Comshaw
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Oh hell yes, a redhead in a romper to romp with.It's called a romper. Very inconvenient when you need to go potty.
Dammmmmmmn!!!
Comshaw
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Oh hell yes, a redhead in a romper to romp with.It's called a romper. Very inconvenient when you need to go potty.
Yep, a little pinch on each nip to get them to stand up...WhoooWaaa!
Ah, you are talking about a situation where someone who claims to be a Lit author is giving you advice and criticism but stays anonymous? I see how it can be irritating but you should really focus on the validity of the actual feedback, in my opinion. If the tone of their advice is respectful then you shouldn't get so riled up about it. If it isn't... well, I guess there are people who like giving advice because it makes them feel superior but you should be the smarter person in that case. Take something useful from their feedback and ignore the tone. It is the best way to stick it to people who like elevating themselves by putting other people down. On the other hand, it could just be some random person who is trying to annoy you.
There is a lot of truth in that, I'm afraid. I have offered constructive criticism several times in the Story Feedback forum and I wish I could say that it was taken well most times...I have found that almost all people don't like advice, opinions, critiques, unless it's the advice, opinions, and critiques they want to hear.
Only those who don't want to improve. It's all in the delivery. There are two ways to give advice, criticism and voice opinions. One is as a lash, the other as a teaching tool. It depends on who's on the giving end which is which and who is on the receiving end as to how they respond.I have found that almost all people don't like advice, opinions, critiques, unless it's the advice, opinions, and critiques they want to hear.
There's at least one more way people do that.Only those who don't want to improve. It's all in the delivery. There are two ways to give advice, criticism and voice opinions. One is as a lash, the other as a teaching tool. It depends on who's on the giving end which is which and who is on the receiving end as to how they respond.
Comshaw
That might legitimately apply to Literotica, which is a sharing site, not a critique site. Writers here who haven't specifically asked for feedback (which would make them free game) would have every justification to think they were noncritically sharing here for likeminded readers, who would mainly be the ones to comment on a story.I have found that almost all people don't like advice, opinions, critiques, unless it's the advice, opinions, and critiques they want to hear.
Only those who don't want to improve. It's all in the delivery. There are two ways to give advice, criticism and voice opinions. One is as a lash, the other as a teaching tool. It depends on who's on the giving end which is which and who is on the receiving end as to how they respond.
Comshaw
Have you ever heard the parable about the blind men and an elephant? Sometimes empirical observation is like that, colored but the limited scope of it.I've watched, on here, that it's less about delivery and more about what a person wants to here.
Blind or not, they still eat the damned thing one bite at a time, just like everybody else.Have you ever heard the parable about the blind men and an elephant? Sometimes empirical observation is like that, colored but the limited scope of it.
Comshaw
A good line should never, ever be wasted relevant or not!Blind or not, they still eat the damned thing one bite at a time, just like everybody else.
No idea how that's relevant, but it's hard to waist a good line.
Have you ever heard the parable about the blind men and an elephant? Sometimes empirical observation is like that, colored but the limited scope of it.
Comshaw
Depends on the kind of negative comment. I've left ones critical of my work, but I will certainly delete ones which are hateful, misogynistic, etc.The most ironic situation is when you see authors in this forum say "I don't care about negative comments. I just delete them." Obviously they care or they'd leave the negative comments alone.
I agree. The ones that say "You use 'cream' too often", or "One day you'll learn to write women with a full bush of hair" can stay. The ones that go into creepy detail of what they did to their little sister don't last long.Depends on the kind of negative comment. I've left ones critical of my work, but I will certainly delete ones which are hateful, misogynistic, etc.
A lot of us saying that and deleting negative comments are just engaging in natural promotion of their work. I'm not sure why it's important to you to establish what other authors care about.The most ironic situation is when you see authors in this forum say "I don't care about negative comments. I just delete them." Obviously they care or they'd leave the negative comments alone.
Wow, do I have to read everything in this thread? Anyway, I listen to any advice I get. Much of it is useless, but every now and again there is some gem that I have used to good effect. In on case, the tone was rude but the advice was useful anyway.Just a note to anyone who is thinking about about sending me anonymous advice:
I ignore it
It could have been great advice, I wouldn't know. If you don't respect me enough use your nom-de-plume (A FAKE NAME for Christ sakes!) and add a return return address and entertain the possibility of an actual conversation... I see it as a insult and a slight. I believe that you're telling me that I'm not good enough as a member of Literotica community to address with common courtesy, that I'm not smart enough to converse with you.
Your superiority to me prevents me from knowing who you are (or to be honest, who you're pretending to be)
Maybe I'm over reacting, I grew up dirt poor and was reminded of my social inferiority daily by school mates whose parents took them to exotic locations on holiday. But at least they let me know who was calling me inferior.
Don't get the idea that it hurts my feelings, I just delete the anonymous email then I look at the four cash prizes I won last year and am happy that Laurel will talk to me
Since 95% of the people here have user names, they are already not fully revealing themselves. Probably some of us here are presenting a "personality" that may only be partially true - or completely faked! I do believe what you have revealed about yourself. It's your choice to do that or not as you see fit. But your comments of this board have always been respectful.It happens, but I didn't even get that. I got "I'm a fellow writer here" and that's where I stopped reading and hit delete
But If I'm not worthy of a fellow writer revealing their name to me, I say, don't lower yourself. Just walk away and feel superior. Have a nice day
The obvious reply is, "But if I'd listened to you, we'd still be married. Seems like a fair trade to me."No, the writer sent a snotty little missive that said "if you listened to me you'd be a better writer" so clearly there's an air of arrogance, an unearned assumption of superiority, it can only be - - -
My ex wife! An arrogant little ... person always having to get in the last word.
Well, when you come home from a long overseas deployment to three different war zones and you're greeted with "It was so nice while you were gone," you go.The obvious reply is, "But if I'd listened to you, we'd still be married. Seems like a fair trade to me."
While I never delete comments, some are just worthless and should be trashed. Example:The most ironic situation is when you see authors in this forum say "I don't care about negative comments. I just delete them." Obviously they care or they'd leave the negative comments alone.
There's a motivational quote for husbands or boyfriends not wanting to do the dishes, if I ever heard one.and because I wouldn't want dishwater rough hands wrapped around my little whanger.