their advantages - you can also plunk 2 suction cup toys together and create a custom double ended toy.
ok, let me explain this slooooooowly to you...
When some people go into a sex as a couple (with me so far?) they usually know each other sexually (got that?). If one of them is feeling uncomfortable, the other will crack a joke to lighten the mood (understanding yet?) and relax them. It's not to embarrass them (you getting this yet?), it's to get them to relax. Both will laugh and relax....while looking for what they came for.
Well, first off you shouldn't be having sex with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, but I literally said I understood what you were talking about once you explained it. My boyfriend and I joke with each other over horrible things all the time. I'll say shit like, "I love you so much when you buy me things". That's an obvious sign of abuse but we're JOKING. I'm not really using him for his money just like you're not really trying to pressure your boyfriend into doing things he's not comfortable with.
That's not what the post I made was about. It was about the people that BlueSugar was talking about who are actively trying to hurt their partners even after the advice from personnel. I was saying that she is a significantly stronger person than I am, because if I had to be in a position where I had to decide between watching someone continue being an abuser and losing my job, I would shoot myself. Because I am not psychologically strong enough to handle that shit. I have depression with suicidal tendencies and that would easily be enough to throw me over the edge. I can BARELY deal with listening to the heartbreaking stories of people who got OUT of those relationships. But having to stand there without being able to help at all would KILL me. She's much stronger than I am.
Well, yes. It takes a strong person to stand up for what they think is right. I can understand what you are saying. And I agree, it is wrong to force a person (after explaining the product and how to use it correctly) to use the product and/or situation wrongfully. It's not my cup of tea either.
Actually, I was saying it takes a strong person NOT to stand up. It's easy to kick them out, tell them to go fuck themselves, get into a physical fight or the like. That's what your instincts TELL you to do. It takes strength to accept that there's nothing you can do and move on without dwelling on it and letting it eat you alive. Because you have to fight your instincts, constantly, to be able to do that.
I've always been curious about how to safely wax your genitals. A few I've talk to said they go to a place to get it done (costly but worth the money if done by a professional) while many have (and seriously burned themselves doing this) bought kits and did it themselves.
How does one go about safely waxing that area themselves?
Jeez, someone sure did turn this thread into a downer.
Let's get it back on track. What is your best selling item every week, on a consistent basis? I am curious as to what drives the business. Toys? Lube? DVDs? etc. What are people really there for, when you look at the money side of things?
Also, have you had to deal with a significant decrease in printed porn/erotica/smut in magazine and book form versus the digitally stored porn like CDs/DVDs over the last eight years?
I still have a subscription to a magazine, because their niche is 100% what I dig and they do it well. Also I used to collect older issues of certain titles and of certain faves and certain personality features from back in the day as well as coffee table smut books, but hardly much ever now since publishing market took a few steps back. Digital is easy and comfortably accessible, but there is definitely something not there that used to be there. Guess I do miss the old "wrecka stow" crate digging days for hidden gems.
I once found this '80s-era Chick Tract-sized sexual position 2-color printed digest from Sweden with interior b/w photos of couples in all the positions. Was an interesting curio, but I didn't buy it. Won't ever come across that sort of thing again, the side street shops with stacks of old crap are pretty much gone except for a few holdouts.
I've always been curious about how to safely wax your genitals. A few I've talk to said they go to a place to get it done (costly but worth the money if done by a professional) while many have (and seriously burned themselves doing this) bought kits and did it themselves.
How does one go about safely waxing that area themselves?
@CandiCame - you're not female - don't contribute to a discussion about waxing vaginas - lol
Go to a place and get it done.
Read reviews and ask around.
It is quite a pain the first few months, especially the "horseshoe" the thumb print area above the clit.
The up keep rips get easier.
What item has the highest mark up?
If a woman goes into a porn shop and sits down in the theater to watch a porn, are men automatically going to come over and wank all over her?
Is it expected?
I'm asking for a friend.
Just curios if you sell allot of P massagers and such?